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Infidelity occurs on a regular basis. The majority of individuals in relationships around the world have both been cheated on or has cheated on their respective spouse. Maybe you’re new to the dating/relationship business and due to that, you’re not aware of what people do to their companions.

These 32 signs are compiled to help you note if your partner wants to cheat on you or might be cheating. So buckle up and allow us to dive into this challenge and hopefully, the recommendations that are written right here will assist you and the people around you. If your partner has any of the habits enumerated below then be well aware that your beloved spouse is certainly guilty in the court of infidelity.

32 signs that indicates your partner will cheat or may be cheating

1. You’re Spending Less And Less Time Together:
This one is attached to the primary signs. If there’s an emotional distance between you and your partner, then there’s a sturdy chance that you and your partner may be spending less and much less time together. Your spouse may need to spend more time alone by themselves or with their pals and relatives and you would probably understand that they no more have an interest in you which is for one, not a good sign.

Try to work matters out. Try asking your partner why they no longer want to spend sufficient time with you. If matters persist,(Your partner spending less time with you, or prefers making excuses) for a prolonged time period then your relationship is headed towards the rabbit hole. There are steps you can take which could salvage the situation, however, the possibility of saving the relationship grows much less each day.

2. Emotional Distance or emotional withdrawal:
Imagine an issue come up while you are dating – perhaps you had trouble or controversy you couldn’t overcome. After that issue which includes verbal exchange, your man or woman went lukewarm and also you don’t sense them as near as you used to. Try speaking on the sensed rift perhaps you can discover why your spouse acts in the manner he or she does.

If they do not want to do so (or they simply feel remote and uninterested) then start to suspect the worst. This is probably one of these signs that suggest that your partner is intending to or is already cheating on you. A lot of couples have stated that prior to their partner cheating on them, there was an emotional distance between them. If that is going on don’t immediately conclude that your relationship is over. Just hang on a little bit to see what happens. If both of you are willing to work it out then talk about it and possibly resolve it

3. They’re taking Better Care Of Their Appearance:
Imagine that during the duration of your relationship your spouse didn’t shave regularly, perhaps he did so once per week or maybe once in weeks. They had a few extra weights on them and didn’t take baths on a regular basis. Suddenly they started taking good care of themselves, shaving every day and even shopping for nice fragrances and perfumes. Their general appearance starts to improve tremendously and frequently and perhaps they even reduce the number of their extra weight by going to the gym or starting a weight loss plan.

Who are they attempting to seduce? Who are they attempting to impress by their appearance? You can probably ask yourself. That man or woman may not be you, simply due to the fact that they have been with you all these years, therefore they are trying to impress the next cute birdie. This is totally an indication that your partner is attempting to electrify someone else apart from yourself. It’s really well worth maintaining your eyes open if that is going on, so you’re properly ready for what’s next. Brace yourself whether or not to live with or take a walk if you’re eventually cheated on with that person.

4. They’re Keeping Secrets from You
Suddenly you realize that your partner is withholding secrets and pretending to be lying by omission to you, the usual partner with whom you shared your most intimate moments or even secrets which you never shared with any other person. When you ask them something they may be reluctant to provide an honest answer to your question.

They do a lot of things secretively like for instance they disappear and don’t let you know where they are and when you ask them where they have been, they answer in a furtive manner. This isn’t an excellent signal at all. It indicates that your partner now no longer trusts you, no longer feels accountable to you and doesn’t feel the need any longer to confide in you. It might mean that they may be possibly having an affair with another man or woman who has caught their eyes and now considers you a thing of the past. It shouldn’t surprise you when you discover that they have another person in their life.

5. They Encourage You To Spend More Time With Your Friends
This is one of the sneakiest of all “honey why don’t you watch the game at the bar while having a bottle of beer? I really need the solitude to meditate” says a cheating girlfriend who wants to desperately commit adultery, “Baby when last did you go the spa? I think I should drop you off while heading to the Wesley’s for golfing” says a boyfriend or husband who will make a 360 at the next corner after dropping you off to speed home and have a quickie with the nanny.

Unlike the former factors (they prefer to spend time outdoors without you and are very secretive about things they do while they are no longer with you), they inspire you to spend greater time together along with your pals and relatives. Under that pretense, they go out and have all of the time to spend with whomever they want. This signal in particular is disingenuous due to the fact that they seem like they are the good guys in the relationship.

This trick may be quite difficult to spot in the beginning because you would think that your partner has honest intentions. Yet, as time on, you begin to notice the pattern. In the real sense, they are just stylishly trying to keep you out of the way of their untoward behavior and business with another. The simplest manner to forestall that is to be open and confront them about this behavior.

6. They Won’t Tell You Much About Their Day:
Imagine this situation where your partner is coming back from work a lot late than usual; they are no longer telling you where they were perhaps, where they have been(or with whom).

In fact, it is now none of your business. Most times they would want to stay out with their friends later than usual and you’d be asking yourself what on God’s green earth is going on. The fact is that there’s something happening which you’re now no longer aware of. Be prepared for the day it will all unravel. This signal is an indication that an end might be insight for your relationship.

The man or woman whom you have been dating for years is in the blue surprisingly performing unusually and is enjoying doing things that don’t include you. It suggests that your partner no longer has an interest in you and that they need to spend time with different people which makes them end up being secretive about their dealings. There is a total possibility that they may be cheating on you, so don’t be amazed in case you hear it from other people.

7. They Don’t Share As Much with You As They Used To
Remember the time you used to talk about your likes and dislikes or to make plans for watching TV shows together? Events and activities which are supposed to Foster your bond with each other.. Now, that doesn’t happen anymore as they no longer want to share their time or space with you. Now there’s little or no communication happening. They keep issues to themselves and don’t want to talk to you about what is going on in their lives with you. Furthermore, they appear as though they couldn’t care any less what’s going on with you. They simply don’t care about what’s happening in your life, career, education, and business and they don’t care if you understand what’s happening in theirs equally. It is as simple as that. If your relationship gets to this point where there is literally no atom of bond or connection anymore, It hitherto suggests that there’s now no longer any chemistry between the 2 of you.

8. They Care Less About You
Let’s say you come under the weather and you are down with sickness no matter how minor or major it is, You ask your spouse to assist you with some little tasks you couldn’t perform due to the state of your health however they outrightly refuse or even complain and make no efforts to provide this assistance or get someone to do it for you, then I might be a signal that they are no longer interested in that relationship with you.

It is also the same if the partner is the one who fell sick. If you tend to them and show them every care necessary when they are sick or under the weather and they don’t even appreciate what you’re doing for them and it even appears as though they are looking for ways to quarrel or argue with you even as you tend to them.

This attitude on their part is indicative that they may now no longer be fascinated by the idea of being in a relationship with you, they don’t even care about what happens to you.

Evidently, they may be acting like they are dating you out of pity. If your partner acts in this manner, you then definitely need to end the relationship as nothing good will pop out of it. You can in no way expect faithfulness from such a person.

9. They’re a lot Meaner than They Used to Be
This part is very significant from the preceding signs listed above if out of the blue, your spouse starts being meaner and angrier at you for not just reason. Even the smallest mistake or statement annoys them. Nothing you ever do is appealing to them.

The dinner you made in no way tastes good, “it’s too salty, it’s too spicy, there is no seasoning, blah blah blah”, and anything you say is disregarded as being stupid. In a few instances, minor arguments may escalate, your partner may begin yelling at you at the slightest provocation or worse raise a hand on you and inflict bodily harm. According to psychologists, this sort of conduct is because of abusive relationships someone has suffered in their formative years. If a person behaves like this, there is a high possibility that the mother and father they grew up with have been violent towards them during their formative years. It is a vicious cycle. In later years of their lives, they may not be able to control it, and they might end up being aggressive and abusive towards their partners. Sometimes those in this type of abusive relationship find it difficult to leave the relationship because they believe in the power of “love.”

10. They’re Nicer Than They Used to Be

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When your partner appears nicer than usual; they open the door for you, ask how you have been doing lately, and begin to routinely check up on you, it might be an indication that they are trying to use this to cover up their infidelity. In the event that this has been their usual habit from the get-go of your relationship with them, then there is no need to be suspicious of their actions.

However if all of a sudden, they all at once begin to be nicer to you then your suspicion meter should be way high. You want to inquire to discover what inspired this transformation of theirs. That’s why you ought to be very observant and vigilant to take note of what happens in your relationship. It is no longer news to you how partners had been cheated on despite the fact that they didn’t anticipate it from them. Being overly courteous is a fantastic tactic to divert the eye far away from them in order to reduce the slightest of you discovering their wayward and wandering activities behind you.

11. They Seem To Have New Circle Of Friends
If your partner starts hanging out with folks you aren’t acquainted with you need to be worried. And in the case where they cut you out of their clique of friends just get ready for a major heartbreak.

When you try to ask them about who their new friends are they tend to come up with a lie or are reluctant to tell you who they are. We are not saying that it is wrong to make new friends and socialize with new people but when they start being secretive about it please be very suspicious, to mention the least. If your curiosity gets at them, an argument might ensue and nasty words may be hurled at you in a bid to get you off the issue.

At this point, there is nothing you could possibly do so just lay back and wait for more concrete proof about their nefarious cheating activities to come to the limelight or become more obvious. If they still refuse to introduce you to their friends, then there is a high possibility that they are cheating on you. There have been several stories of how some partners started hanging out with new friends and in a little space of time, their relationships crashed.

12. They’re unnecessarily Jealous
Most times we tend to say that jealousy is not a good attribute of a good partner. But folks who say this sometimes, find themselves being jealous about one thing or the other.

Jealousy is a human emotion and everybody feels it to an extent. Sometimes it could even produce fantastic results. Unless you’re absolutely emotionless, you ought to have felt the edge of jealousy in some unspecified time in your life. There is proof that jealousy exists even in animals.  There is a golden rule on this subject, its goes “if a partner is always jealous at the slightest, then there are chances he might be suspecting you of cheating and he/she too will cheat out of jealousy”. So, in case your spouse out of the blue starts being jealous it would suggest that he/she is making plans to cheat on you. It may appear abstract but it is the reality.

13. Opting Out Of Plans with Your Friends or Family
Your loving partner who once upon a time loved hanging out with your family members especially your parents, grandparents and friends suddenly starts finding excuses to evade them at weekends. You might be wondering why they might be acting that way and you might find it difficult to place your finger on it.

This might unsuspectingly go on for a while all because you want them to connect and familiarize with your family and friends. This might not make sense to you but it does to them. Sometimes it is because they are no longer interested in the relationship but they are yet to muster up the courage to break up with you, so they might be acting up that way to provoke you to getting tired of the relationship and breaking up with them which would be a lot easier and favourable to them. They might start viewing spending time with your relative as a waste of time and misplaced priority. Spending time with you does not appeal to them anymore. Instead, they would alternatively spend time with the man or woman they may be cheating on you with.

14. They never tell you where they’re going to be
When your partner or spouse starts skipping details of where they went to or were they are going to, just be aware that your relationship is on the red alert blinking to its crash. It isn’t important to understand your partner’s whereabouts always, However in the event that they don’t let you know and when you ask them, you get a vibe that they may be hiding something from you. On the surface, it may not appear like a big deal however, they may be hiding something from you which they don’t want you to be aware of. These matters move hand in hand. They are no longer telling you where they were in order for you not to suspect them or get a clue to where they were and with whom they were with. In this case it is very natural if you start assuming that they are cheating on you. Remember they wouldn’t be secretive about their whereabout if they were gambling at a friend’s basement, smoking weed or doing any other bad thing which is not cheating, but would surely get you upset.

15. Always Wanting To Know Where You’re Going to Be

This one is closely associated with jealousy and the preceding paragraph (where they may now no longer be telling you their whereabouts). This may not suggest that they may be cheating on you in the event that they act like this. Sometimes it would suggest that they may be very insecure as a person, which will make them assume that you might be cheating on them when you are not with them. If you’re in this type of relationship it only gets worse with time. The simplest ideal alternative is to stop the connection. On the other hand, when most partners start pestering you about their whereabouts, it might be for their own benefits, to avoid running into you in the course of their cheating adventures. So if they keep on being persistent about knowing your whereabouts it will also be an information to them to be able to track your timeline, know when you will be gone and when you will be back.

16. You Catch Them Point Blank In A Lie
The building block of any relationship is honesty. If your partner begins lying about small issues and questions, please be well prepared because the whole relationship will be built on series of lies, they say small lies begets bigger lies.

First, they lie about where they were during the weekends, who they were hanging out with. Before you realize it each word they say is a lie. You no longer understand them anymore because all they do is tell tons of lies to you. It might surprise you to know that a number of relationships started off with a lie. Women with the help of beauty make ups lie about their true beauty while men lie about their true wealth. Sometimes those lies does keep up for a little while, however it has never in any way ended nicely. Be cautious of lies, you catch them with one lie and gradually you discover that your lovely sweet tongued lover has an entire host of lies you aren’t aware of.

17. They Get Real Busy With Work
Imagine that your partner now spends lengthy and really absurd hours at work, handling a so called cutting edge project or some other things they do. That is probably the case with a few jobs, but when all of a sudden they start claiming to be spending extra hours at work without telling you, you’ve got an excellent reason to believe that it might be more than just work that is causing them to come home late every night when you are already asleep. Trust me when I say this; they always have a partner in crime, a very loyal buddy who will always make an excellent alibi.

18. Unhappiness
When you start to reminisce on the good old days when you guys were still drunk in love, the little thing you guys used to do that always ignited the sparks and fireworks. You don’t need to confess to yourself that it isn’t epic any more, both partner are no longer pleased to be in the each other’s presence. The silence and the unsaid words becomes deafening. Thus this is an indication that your relationship is not heading in the right direction. Do not be in a relationship simply because of being in a relationship.

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19. Everything Seems To Lead To A Fight
Each and every conversation, action, activity tend to always lead to yelling, exchanging of words, and even physical fights. Those disagreements are increasingly getting worse and more intense that you find it difficult to find a common ground with your partner. Even when there is no reason to fight or argue the simplest things such as not doing the dishes always end up in a fight. This isn’t a good sign in any relationship, and sometimes these issues always escalate into inflicting bodily harm on the involved partners. Domestic violence is not a joke, many people of lost their lives to it. It’s better to leave an abusive relationship than die in it. It is important to know that domestic violence is not always one-sided. It could go either ways.

20. They’re Secretive With Their Phone
You are now noticing that your partner is always texting frequently than before and above all they go to the toilet with their phones. Trust me, you will always notice them smiling and grinning ear to ear while chatting away.

Eventually the curiosity will start eating you up and you attempt to have a peep at what they are doing on the internet. This secrecy appears evidently suspicious to you and for an excellent purpose. If you try to ask them who they are chatting with that is making them to smile sheepishly, they would always come up with a lie. They always play the “respect my privacy card” to sway you from further querying them, but please be careful of partners that are always secretive about their dealings.

21. Too Many Friends Of The Opposite Sex
It is normal for people to have friends of the opposite sex, I mean everybody does. But sometimes it is very concerning when, a male has a lot of female friends than male friends and he keeps on making more female friends adding them to the harem.

Same goes for the ladies who has got a lot more male friends than the female ones. The purpose for that is really statistical, it makes it easy for them to sometimes score a one off, like a one night stand because they are very certain the secret will never leak out of the harem. It is normal to have friends of the opposite sex but it isn’t normal if they keep introducing you to plenty new friends of the opposite sex. It may be a colleague at work or their gym instructor or some random person. Even though they may not have intentions to cheat, but it is safe that one thing or the order might lead to a compromising situation.

23. They Never Initiate Love Making
When it comes to making love, they are never the first to initiate it and when it is initiated they are reluctant to participate, their general performance is very poor. So if your partner behaves like this in bed, then there must be a reason.

When a partner is seeking for a break up from their current relationship for reason best known to them, they tend to start by depriving their partner of sex. In some occasions when your partner is sleeping with some other man or woman, you might observe that they are no longer attracted to you like they used to be.

24. They Avoid Eye Contact
They say an eye contact says a lot more than the lips, we see a lot of emotions through the eye, and only the eye can betray our emotions. When you communicate with your boyfriend or girlfriend (or partner) and you observe that they are awfully absent minded, don’t make gestures and they speak on the same tune. In addition they avoid eye contact, not because they are shy but because they are afraid of what you might see in their eyes. It is universally regarded that the eyes are the gates to the soul. If they don’t have any eye contact with you it suggests that they may be hiding something from you. Liars frequently try this due to the fact they understand that what they do is devious and it is totally wrong however they nonetheless do it.

25. They Always Find A Reason To Vilify You
As a popular saying, “everybody is always the good guy in their own story”. They seek to justify and sanctify what they do in a bid to make you feel like crap, like you are not good at anything. They fuel their egos and acclaimed self righteousness by always making you the bad guy in the story, but deep down they know very well that they are way worse than anybody else. Partners like this always act like they are the gods of perfection. They are always right, they never acknowledge their mistakes, and they are always on the high alert to spot and point out your mistake in the most embarrassing way. People like this always play the victim and they are first-class sadists. So it is best to stay clear of folks like this because they are bad for business.

26. They’ve cheated Before
A onetime cheating spouse can never be trusted because there is always a possibility that they would cheat again. Sometimes it is important for us to know that sometimes people cheat out of mistake, or maybe they were drunk and not sober enough to understand what they were doing, the other majority cheat because they love the thrill, the twisted sense of fulfillment, and the selfish gratification they derive from it.

Some due to human imperfection can’t overcome the urge to cheat, so it is safe to say that they are innocently addicted to cheating. If a person hasn’t cheated it doesn’t suggest that they may not be able to cheat. The reason might just be that the opportunity to cheat has not yet presented itself.

27. Your instinct Says It’s Happening
Most at times our instinct always warn us of impending dangers and tragedies, and it is never an exception in relationships. On some occasions we might wave aside that gut feeling as being over jealous, so devoid of all other feelings is your heart telling you that something is not adding up the way it should, you better start being suspicious because you might be right.

Try to find out what your instinct is telling you about your spouse, and just maybe you might discover that your beloved spouse might be displaying some of the signs that was listed above.

There are some cases where your gut feeling might be wrong, so be careful not to ruin your relationship because you think your spouse is cheating. But in no way disregard what your instinct is trying to tell you.

28. Your Relationship Began As An Affair
Imagine your relationship started off as an affair, you knew he/she had a spouse but you still went ahead until they had to dump their former spouses for you. What makes you think it will not also happen to you in that same way? Once a cheat is always a cheat, it is that simple and straight forward. People in this category loves cheating so much, they always have multiple sex partners.

Therefore their main source of joy and self satisfaction is cheating. Beware that the possibilities that the spouse you got from cheating will definitely cheat or is already cheating. So if your relationship started out as an affair be advised that it might also end because of an affair.

29. They constantly accuse You Of Cheating
Just out of the blue your partner starts laying wild accusations on you that you are cheating. Guess what? It is probably them who is cheating on you. It frequently occurs that after a person cheats they purposely accuse their partner of cheating so to turn the attention from themselves to you thereby diverting your attention..

It is simply how human psychology works. They always believe game recognizes game, so in a bid for game not to recognize game they always fire the first shot at the game so that when the game is busy trying to defend the first shot they are already cheating away. Always understand that sometimes the accuser is the guilty.

30. They Are Constantly Talking About How Everyone Else Cheats
You are worried about your friend whose partner is cheating on, but your partner is busy spewing nonsense about how this is 21st century that cheating now generally accepted. And they are talking about how being in an open relationship is not a bad thing. This concept is even supported by a few writers and psychologists. Their thesis is that infidelity is an essential a part of any relationship and that having an affair may yield a positive outcome. They basically say that, cheating will often lead to a long lasting and happier relationship. Maybe it really works for some folks but cheating doesn’t guarantee a happy and fulfilling relationship. This reason may also be used to justify why they cheat once in a while. Always be wary of partners who accept the idea of open relationship

31. Cheating Is Their Family Tradition
Psychologists say that majority of our behaviors is defined by our genes and the occurrences that took place in the early years of our lives. If your partner grew up around relatives where infidelity was not a big deal, where there is numerous step fathers, step mother, step sons and daughter even step cousins included.

People from this type of family cycle always find it difficult to stick around with one partner devoid of stepfathers and all other step whatever. When someone is raised around people who view infidelity as nothing, that person grows up losing all sense of morality about relationship because cheating is already a norm in their lifestyle. So if you get to understand that your spouse views infidelity as a normal thing, please be prepared because they will cheat. In this case, only therapy with a change of mobile mindset can change them.
32. They’ve Suddenly Got New Love Making Moves
Overnight your partner that is never good in bed is now a masterpiece in bed with series of new tricks and energy that you have never seen him bring to your sex life. And by now you are getting to understand that there is a whole new energy that they are bringing to bed. They are now all about the adventure, trying out new things in bed and spicing up things in a rather weird way. It is good to try out new things in order to improve your bed room life, but you should be alarmed when they are doing new things to you that they have never done before, especially when your spouse have cheated on you before. It is wise to assume that the new things they are bringing to bed were learnt from the person they are cheating on you with. They might attempt to make you think that they are committed to the relationship and that is why they are introducing new things and ideas into your bed room life. If you get too suspicious and ask them who they learnt it from they will simply say “the internet”.

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3 Comments

3 Comments

  1. Faith

    December 3, 2020 at 1:13 pm

    This is great! Thanks.

  2. Anozie Evelyn

    December 3, 2020 at 2:08 pm

    Cool but how will I know about this family cheating tradition. How can one dictate?

  3. Wesley Snart

    December 3, 2020 at 3:02 pm

    Thanks Evelyn for your question.

    A man or a woman that was raised in a polygamous family may sometimes grow up to subscribe to the idea that having multiple partners is actually not a bad thing.

    A thing can be when a kid a to witness his or her parents cheat. Permit me to present you with an hypothetical. Let’s say you as a kid used to witness your mum of dad bring home different men or women back at home when either your mum or dad was not around. Your young mind might not understand what was happening behind those closed doors but as you grow older you will get to understand and gradually begin accepting and view it as a normal thing.

    Also people that grew up under step parents and single parents also get to cheat when they are in relationships. The bottom line is loyalty. If ones parent were loyal to each other. Their kids will also be loyal to their partners.

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How To Tell Your Partner To Lose Weight

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How To Tell Your Partner To Lose Weight

One of the most agonizing things to do in life is hurting your loved one. Most especially if that said loved one, is your soulmate.

Many people are now stuck, thinking how they can tell their partners how to lose weight, without offending their missing rib.

But like all good things, in life. The only easy way is the hard way. As such, you should be ready to dish out a healthy dose of tough love.

After all, you want to stay with that person for as long as possible, before “Professor Death”, comes to mark your life script.

What shall it profit you to keep quiet, then watch your partner, jeopardize their health, and ultimately, your relationship?

So for this reason, you need to take the initiative and stand firm. After all, because you love them, that is why you need to whoop their ass.

4 Ways to Tell Your Partner to Lose Weight

1. Think about the health implication

You have to note that if you don’t help your partner, nobody else would. As such, you are entirely responsible, for turning the tide of health, of your partner.

Remember the vows you took, to love and protect. This is an opportunity to prove to yourself that you love your partner.

2. Be there for them

Nobody was born fat. Due to ignorance in part by people, over time the ill effect took root, and metamorphosed itself, into that protruding belly, which is ridiculous.

Gift them an online weight loss course

There is fat-shaming in the world. As such, the best option, can actually, be learning how to lose weight at home.

I discovered an easy to use 6 months weight loss plan that you can use to lose weight, right in the comfort of your home. In the early stages of your weight loss journey.

3. Encourage them

Make sure you encourage your partner, at this lowest point in their lives. It will do well in lifting up their spirits and morale.

So that they can keep on pushing, in their journey of trying to lose weight.

4. Change the kitchen foods

You can swap out all the junk foods from inside your house. That way, your partner is not tempted to relapse into their previous bad eating habits.

5. Don’t be a menace

At the end of the day, you must realize that nobody cares. When all is said, and done, you will eventually die, and that weight loss goal will be buried with you, six feet in the ground.
So don’t fret too much. Nevertheless, if you can’t stand it, then learn how to lose weight at home, by following our 6 months weight loss program.

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15 Clear Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

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Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You




You ended things with them; and now, they are really acting Strange towards you. It could be signs your ex is pretending to be over you when he/she is not. Some Signs you get after a breakup is not something you want to misinterpret regardless of how bad the breakup was.

Once upon a time, things were good between both of you. Because things came to the point of breakup, doesn’t mean you have both moved on. Just because, you called it quits some time ago; doesn’t mean everything that happened between you two, is forever erased.

One of you may just be faking it. Because you are human and once knew this person, there are signs that will point you in that direction.

He may be texting you or behaving in a weird way. And because he/she is just expressing their feelings; it may be confusing to understand.

Also, depending on the reason for the breakup or situation, you may both still come back together or not.

In this article, let’s let clarify one important fact before looking at the 13 observable signs that your

Can Your Ex Pretend To Move On?

Yes! In actual fact, it may be the reason you are reading this article. You probably do not just understand the person’s actions toward you.

According to Ken Page, who is a therapist and relationship expert, “there are different ways people pretend to be over someone, its either they’re lying to themselves, their ex, or other people in their lives”. “They do that because they want to be resilient and it’s terribly hurtful to go through a breakup.”

He added, that it’s not uncommon to try moving on quickly to a place of being over someone. He also explains that on a general note, we are never truly over someone as much as we claim to be.

According to Psychologist and relationship expert Margaret Paul, Ph.D., “pretending to oneself is the most common pretending of all”. She also says “I have worked with people who kid themselves into thinking they are over an ex when they really aren’t,” adding that. “Many people don’t want to do the inner work to really be over an ex and simply pretend to have moved on”.

Based on the work of these amazing persons, we can deduce that in fact, many people do pretend to over their ex a lot of times. And it’s more common than we think; it could have even happened to us in the past unknowingly. And also, your ex may just be pretending to be over you.

We all deal with breakups differently. While some are continually in denial; others just let out all the feelings by crying, eating too much, drinking to stupor, and so on. Thus, your ex may just be pretending to be over you to escape reality.

Now let’s get the signs. Beware; they may not show all these signs. However, if they show at least two of these signs, you are right on track.

Here Are 15 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Move On

1. The Signals From Them Is Not Straightforward

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This is a sign your ex is pretending to be over you. Because the signals you are getting from becomes very confusing to understand. They show mixed signals, that you find very hard to interpret.

When you ask how they are, they say they are doing very fine; yet they look otherwise. For the guys, his beard may be unshaved, his clothes rumpled, he may reek of alcohol and still tell you he is doing amazingly well.

Or, He may look very sharp and well shaven but with heavy bags under his eyes. You can literarily see exhaustion written over them yet they maintain they are fine.

2. Their Emotions Towards You Are Extreme

This means that everything they feel towards you is heightened. They usually mask the love they have for you; with extreme emotions, like love, hatred, and sadness.

They may not want you to see through their façade so; they hide it, by exhibiting something entirely different. And because they have not moved on, they will eventually show you these extreme emotions.

3. They’re Drunk Dialing You

There is a very clear indication, that they are not over you yet; and only pretending. Drunk dialing can be very annoying; because they’re not even totally aware of it.

But, because they are thinking about you; the first person that comes to their mind to ring in that state is you. It’s now totally dependent on you; if you want to take the call.

4. They’re Drinking A Lot.

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Even if normally, the person drinks, it is intensified after your breakup. And even after time has passed, they’re still drinking.

People drink for various reasons; but in their case, it’s to escape the reality, that you are not in the picture anymore. Because of the hurt and sadness, they will try to drown all these feelings in alcohol. Which is why he will drunk dial you.

5. They Keep Trying To Explain The Breakup.

If all he does, when he calls, is to keep explaining the reasons for the break; then, he is still hooked. He keeps dissecting and explaining why he left.

Even when it doesn’t make sense, he keeps talking about it. This means, he is still in denial and has not fully understood it yet. So he can’t even move on.

6. They Want To Remains Friends

This can be very tricky. It could be their way of trying to get you back; or, their way of escape losing you.

So, they are still there; whenever you call on them and are still friends with you. They may not be ready to lose you totally yet.

So, this way they can still have you around. Usually, when this occurs they still want to be more than friends but are more subtle about it.

7. They Stay In Touch With Your Friends

If they are not pretending to be over you, they have no reason to keep in touch with your friends. Except, it’s for business or something of much importance.

So, if they are still calling and having long talks with your friends then they have not truly cut ties with you. Your ex may be hanging out with your friends with hopes to bump into you.

8. People Around Them Try To Get You To Reconcile

These people are around him and they see his state. Thus, they will naturally try to help him. They try to convince you to check upon him.

They know he is not over you yet, and are probably still devastated by the breakup. So in their own way, they will want to bring you two together again.

If they see you, they’ll urge you to call him to know how he is doing. They may even tell you he misses you.

9. They Are Stalking You On Social Media.

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You have broken up; yet, they are the first to like and comment on your picture on social media. It means they are not over you yet and just pretending.

Even if they did it when you two were still together, now it’d be even more serious. He doesn’t just like and comment on your posts but he does that as soon as you post them.

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10. They’re Refusing To Date Someone Else

If they are refusing to date someone else; even after so much time has passed, they are have not moved on. The excuse they give is usually unrealistic and vague.

Like how they are taking time to love themselves or how they are working on themselves.

There are two reasons they may be doing this, it’s either they are still healing from the breakup or they hope to still get back together with you.

11. They’re Not Sticking To One Person

They are just hopping from one person to another; and, not staying faithful to one person. Today you see them with Tracy, tomorrow it’s Linda.

Meanwhile, when you two were together, they were committed to you. Something is definitely wrong with them. They are not over you just yet.

12. They Still Maintain Contact Even When It’s Not Necessary

Although, they do not have to be in contact with you; yet, they will still call once in a while to check up on you. The reason is simple, it is because they miss you.

This is a very obvious sign’ your ex is pretending to be over you. He won’t just stay off the radar; he will call and send messages when he feels like.

13. They Show Off Their Accomplishment

They are not over you if they are showing off their improvement in your face. You don’t need to know what they have achieved.

No one actually parades their growth, in front of people they don’t care about. His reasons may be in two ways; either he is trying to get you jealous and regret the break-up or he wants you to see his growth and see that he is improving

They Don’t alter Their Schedule and keep running into you.

If your ex has moved on, they will adjust their schedule to avoid awkward moments when they run into you. Rather they maintain the same schedules you are used to in hopes to run into you. They may come with another girl just to get you jealous or they may genuinely just want to see you.

14. They don’t let you get your things and even leave theirs behind.

Are they still holding on to a shirt of yours even after a lot of time has passed? Did they refuse to come to get some of their things left at your place?

It’s not the things that are that valuable to them; they just holding on to it for sentimental reasons. Because they probably miss you. They may even be waiting for you to come to get it so they can spend time with you. People who hope to get back together after a breakup have not really moved on.

15. They are refusing to publicly acknowledge the breakup

It’s because your ex has not moved on so they are still holding on. They will refuse to admit that you are gone because to them, you will still get together. If someone asks them they will rather say you guys are having a misunderstanding rather than you have broken up. On their social media, they will not change their relationship status. They are obviously struggling to let you go.

Wrapping UP

In the end, what matters is what you want for yourself. They may be showing any of these signs, good or bad but you still get to choose your next step. Either to take them back or break it off completely. So be sure to make the best decision for yourself since you don’t really know what their motive will be if you allow them back into your life,

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30 Ways To Keep A Girl Happy Even If You Suck

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Oftentimes, when it comes to how to keep a girl happy, most of us just think of gifts. Although buying her gifts is an option, it’s not the only trick on the table.

If you two are in some kind of relationship or you are working towards the direction of a commitment, it means she already likes you. Therefore, if she already likes you, your job becomes easier.

Keeping a girl happy is not rocket science; issues only arise if she doesn’t like you. If a girl doesn’t like you, it will be very difficult to keep her happy.

There is this saying that “it’s not what is said but who is saying it.” How we react to something oftentimes depends on who it is coming from. Our perception of issues depends on the source.

You’d agree with me, that how you react when an armed robber tells you to lie down, is different from how you react; when a spouse says the same thing. The same thing was said but different reactions followed it.

So, before attempting to keep a girl happy, be sure that she likes you; or at least, she tolerates you. It is important to keep your girlfriend happy because a happy girlfriend equals an enjoyable relationship.

Not all girls are even receptive to gifts; others see it as petty. So, when attempting to keep a girl happy, it doesn’t have to be overboard.

Even in getting gifts, it doesn’t have to burn a hole in your pocket; it should just be really thoughtful.

Since there are a whole lot of other things you can do to keep a girl we will look at 30 ways in this article.

How To Keep A Girl Happy

1. Always Tell Her That You Love Her.

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Men are moved by what they see, women, on the other hand, are moved by what they hear. Girls like to be assured in form of words.

So don’t hold back on telling her you love her. If you want to keep a girl happy, always tell her you love her. That way she feels like her love for you is reciprocated and that you love her very much.

Tell her sweet words, like how lucky you feel having her in your life, how your life will be gloomy without her in it. Tell her you love her before hanging up during a phone conversation; she’d probably blush over it.

You can also say it when she is about to leave for somewhere also randomly when you two are together.

2. Always Give Her Compliments.

I mean who doesn’t like compliments? As a human, when someone compliments us, consciously or not it makes us feel better.

Your girl is no different; so, if you want to keep her happy, compliment her. It could be just randomly in between a conversation, and that could earn you a smile.

A well-timed compliment will always elate anyone’s mood. When it comes to compliments, it will always feel better when it’s from the one you love.

It doesn’t have to be you two are together; it could also be on phone or over a text.

An example is how her eyes pop in blue colored dress, or how cute her personality is or how perfectly set her teeth is, how delicious she smells, and so on.

3. Make Her Laugh Often.

One of the admirable traits in guys that girls are attracted to, is the ability to make them laugh. Ladies are usually attracted to guys who can make them laugh.

You do not have to be a comedian to make this happen. You should know the topics she likes, and make a joke about it.

You do not want to make a joke about a topic, which is sensitive to her; so, you won’t upset her.

It is rather imperial, that you know how to make your girl laugh; if, you want to keep her happy. The amazing thing about this is that a girl who likes you would laugh at your jokes; even if, they are lame. You both know the jokes are lame and dumb but she will still laugh at it.

So, not being a guy should not be your excuse for not trying to make your girl laugh. It’s nothing. A little practice can’t fix it; you just have to be intentional about it.

If you are still finding it hard to crack a joke, you could just recall to her an incident in the past that you found funny. Another option is to try making funny faces.

4. Appreciate Her

If you want her to be happy; then, learn to appreciate her. For even the little things, say a “thank you”; as that shows that, you notice her efforts.

Don’t wait till she does something huge, like donating a kidney to you. It could be just because she is your life. An example is “thanks babe for being in my life”. Show gratitude whenever she does something special for you. It will make her happy and she will keep doing more.

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5. Communicate With Her As Often As Possible.

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Always talking with your girl will make her happy. Communicating keeps your connection secure; that way, you will be in contact with her.

As far she is not complaining about it, keep the calls and texts coming. It doesn’t have to be planned; it could be random.

Call early in the morning to ask about her night and also tell her you missed her. You can also pick up the phone and text her that you love and miss her. This is a very sweet gesture you should do once in a while to keep a girl happy.

In a relationship, you should call or text at least once daily.

6. Leave Short But Sweet Notes, Poems, Or Letters Around Where She Can See Them.

If you both share a space, this can be very romantic. Hand-written notes with cute and romantic words are classic but super effective in putting a smile on a girl’s face.

It would melt her heart and make her blush. It could be in the kitchen, doorknob, by the bedside, or anywhere at all in the house or office.

It doesn’t have to be wordy; an example is “my day is brighter with you in it.” It could also be a poem that is not too wordy but sweet. This makes her happy even in your absence. Love letters are also useful in this case so you could try that out.

7. Shower Her Cute, Sweet, And Romantic Text Messages

If you want to keep a girl happy contact her as soon as possible and as much as possible. So, long as she doesn’t complain about it.

Sending sweet and cute messages to a girl you like comes naturally even if you are not a poet. Texting the girl you love is just you, putting your feeling in words.

Texting makes it easy for you to say things that you may not be comfortable enough to say on the call. Shower her romantic text messages letting her know she is always on your mind.

It may be a regular message when it is from someone else, but from you, it’s just sweet.

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8. Learn What She Wants

To keep a girl happy, you must at least learn what she wants or what she is into. Some gestures may seem sweet and cute to you, but they may throw her off.

When it comes to keeping a girl happy, don’t assume what she wants or likes. Take time to notice what she likes.

Don’t make the mistake of getting her strawberry flavored ice cream; when what she likes is chocolate flavored.

We know you want to keep her happy, but do you know what makes her happy? Solve that issue before going on. Know her preferred and best flavors, her allergies, and generally things she is interested in.

Don’t take on her long walks when she detests walking distances. The best way to actually know what she wants is to get to know her.

Probe within comfortable boundaries into her life, likes, dislikes, hobbies, desired destinations, etc. if you know her likes, you can easily pick one of them and surprise her with it.

9. Spoil And Make Her Feel Special

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Every lady deserves to be pampered by her man. If you do this her happiness will always be in check.

Women love to be pampered and spoiled it makes them feel loved. Even the highly independent ones also need to be spoiled silly.

And if she feels your love for her, she will definitely be happy. Pampering can be in form of sweet gifts, attention, compliments, shopping, offering to do her chores, singing to her and so many others.

The list is indeed very long so know what she likes and give her plenty of it. If you have female friends around, make sure she gets the lion share everything coming from you.

When having a group conversation, keep her engaged and sneak in compliments in between. This makes her feel special, unique, and valued.

10. Be A Good Listener To Her.

There is a misconception about listening. Most persons think being a good listener is, not talking when the other person is talking; that is not totally correct.

If you just keep mute when a girl is talking, it can become really annoying. Being a good listener is to not just allow the person to freely express herself, but also know how and what type of input to add to the conversation.

It may sometimes require a nod, or a hmm, or a yes, an okay, and so on. Try not to interrupt the person’s speech or look disinterested.

You must be actively involved in the conversation though you may not be really saying anything. It’s very understandable that you may want to interrupt with an important piece of information. But, keep it till she takes a pause and chip it in.

Girls tend to talk and rant a lot more than boys so just listen to her if you want to keep her happy.

11. Extend The Care To The People Around Her

If you want to keep your girl happy, the people around her must be cool with you. Be sure to buy them over to your side; by building a sort of healthy relationship with them.

These people are important in her life and if she has to always fight for you, with them, she won’t be in the best of moods. Be nice to them and try to sort out any form of conflict.

Her family and close friends should at least be talking terms with you. Work on the ones who don’t really like you by trying to impress them.

There is a kind of peace that comes with knowing that your man and the people around him are on good terms. Thus, your effort alone will make her happy.

Need More? Then, You Should Try Out These Other Very Useful Tips Which Includes

  1. Get her flowers on special occasions to make her feel special. Or, on least expected moments
  2. Go on romantic dates as often as possible. Candlelight dinners, cute picnics, etc.
  3. Go on trips together; preferably, her chosen destination or somewhere you know she wishes to visit. It could even be a surprise or planned.
  4. Cook for her. Breakfast in bed won’t be such a bad idea yea? Cook her favorite meal for her sometimes to make her happy.
  5. Respect her. Every human wants to be respected and she is no different. So respect her space, decisions, and others.
  6. Show her you value her. On several occasions, make it obvious to her what void she is filling in your life and just how important she is to you.
  7. Be interested in her interests. Be genuinely interested in her interests and this will help you make better decisions in the future concerning her.
  8. Don’t ever cheat on her. Whether you think she will find out, or not; be loyal to her.
  9. Share your stuff with her. If she wants your hoodie or sweatpants, let her have it. It’s really sweet and will make her happy.
  10. Value her point of her in your decision-making process. It shows that you have a level of trust in her intelligence. And girls love to be perceived as intelligent.
  11. Do PDAs if she is up for it. PDA is public display of affection and some ladies absolutely love it. Holding her hands in public, hugging her outdoors, and other affectionate displays. Hug her from behind and do those long hugs.
  12. Be quick to say sorry genuinely, when you are wrong. Even if she is wrong, and you know the tension won’t reduce till you say sorry, just say it.
  13. GIVE HER ATTENTION
  14. GIVE HER MORE ATTENTION
  15. GIVE HER THE MOST ATTENTION. This doesn’t mean you should pester her; it means to give her the most attention but respect her boundaries if she wants. Always be within her reach.
  16. Smother her with kisses. Not just on the lips but everywhere. Her hands, neck, forehead, nose, cheek, and everywhere available.
  17. I know girls ramble a lot but try to keep up. Remember her words especially the ones concerning her interests.
  18. Trust her. Trust makes a lot of things easier. If she knows you trust her, she will definitely be happier.
  19. Don’t neglect celebrations; no matter how little they are. Celebrate little things like getting a promotion at work, beating a target, and a couple of other things. Don’t take the fun away because then your relationship becomes boring.

Wrapping Up

The list may be overwhelming; but if you truly love your girl and you want to keep her happy, it will become easier to make these things happen. It’s true that love pushes us to do things we normally won’t do.

This is true because you are naturally happier if the person you love is happy. Happiness is very contagious, so in keeping your girl happy, you must also be happy. It’s very hard to give what you do not have. Therefore, be happy to keep her happy.

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