12 Things That Turn Men Off In a Relationship

Last Updated on September 6, 2024 by Joshua Isibor

We would be considering what turns men off in a relationship. In one of our previous articles, we discussed things that turn women off in a relationship.

You might have had a bad ending in your previous relationship, where things were moving smoothly, but everything changed in the twinkle of an eye. The man you knew isn’t the man anymore! This could be devastating.

Have you ever experienced your partner’s love being extinguished by the flames of the mistakes you made in your relationship? It’s really painful, and it sucks!! There is a way out.

You must equip yourself psychologically and be watchful of every thought and action you take.

Our website is always available to give you the right response.

The top 15 things that turn men off in a relationship

1. Being too secretive:

A secretive person conceals his/ her feelings and intentions and doesn’t share information. A spy in a relationship is always the person who keeps secrets; in other words, she’s the CIA of the relationship.

Being too secretive to your boo is a form of emotional betrayal. Keeping secrets is deeper than telling lies.  Being too secretive is easily known by a guy, you might try to behave normally but guys always have a way of knowing if a girl is secretive.

If there is anything you’re hiding from your partner and he needs to know, the earlier, the better.

2. When you’re being too needy: 

We all know your man must take care of you and always make you happy. But being too demanding can pull his mind away from you.  Men don’t want to feel needed but instead being wanted. There are two ways a lady can be too needy.

1. Money: Money is a tool by which financial issues are being solved. No guy loves and wants a lady who is always demanding. A relationship is not an economic opportunity; if that’s the main reason for you entering into a relationship with your boo, I bet you it’s not going to end well.

Story 1-Years back, I was dating a girl called Kate. After the experience I had with her WITHIN a short while, the relationship didn’t last up to 3 months.

This girl was always demanding money and top-ups. She never cared about my finances. She was so unreasonable. I felt unsafe, so I had to quit.

Story 2- I was counseling a girl. she told me that money is everything in a relationship, which became an argument. She said, If she’s dating a guy she must be collecting money to make her hair, pay bills.

 Finally, I told her what if you don’t have a boyfriend for one year? How can you survive? She was overwhelmed.  When you nurture yourself as a beggar, it will enter your DNA!

3. Time demanding:

You must not be barging in your man’s private time. This was what made my friend give up on his relationship.

He stays in Chicago, and his girlfriend stays in NYC he calls his girlfriend every day. they spoke on the phone one hr. daily.  After 3 months of dating. she always wanted more time with him which he couldn’t give.

She kept complaining that he’s not caring, forgetting the amount of time they spoke on phone. That was how my friend ran out from the relationship

Please give your man space.  Don’t bug him too much; you guys should have an agreed time you spend for each other.

4. When you compare your boyfriend to your ex:

Comparing your ex to your present bf is a dangerous mission. Critically speaking, men don’t like comparison. Naturally, when we are being compared every time, especially on a negative side, it tends to make us sad. Comparing is like saying.

~baby, my ex doesn’t treat me the way you treat me; he takes me out always on weekends, but you don’t

~my ex always tells me I love you before bed.

~ my ex kisses better than you.

~my ex is more romantic than you.

Using my ex every time is not safe.

Stop comparing your past to your relationship. Instead, channel your burden into helpful actions to improve the relationship.

5. Poor hygiene and bad breath:

Women with poor hygiene and bad breath disgust men a lot. Instead, they prefer strong women who can keep their houses neat.

He might be distancing himself from you because he sees you as unwilling to change.

Years back I had a date with a lady for the first and she asked me to come over to her house. When I got there I never believed what I saw, in my mind, I was thinking how can a woman with such a class live in a dustbin?

If you are a lady and you have this trait of being so dirty, try to work on yourself both (internally and externally)

6. When a woman has no clear goals for her future:

The idea of many ladies out there is to:

Graduate from high school==go to college==university==get married

Life goes beyond that.  You could get a career, and impact your world (bend reality). There are so many women out there who are doing so well in society. Every man born of a woman needs to have their goals and aspirations in life, not just dreaming of becoming a housewife. You can do a lot more than that.

7. Women who laugh uncontrollably in public: I remembered my first date at the university.

We went to a coffee shop to chill there… I made her laugh, but the problem was that her laughter was something else. Her laughter raised a lot of eyebrows.

I was so shy and I felt embarrassed.

Self-control’s a gradual process, you could actually control how you laugh. Your laughter can make your man ashamed of going out with you.

8. playing hard to get:

gone to those days when a guy would wait for a girl for a long period (6 months or one year) till she accepted. If, as a girl, you’re still using that method, you’re not doing yourself good.

9. Telling lies:

Psychologist Ellyn Bader says lying usually leads to a vicious cycle of more lies. This means that if you tell five lies to your boyfriend today, you need ten more to cover up the five lies. So many girls tell lies to belong. You don’t have to tell lies. Be yourself!!!! Your relationship would be malnourished when you start telling lies; lies don’t tell good about a person

10. Disrespect:

Men love respect so much in the sense that men see respect as love. Try this!!! Disrespecting him is the same as you not acknowledging him as the head of the house. Don’t run him down or compare him to other men; you will hurt his ego, and he could turn away from you.

11. Nagging:

Nagging is repetitious behavior such as pestering, hectoring, or continuously urging an individual to complete previously discussed requests or act on advice. Nagging is a form of repetitive complaint; nagging is a sign of disrespect.

Nagging would make you want to fight your partner one day; this could make him want to pull away from you.

12. Trying to change your man

At the initial stage of our relationship, we get carried away by being head over heels in love, but as time goes on, we start to see our partner in their real behavior.

It’s best to know what we can take early enough so you can decide to stay or walk away.

Allow him to be himself; men detest ladies who try to shake them into their mold.

You can work on him instead of trying to change him completely. Men love humble and respectful women.

13. Ungrateful woman.

Men love supportive women who will make the numbers add up for them and not selfish women who are only interested in what is in it for them.

Appreciate him for those little things he does wholeheartedly and genuinely for you. Make him know they didn’t go unnoticed. An ungrateful woman who rarely says thank you but demands more is a turn-off for guys.

Got a question or some feedback? Hit me up in the comments section!

Lots of love,

Isibor Joshua.

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Originally posted 2020-07-06 13:52:33.