20 best parenting tips
These are the best parenting tips you need a parent. this serves as a guideline for training your children in the right manner.
Parenting is not easy but to achieve this you need hardwork.
Here are strategies to good parenting
A good parent is someone who strives to make great impact in the live of a child
Mind you no parents is perfect neither is any child perfect too
It’s not that we can’t achieve our goals but we must strive harder to impact wonderfully to a child
Here are the top ten strategies or tips to good parenting irrespective of your schedules
1. Show them and proof to them love.
Love is the first bonding perfection every child needs to get from their parents therefore we have to cultivate our time into doing that.
Loving your child can be as simple as giving them hugs, spending time with them and listening to their issues seriously every day.
Showing these acts of love can trigger the release of feel-good hormones such as oxytocin. These chemicals can bring us a deep sense of calm, emotional warmth and contentment, from these the child will develop resilience and not to mention a closer relationship with you.
There is no pampering in this aspect. Pampering only comes in when materialism are over given to the kids.
Avoid giving your youngster all the cash he requests. He will grow up feeling that getting money is simple and won’t spare a moment to take for it.
2. Be a mentor/Role model to them..
In Mentorship, they feel secure in your hand. They find it easy to tell you about their problem. Don’t just tell your child what you want them to do. Show them.
Kids learn by imitation!.Avoid “do what I say and not what I do” situation. Your kids copy and mimic everything you do. When you tell them something and do opposite, you are permitting them to act in the same ways
Let your child know that you’ll always be there for them by being responsive to the child’s signals and sensitive to their needs. Support and accept your child as an individual. Be a warm, safe haven for your child to explore from.
Children raised by parents who are consistently responsive tend to have better emotional development, social development, and mental health outcomes.
Be the person you want your child to be — respect your child, show them positive behavior and attitude, have empathy towards your child’s emotion — and your child will follow suit.
3.Practice the memories of your childhood.
Many parents are into plagiarism of other parents but this can only make them do what they can’t finish to the end
In your childhood memories are created. Those memories should be practiced to create much bond for parenting.
Irrespective of your background, Reflecting on our own childhood is a step towards understanding why we parent the way we do.
Make note of things you’d like to change and think of how you’d do it differently in a real scenario. Try to be mindful and change your behavior the next time those issues come up.
Don’t give up if you don’t succeed at first. It takes practice, lots of practice to consciously change one’s child upbringing methods.
4. Practicing Affirmation.
A family that affirms weekly have closer bind that those that don’t.
Babies are born with around 100 billion brain cells(neurons) with relatively little connections. These connections create our thoughts, drive our actions, shape our personalities and basically determine who we are. They are created, strengthened and “sculpted” through experiences across our lives.
Give your child positive experiences. They will have the ability to experience positive experiences themselves and offer them to others.
5.Do Not Spank, No Matter What
No doubt, to some parents, spanking can bring about short-term compliance which sometimes is a much-needed relief for the parents.
However, this method doesn’t teach the child right from wrong. It only teaches the child to fear external consequences. The child is then motivated to avoid getting caught instead.
Spanking your child is modeling to your child that he/she can resolve issues by violence
Children who are spanked, smacked or hit are more prone to fighting with other children. They are more likely to become bullies and to use verbal/physical aggression to solve disputes.
Later in life, they are also more likely to result in delinquency and antisocial behavior, worse parent-child relationships, mental health issues, and domestic violence victims or abusers.
6. Remember your WHY of parenting
Why do you want to train up your child?
Many Reasons are attached to that
It could be educational reason, political reason, psychological reason.
If you’re like most parents, you want your child to do well in school, be productive, be responsible and independent, respectful, enjoy meaningful relationships with you and others, be caring and compassionate, and have a happy, healthy and fulfilling life.
But how much time do you spend on working towards those goals?
If you’re like most parents, you probably spend most of the time just trying to get through the day. As authors, Siegel and Bryson, point out in their book, The Whole-Brain Child,” instead of helping your child thrive, you spend most of time just trying to survive!”.
Let every experience teach them greater lessons of life.
7.Take advantage of what is already known by scientists
Parenting is a world researched niche but psychologist has aided in bringing greater response to that.
Using scientific knowledge is of course not a one-size-fits-all strategy. Every child is different. Even within the best parenting style, there can be many different effective parenting practices you can choose according to your child’s temperament.
For example, besides spanking, there are many better alternatives, e.g. redirection, reasoning, removing privileges, time-in, etc. You can choose the non-punitive discipline method that works best for your child.
Of course, you can also choose to use “traditional” or “old school” philosophies (e.g. spanking) and may still get the “same” outcome.
8. Hang out with your family,
Walk the walk together. Have you ask the reason why we have weekends, holidays etc.
It’s not just to settle but to understand one another in the family
Families that hang out together live longer than those that don’t.
The glands of individuals differs but on a 90% research walk out weekly with your family and testify of a change in your household.
9. Pay attention to your own well-being.
Often times, things such as your own health or the health of your marriage are kept on the back burner when a child is born. If you don’t pay attention to them, they will become bigger problems down the road . Take time to strengthen your relationship with your spouse.
Don’t be afraid to ask for parenting help. Having some me time for self-care is important to rejuvenate the mind.
How parents take care of themselves physically and mentally will make a big difference in their parenting. If these two areas fail, your child will suffer, too.
10. PRACTICING PARENTING METHODS FROM YOUR THOUGHTS.
What are the things your mind say to you about been a good parent.
Your mind is powerful. The system of using what your mind calls for can actually help out in your family.
Avoid exposing them to or showing them only the right sides of life. They will know that life is not just a bed of roses
Avoid always shielding them from making some mistakes in life. They will learn faster from their own mistakes.
Avoid making them feel the world revolves around them. Teach your children to treat all with respect. It will make them stand out wherever they go.
Write down what and what you think can solve the problem at hand
Work towards it’s.
This really goes a long way in the family
1.AVOID COMPARISON BETWEEN SIBLINGS.
When parents practice favouritism ,it rather result to crisis between one another.
Of course,if your child thinks his siblings are favored, it might cause rivalry between them that may last the rest of their lives and cause problems in the family. Make sure your kids know that they are loved equally.
12- TEACH SEX EDUCATION
Avoid shying away from teaching your children sex education at an early stage in life. They will not be too curious to know what you have been trying to hide from them and will try to avoid any mistake that may cost them their lives or something valuable to their existence.
Don’t allow him stare at the TV programs implied for grown-ups. He will grow up with no regard for age difference.
Monitor the cartoon Network the kiddies watch some channel are in respect to character above them.
13.Avoid differentiating male chores from female chores at the early stage of their childhood. Expose them to both. It makes them able to cope in whatever situation they find themselves.
Always avoid training your male child to behave as he likes in society, especially with ladies. Train him to be a gentleman and train your female child to be a lady parenting tipa.
14- Avoid stopping your child from learning skills. He or she will learn to survive in the absence of white-collar jobs.
Avoid using your child’s weaknesses against him/her. Identify his/her strengths and use them to build their self-esteem, helping to provide the confidence they need to tackle difficult situations. Children are always more willing to listen and understand how to correct adverse behaviors if their dignity is intact.
15. MASTER THE A’s OF PARENTING.
The A’s of parenting are the avoidance in parenting.
This includes ;
-Avoid Giving your kid all that he requests. He will grow up accepting that he has the privilege to get all that he needs.
-Avoid giggling when your kid expresses offending words. He will grow up feeling that lack of respect is a diversion.
-Avoid staying insensitive toward offensive conduct that he can show without scolding him for his abhorrent behavior. He will grow up believing that there are no standards in the public eye.
-Avoid picking up anything that your youngster messes up. He will grow up accepting that others must assume liability for his obligations.
-Always abstain from putting yourself on his side when he isn’t right against the neighbors, his instructors, the police. He will grow up believing that all that he does is correct, the others are incorrect.
Note:- Good parenting is the best Family investment you can strive for, in your family.
The good thing is, although parenting is hard, it is also very rewarding. The bad part is that the rewards usually comes much later than the hard work.
It’s just now or never.
Not too late to regret!!.
By following these tips, we sincerely believe your child will grow up to become a fantastic person and make you proud as parents!
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