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understanding the five love language

Last Updated on September 7, 2021 by Joshua Isibor

What Is Love Language?

Understanding the five Love languages is a very important topic that cannot be scrapped in a relationship. When we talk about a language, then we talk about a combination of words used for communication. A language could also be in the form of eye contact, this is usually done in public places to convey information. This is usually a piece of information you don’t want people around to know. Hence, love language is an emotional language that allows you to express your love emotionally.

We have about 7117 spoken languages globally. You can’t go to China to learn how to speak English. If you can’t speak Chinese, you would need to attend their language school for you to learn how to speak Chinese. Every single person has a love language that works for them. Whenever you start dating, it is necessary to be observant. Being observant means to know the love language your partner possesses, because love language works like magic. They are powerful and sometimes might be deceptive because you can always use them as self-defense, and as a tool to get whatever you want from your partner.

What Are The 5 Love Languages

1. Words of Affirmation:

This is using words to compliment, congratulate, josh, praise, and appreciate your boo/bae. It could involve using pick-up lines. Years back, John, my friend, a doctor who was dating Kate at the university, was experiencing low-quality love from his girlfriend.   He would run to my house saying “I don’t understand Kate anymore, it looks like she doesn’t love me anymore”. Our love is growing colder day-by-day.

After so many days of observation, I noticed that he doesn’t compliment her, tease her, or even appreciate her. Days later, I approached him and talked to him about what to do before he loses his gold (girlfriend). Two weeks later, I received a call from him telling me to come over to a restaurant. I acknowledged the call and came over. He was full of Ecstasy and thanked me. He bought food for me and gave me lots of drinks, and I gave him more tips.

In the African Tradition, particularly Yoruba society, if you want to get something from the king. This is what you would do: Firstly, you’ll sing songs of praises and dance before the king. Secondly, you would have to bow down or lie before the king and begin to call him sweet names. After doing that he might be moved to answer your request. If you need something from God. You would worship him and call him sweet names, then he would be happy.

As a businessman or woman, if you don’t have words of affirmation in you, you would soon extinguish. Everyone loves praises, but there are a set of people that this works for. I once had a female friend, one beautiful thing about her is that, if you want to win her by buying her gifts, it doesn’t work. Her love language is words of affirmation.

2.Quality time:

 Quality time means spending much more time than usual with that person. You can spend quality time by. ~Going to the cinemas: You guys can watch the latest or trending movies in cinemas. ~taking a walk in an evening. You could both walk for several meters or km. laughing and gisting. ~spending time watching TV together at home. ~Going .to a club ~Romantic getaway

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Gifts can be in the form of cash or other forms of presents. Cash: This involves giving your partner money. It could be for financial assistance or as an expression of love. When you give her cash in time of need, this will show that you love and care about her welfare. It simply means you are taking responsibility. Let me give you a tip: I learned something from my friend, Godwin. There is this thing he does whenever his girl comes for a visit. When she is distracted he would secretly put some money in her bag.

When she gets home, he’ll give her a call and tell her, “baby can you check your purse? I kept some cash there for the little things it can afford”. Presents: This involves getting a physical gift for your love partner. Gifts such as watches, underwear, dresses, or even a car. Although I prefer getting a gift for a girl to giving her cash, I will tell you why. As a man or woman, you would need to know what gift your partner prefers. Some prefer seeing the gift every time in their home, it serves as a way of bringing memories ALIVE.

I once had a friend in college, on her birthday I gave her some cash as a surprise birthday gift. Years later I reminded her that my birthday is close that am also expecting a gift from her. Her response was, Have you ever given me any gift for my birthday? I replied, Yes I remembered sending you some money back then in school… She replied annoyingly, oh! I remember, if it had been bigger money I wouldn’t have forgotten so soon. Since that day I stopped giving girls money on their birthday because many would turn out to be ungrateful. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t give her money.

4. Act of Service:

When we talk about an act of Service this involves helping your spouse with activities like cooking, taking out the trash, doing the dishes, giving a massage, or even sex. I hope you remember the old saying, “Action Speaks louder than Voice”. Many people take that word personally in terms of true love; they believe that’s what true love should be about (an act of service).


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One fact about love is that when you love someone you would do whatever it takes not to stress that person. Your lover’s discomfort is equally a discomfort to you. FOR MEN: if you’re a man, you don’t have to leave all the work for your woman. You can assist her in cleaning the house, doing dishes, or even preparing meals on weekends. Your woman doesn’t have to slave away all day when you can help out FOR WOMEN: An act of service could be cooking his favorite meal, giving him a foot-rub. I bet you’ll win his heart with enough unusual pampering.

5. Physical Touch:

It involves holding hands together, hugging her, kissing, cuddling, touching each other’s legs romantically. Physical touch could involve you touching your boo in those places that can arouse her.

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A Word From Relationship Seeds

love languages are for both males and females, I am not segregating it. Giving cash is not specifically for men, women can also do much more. Love language can also be a tool for an apology. I’ll advise you to discover the language of love your partner possesses, it could take you months or weeks to discover but do so. After discovering it and you’re having issues you in using the love language you can visit our Contact us page for coaching. Drop your comments and questions in the comment session.

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