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Duties of a Father

Elder Robert L. Beckman said “father is the noblest title a man can be given, it is more than a biological role. It signifies a leader, an exemplar, a confidant, a teacher, a hero, a friend, and ultimately a perfect being”.

A father as we all know is a male who begets a child/a man who has a child. The term “father” may be used in a different context. In this context, we will center basically on a Father in a family setting and his duties. Although parenting is a two-sided duty and should not be inclined to one person(the mother), it has more to do with the father figure in the family.

As a man, there are certain roles that should be taken up in the society, much less the family which is the smallest unit in a society. The duties are what strengthens the family and build up integrity.

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Every man that knows his obligation to his family is being looked up to as a responsible husband and father. Your duties as a father are strictly for your Family. You are not a  responsible father to your wife but your children. These roles should be outlined in the course of continuation. The basic role of every man in the society is;

  1. To provide financial support:

A father should be able to assist his children financially until they are financially independent, and can cater for themselves. Children need financial backing for most things, especially at a tender age. Provisions should be made for the children’s education and other basic needs like food, shelter, and clothing. A good father lays the foundation of a healthy family by being readily available to provide for the children. Once you show that you are ready to take up your financial duties, your children would look up to you wholly. They would adore you as you have become an inspiration to them. While doing this, give and support your children with certain cautions, make them know that to whom much is given, much is expected.  You work hard to earn for the family. Whatever they need must fall within your income as a worker. That way they would understand hard work and its result, they would not adopt the habit of squandering while growing up. Also, it is helpful to know that in the journey or while making preparations to be a Father you cannot be tight-fisted.

 

 

  1. Spend quality time with your children:

No good father is too busy for his children. If you will be too busy for them, then why have them in the first place? Before bringing in the picture for having kids in a home, it is usual for the husband and wife who have busy schedules to create time for different activities in the home, for example, picking the kids up at school, taking the kids on private trips, involving in the school social affairs and so on. If, as a Father, your job demands traveling regularly, inform your children. Tell your children about the nature of your job and make them understand that you will always have time for them. Make things easier by picking out a particular time you would be available, for example, you can see them when you are on a break, on weekends, at the end of a particular month and so on. Pick dates at intervals. While staying off, it is advisable to reach out to them through the modern technical means, speak to them via calls, speak and see them on video calls, with such medium of communication, they would understand the message you are trying to pass to them. They would interpret it as “daddy is busy but regardless, he always makes out time for us”. It breeds love and improves the father-children relationship.

 

  1. Be a disciplinarian:

Most vices in the society inarguably sprung out from personalities, personalities that were learned from an environment that points down to the household. To be a good father, you have to adapt to the habit of discipline. You do not have to be unnecessarily strict. Discipline starts from perception, how you as a Father view things. You understanding the morals and standards of the society and feels the need to push your children to be a good book of the society. Every attitude your children put up is a reflection of your teachings. Take for example a young boy who has been caught and has been accused of theft in a market, amongst the crowd of people that surround him are the critics. People who judge the thief to the point of tracing their steps to their family. When a child shows a sign of stubbornness, makes silly mistakes, or has done wrong repeatedly, it is legal and divine to use any rational means to call the child back to order. You do not need to condone bad habits because the outcome is usually unfavorable.

  1. Emotional support:

Most fathers leave mothers to handle emotions or personal problems their children face. Most fathers absent themselves when their children are emotionally unstable. Normalize checking up on your children. Ask about their daily activities, their schoolwork, their social activities, their friends, or companies. When you open doors for conversations on topics like these, they would feel comfortable to open up on whatever it is that is bothering them.

  1. Religious support:

Every father who believes in a supreme being which is his creator should welcome the idea of connecting their children to that being too. Not minding the religion, you as a Father should create a certain exposure to your children about religion. A good family prays together and stay together.

If these duties listed above could be compiled and put into action, the results would be overwhelming and fulfilling. Your children would always put your first no matter what. Be that father that always comes through for his children.

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Why You Must Hire A Divorce Attorney

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Why You Must Hire A Divorce Attorney

 

Going through a divorce without legal help is like committing financial suicide. You might be thinking of going through your divorce on your own
and just using information that you can research online but that can do more harm than good. Though a DIY divorce may apply to certain situations,
it is still smarter to hire a divorce attorney to ensure that your best interests are taken into consideration. Keep reading for reasons why hiring a divorce
attorney could be one of your best divorce decisions.

You Want to Eliminate Mistakes

“The legal system is complicated enough to navigate for those who have a legal degree, so navigating it from a layman’s perspective is like trying to pilot a plane without even knowing how to ride a bike”, says Michael Porter of Haywood Hunt & Associates Inc.

Legal jargon can be very challenging. It can take just one word for you to completely misunderstand something (like a debt or medical issue) or overestimate/underestimate the value of an asset. This is the last thing you want. Why? Because mistakes like this can cause your financial ruin or may need to be corrected with more legal proceedings in the future. An attorney can ensure that your case is being handled properly and that you will not be making decisions that you will regret for years to come.

You Will Benefit from Legal Advice

A divorce attorney can ensure that you get what you deserve during a divorce. This is important because state laws do not always support an even split of a couple’s assets. There are cases where a spouse is entitled to a spouse’s future income and/or retirement. By hiring an attorney, you ensure that complicated issues such as debts, child custody, current assets, future assets, and child support are legally addressed.

You Want to Minimize Stress

Divorce is a highly stressful time. Not only will it be addressing the end of your marriage, but might also bring up painful experiences from the past. A divorce attorney will provide objective help in gathering information, presenting information, and representing your interests. This will give you more time to process your feelings and take care of yourself and your family.

Keep in mind that a divorce will be a very painful time and the last thing youneed is to have to take on legal work. That is what an attorney is for.

You Don’t Want Delays

Completing all the paperwork needed for a divorce plus gathering information and documenting everything isn’t an easy task. Yes, there are court provided documents but that is just a small percentage of what you actually need. Aside from paperwork, there are other legal issues that can prolong a divorce or halt the progress into a crawl. An experienced divorce attorney knows how to avoid problems like the above and get things done as fast as possible.

You Want A Clear Divorce

A divorce is a legal agreement and is legally binding. You want everything in your divorce to be as clear as possible and that each point that needs to be
addressed are taken care of. A divorce attorney will ensure that your wishes are accurately presented and that you understand everything that goes into
the divorce. This way, the divorce would be free from unclear language or errors.

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What to Look for in a Wife TO MARRY

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Before getting married to the love of your life as a man, questions like “what to look for in a wife?” Will definitely arise. The ideal woman for Everyman differs. Some may say they want a skinny lady, or a fat girl, if you could hear some of the things said by MEN, as per what they want, you’d be shocked.

Choosing a life partner is a major decision taken by man, here he selects one lady over a bunch of them. Marriage is a lifetime race, and when it’s not been run properly, it could lead to a broken home. Nobody wants a broken home. Everyone wants to live happily ever after. When you choose the wrong partner, it may take you years to correct, or even spending all your life trying to put things in proportion. A marriage that is not Divinely approved will end in divorce, emotional pains, and suffering.

It is therefore important to choose wisely. Before you choose to marry any lady make sure that she is Kind of person, never you force yourself on her just because you think she’s the most beautiful lady on planet Earth or you wanna marry her because she’s a model.
In life generally, if you want to buy something expensive, you don’t just rush in purchasing it. for instance, if you’re trying to buying used car worth $40,000 for yourself, there are things you need to look out for in the car before buying it. You’ll need to check stuffs like the * * vehicle history- you’ll need to make sure that the vendor is not selling a stolen car. Through the use of VIN, you can actually check if the car has been in an accident.
• You can check how efficient the engine is- this would be better if you go with an motor engineer (i.e the mechanic). In order not to bore you with these,the main message is to carefully search what’s needed.
So, If you’ve been asking questions like What qualities should I look for in a wife? Then keep reading this article .

6 Things To Look For In A Wife

Like we said in the beginning, men have different tastes when choosing women, but we’re going to bring out the most important thing to look for when hunting for a wife. They are things that you must consider without looking back.

1.Attractiveness

ATTRACTIVE LADY

I’ve always told my friends that if I want to marry, I must marry someone who I’m deeply attracted to. Yes! She may have all the wife material features, but bro, if she isn’t so attracted to you, I’ll advise you to leave her. Attraction isn’t everything but it’s something.

You may say, she’s beautiful, she has the qualities of a good wife, she’s just so perfect in her ways… but if you’re not attracted to her it may lead to another problem in future.
A girl once crushed on me years back! I noticed she had every quality that a good mother should possess but the problem actually was that I wasn’t attracted to her… I vividly know that if I end up marrying her, I would cheat on her like I never had a wife.

If you aren’t comfortable hanging out with your woman or introducing her to your friends, then I’m sorry to give you the breaking news, “Leave her Alone”, this may be very hard for you.. it was hard for me when I decided to make my own decisions, but the good news is that you’ll overcome.
It is very good to foresee because, if you’re marrying her because she is skinny, her body morphology may change with the season, she may run out of your taste!!
Marry someone who you know with or without her body changing drastically, you’ll still fall for her. Attraction goes beyond the physical structure, it’s more of a psychological feature, so be wise!!!!!!

2. She brings out the Best in You

Wow!! This is also an important factor in what to look for in a wife… one important question to ask yourself is “does my woman brings out the best in you?” Not all women have the capability. If you have one like this, then you’ll need to hold her really tight..

Some women may just decide to focus on just themselves, but a woman who’s really interested in you will want to resharpen and remold you.
If you’ve got the habit of smoking and drinking alcohol all the time, extravagant living, she’ll want to help you in that arena.
One way to know that she really brings out the best in you is that whenever you’re with her, you’re always inspired and you just discovered something just awakened in you.

This kind of woman reinforces your confidence. Here, she’s just like a coach to you. She just has the ability to make your world brighter.
She’s never in to demotivate, instead, she’ll motive and lift your heart’s up…
If you’re in a relationship now and you’ve ever felt like you’re in a prison, then that should be a red flag on your side telling you to run.

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3. Find a Wife who’ll Love you Unconditionally

An Ex. Once asked me, Josh!! Why do you love me?? Can you please tell me what you like about me or the major reason why you love me???.. As a relationship expert, you know full well that the answers you make can hurt you or flame up something in the future. Like the cops will always tell any criminal they capture. “ any you say or do, will be used against you in the court of law”.

It’s not bad to give an answer of your choice tho.

Finally, I gave her no answer, I just told her that I don’t have any reason(s) for loving you. that if I do, in the future, if that reason is no longer manifesting, then the love will fade away. I told her I just love her unconditionally.

The word unconditionally has a dictionary meaning: without a condition.
The day I was shocked, was when I saw a lady who married a man in a wheelchair. I wept in my heart. I asked my self does true love like this still exists?? That’s an example of an unconditional love.

When exchanging the marriage vow, the priest usually quote stuff like:

“in riches and in poverty”
“in sickness and in good health”
This was meant to be the true definition of an unconditional love.
Looking for someone who’ll love you unconditionally might be very tough for you. But if you carefully watch her well. You’ll be able to detect it.. an adage says by their fruits, ye shall know them. When the fruits in a mango tree is ripe, It’s always accessible for sightseeing until it’s been plucked.
An unconditional love is a sacred kind of love!! Not everyone in a relationship is lucky to get it. Some actually got it, but screwed things up!
Unconditional love also means putting your partners first, Before putting yourself. You deserve a woman that’ll love you the way you are.

4.Sexual Openness

Sexual compatibility should be one of the TOP 3 discussed topics Before marriage.
It’s very important! I once asked a lady, “how sexual are you? Rate it from 1- 10. She said 3. I was shocked, I just told myself deep down, that i cant be with such a fellow!!.

She told me she isn’t a Fan of sex!!! Although research and statistics have proven that sex wanes and waxes at different stages of life. For instance, the sex drive for nursing mother’s periodically low.

If you’re a man who’s practicing abstinence from sex with your partner before marriage, then this issue of sexual openness needs to be taken very seriously.
And if you’re a man who’s so crazy about sex and wants more in marriage, then you’ll need to look for a woman who has a healthy sex life that discusses sex openly, in other not to fall into a sexless marriage.

Find out little things like “does she love kissing?😘”, would she want to explore the world of sex?.
Being so religious shouldn’t make you shy from the REAL TRUTH.
When you fail in this aspect, you’ll be left with no choice rather than to cheat.

5. intellectual and Educational Compatibility

intellectual and Educational Compatibility

It has never been in the dictionary of some educated men to marry a lady that is not educated.
Education shouldn’t be something you place so much value on over intelligence. Education can never be substituted for intelligence!!
Whenever a man feels his woman is less Intelligent and educated than him, if they tend to marry, the man will definitely maltreat her.
However, such men would find it very hard to let their wives make key decisions about child-rearing, money management etc if they doubt their wives’ intelligence.
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6.Marry Your type

Marrying your type means you should look for a wife that has similar traits, characteristics, and personality. If you’re an extroverted man and you’re not really comfy handling an introvert, then you shouldn’t run into marriage with her. Marriage shouldn’t be something that will bore you. Having a partner that you can’t have a long conversation with would be boring especially you’re the type that loves talking a lot.

These are some funny answers that Joshua Isibor– A relationship Coach, got when he asked some guys the kind of lady that they want..

“ I want a woman that loves drinking alcohol”
“ I want a lady who smokes”
“I also want a lady who is good in bed”

The goal here is to find someone that’s like a best friend to you: someone that you’re free with.

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How impotent men can make love?

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Impotence is not to be perceived as an end to fulfilling sex life. It is surely a man’s problem and a woman’s despair. Impotence can be a ruthless relationship killer.
Impotence or ED (Erectile Dysfunction) is still majorly perceived as a man’s problem alone. Because of its embarrassment, many men who suffer refuse to effectively communicate it to their partners. They are ashamed and feel they have to carry the burden of it by dealing with it themselves.
The embarrassment also withholds the suffering men from seeking professional help. The only way they choose to cope is by avoiding sexual contact altogether. Even if the man with the said affliction gathers the guts to reach the therapist’s office, he is against his partner accompanying him more often than not.
Leaving the woman out of the equation alienates her and doubles the impact the man’s impotence has on her well-being. A woman with an impotent partner may feel she is unloved or her appeal is unsexy. She may feel the romantic spark that burned bright with her partner has completely faded.
In her reluctance to appear insensitive, she may hesitate to be proactive in communicating with her partner to satisfy her pent-up s3xual desires. The Woman may fear something’s wrong with her man, something that has to do with his health or his work.
Many men also regain their potency. Even those who don’t can also be effective lovers. With some insights and creative imagination, it’s possible to restrict impotence from ruining your love life and the beauty in your relationship.

When is it not impotence?

An occasional performance failure cannot be categorized as the feared impotence. When a man who was a stellar performer in bed slips in his action one time, her partner may start questioning her self-image and attraction. It is usual for some women to suspect their husbands of having affairs.
All men now and then go through something like this. These occasional failures do not define their identity as impotent. The reasons for it may vary, it can be the many stressful and anxiety-inducing fast-paced lifestyles we are increasingly adopting. Persistent worry and professional obligations may have some part to play.
If it’s an occasional occurrence in performance, ignore it and steer yourself away from the counterproductive thoughts. Don’t start obsessing over it. If such a thought process enters your consciousness, the performance anxiety will slowly creep in. It can lead to a vicious cycle.

How to regain the lost intimacy and make love again?

Communication

The most important and effective tool for a very satisfying sex life or a very fulfilling relationship is clear communication. If you have ED, there is no better way to start addressing and doing something about it.
Talk openly and freely about your intimate desires. Without hesitation communicate your deep fears. The whole experience will manifest a new bond that solidifies your relationship. This eliminates the worry the woman may be having regarding her attraction and sex appeal. It is essential to reassure each other and remain supportive.
Don’t be afraid to seek professional help. A good sex therapist can help you and your partner in overcoming these issues and provide valuable insights on improving your sex life.

Relaxation

Stress and anxiety are significant contributors to ED. In many cases, their role is more impactful than the physiological problems. When buried in worry, both the performance and the enjoyment dwindles.
Redirect your focus and attention from your ED to getting intimate with your partner. Lose yourself in the moment. Enjoy the little things that make the atmosphere romantic and sensual. Cherish the time you are getting to spend with your partner. Try deep breathing exercises to relax and be mindful.
A gentle erotic touch may bring simple pleasure. The more relaxed you are, the more you’ll break the barrier of impotency to experience fulfilling and stress-free sexual action.

Rediscovery

Reflect on the moments you and your partner had when you first started your relationship. Channel that experience of each touch electrifying your senses. Remember what it was like to explore so many new things about this fascinating person. You both had built this bridge of relationship discovering each other’s life from a unique perspective.
Relive those beautiful moments of togetherness. Kiss, laugh and experiment. There are many sex toys available for adult play. Just immerse yourself in the act and just purely enjoy it. Touch and caress each other. Discover the joy in extra-foreplay and sync intimately with your partner.

Playfulness

Even without a firm erection, you may still be able to 0rgasm. Even without intercourse, you and your partner can indulge in a great deal of sexual pleasure. All you need is a desire to take action and a twisted creative thought.
Mutual masturb@tion is one great way to learn more about what you and your partner enjoy. Experiment with innovative s3x toys to turn things spicy on the bed. Sex Vibrators are great to provide CLIT0RAL STIMULATI0N. Penis sleeves are fascinating toys for men with ED to wear and satisfy their partners. Along with tools for arousal and action, both mutual and oral stimulation can also be fun and exciting.
Sex doesn’t just have to be a game where the playground is always the bed. You can choose different and safe locations to be intimate and let the novelty of the place add extra excitement.

Determination

Physical intimacy is an essential part that sustains a happy and satisfying relationship. It’s possible to establish a relationship and have a sexually fulfilling time even without an active ERECTI0N.
Doctors may prescribe medications and treatments for ED. There might be other underlying ignored conditions that need to be addressed. Impotency can also mean early warning signs of heart disease.
For a long-term satisfying s3x life, it’s important to take care of your overall health. You also need to practice good communication to clearly convey your intentions and desires. Have a grip on your sexual expectations, adopt healthy habits into your lifestyle. Don’t forget to get creative to satisfy each other’s needs.

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