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INTRODUCTION TO EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION

we’ll be talking on signs of emotional manipulation. While some people cannot express the ill-treatment they receive from their partners, some people have been able to give it a precise name known as emotional manipulation. The pain and tears in a relationship are traceable to the actions of your partner who claims and profess love to you, which why this topic is timely.

The goal is to get you to identify if your partner is emotionally manipulating you. As well as what is causing it. Enough of the heartaches and pain you are going through in your relationship. And I am not suggesting that a relationship is a bed of roses.  What I am trying to say is that pain and heartache can exist. But it should not outweigh the happiness and pleasure in your relationship.

What is emotional manipulation?

There have been several attempts to define emotional manipulation. But I want to attempt to define the concept singly for greater clarity. Emotional is a state of having strong feelings. These feelings are feelings of anger, pain, pleasure, happiness, joy, surprise, disgust, contempt among others.

While manipulation is the act of skilfully controlling or directing someone without the person’s positive consent. Manipulation has a negative connotation. It is overbearing yet appears to be loving. The manipulation appears to be consensual when in actual sense, it is selfish. A manipulator seeks to gain control over the manipulated. But does these subtly. By subtly, I mean the manipulated would not be able to resist or even protest. In simpler terms, the manipulator uses the manipulated to achieve his/her aims.

As a wordInspire Wellness defined emotional manipulation as the act of manipulating another into an intense desired emotional state (such as love, passion, anger) to absorb the resulting emotional energy.

Also, emotional manipulation may be mild, moderate, or severe. Virtually everyone tends to emotionally manipulate another person. Because humans are naturally selfish. And in trying to meet our selfish needs, we might manipulate our lovers and friends. But when it becomes a practice, then it is evil. It is darkness. It is ruthlessness.

 

Who is the victim of emotional manipulation?

Usually, I hear people say women are manipulators. Thus men are the victims of emotional manipulation. While I am not here to dispute that, I will like to add that both men and women are victims of emotional manipulation.

Last year, my friend Vivian unknowingly dated a married man. This man assured her that they were going to get married in a few months. Vivian believed him. Only to discover a few months later that he was married. Vivian was emotionally manipulated because the man stopped her from seeing other people on the pretext of marriage. Anytime she went on a date with other men, this married man will tell her that she was hurting him.

Now that is a typical example of a lady who was being emotionally manipulated. As you can see both men and women are victims of emotional manipulation.

 

What are Causes of emotional manipulation?

 

  1. Selfishness: selfishness causes emotional manipulation. When you have a partner who is only interested in his/her wellbeing. Then emotional manipulation will arise. Because that person will try every conceivable means to meet his/her needs at your expense.
  2. Desire to be in charge: the desire to be in control is what ultimately leads to emotional manipulation. ‘Power they say corrupts’. ‘And absolute power corrupts absolutely’. A partner that wants to have everything without your input or your protest will manipulate you. Some people want to boast to their friends that they are in charge of the relationship. They want to be able to say that they are the decision-makers in the relationship. Thus to achieve this goal, they will manipulate their partners. This is prevalent among men. It is also found among women who do not want people to perceive them as weak. Women who desire to be the head of the relationship.
  3. Lust for money: The desire to gain material resources and gain from a partner causes emotional manipulation. Some ladies will weep for days, deny their husbands sex just to collect money. In the same vein, a man might constantly deny his wife money anytime she goes against his will.
  4. Social norms: the trending social norm can lead to emotional manipulation. A patriarchal society will have men who manipulate their women. While a distorted feminist society will have women who manipulate their men.
  5. Fear: the fear of the unknown and abandonment causes emotional manipulation. When a partner is afraid of a breakup, then he/she will try to manipulate the other partner. He/she does this to keep the relationship.
  6. Psychological issues: I want you to know that some people have underlying issues for emotionally blackmailing other people. What I am trying to say is that some people are sick in their minds. Growing up experiences have framed some people that they only know how to manipulate others. Also, some people start a relationship with the intent of revenging past hurts. People with abusive parents tend to be emotional manipulators. Stories abound of how men and women have ruined their partners because they had bad experiences themselves.

 

 10 Signs of Emotional manipulation

 

  1. Distort the truth: manipulators always try to change the facts. You can catch a manipulator cheating and he/she will use words to distort the truth until you will not see that act of theirs as cheating. They can make you feel you are the one who did not see or perceive clearly.

2. They try to change your mind every time: A manipulator will always want things to go his/her way. And one way to achieve that is to use every means to get you to agree with him/her every time. With a manipulator, you do not have a mind of your own. You cannot make your own decision without interference. A manipulator can give you the things you love just to get you to change your mind.

3. They make you feel less of a person: an emotional manipulator will make you feel worthless just to be in control. You are too fat. You are clueless.  These are some of the words you will hear. And the aim is to make you doubt and second guess yourself. If your partner is always making you feel worthless, then he/she is a manipulator.

4. Drown your voice: if you have a voice, then you can protest. Thus the job of a manipulator is to take away your voice. Anytime you want to contribute to a matter, or air your view, he/she changes the topic or gives an excuse why he/she cannot listen to you. Then he/she is manipulating you.

5. Insecure and make you feel guilty for their insecurity: a manipulator will accuse you of cheating. He/she will stop you from hanging out with friends. And when you do, he/she will become unhappy and blame you for their unhappiness. A manipulator will seek to own you and your time. You cannot be happy without them. Unless he/she is happy, you are not allowed to be happy.

6. Show you how huge their problems are: A manipulator always has a problem, while you are not permitted to have one. And you will be a vessel to solve his/her problem. With a manipulator, your problem doesn’t matter or is not allowed to exist. They will talk about their problems and you must sacrifice your time and money to resolve it.

7.Denial: they deny you things that they know will give their partners pleasure. They do this, in an attempt to get have their own needs met.

8.Constant criticism: there is nothing you do that is good enough for an emotional manipulator. They criticize you for not dressing well, not cooking well amongst others. They criticize you for not being caring. All these to get you to be an image of what he/she wants.

9. They give you the silent treatment: this silent treatment is to get your attention and get you to succumb to his/her desires.

10. Blame you for their failures: He/she blames you for his/her mistakes. Things are not working well is because of you. Because a manipulator is not happy, you cannot be happy.

In summary, if you notice these signs in your relationship, then you are going through emotional manipulation. And the best you can do is to stand firm. This can either lead to a better relationship or increased conflict. Or you can decide to leave the relationship that is causing you pain and heartaches.

By all means, deal with emotional manipulation in your relationship.

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How To be Pretty: 21 Natural ways to be More attractive

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How To Be Pretty: Naturally ways to be more attractive

Being pretty these days is like a “do or die affair” for most people out there. They spend a lot of money buying creams, makeups, clothes, and many more just trying to look good.

Looking good have lots of advantages attached to it such as:

  • Boosting self-confidence
  • Improving self-esteem

Everyone on earth is beautiful, although everyone has their spec and categories of people that they are attracted to. Beauty is vain because one day you’ll definitely grown old.

Physical appearance doesn’t make you beautiful, but what actually makes us beautiful is the way we treat people around us.

We live in a world where everyone is so obsessed with beauty, but learning how to be pretty naturally isn’t all about trying to buy toning creams or getting the latest makeup kit. But it’s about trying to be authentic and feel good about your appearance.

In this article, we’ll be talking about how to be pretty without spending much.

21 WAYS TO BE PRETTY

This write-up is here to give you the right knowledge.  being pretty is not always about spending much money. If you follow these tips, you’d still be very attractive even at your old age.

1.Smile More

when you smile more, you look prettier

when you smile more, you look prettier

They say, “laughter is the best medicine,” this is actually very true. But I’d say that laughter makes you look younger. Have you ever seen a movie and you see a guy telling a girl that you’d be prettier if you smile? Some ladies will say he’s actually saying that just to pull my legs and win my heart.

Whenever you smile or blush, there is always a glow radiating from your face making you look more charming. When I was a little boy, if my parents got me angry, they’d tell me to smile or else, I will grow old quickly.

Smiling helps your face not to get wrinkle.Whenever you’re sad, think of  something that can make you smile, it could be a tv show or a family member. The goal here is to always be smiling. If you’re finding it difficult to smile you can use the ‘fake it’ till ‘you make it’ technique till you get better at doing it.

2. Schedule regular haircuts or trims

regular hair cut

Taking good care of your hair goes a long in making your appearance glorious. Have you ever left your hair for 7months without visiting the salon, how do you think you’d look? Probably like an ex-convict.

To look prettier, you should schedule regular haircuts or trims probably every month (depending on how fast your hair grows).

3. Drink at least 8 cups (1,900 ml) of water a day

Hydrating/saturating your body with water is one of the best ways to keep our body healthy. Drinking lots of water helps the body system to function very well. for we to maintain our body, we should avoid things like alcohol, smoking and hard drugs.

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4. Bathe every day:

bath everyday

bathing every day would make your skin glow

Looking more prettier may also be scaled with the way we smell. Bathing at least, twice daily should be adopted. Bath with clean water and soap.

When you fail to bathe important parts of your body, you’ll have body odor.

5. Get Plenty of Sleep;

Anytime you feel tired, do well to take a quick rest. Stressing yourself always would make you look drained when people see you.

According to CDC,  an adult needs at least 7hrs to sleep daily.

picture of someone sleeping

Tips to get you more sleep:

  • Avoid taking caffeine at night
  • limit the way you watch television at night, watching a movie from 10 pm will not give you a good sleep.
  • keep your devices far from you, so you won’t be tempted to look at them
  • Read a book, it may help you sleep quickly.
  • Try a bedtime meditation
  1. Build confidence.
Build confidence

Build confidence

If you are not confident with yourself, you might find it hard to feel attractive to yourself and others.

Inner beauty breeds external happiness. If you can’t accept yourself, then there is no need to look for ways to stay pretty.

Self-confidence should be the first thing to achieve, then, you will see how pretty you will look and free, you will feel both in and out.

7.Make eye contact.

You could say in your heart, ‘will making eye contact make me prettier’? How does it concern beauty? The truth is that people will gradually start seeing how attractive you are to them when you start paying close attention to them while talking. Making eye contact helps you build confidence, trustworthiness, and more likable from people.

8. Keep your nails clean and trimmed.

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Keep your nails clean and trimmed.

Being neat matters especially when it comes to the areas of Nails, always keep them cleaned and trimmed. It won’t be nice after wearing good clothes and you’ll still go about with your dirty nails. It doesn’t tell well of you.

If you do polish your nails, you can always re-polish them so that you’ll look pretty. Biting fingers is one of the fastest ways to trim them. If you don’t feel like biting them, you can dip your fingers in orange or rub orange to them so that you’ll feel the urge to bit them when tasting orange…

9. Wear clothes that are comfortable and fit well.

wear clothes that fits well

You don’t have to buy the latest trending clothes that celebrities wear to look pretty. If you don’t have money to buy them, it’s fine! Just buy a few pair of jeans or gown that whenever you wear it, you’ll always feel on top of the world.

There are clothes that you wear and you’ll feel so important! Wearing oversized cloth will make you look very old. Simply wear clothes that are comfortable, not when you go out, you’d start adjusting the clothes.

When you dress in comfortable and properly fit clothes, people will respect you and want to draw close to you.

10. Wear deodorant or perfume.

use deodorants on your body

using deodorants on your body will help you look pretty

Smelling nice should be one thing we should look out for first before going out.  Smelling nice can make people respect and want to stay close to you. It makes you look comfortable sitting around people or in any group of people.

Tips when using deodorants

  • Don’t overuse it unless- strong scent will chase people.
  • it shouldn’t be used as a substitute for bathing
  1. Brush at least twice daily

brushing your teeth regularly

Brushing your teeth twice daily is a characteristic of pretty people. Brushing your teeth always should be a habit to cultivate. Even a man who has a mouth odor will not want to have a conversation with a man who also has a mouth odor also.

12.Improve your posture: A nice person slouching is hard to picture! Sit straight against a chair with your back and walk parallel to the floor with your chin. if you’ve formed a bad habit of walking, then you need to learn how to improve your posture

You will look more desirable and optimistic.

  1. Wear light makeup:

Wearing makeup can make you look stunning if you aren’t happy with your looks. Everything should be moderate ranging from your face, eyes, and lips. Wearing heavy makeup would make you practically like a masquerade.

If you aren’t that good with makeup, you can watch tutorial videos on youtube, keep practicing until your makeup looks natural.

  1. Follow friends who good with fashion sense: One way to look pretty is to make friends with those who are good at fashion. When I gained admission into the university, people usually address me as an old man, because of the way I dress.

Immediately, I got a new friend who’s pretty good with fashion, my mentality changed. I started dressing well.

Your cycle of friends can also affect the way you dress too.

  1. Keep your clothes clean and pressed.

keep your clothes ironed

Have you ever tried taking a photo with rumpled or dirty clothes? You’d look so unattractive and messy!! No one will want to mingle with you. Even when you come close to them, they’ll distance themselves from you.

Before going out make sure you press your clothes and make sure they’re very neat. If you feel you’re so lazy to iron your clothes, you can try hanging them immediately after wearing them.

16. Exercise regularly.

Exercise has been one of the fastest ways to keep the body fit and look pretty. Exercise has lots of benefits ranging from health to boosting happy hormones.  A lot of people (male and female) face some challenges such as big tummy, being too fat, shapeless, etc.

Also,  Maddy Zollo Rusbosin a writer at  Women’s Health Magazine, says exercise also improves circulation (which can give you a healthier glow and a better skin tone overall).

The sweat you get from exercise also helps to clear pores and lowers cortisol levels which help to reduce stress.

17.  Keep your teeth white

We’re not talking about spending all your money just to make your teeth white or look pretty. Having a white tooth helps to give you a brighter smile. You can use Whitening strips, it works well.

Also, for you to achieve a white tooth you need to avoid drinks like coffee, red wine, and black tea. I’m not placing a restriction on that. If you must take that endeavor to always brush your teeth and observe the natural general hygiene to whiten your teeth.

  1. Eat more fruits and Veggies.

Eating fruits and adding enough veggies( which contain organic pigments called carotenoids) to your daily meal, help your body not only stay healthy but glows well than tanning.

Tips to achieve this:

  • After your breakfast, eat at least one fruit like grapes, apple, melon, or anyone you can afford. This aids digestion very well.
  • Add Veggies to your food while cooking to add to more taste and look attractive too.
  • Drink a glass of juice after you are done or when relaxing.
  • Always remember to eat them daily for more skin glows and staying healthy.
  1. Be positive and friendly.

Always stay positive and stay around friends that have these positive vibes.

Negative vibes can destroy your self-esteem and makes you feel like you are not good enough. Stay away from anything that brings them and don’t fake it, it comes out naturally when you feel it internally.

  1. Compliment

Always compliment yourself each day before and after doing your activities. You can stare in the mirror and say sweet or good words to yourself.

Pet yourself, you deserve it! This will not only makes you look prettier but build love within you.

  1. Always take a walk around your environment.

Feel free to step outside for more fresh air. You can do that in the evening while taking a walk around your environment. I love this art so much, and it has become part of me.

Put on something comfy, select your favorite song, and stroll around your vicinity. You can visit some friends or drop at coffee shops to embrace the rest of the day.

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Life can be defined as a status given to any entity including animals, fungi, bacteria, etc, and sometimes viruses having the properties of replication and metabolism. In a holistic medical frame of interpretation, it can be organized under some abstract Key concepts: existence, creation of the world, state of being, daily living, talents, relations, sex, health
, and personal development.

“The ultimate aim of the human mind in all its efforts is to become acquainted with the truth”(Eliza Farnham). We believe that we have to try to understand life and get a grip on the many faces of life because it can be of great value for us to learn to recognize the fundamental principles of how life is lived to the fullest and it’s constituents.

Life constitutes different things, but is majorly made up of the soul, Food, shelter, and clothes. one might ask why? But from the Creation of the world, when God created Adam and Eve. Man has always sought these four things, after the sin of Adam and Eve God cursed man and chased them from the garden of Eden. Man’s suffering began and they had to fend for themselves, which led to seeking the comfort of their soul, food, shelter, and clothes. They sought God for their soul, food to feed their mortal flesh, clothes to cover their nakedness, and shelter for protective covering from rain, sun and wild animals which were their major needs and desires.

The struggle continued and the quest to get more to live a more comfortable life, made man to toil more and “Chase shadows”(things that do not exist or something that one can’t hold on to). Man now decides to go beyond seeking these initial needs, which was basically their desire and needs to search for and acquire more Knowledge to create things and develop the world. Which no doubt has a positive and negative influence in our world today, making man lose the sense of the actual meaning, purpose, and quality of life.

Man’s insatiable needs unleashed greed, wickedness, and chaos in the world today.
Whenever we Chase after something, we take ourselves out of the present moment where life actually happens. The future doesn’t exist yet and the past is gone. The only really meaningful place to live is in the now and that’s generally where you will find what you are
looking for. There are some things, man can Chase aside from the major constituents of life
earlier discussed, they include dreams, fulfillment, health, wisdom, and happiness. these things are also Paramount.

1.Dream: Dreams are the craving of your soul, if you don’t move towards fulfilling your rightful dream you live just an empty life.Before you start chasing the dream make sure that it’s your dream you are chasing! Most people don’t get what they want in life because they are playing out someone else’s idea of who they should be.

2.Fulfilment: Just like there is an external world there is also an internal world, which constantly seeks fulfillment. One may Love reading, listening to music, meeting friends, traveling to new places to achieve fulfillment, one may also have the resources to fulfill these aspirations. However, we simply neglect them as they don’t give us any sense of achievement. You must fulfill yourself internally before you Chase your dreams outside.

3.Health: Most people are so busy chasing other things in life that they find no time to take care of their health. This is the greatest blunder we can do. Dalai Lama said, “it so beautiful”.
If you lose health once, you can perhaps never get it back with all the wealth
and power at your disposal.

4.Wisdom: We have lots of knowledge nowadays but we are hardly wise enough to use the knowledge to achieve our goals in life. Knowledge is a great power. However,it can become harmful rather than useful,if we don’t know how to use it. We must try to become wise by learning to use the right knowledge at the right time in the right way.

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5.Happiness:”Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life,the whole aim and end of human existence”(Aristotle). However, most of us fail to be happy
in our life.Our failure to be happy is due to the fact that there is no single
thing that can make you happy.In order to understand the mystery of happiness, please
observe the picture of a musical keyboard.

If you press only one node of this keyboard, it can never give you joy for long time.
it is only when the nodes of the music changes with time with a great rhythm,
we create a beautiful piece of music. We have to create a beautiful life by experimenting
with life and move to different things to fulfil our soul and realize the dreams of the world.
These things also makes our life complete and add meaning to our life and world.
There are things man should not Chase no matter what others say,even the Bible says
in Luke 12:15 “Take heed and beware of covetousness,for one’s life does not consist in
the abundance of the things he possess”.

1.Chasing security:“In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes”.(Benjamin Franklin). The problem with chasing security is that there
is no such thing and if you trade your soul for it, you pay a big price.Each of us
has a unique purpose in life,most of us don’t realize it.Stretch yourself and
take a risk if you want to find out what makes your heart sing.

2.Chasing money:“Chase your passions and moneywill come.Chase money and you may never  find your passions”(Colin Wright). We all need to make ends meet, but
beyond that chasing after the green stuff doesn’t make us happier.Research by the
Nobel laureate pschologist and economist, Daniel Kehneman and Princeton economist, Angus Deaton, found that happiness maxes out around $75000 in the United States.Additional studies reveal that people are happier when they spend their money on
other people than only themselves.
We all need money to live,but chasing money for money sake can take you off
track from your true passions and leave you feeling hollow.Simplify your life,do what you
love and the money will follow.

3.Chasing material things:“Stop chasing what your mind wants and you will get what your soul needs (Kushandwizdom). Many of us think we will be happy
if we live in a big house, wear brand named clothes, drive a new car and stuff
our closets full of shoes.But that’s simply chasing things to fill the hole in your sole.

4: Chasing beauty: “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others, for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness and for poise,walk with the knowledge that you are never alone”(Andrey Hepburn).
Many women and men feel pressure to look good,we hit the gym,dye our hair and even
get surgery.The problem is that outer beauty naturally fades with time,what we should be
chasing after is the beauty that resides within.

5.Chasing latest trend:“Ask yourself,what makes you come alive and then go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive”(Howard Thurman).
Be a free thinker and go for what really lights your fire. It can be listening to music,
watching old star movies, writing etc. The consumer-based society depend on us to buy stuff, so we are forever lured into getting the lattest items. Trouble is,if we are always chasing the new rage,we can lose track of who we really are and what truly turns us on.

6.Chasing love:When you Chase love it often attracts people who don’t value you.It’s exhausting to constantly fight for someone’s attention you just end up getting hurt.True love comes knocking at your door, when you stop looking for it outside of yourself and focus on accepting yourself for who you are.
Chasing these things leads to chasing of shadows which increases our desire for irrelevant
and invaluable things.The bitter truth is, everything in life is vanity, “vanity of vanity, all is vanity”.
Ecclesiastes 12:8.We should Live in the present because we can only determine the present not the future. Life is a struggle from birth to death, life itself is a risk,but the question is
are we going to live our lives struggling,risking and chasing shadows?

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Helping A Loved One Going Through Addiction

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Addiction is a complex brain condition that is characterized by compulsive and excessive use of substances or exhibition of a behavior despite the known consequences. People who suffer from addiction have an intense focus on using substances or exhibition of behavior and habits much to the point where it takes over their lives.

Addiction most often leaves physical consequences on its victims. This however does not matter to them as long as the yearning for the substance they are addicted to is satisfied.
People who are addicted to substances or habits take it as a normal part of their everyday lives, which makes convincing them to drop the attitude a very difficult task to achieve.

Addiction does not just happen overnight and its victims are not born with it. The habit is picked up due to certain circumstances like the pursuit of pleasure, loneliness, peer pressure, domestic abuse, to enhance performance, and the need to relieve stress. The more these circumstances are satisfied (which is in all cases a temporary satisfaction), the more the magnitude of the addiction.

Substances that cause addiction have negative effects on how the brain functions and these last long after the immediate effects of the substance and these long-lasting effects are called intoxication. Intoxication is the condition of having physical or mental control diminished by the effects of substance abuse or addiction. It can also be a feeling of over-excitement and symptoms of intoxication are different for each substance.

15 STRATEGIES TO HELP YOUR LOVED ONE GOING THROUGH ADDICTION:

1. HELP YOURSELF FIRST:
It might sound like a lot or too selfish but it is very crucial when trying to help someone suffering from addiction. It is important for you to be in the best mental or physical shape to be able to help someone else deal with addiction. This allows you to give the best advice and also serve as the best example of how you want your loved one to be. You have to make sure you are not having your own addiction problem too because this if known to your loved one will be the greatest barrier to helping your loved one with the addiction problem.

2. EDUCATE YOURSELF:
This involves gathering information about the type of addiction your loved one is going through and making sure you understand the ways you could help solve it and reduce whatever effect it has on your loved one. If you have no information about the addiction, you will miss important signs that could be helpful in helping with the addiction. This knowledge is beneficial to both you and your loved one. You can educate yourself by visiting public libraries or asking for help from counselors

3. IDENTIFY THE CAUSE OF THE ADDICTION:
In most cases, the first step in solving a problem is finding its source. Knowing the causes of the addiction is a big step towards solving the addiction problem as this will help you give advice to your loved one. Most addiction cases, result from emotional and mental breakdown or misconception of life situations.

4. HAVE ONE-ON-ONE CONVERSATIONS:
The best form of conversation with someone you want to help deal with addiction is a one-on-one conversation. Having a one-on-one conversation may be less intimidating than staging an intervention with several people. Find a time when you can be alone together and free of distractions or interruptions. Tell them that you’re concerned about their behavior and ask if they’re open to hearing your thoughts. Try to use non-blaming language and avoid raising your voice or getting angry. It may also help to talk about specific behaviors or incidents related to their addiction that has directly affected you.

5. EXPECT DIFFICULTIES:
Helping your loved one overcome addiction is never easy or straightforward, you should therefore expect obstacles that could discourage the victim. It takes a lot of determination and willpower to overcome addiction and convincing someone to change their behavior is very unlikely.

6. DON’T FOCUS ON GUILT OR SHAME:
People who suffer from addiction mainly feel ashamed or angry when they are being advised about their condition. It is necessary to not judge them based on their habit and the reason for the addiction; judgment based on these factors only discourages them. Research conducted shows that this demoralizes them and they could still revert to their addictive habits to relieve the stress your judgment might have caused.

7. ESTABLISH TRUST:
An efficient strategy while helping your loved one overcome addiction is keeping their personal confessions to yourself. It’s easier to convince a person to quit addiction when you can easily be trusted. This trust creates a bond your loved one will try not to break.

8. BE POSITIVE:
The effects of addiction could ruin a person’s health, mentally or physically. While some are treatable, some have no cure. It is important to encourage a victim of addiction while they go through the stage where the effects begin to take their toll. Making them happy would improve their mental health and help in the recovery process.

9. HAVE REALISTIC EXPECTATIONS:
Dealing with addiction is far more efficient when problems are tackled one at a time. This takes patience and perseverance and you should not be over-demanding when helping your loved ones dealing with addiction.

10. IDENTIFY TREATMENT OPTIONS:
Treatment methods for various types of addiction differ, it is therefore important to identify the suitable method of treatment and provide the right atmosphere that helps in recovery from addiction.

11. COMMUNICATE:
It is important to keep in touch with someone you’re helping to deal with addiction. This is important because they could easily go back to their bad habits if there is no ‘supervisor’. Communication also involves giving them encouragement and making them know how their lifestyle and behavior have been positively impacted by the changes they have made.

12 ENCOURAGE HEALTHY HABITS:
A person suffering from an addiction would suffer a decline in mental and physical health due to poor hygiene. During their recovery process, it is important for them to regain their old habits like eating and exercising well.

13. BE INVOLVED IN THE RECOVERY PROCESS:
The recovery process of someone dealing with addiction could benefit any other person. A good example is yoga which helps relieve stress and clear the mind.

14. FIND A THERAPIST:
Severe cases you can’t handle could require a professional therapist whose wealth of experience would address the shortcomings of your approach. Therapists are trained to counsel people and make recommendations that are very important in dealing with addiction and other issues. This could cost a considerable amount of money but it’s worth sacrificing for your loved one.

15. ENCOURAGE YOUR LOVED ONE TO HELP OTHER ADDICTS:
The most encouraging sign of freedom from addiction is being able to help others suffering from addiction. The experience gained while dealing with addiction will be valuable and also endure your loved one lives a life totally free from addiction.

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