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How impotent men can make love?




Impotence is not to be perceived as an end to fulfilling sex life. It is surely a man’s problem and a woman’s despair. Impotence can be a ruthless relationship killer.
Impotence or ED (Erectile Dysfunction) is still majorly perceived as a man’s problem alone. Because of its embarrassment, many men who suffer refuse to effectively communicate it to their partners. They are ashamed and feel they have to carry the burden of it by dealing with it themselves.

The embarrassment also withholds the suffering men from seeking professional help. The only way they choose to cope is by avoiding sexual contact altogether. Even if the man with the said affliction gathers the guts to reach the therapist’s office, he is against his partner accompanying him more often than not.

Leaving the woman out of the equation alienates her and doubles the impact the man’s impotence has on her well-being. A woman with an impotent partner may feel she is unloved or her appeal is unsexy. She may feel the romantic spark that burned bright with her partner has completely faded.

In her reluctance to appear insensitive, she may hesitate to be proactive in communicating with her partner to satisfy her pent-up s3xual desires. The Woman may fear something’s wrong with her man, something that has to do with his health or his work.
Many men also regain their potency. Even those who don’t can also be effective lovers. With some insights and creative imagination, it’s possible to restrict impotence from ruining your love life and the beauty in your relationship.

When is it not impotence?

An occasional performance failure cannot be categorized as the feared impotence. When a man who was a stellar performer in bed slips in his action one time, her partner may start questioning her self-image and attraction. It is usual for some women to suspect their husbands of having affairs.

All men now and then go through something like this. These occasional failures do not define their identity as impotent. The reasons for it may vary, it can be the many stressful and anxiety-inducing fast-paced lifestyles we are increasingly adopting. Persistent worry and professional obligations may have some part to play.
If it’s an occasional occurrence in performance, ignore it and steer yourself away from the counterproductive thoughts. Don’t start obsessing over it. If such a thought process enters your consciousness, the performance anxiety will slowly creep in. It can lead to a vicious cycle.

How to regain the lost intimacy and make love again?


The most important and effective tool for a very satisfying sex life or a very fulfilling relationship is clear communication. If you have ED, there is no better way to start addressing and doing something about it.
Talk openly and freely about your intimate desires. Without hesitation communicate your deep fears. The whole experience will manifest a new bond that solidifies your relationship. This eliminates the worry the woman may be having regarding her attraction and sex appeal. It is essential to reassure each other and remain supportive.
Don’t be afraid to seek professional help. A good sex therapist can help you and your partner in overcoming these issues and provide valuable insights on improving your sex life.


Stress and anxiety are significant contributors to ED. In many cases, their role is more impactful than the physiological problems. When buried in worry, both the performance and the enjoyment dwindles.
Redirect your focus and attention from your ED to getting intimate with your partner. Lose yourself in the moment. Enjoy the little things that make the atmosphere romantic and sensual. Cherish the time you are getting to spend with your partner. Try deep breathing exercises to relax and be mindful.
A gentle erotic touch may bring simple pleasure. The more relaxed you are, the more you’ll break the barrier of impotency to experience fulfilling and stress-free sexual action.


Reflect on the moments you and your partner had when you first started your relationship. Channel that experience of each touch electrifying your senses. Remember what it was like to explore so many new things about this fascinating person. You both had built this bridge of relationship discovering each other’s life from a unique perspective.
Relive those beautiful moments of togetherness. Kiss, laugh and experiment. There are many sex toys available for adult play. Just immerse yourself in the act and just purely enjoy it. Touch and caress each other. Discover the joy in extra-foreplay and sync intimately with your partner.


Even without a firm erection, you may still be able to 0rgasm. Even without intercourse, you and your partner can indulge in a great deal of sexual pleasure. All you need is a desire to take action and a twisted creative thought.
Mutual masturb@tion is one great way to learn more about what you and your partner enjoy. Experiment with innovative s3x toys to turn things spicy on the bed. Sex Vibrators are great to provide CLIT0RAL STIMULATI0N. Penis sleeves are fascinating toys for men with ED to wear and satisfy their partners. Along with tools for arousal and action, both mutual and oral stimulation can also be fun and exciting.
Sex doesn’t just have to be a game where the playground is always the bed. You can choose different and safe locations to be intimate and let the novelty of the place add extra excitement.


Physical intimacy is an essential part that sustains a happy and satisfying relationship. It’s possible to establish a relationship and have a sexually fulfilling time even without an active ERECTI0N.
Doctors may prescribe medications and treatments for ED. There might be other underlying ignored conditions that need to be addressed. Impotency can also mean early warning signs of heart disease.
For a long-term satisfying s3x life, it’s important to take care of your overall health. You also need to practice good communication to clearly convey your intentions and desires. Have a grip on your sexual expectations, adopt healthy habits into your lifestyle. Don’t forget to get creative to satisfy each other’s needs.

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  1. Okorie Ifeanyichukwu Maureen

    July 29, 2021 at 8:57 pm

    Lovely nice one

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What you should know about Rainbow Kiss ( The REAL TRUTH)



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Rainbow Kiss: The whole secret about rainbow kissing

The first time I ever heard about a rainbow kiss, I thought it’s usually a kiss that only takes place when the rainbow is out. A lot of persons have probably kissed their partner at such time, and then come out openly to say… “Have you tried the rainbow kissing? I eventually kissed my partner when the rain fell yesterday evening when the rainbow appeared, and it was just mind-blowing.” The above statement, sounds too absurd, and the boldness to utter it publicly, only ends up making an individual classified as uneducated. So, in this article, we’ll get to understand the true meaning of “rainbow kiss” and all there is, to know.

What is a Rainbow Kiss?

A rainbow kiss may sound casual. Albeit, it’s a word, not for kids, the impact from it is so deep, with strong intimacy between partners. In one of our articles, we talked about different kisses and their meanings. In that article, there are kisses meant for someone you just met, probably a person who has a high social value, and there are kisses meant for someone who’s just a friend. You can’t have a french kiss with someone who’s just a friend, except you both have feelings for each other.

Rainbow Kiss definition: here, is a kiss between a woman on her period and another person, who is usually a man. It sounds so n@ughty. This particular kiss occurs when a man gets blood in his mouth after performing oral sex with his partner, and also she’ll do the same and get his s*men in her mouth. Afterward, they’ll kiss themselves with both contents in their mouths. That’s exactly what rainbow kiss is all about.

Rainbow kissing is better done when having the 69 position after having great s3x. According to Danyell Fima, a co-founder of Velvet Co. He said that rainbow kissing is actually a unique way of celebrating your sexual achievements.

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rainbow kiss meaning

Is a Rainbow Kiss healthy?

The fact to consider about this is that both blood and sperm have the probability of harboring lots of infected particles such as hepatitis, HIV, etc.

Also, apart from rainbow kissing, kissing generally, is one of the fastest ways of transferring diseases/pathogens like Infectious mononucleosis, influenza, coronavirus, meningitis, herpes, syphilis, gingivitis, and many more. If one’s partner by any means has nasal congestion, it certainly will be transmitted via kissing. These are researches made, confirmed, and tested by medical practitioners.

It is best advised not to share “rainbow kisses” with just a regular person or a friend, firstly, it must be someone you trust, and secondly, It must be someone whose STD”s status is properly known.

Here’s a thread made by a famous Nigerian Doctor on his  Twitter Twitter handle on the 30th of November 2020.#OurFavOnlineDoc 💎 (@DrOlufunmilayo)


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Who came up with the rainbow Kiss?

According to Wikipedia, Simon Farquhar sang a song about Rainbow Kiss. he’s actually a Scottish writer. The script was published by Oberon Books.

Rainbow Kiss Urban Dictionary

According to the Urban Dictionary, A rainbow kiss refers to performing cunnilingus on a menstruating female, which is frequently followed by orally swapping semen, blood, and other secretions. THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOMOSEXUALS.

Are there any rainbow Kiss Variations?

From the urban dictionary, a rainbow kiss has to do with heteronormative sex acts. A rainbow kiss is not meant for g@ys or lesbians, it’s meant for those who are straight.

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What people may think about a Rainbow Kiss?

A lot of Christians out there think that a rainbow kiss is usually demonic or fetish in nature. So a lot of preachers out there may preach against it due to its awkward nature.

Why are people into rainbow kissing?

The founder of TickleKitty, Sadie Allison Ph.D. explains that one of the ways people can enjoy period s3x is to give a rainbow kiss.

A lot of persons do what they do not because they like it. Couples might have a rainbow kiss because they want to taste and see how it looks like.  Allison encourages couples performing the rainbow kiss to try using flavored lube to break a new dimension to their sensory play.

A Ph.D. holder Wendasha Jenkins, also stated that rainbow kissing is also good for those who are adventurous and kinky. Wendasha also said that orgasms can actually help to relieve menstrual cramps.

Also, Fima describes rainbow kiss as “the pinnacle of showing comfort with and respect for your partner’s body and your own.”

How is rainbow kiss performed??

A rainbow kiss is performed when a Man gives a girl head while she’s on her period to lick all the blood, holding them in his mouth. And the girl would give the guy a head and get his semen in her mouth, then both will kiss together holding the s*men and blood in their mouths.

The two keywords in knowing how and when a rainbow kiss is performed is that.

  1. It must be on her period.
  2. The best s3x position is 69 for it to be very easy.
  3. They both must reach orgasm at the same time so that one will not hold the blood or semen for a very long time.
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Best tips for a rainbow Kiss

  1. Both Partners Must Agree:

Both partners must be ready to hold each other’s either blood and or sperm respectively in their mouth. Although, an irritable act, to some it sounds okay, so far as they are both comfortable doing it.

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  1. Study the best time your partner reaches his/her climax:

Rainbow kiss is not for novice partners who just started having a new affair and want to explore. They must be together for a long time so as to be fully aware of each other’s high time, else the whole fun comes to a quench.  Only a good communication and timing would help facilitate a rainbow kiss.


A rainbow Kiss is really one amazing thing for most people. A lot of persons have it all concluded in their minds, to certainly try it out. But then, if you feel you’re not ready for it, let your partner know in a very polite way, because being violent about your partner’s choice may result in losing your relationship to someone else who’s ready to do the seemingly dirty things with him or her.


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CAN YOU FLUSH CONDOMS (Here’s the answer)?



reasons why you shouldn't flush a condom


After having great sex, you probably roll outta of the bed, take your used condoms and flush it!! The two major reasons why people still use condoms today are to avoid unwanted pregnancy and STDs but still on it, that shouldn’t be an excuse to flush the used condoms. Couples feel that flushing a condom is one of the safest ways to avoid letting your kids see it but unknowingly to them, it’s environmentally harmful.

F.A.Q (frequently asked questions)


  • They hide it to avoid anyone knowing that they are secretly having sex.
  • They may hide it because they don’t want their partner to know that they are cheating.
  • Guys actually feel that flushing a condom is one of the safest ways.



No, condoms are small in size, so when flushed, it’ll go. It’ll only come back if the plumber didn’t do his work correctly. Condoms are not likely to get stuck in a pipe’s bend.


A YouTuber named Viva Frei took a TMI video during a sewage dump in the city of Montreal. All they planned to see in the sewage was organic material so that they’ll flush them down into St. Lawrence River. It was necessary for the sewage to be dumped so that some work in the city could be completed.

But, unfortunately, at the last lap of the video, they saw lots of condoms.. In his commentary video, he exclaims, “It’s not just that there’s one condom. There are multiple condoms,” and then, “Condom! Condom! Condom!” There are SO MANY CONDOMS, in just one corner of the river bed. So you’ve heard it! If you’re practically flushing condoms down the toilet, it’s really disgusting especially when they flow out on public waterways.

. Watch the entire disgusting thing below:


you may feel so comfortable flushing your condoms but condoms can cause a huge environmental repercussion.

If you’ve been asking questions like can you flush condoms? The answer is No, Below are some of the reasons why flushing a condom is bad;

Why You Should Never Flush Condoms Down The Toilet


Condoms are inorganic material, unlike other organic material which can be broken down, examples such as leaves, lawn clippings, cornstalks, and straw. This was said by Tom Hird, a marine biologist nicknamed the ‘Blowfish’. Condoms are made from latex, produced from a rubber tree.

Most sewages in the developed cities go down to the sea, but in an underdeveloped area, what they do is that they bury the contents in the ground or leave it in a bush..

Hird, who is also a Marine Conservation Society ambassador, is well-versed in the subject of plastic (and how it affects the environment).

He said: ‘The chemicals added to the latex mix, which provide shelf life and stability, stop the condom from breaking down swiftly in the ocean. In fact, scientists are currently unsure how long your sexy sheath takes to break down in the ocean, but estimates put it at around 30 years.

‘In that time, the rubber johnny is free to go on a worldwide jolly of seas and beaches, and if it doesn’t get washed up on shore, then it is extremely likely to be eaten by an aquatic animal mistaking it for food.’

The fact that it takes 30years for condoms to break down in the oceans doesn’t mean you should wash and use your condoms again.


Unlike feces that degrade in water, condoms don’t! That’s why a slight mistake can cause a huge blockage that’ll require the plumber to come and fix it.


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How to control your sexual urges




How to control your sexual urges ( BEST TECHNIQUES)

This is one topic of discussion we normally skip talking about. A lot of persons preach abstinence from sexual activities as a single but almost no one teaches how to control sexual urges which is the main cause of sexual sins. Whether as single or married, a high sex drive can be difficult to deal with. Especially when it is abnormal.

Sexual urges are normal with humans but become abnormal when it is excessive. An excessive sex drive is one that is too frequent and distracts you from productive activities.
For most men, wild sexual urges are their everyday nightmare. Even young boys. Not that women don’t have sexual urges, but women aren’t wired to be sexually sensitive like the man.
Some men get aroused at the mere sight of a fully clothed woman. At any slight provocation, they begin to have erections. I have met a young man whose sexual urge is like hunger pangs. At every hour of the day, except when he is on cigarettes, he is desirous to have sex, and somehow he can’t seem to control himself.

It is as though a force stronger than him is motivating him to have sex all the time. There is always this strong urge pushing him to grab a lady and strip her pants down. Several times, I have seen him beg unknown ladies for sex and get himself embarrassed in the end. You could imagine such a situation, how terrible!

Yet, no matter how many times he gets embarrassed or disgraced, he still continues in the practice. Wild sexual urges is a nightmare you won’t wish anyone.
It is an extreme that traps only a few people. On average, you could find one out of ten people struggling with wild sexual desires, mostly guys. It is very possible to get to that end if you don’t begin to fight for control now.
Excessive sexual desires have destroyed a lot of relationships and separated a number of partners. If you don’t deal with it, it can come in between you and your partner especially when they find it unbearable.
An exceptional case is persistent genital arousal disorder(PGAD)
It happens without any stimulation and can last for hours, days, or weeks.
PGAD is mostly found in women. Only a few cases have been found in men. In men, it is called Priapism.
Most people use masturbation to relieve themselves, but that brings a short-term relief after which the numbness returns and in some cases, it could increase the symptoms or cause it to last longer.
Masturbation is definitely not a perfect solution to deal with a sexual urge. It is no solution at all.

There are a few treatment options that are open to you, numbing gels, electroconvulsive therapy (used in cases where mental disorders like bipolar are concerned.
PGAD has been linked with depression, so taking anti-depressants could also help. Cognitive-behavioral therapy helps you control your negative emotions and symptoms that can exacerbate the symptoms.
There are main symptoms of PGAD that include.
• Face and neck becoming red or flushed.
• Abnormal heart rate.
• Shallow rapid breathing.
• Pain in the genital area.
• It usually accompanies cases of mental health issues.
See a doctor to verify.
However, You don’t have to wait for any of these symptoms or for your urges to get wild before you begin to fight for ways to gain control over your sexual urges.
As an individual, you ought to be in control of yourself, your emotions, and your feelings.
There is one rule to being in control, DISCIPLINE.
To be in control over your lifestyle, you have to be disciplined. Nobody has the ability to wield control other than you.
Wielding control can prove to be very difficult but not when you
lower your sex drive
Below is a list of practical tips to help you gain control over your sexual desires and reduce excessive libido

1. Talk about it:

This is a therapeutic tip that helps both couples and singles. Although, sex is not what most people are comfortable talking about. It is a very private and personal topic we mostly seek to avoid. Communication is actually very therapeutic as it breeds understanding which is necessary for overcoming any overwhelming issue.

There are two types of sex therapy.
a. Couples sex therapy: 80% of couples worldwide experience sex drive mismatch. Sex drive mismatch is a case where one partner has a higher drive. this evenness doesn’t in any way spell doom in your relationship. You could cope with it by going for sex therapy with your spouse, where you both will communicate and become in sync with each other.
The main objective is to investigate and study your sex lives, to discover what you both want from sex.
You and your partner can work on building your sexual connection and developing intimacy. Hence, you are shifting the focus from sex to intimacy which is a stronger need in building a solid relationship.
You also need to be sure that the excessive sex drive is not as a result of PGAD. This is why therapy is important if the therapist feels that there are symptoms of it. he/ she would direct you to take a test.
And suggest medications. Do not feel you can handle it alone. Seeing a therapist is very important.

b. Individual sex therapy:

sex therapies also work for individuals with a strange and rare sex drive and have probably developed negative habits to deal with sexual urges.
It has been discovered that an excessive drive can be as a result of depression. It is one common result of not being happy with oneself or feeling out of control.
If you have any such symptoms, you need to speak with someone, preferably a friend or a therapist, or a psychosexual therapist in particular. There are treatments you can take to reduce your sex drives.

2. Distract yourself:

we have talked about how to handle high sex drives. To reduce or control sexual drives, you have to distract yourself from the feeling. Sexual drives can be strong and be very distracting, sometimes they threaten to be overpowering but you just to be in control. One control mechanism is engaging in activities you derive pleasure in, it could be watching movies, playing games, an exercise, or any engaging activity. Make sure your distraction is engaging and would require you to be active. You don’t want your mind to be lazy about and paying attention to the feelings surging through your body. So, find a solid distraction and focus on it, then you’ll get over such sexual desires.

3. Remove yourself from the triggering situation:

Identify the triggers and avoid them. There are environments, situations, activities, positions, and talks that could bring about sexual urges. Try as much as possible to avoid them and don’t hesitate to walk away from them if you accidentally find yourself there.

4. Get out of your current environment:

taking a physical walk out wherever you are when the urge comes upon you and try to release some energy by taking a walk if you can. You’d notice that most tips I have given are centered on energy and gaining control of yourself. This is because sexual urges can be exhaustive but when you exhaust yourself by doing something productive or energy-intensive, the possibility of the urges coming is lesser because your body is tired and cannot respond. This is not me saying that you should go ahead and get yourself exhausted every day so you won’t be bothered by sexual urges. Taking a walk enables you to release energy and possibly distract yourself.

5. Watch what you feed on and the people you mingle with:

your lifestyle could also be a spurn for sexual urges. When you interact with sexual materials and engage in sex discussions throughout your day, you should expect a bumper of sexual urges at night. Avoid sex materials and conversations that are focused on sex.

6. Find effective methods to control your thoughts:

engage your mind at all times. they say the idle mind is…. You can fill it in yourself. So, find a grip over your mind. Sexual urges begin from the mind before you start feeling the sensations in your body. Certain individuals feel that it is impossible to control the mind; that man is subject and a slave to his mind.

if you a subscriber to that school of thought, you need to unsubscribe today. because the fact is, you have control over your mind. Yes, you can control what sits in your head, for how long, and the impact it’ll have on your body. Nothing can gain dominance if you don’t make it comfortable. Before I go on talking, there are basic ways to control your thoughts. You need to locate the door of your head and put a steady lock there.
One method that works for me is talking to myself and using imagination to realign my mind to what I want to focus on.

7. Minimize stress:

The times I ever felt sexual urges in my life were times when I was mentally or physically drained. Flee from stress! getting busy and productive doesn’t involve burying yourselves with activities until you are not just physically stressed but also mentally drained. At that time, strange chemicals are released in your body that could make you begin to desire sex. Live a mentally healthy life, it is when you are down and emotionally stressed that your body begins to desire sex.

8. Engage in newfound hobbies and leave no break time:

if you’re anything like me, you should be able to create and adjust to new hobbies easily. The new hobby thing is to get you excited and motivated at all times.

I believe that this article has given you some helpful tips on how to control your sexual urges and overcome high sex drives. A very powerful tip you should consider nonetheless is; prayer.
You can consider building an intimate relationship with God through prayer and communicate with him your issue. The truth is, he knows you need control over your sexual urges but he wants you to ask and he will respond.
The closer to God you become (not the more you go to church… they are two different things) the more control you gain over your sexual urges and otherwise.
It is possible to be sexually pure. You can be chaste physically and mentally.

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