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Abortion vs Keeping the Child outside Marriage



Abortion vs Keeping the Child outside Marriage

Abortion vs Keeping the Child outside Marriage

Should I abort or not abort? Which choice is better for me since we are not yet married.

Carrying out an abortion can be very overwhelming and alarming especially when you’re in a country that has set up legislation against abortion. That is to say, abortion would be illegal and unsafe in such regions. But then again, keeping a child especially if you’re not ready to have kids right now can be quite alarming as well. Especially, if you don’t have money or are still actively pursuing your career and the child’s father is not responsible enough to take care of a child right now.

Well before considering abortion as a first choice, there are certain questions you need to ask yourself.

Seven questions to ask yourself before considering Abortion

1. Is abortion the best option for me?

Abortion is not rare, it is so common, and people are having abortions for several reasons.  You are the only one who knows what is good for you and that is dependent on two factors. Firstly, The accurate information on abortion you have and support from friends, family, and medical practitioners.

2. Why do people choose abortion?

If you’re thinking about having an abortion, you’re not alone. A whole lot of people face unplanned pregnancies every year. About 4 out of 10 of them decide to get an abortion. Even some people with planned pregnancies also get abortions because of health or safety reasons. The decision could be simple or at other times, it’s complicated. But either way, you’re the only person who has the final say.

Everyone has their own unique and valid reasons for having an abortion. Below are some of the different reasons people decide to go for an abortion:

  • They’re not ready to become a parent yet.
  • It’s not the right time in their life to have a baby.
  • They want to finish school, focus on building their career, and achieve other life goals before having a baby.
  • The pregnancy was a result of a ‘fling’. They are not in a serious relationship with the man involved.
  • They’re in an abusive relationship or were sexually assaulted.
  • The pregnancy is dangerous or bad for their mental/physical health.
  • The fetus might die during childbirth due to an underlying sickness or will suffer after the birth.

Deciding to have an abortion doesn’t mean you don’t want or love children.  People who had an abortion often go on to have a baby later, when they feel they are in a better position to be a good parent. The most important thing in deciding if and when to have a baby is very personal, and only you know what’s best for your life.

3. What can I think about to help me choose wisely?

Family, relationships, school, work, life goals, health, safety, and personal beliefs — people think carefully about these things before having an abortion.

Here are some things to consider if you are thinking about an abortion:

  • Am I ready to be a parent?
  • What would it mean for my future if I had a child now?
  • What would it mean for my family if I had a child now?
  • How would being a parent affect my career goals?
  • Is anyone pressuring me to have or not have an abortion?
  • Would having a baby change my life in a way I don’t like?
  • What kind of support would I need and get if I decided to get an abortion?
  • What kind of support would I need and get if I decided to keep the baby?


  1. Aside from abortion, are there any other options I can take without having to be a parent?

Many people choose abortion because they feel is the only way to avoid being plunged into unplanned parenthood. But that’s not actually true. Adoption is a good choice if parenting is what scares one in keeping the baby. Through support from family and friends, you can decide to have the baby and put him/her up for adoption. Some other people I have known have the baby and their parents serve as foster parents while they focus more on their careers. When they become stable and in a better place, they can now assume parenting. But this option could be difficult if one doesn’t have supportive parents!


  1. Do I have strong personal or religious beliefs about abortion?

If you have a serious personal or religious belief that’s totally against abortion, I feel you must give it a second thought. Our beliefs shape our values and the way we see life and relationships with others. We can’t throw that into the wind when making important life-changing decisions.

Decisions about your pregnancy are deeply personal. You hold the power to make decisions that are best for you in order to stay true to yourself. There are tons of things to consider, and it’s normal to have several feelings and thoughts when making this decision. That’s why it’s important to get factual, non-judgmental information about abortion. Support from one’s family, friends, partners, and other people you trust can also be helpful in that period.

6. Who are the people should I consider talking to when trying to make a decision?

Lots of people lean on others to help them with their decision. It’s good to choose people who you know are understanding and supportive of you. People who are more knowledgeable about these things could help like good family planning centers and private doctors who can help you talk about your decision. But be careful when looking for a reliable health center, because some fake clinics or clinics are judgmental.

7. How long should I take to make the decision?

It’s important to take your time you need to make the best decision for you. It’s also a good idea to talk to a nurse or doctor as soon as you can so that you can get the best medical care possible.

The aftermath of abortion or keeping the child.

It is important to know after having an abortion or keeping the baby that you need not feel guilty or condemned. You have to heal and move on. Secondly, when you decide to have an abortion or have the baby, you must stand by your decision, that means when you enter a serious committed relationship you must let your partner know of what you once did. Finally, if you’re going to be sexually active after going for an abortion or having a baby, you should be sexually responsible. That is, look for the best option on how you could avoid unplanned pregnancy. They are several birth control pills and contraceptives available. You can meet your health provider to assist you in choosing the best way to avoid unplanned pregnancy in future. Good luck!!


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What you should know about Rainbow Kiss ( The REAL TRUTH)



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Rainbow Kiss: The whole secret about rainbow kissing

The first time I ever heard about a rainbow kiss, I thought it’s usually a kiss that only takes place when the rainbow is out. A lot of persons have probably kissed their partner at such time, and then come out openly to say… “Have you tried the rainbow kissing? I eventually kissed my partner when the rain fell yesterday evening when the rainbow appeared, and it was just mind-blowing.” The above statement, sounds too absurd, and the boldness to utter it publicly, only ends up making an individual classified as uneducated. So, in this article, we’ll get to understand the true meaning of “rainbow kiss” and all there is, to know.

What is a Rainbow Kiss?

A rainbow kiss may sound casual. Albeit, it’s a word, not for kids, the impact from it is so deep, with strong intimacy between partners. In one of our articles, we talked about different kisses and their meanings. In that article, there are kisses meant for someone you just met, probably a person who has a high social value, and there are kisses meant for someone who’s just a friend. You can’t have a french kiss with someone who’s just a friend, except you both have feelings for each other.

Rainbow Kiss definition: here, is a kiss between a woman on her period and another person, who is usually a man. It sounds so n@ughty. This particular kiss occurs when a man gets blood in his mouth after performing oral sex with his partner, and also she’ll do the same and get his s*men in her mouth. Afterward, they’ll kiss themselves with both contents in their mouths. That’s exactly what rainbow kiss is all about.

Rainbow kissing is better done when having the 69 position after having great s3x. According to Danyell Fima, a co-founder of Velvet Co. He said that rainbow kissing is actually a unique way of celebrating your sexual achievements.

rainbow kiss meaning

rainbow kiss meaning

Is a Rainbow Kiss healthy?

The fact to consider about this is that both blood and sperm have the probability of harboring lots of infected particles such as hepatitis, HIV, etc.

Also, apart from rainbow kissing, kissing generally, is one of the fastest ways of transferring diseases/pathogens like Infectious mononucleosis, influenza, coronavirus, meningitis, herpes, syphilis, gingivitis, and many more. If one’s partner by any means has nasal congestion, it certainly will be transmitted via kissing. These are researches made, confirmed, and tested by medical practitioners.

It is best advised not to share “rainbow kisses” with just a regular person or a friend, firstly, it must be someone you trust, and secondly, It must be someone whose STD”s status is properly known.

Here’s a thread made by a famous Nigerian Doctor on his  Twitter Twitter handle on the 30th of November 2020.#OurFavOnlineDoc 💎 (@DrOlufunmilayo)


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Who came up with the rainbow Kiss?

According to Wikipedia, Simon Farquhar sang a song about Rainbow Kiss. he’s actually a Scottish writer. The script was published by Oberon Books.

Rainbow Kiss Urban Dictionary

According to the Urban Dictionary, A rainbow kiss refers to performing cunnilingus on a menstruating female, which is frequently followed by orally swapping semen, blood, and other secretions. THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOMOSEXUALS.

Are there any rainbow Kiss Variations?

From the urban dictionary, a rainbow kiss has to do with heteronormative sex acts. A rainbow kiss is not meant for g@ys or lesbians, it’s meant for those who are straight.

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What people may think about a Rainbow Kiss?

A lot of Christians out there think that a rainbow kiss is usually demonic or fetish in nature. So a lot of preachers out there may preach against it due to its awkward nature.

Why are people into rainbow kissing?

The founder of TickleKitty, Sadie Allison Ph.D. explains that one of the ways people can enjoy period s3x is to give a rainbow kiss.

A lot of persons do what they do not because they like it. Couples might have a rainbow kiss because they want to taste and see how it looks like.  Allison encourages couples performing the rainbow kiss to try using flavored lube to break a new dimension to their sensory play.

A Ph.D. holder Wendasha Jenkins, also stated that rainbow kissing is also good for those who are adventurous and kinky. Wendasha also said that orgasms can actually help to relieve menstrual cramps.

Also, Fima describes rainbow kiss as “the pinnacle of showing comfort with and respect for your partner’s body and your own.”

How is rainbow kiss performed??

A rainbow kiss is performed when a Man gives a girl head while she’s on her period to lick all the blood, holding them in his mouth. And the girl would give the guy a head and get his semen in her mouth, then both will kiss together holding the s*men and blood in their mouths.

The two keywords in knowing how and when a rainbow kiss is performed is that.

  1. It must be on her period.
  2. The best s3x position is 69 for it to be very easy.
  3. They both must reach orgasm at the same time so that one will not hold the blood or semen for a very long time.
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rainbow kiss picture

Best tips for a rainbow Kiss

  1. Both Partners Must Agree:

Both partners must be ready to hold each other’s either blood and or sperm respectively in their mouth. Although, an irritable act, to some it sounds okay, so far as they are both comfortable doing it.

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  1. Study the best time your partner reaches his/her climax:

Rainbow kiss is not for novice partners who just started having a new affair and want to explore. They must be together for a long time so as to be fully aware of each other’s high time, else the whole fun comes to a quench.  Only a good communication and timing would help facilitate a rainbow kiss.


A rainbow Kiss is really one amazing thing for most people. A lot of persons have it all concluded in their minds, to certainly try it out. But then, if you feel you’re not ready for it, let your partner know in a very polite way, because being violent about your partner’s choice may result in losing your relationship to someone else who’s ready to do the seemingly dirty things with him or her.


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How impotent men can make love?




Impotence is not to be perceived as an end to fulfilling sex life. It is surely a man’s problem and a woman’s despair. Impotence can be a ruthless relationship killer.
Impotence or ED (Erectile Dysfunction) is still majorly perceived as a man’s problem alone. Because of its embarrassment, many men who suffer refuse to effectively communicate it to their partners. They are ashamed and feel they have to carry the burden of it by dealing with it themselves.

The embarrassment also withholds the suffering men from seeking professional help. The only way they choose to cope is by avoiding sexual contact altogether. Even if the man with the said affliction gathers the guts to reach the therapist’s office, he is against his partner accompanying him more often than not.

Leaving the woman out of the equation alienates her and doubles the impact the man’s impotence has on her well-being. A woman with an impotent partner may feel she is unloved or her appeal is unsexy. She may feel the romantic spark that burned bright with her partner has completely faded.

In her reluctance to appear insensitive, she may hesitate to be proactive in communicating with her partner to satisfy her pent-up s3xual desires. The Woman may fear something’s wrong with her man, something that has to do with his health or his work.
Many men also regain their potency. Even those who don’t can also be effective lovers. With some insights and creative imagination, it’s possible to restrict impotence from ruining your love life and the beauty in your relationship.

When is it not impotence?

An occasional performance failure cannot be categorized as the feared impotence. When a man who was a stellar performer in bed slips in his action one time, her partner may start questioning her self-image and attraction. It is usual for some women to suspect their husbands of having affairs.

All men now and then go through something like this. These occasional failures do not define their identity as impotent. The reasons for it may vary, it can be the many stressful and anxiety-inducing fast-paced lifestyles we are increasingly adopting. Persistent worry and professional obligations may have some part to play.
If it’s an occasional occurrence in performance, ignore it and steer yourself away from the counterproductive thoughts. Don’t start obsessing over it. If such a thought process enters your consciousness, the performance anxiety will slowly creep in. It can lead to a vicious cycle.

How to regain the lost intimacy and make love again?


The most important and effective tool for a very satisfying sex life or a very fulfilling relationship is clear communication. If you have ED, there is no better way to start addressing and doing something about it.
Talk openly and freely about your intimate desires. Without hesitation communicate your deep fears. The whole experience will manifest a new bond that solidifies your relationship. This eliminates the worry the woman may be having regarding her attraction and sex appeal. It is essential to reassure each other and remain supportive.
Don’t be afraid to seek professional help. A good sex therapist can help you and your partner in overcoming these issues and provide valuable insights on improving your sex life.


Stress and anxiety are significant contributors to ED. In many cases, their role is more impactful than the physiological problems. When buried in worry, both the performance and the enjoyment dwindles.
Redirect your focus and attention from your ED to getting intimate with your partner. Lose yourself in the moment. Enjoy the little things that make the atmosphere romantic and sensual. Cherish the time you are getting to spend with your partner. Try deep breathing exercises to relax and be mindful.
A gentle erotic touch may bring simple pleasure. The more relaxed you are, the more you’ll break the barrier of impotency to experience fulfilling and stress-free sexual action.


Reflect on the moments you and your partner had when you first started your relationship. Channel that experience of each touch electrifying your senses. Remember what it was like to explore so many new things about this fascinating person. You both had built this bridge of relationship discovering each other’s life from a unique perspective.
Relive those beautiful moments of togetherness. Kiss, laugh and experiment. There are many sex toys available for adult play. Just immerse yourself in the act and just purely enjoy it. Touch and caress each other. Discover the joy in extra-foreplay and sync intimately with your partner.


Even without a firm erection, you may still be able to 0rgasm. Even without intercourse, you and your partner can indulge in a great deal of sexual pleasure. All you need is a desire to take action and a twisted creative thought.
Mutual masturb@tion is one great way to learn more about what you and your partner enjoy. Experiment with innovative s3x toys to turn things spicy on the bed. Sex Vibrators are great to provide CLIT0RAL STIMULATI0N. Penis sleeves are fascinating toys for men with ED to wear and satisfy their partners. Along with tools for arousal and action, both mutual and oral stimulation can also be fun and exciting.
Sex doesn’t just have to be a game where the playground is always the bed. You can choose different and safe locations to be intimate and let the novelty of the place add extra excitement.


Physical intimacy is an essential part that sustains a happy and satisfying relationship. It’s possible to establish a relationship and have a sexually fulfilling time even without an active ERECTI0N.
Doctors may prescribe medications and treatments for ED. There might be other underlying ignored conditions that need to be addressed. Impotency can also mean early warning signs of heart disease.
For a long-term satisfying s3x life, it’s important to take care of your overall health. You also need to practice good communication to clearly convey your intentions and desires. Have a grip on your sexual expectations, adopt healthy habits into your lifestyle. Don’t forget to get creative to satisfy each other’s needs.

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CAN YOU FLUSH CONDOMS (Here’s the answer)?



reasons why you shouldn't flush a condom


After having great sex, you probably roll outta of the bed, take your used condoms and flush it!! The two major reasons why people still use condoms today are to avoid unwanted pregnancy and STDs but still on it, that shouldn’t be an excuse to flush the used condoms. Couples feel that flushing a condom is one of the safest ways to avoid letting your kids see it but unknowingly to them, it’s environmentally harmful.

F.A.Q (frequently asked questions)


  • They hide it to avoid anyone knowing that they are secretly having sex.
  • They may hide it because they don’t want their partner to know that they are cheating.
  • Guys actually feel that flushing a condom is one of the safest ways.



No, condoms are small in size, so when flushed, it’ll go. It’ll only come back if the plumber didn’t do his work correctly. Condoms are not likely to get stuck in a pipe’s bend.


A YouTuber named Viva Frei took a TMI video during a sewage dump in the city of Montreal. All they planned to see in the sewage was organic material so that they’ll flush them down into St. Lawrence River. It was necessary for the sewage to be dumped so that some work in the city could be completed.

But, unfortunately, at the last lap of the video, they saw lots of condoms.. In his commentary video, he exclaims, “It’s not just that there’s one condom. There are multiple condoms,” and then, “Condom! Condom! Condom!” There are SO MANY CONDOMS, in just one corner of the river bed. So you’ve heard it! If you’re practically flushing condoms down the toilet, it’s really disgusting especially when they flow out on public waterways.

. Watch the entire disgusting thing below:


you may feel so comfortable flushing your condoms but condoms can cause a huge environmental repercussion.

If you’ve been asking questions like can you flush condoms? The answer is No, Below are some of the reasons why flushing a condom is bad;

Why You Should Never Flush Condoms Down The Toilet


Condoms are inorganic material, unlike other organic material which can be broken down, examples such as leaves, lawn clippings, cornstalks, and straw. This was said by Tom Hird, a marine biologist nicknamed the ‘Blowfish’. Condoms are made from latex, produced from a rubber tree.

Most sewages in the developed cities go down to the sea, but in an underdeveloped area, what they do is that they bury the contents in the ground or leave it in a bush..

Hird, who is also a Marine Conservation Society ambassador, is well-versed in the subject of plastic (and how it affects the environment).

He said: ‘The chemicals added to the latex mix, which provide shelf life and stability, stop the condom from breaking down swiftly in the ocean. In fact, scientists are currently unsure how long your sexy sheath takes to break down in the ocean, but estimates put it at around 30 years.

‘In that time, the rubber johnny is free to go on a worldwide jolly of seas and beaches, and if it doesn’t get washed up on shore, then it is extremely likely to be eaten by an aquatic animal mistaking it for food.’

The fact that it takes 30years for condoms to break down in the oceans doesn’t mean you should wash and use your condoms again.


Unlike feces that degrade in water, condoms don’t! That’s why a slight mistake can cause a huge blockage that’ll require the plumber to come and fix it.


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