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How to fall in love? ( 13 WAYS)




13 ways to FALL IN LOVE

Falling in love is the best thing that can happen to people who share the same goals, passion, sorrow, happiness, and always appreciate their efforts to adjust their flaws. It makes you feel like the world revolves around you. Just like in Cinderella’s story: to live happily ever after.

On the other hand, when love turns out bad, we close our hearts and shut our backs at it. It seems impossible to be loved again and whoever comes close wants to hurt you. Love becomes a horrible rhyme that you don’t want to hear. You shut yourself out from the world and never extend your hand to feel it again.
And sometimes, you do ask if you would ever fall in love again? If there is a second chance? If you can ever make it right?
Yes, I can feel your pain. I understood the way you feel but how do you know these answers, if you don’t give them a try?

I felt the same way when I got stabbed by my best friend. She was having an affair with my boyfriend. when I found out it was already too late to revoke what happened. She was already pregnant for him and this hit me so bad that I thought of committing suicide. It took me time to find myself. It seemed like my world has been shattered. But now, I can proudly say, I am in love again.
Your case might be different from being hurt by someone you love. It might be you, your look, your body, and many of them. You might be having a hard time trying to love who you are but no matter how you try, it seems you are not getting it right.

Trust me, I know how it feels to be mock by friends and family as well. The countless night you spent crying in your bedroom and how you would stare in the mirror for a thousand times.
All I need from you is to believe you are stronger than all these problems that seem to be the center of attraction.
I know you want to fall in love again. Whether with yourself or with someone and I am here to help you do that. All I need you to do is to follow these strategies which will unlock your heart again.

1. you need to love yourself.
If you want to see yourself falling in love again, this is the best medicine you can go for.
There is no how you will love someone without loving yourself first.
You need to appreciate your strength, know your weakness, and have the right mindset about yourself.
If you don’t love yourself, you can’t make anything right for the other person. You might pretend to be in love and when it turns out bad, you will end up hating yourself or blaming yourself for what happened.

How do you find self-love? These tips will help you better.
• First, you need to isolate yourself from those bad vibes and being lonely. Then, open your heart to heal from those pains, accept who you are, and whenever you look in the mirror, see yourself as God’s best love.

• Never underestimate what you can do. You can do anything if you believe you can do it.
A friend says,
Believing in oneself is the best way to build one’s confidence.”
You can’t break a wall if you don’t believe you can do it. Sometimes, we give up on one strike. This should not be you. All you need is to keep hitting hard and you won’t know when it falls off.

• Know your weakness.
Once you are aware of your strengths, identifying your weakness becomes easy. Find out your flaws, improve on them and this helps you build your self-esteem and understand who you are.

• Give yourself the best treat. Appreciate your efforts and always compliment yourself daily. This helps you to feel relaxed and relieved.

2.Accept things about yourself that you can’t change.
Everybody has his own flaws but there are certain things we can’t change about ourselves.
For instance: you might have a big head or you don’t like your face due to burnt scars or your height.
Instead of hiding away from them, you need to find a way to improve on them. I don’t suggest you going for plastic surgery but finding healthier activities to follow.

Embracing your flaws is the best way to fall in love again. Just know you are already like that and you won’t change them for anything.
• Tell yourself you are God’s best image and he loves you against all odds.

• Always remind yourself that you have a lot of potentials and you are a great person. You can stand in front of your mirror and tell yourself, “I am the best version of myself.

• You can sign up for healthier exercises that are good for body development. Read books on self-improvement and keep positive vibes around you.

3. Be vulnerable.
Being vulnerable doesn’t mean you are weak or you can allow anything or anyone into your life to hurt you. It is where you need to understand your defense mechanism. You might have built a wall around your heart and letting people in becomes a problem.

Maybe, all these happened because of your past relationship and you don’t want to take the risk again.
Opening up your heart is the key to find love again and this helps you understand your fears and insecurities.
You might be afraid of getting hurt but you need to give it a try. Try to be honest with yourself and know that you can’t have a perfect life likewise seeing a perfect person to love.

4. Redirect every negative thought about yourself
This is bound to happen cause everybody has been riding this same boat. This is an irrational and unrealistic thought that comes to our mind especially when things didn’t turn out well.
negative thoughts will hinder your self-growth cause it makes you see the bad side of you instead of the better one.

However, if you are good at saying “I can’t do anything well or no one can accept me the way I am” why not say, “I know I have potential, I will look forward to the things I can do best.”
Tips that can help you to stay positive:
• Whenever those negative thoughts come to your mind. Try to do something that will take your mind far from them. You can go out with friends and watch movies that boost self-love and good thoughts.

• Try turning those negative statements into positive ones. You can write them down and read them every morning before starting off your day.

• Make sure you stay away from things that trigger them. It might be a conversation with friends, books, or movies. Stay positive and speak positive things into your life.

5. Don’t be afraid of rejection.
Sometimes, we got stuck in this unrequited love circle. And it seems like we are not going to get it no matter how we try.
You don’t need to assume that you are not going to be loved when you haven’t tried it.
All you need is to put yourself out there and when someone rejects you, know that it is not the end of the world.

Just know that love comes naturally, it will surely come to you. All you need to do is to open up your heart and stay strong.

6. Don’t play the hard-to-get game.
Some of us love playing this hard-to-get game especially if we are been asked out. Nobody is asking you to stoop so low or act cheap but never make it too hard for the other partner to come in.
Just be yourself and let it flow by itself. Don’t show that “I don’t need you” attitude, it will only scare the other partner away.
For instance: you might go for a date and you keep acting as if he/ she is pressuring you or wasting your time.
Resist the urge of playing games and try to appreciate the other partner’s effort in making your day great.

7. Meet new people
This is time to go out there and meet people. You can’t be hiding inside your house and be wishing for prince charming or Cinderella to find you.
Hey! You only find the right one for you if you associate with people.
Though, finding love takes effort. Don’t wish to stumble on your perfect soulmate rather you go out there and find one for yourself.
You can go to seminars, church programs, friends’ parties, join a club, go shopping and find where young or old people gather a lot.
This will help you gain a better understanding of what you want in a partner instead of writing them down and be waiting for a miracle to happen.

8. Get a hobby or find out what you can do best.
This is a good start if you want to fall in love with someone that has the same passion/hobby as you.
You can sign up for an activity related to your interest. Maybe, you love dancing, you can join a dancing club or sign up for the class. Find a group in that class and stick together and you will discover that there is more to life than hiding.
Follow your heart on what you love doing best, try to update on it.

Making a name for yourself will help you build self-confidence and will easily attract people towards you.
Nobody wants to date an idle person. You need to get involved in something and you will get to meet other partners in the same field.

9: Always be kind
Good people attract good things. Show kindness to people and don’t be a mole in people’s heart.
Smile always, try to help out where you can, never underestimate people, be sincere with your words, and stay away from negative vibes.
9b Come up with the special qualities that you want in other partners.
This will help you stay focus on what you actually want and when the person comes around, you will know.

This gives you the perceptive of what you want. For instance: you want someone, who is responsible, honest, good-looking, has a good accent, fears God, has a sense of humor, and many of them.

This would keep you on track and helps you differentiate the wrong person from the right one.( remember we don’t have perfect ones either).
I suggest you go for someone that shares the same goals, passion as you.
Physical appearance plays a part but doesn’t make it your top priority cause it fades or something might happen.

10:Try Dating again.
You can try to date again, I believe by now you might have caught someone who seem to be interested in you.
You can give it a try if you want to. Or You might try signing up for online dating (only if you are ready).
Take it slowly and trust your instincts when you meet your partner. This will help you open up your heart to embrace love.

Note: Opening open is so important in building a close relationship. You don’t need to say everything about yourself on the first day. You might get to know the other partner well, Talk about personality and a lot of things. Just take it gradually and let them know, they have the chance to come into your life.

11. Don’t be too quick to discharge someone.
You might meet someone for the first time and you have already concluded that the person is not good enough for you.
Try to have an open mind and don’t give in to judgment without checking the person out.
Likewise at your own part: don’t assume you are not good enough for others to have you around.
Just stay positive, you might catch some feelings and you won’t notice at first. It is a gradual process.

12. Build a lasting connection with your partner.
This is when you have finally gotten the perfect soulmate you have been waiting for.
Building a lasting relationship will always improve your self-growth and keeps you falling deeply in love with your partner.
Few Tips to build a lasting relationship:
• Have a positive curious mindset.
Always find a way to have fun with your partner, enjoy spending time with them, try knowing them better, share your goals, passion with them likewise theirs.

• Try to take it slowly and don’t put too much pressure, they might see it as a burden to them.

• Establish strong communication.
Communication is the key to a successful relationship. Always find a time to initiate conversation. This helps you two share your hopes, fears, insecurities, happiness, dislikes, likes, share your flaws, your motives, your compatibility.

• Find ways to settle arguments in a healthier way.
This helps when a problem sets in. Instead of shouting at each other, you go for what I call relationship review. This is where you two sit to find out what is wrong then who is wrong.
Some people called it relationship surgery.
It is a tool that helps in building a strong relationship.

• Always discuss your goals and plans with each other.

• Treat your partner as your hero. Create trust, support each other, know that you two are two separate people with different lives. know when your partner needs to be alone and you too(privacy matters so much in a relationship).

• Share new experiences of things you have done. It might be business, places you have been in. This will make your partner want to do more with you.

• Keep moments together. You can go out to have fun, take pictures, visit the zoo, go shopping, cook for each other, exchange gifts, compliment each other.

• Emotional availability matters too. Don’t act as if you are not bothered about them. Be there for your partner and they will always see the true meaning of love.

• Do little act of kindness for each other.
Little thing you do for your partner is a great way to show your lover, you love them.
You can surprise your partner by helping out with chores, cooking, etc. You bring home gifts, leave a note, and give them the best part of you. These matter a lot in building a strong relationship.

13. Allow your relationship to grow on its own than forcing it.
Don’t control the outcome of your relationship. Let it grow naturally and just be patient.
You can’t force love, it comes at its own pace. All you have to do is to wait for it and allow yourself to follow.
If you see yourself controlling it, just take a deep breath and remind yourself why you started.
Sometimes, it doesn’t turn out well but just takes it as an opportunity to learn, and one day, you will find someone that’s right for you, and falling in love becomes not a problem to you.
Finally: Always pray to God to bring your destined one or someone who will love you the way you are. He knows the best for us and he will never fail.

I pray you to find the best version of you and someone who will love you the way you love yourself.



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Signs of a controlling boyfriend



Who is a controlling boyfriend?

You  May think you understand who a controlling boyfriend is, but have you thought about the dangers of dating a controlling boyfriend? If you don’t know what controlling boyfriends, or the inconspicuous signs of a controlling boyfriend, then this article is for you. Read on and find out.

A controlling boyfriend is a practically a controlling person, i.e a person who wants to have control in all that you do, not minding your privacy.

is practically a depressed and unhappy person, with very low self-esteem, and with serious problems in their relationships. He is always distrusting others and his partner. You never have peace, because you are not aware of your actions, but you are aware of the actions of others.

They think that they can have people in the time they need it, without caring about the commitments and needs of others. Controlling boyfriend become unbearable tyrants, and while the people who have their barker accept it that way, they are “calm.” But if the person complains about something, they immediately dismiss it and go what? you’ve offended him.

This usually happens in the workplace and all areas of your life; for example, if you are dating a controlling boyfriend, he never asks where you’d like to go for dinner. Rather, he takes you to the place where he chooses. And this continues in all other aspects of your life. Eliminating the right to comment or express that which you like or don’t like.

A controlling boyfriend is pending to check the phone of his partner from time to time, under the pretext of any “reason to distrust”; just to see the messages from his partner. Because they need to be in control and they think all the time that you are going to be unfaithful. The controller does not believe in anyone, not even his own shadow.

what makes you think you’re being controlled?

1. Does your boyfriend tells you to behave with your family or friends? Forever?

2 He does not know how to behave in public!
Sometimes, you’re afraid not to mention certain things, and makes you feel bad because you can’t express yourself freely right?

3. Has he ever told you how to dress? you almost ask each time what to wear?

4. You started taking drugs for appetite or started healthier food so that you do not have temptations at home. And, this is because he makes you feel worst about yourself?

5. You don’t say anything to him because you don’t want to make him feel bad. you’re as careful as possible with your words.

1. The control freak, furious and despot

being furious

This type of man is dedicated to controlling you by telling you what you have to do and how you should do it. He will do so by intimidating you with his anger and his fury. If you don’t do what he wants, he will get angry and be more aggressive.

This type of man is the most toxic. He is aggressive on a verbal level; all his controlling words and phrases are hostile and he seeks verbal confrontation. His philosophy is “either with me or against me”, challenging him will provoke screams and voices. In his voice, there is an alarmist point as if there was always an imminent danger. He will judge you very often: “No, that’s not right.” You have to do it like this. Are you not listening to me?


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2. The meddlesome rude and traitor

This character puts your things all the time as if they were his business and they try to manipulate the situation and you to take advantage or get you to do things his way. This control-freak will quickly give you his opinion (which you have not asked him) on how to lead your life (and that of others). He is not usually diplomatic and firmly clings to his opinions, so he is very critical and often speaks in direct and emphatic terms. He can twist your words and turn what you’ve done to turn it against you. He is also a master of sarcastic witticisms and deceptive flattery, meaning that it is not known if they are or not. This man tends to point fingers a lot, especially when he’s telling you what you should and shouldn’t do.

3. The self-destructive victim who sees everything black. The controlling-abusive boyfriend.

This type of man sees the world and life as a glass, half empty and not half full. Since he is always seeing the negative side and expecting the worst, negativity comes out of every pore. If by any chance things go well for him, he will do everything possible to sabotage his circumstances. This man carries a tremendous amount of emotional pain, which is why he sounds so negative and gives the impression that nothing is worth it.

Since he has low self-esteem and feels that the relationship is not going to work, he will constantly say things that he knows the relationship will not work, he will constantly say things that hurt him to provoke an argument. A common gesture of these men is to constantly move the feet or to cross and uncross the legs.

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4.The scarecrow weak and without initiative

He is unable to decide anything and is usually carried away by people’s opinions. He lives in fear and will never create any conflict or vindicate himself or anyone else.

This personality is not capable of facing people so he stays out of any challenging or uncomfortable talk. It is his intention not to create conflicts that make him irritating and offensive.

5. The egocentric narcissist whose motto is: I, my, me, with me and for me. The controller with no emotion.

A controlling boyfriend’s only concern is himself. He is the center of the universe and he expects you to consider him just that. The only thing that matters to him about you is what affects him or has something to do with him. If you are not willing to do anything for him, you will be of no use to him.

It is difficult to have a conversation with a controlling boyfriend because everything that is said will end up coming back to him. A controlling boyfriend doesn’t care what you say or answer him, he will keep talking and talking until he is done with what he wanted to say. His conversation reveals that he wants to be treated better than everyone else. Usually, a controlling boyfriend is attracted to vulnerable victims because then he can feel superior and will emotionally punish anyone who seems inferior to him for disappointing him.

It is what he spits out: “You would be nothing if it weren’t for me” or “Without me now you will be on the street”, they are usually followed by phrases that show how unhappy you are and that you are worthless.

6. The emotional freezer

He is cold and shows almost no emotion. He stops seeing very little of himself and he is a man of few words, so you never know what he thinks or what he feels.

The emotional freezer is stingy with words. As he will not let you know how he feels, you will always have to be guessing and you will be permanently left with the feeling of unease and insecurity. If he thinks that with time you can change him, you are wrong.

7. The socio psychopath

socio psychopath

He is the most toxic and dangerous type and they can cause you great harm. They usually make a memorable first impression, because he tells you everything you want to hear. He will want to know what you like, he makes you happy, he makes you sad so he can control your emotions, which he doesn’t have. He will not hesitate to lie to you to get what he wants and you will hear from him many sadistic comments, but the clearest sign that you are facing a sociopath is that he will contradict himself in the same sentence.

8.A controlling boyfriend lacks confidence in himself.

In their mind, you are challenging their authority when you do not agree with them or do not carry out their wishes.
In conjunction with mood swings, people with temper flare-ups can be troublesome because you never know what posture to take with these people. Unfortunately, your inability to handle your anger or resentment can result to assault.

Think about how this person reacts to common questions. Questions can reveal quite a few things when it comes to a controlling person when they respond in a frustrated or condescending way:

As stated above, a controlling boyfriend thinks that you can read their mind. If you ask them simple questions about what to do together, where to go, what it is they want, etc., they can easily get frustrated because they expect you to have all their needs in mind and above yours.

The questions imply that a decision has to be made, and a controlling boyfriend, believes that the decision is already made, being everything to them and their convenience.
Controlling boyfriend, often assume they understand how you think, even when they don’t. They can get frustrated because the image they have built of you does not correspond to what you say.

Questions can irritate a controlling boyfriend because they prefer to be in control when asking questions, and not others.

Questions can state for a controlling boyfriend d that the questioner needs help and control because they do not know the answer.

This can be aggravated over time because the controller seeks to be in control.

9. A controlling boyfriend is an Emotional blackmailer.

Sex is also harmful. Sexuality between lovers should be a way to bond, to feel complete, and to connect, but sometimes it ends up being one of the reasons for breaking up. Not so much because difficulties arise, which can be overcome, but because it becomes a way of using the other or making them feel bad. In this sense, there are cases in which, according to Granados, it is observed that “a member of the couple limits, manipulates, restricts freedom in making decisions about how to have sex or not, or even in the use or not contraceptives ”. In this case, the job is for the other party to wake up and run away looking for a much healthier relationship.

If you have found any of the traits that we have mentioned above; Beware!! you’re been controlled. But don’t worry, with our advice you can get out of this ugly situation in a simple way.

A Word From Relationshipseeds

Do not beg to be in a person’s life, you are not that hopeless.

Though it may crush you and feel like the world is spinning you into dizzy darkness, there’d always be someone else to bring you back your light, someone who wants to bring you light, and at no cost. You’ve got your light anyway, rediscover it.

Sometimes, we get so emotional about trying to correct that we ignore the process of correction and just focus on the result. We, forget also, that the result will forever be a product of the process that birthed it so a person who was corrected by being crushed and humiliated will become the teacher or leader who crushes others thinking they are being taught or made better.

It is commendable to see the room get better and try to affect it on someone, it is heroic to do this in the face of the rejection of the lesson or upgrade (some of us are just too stubborn to be corrected, yeah I know) but it is going to be almost impossible to justify doing this by crushing the person. This is not tough love, it is what many tyrants are made of, something we do not want to be. Similar to raising a voice or being abusive, belittling a person does not tell a tale of their character, it tells a tale of our character and the huge hole in our ability to teach. In the end, the person is left depressed rather than energized from the message, an anti-climax of sorts.
This is a message, first to me, then to you.

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5 reasons why dating a Married man will lead to Heartbreak



dating a married man

Marriage is a wonderful Union, which is made between a man and woman who turn to become husband and wife. It is Union where this both parties should understand that their togetherness is not just for a while or for the moment but forever.

In today’s world, the word “Marriage” has changed, the purpose of which marriage is such to be fulfilled has lacked its source. Some marriages nowadays are in higgledy-piggledy because of infidelity and sometimes lack consistency and dedication. Some married men tend to look away from their various homes because of a lack of understanding and sometimes a little mischievous attitude which one party tends to portray.

Some men in today’s world have already made it normal not to be submissive to their partner even when they’ve already taken a vow on it. They care less and some even go to the extent of threatening to deal with you if you dare open up to relatives.

“A woman some years back divorced her husband because she wasn’t getting enough of him, even when she tried her best in the area of communication, to know or rather find out the husband’s reason for always not making out time for them. But it yielding any result so on a very good day she found out that her husband has been frolicking with another lady outside their marriage, at first she didn’t believe what she saw. She caught her husband making out with another lady on their matrimonial bed.
After this scenario happened, the husband warned her strictly to keep her mouth shut. He threatened to deal with her if she dares to tell anyone.

after few years of this experience filed for divorce Because she can’t stay in the marriage again.
So, they are really men out there who have no reason for playing wrong on their marriage. They just do it for doing’s sake and in the end, they themselves end up destroying and losing their marriage.

On the other hand, the ladies make matters worst in Society today. A few research done shows that some ladies date married men because of the pleasure they get, in other to sustain life. Some regard it as what they call “Cruise” and accompany it with a saying “Enjoy it while last, that nothing lasts forever.
This truly has put some family, marriage into confusion because the partner sometimes tends not to understand the fire he is bringing to his home.
To some ladies, the married are the ones that spend more on them and even take good care of them, therefore, there’s no need of dating or hanging with single men/guys.

This really has caused a lot of Heartbreaks even without knowing because, in the end, some ladies might not know they are dating a married man. While some intentionally do it because of fun and sometimes do it as a pay-back period.
Indeed, this is becoming alarming to Society and trying to curb it seems not to be abortive because some ladies on their own, have taken it as an oath to date a married man without valuing or regarding that it has its own repercussions.

The men on their own, sometimes drag this on their head, because they’ve refused to build their homes the way they should be.
A man had a misunderstanding with his wife, instead of him fixing the problem, he left his home and never returned until three days. He angrily left to see one of his female folks who vehemently refused to sleep with him the very day he had this misunderstanding with his wife. Alas, the very day he discovered that the lady is the daughter of his wife’s friend.
Now, what is this man suppose to do??
A misunderstanding that could be fixed within few minutes, would have ruined his home.

Indeed dating a Married man will surely lead to Heartbreak, because Marriage itself is a lifetime vow, even when many tend to take leave, the vow on the altar has already been made.


Five reasons why dating a Married man will lead to Heartbreak

1. They will never leave their home:

No matter how committed a man is in a relationship outside his home, he will never turn his back on them. Because, no matter how a man will love you in a relationship outside his home, he will always sacrifice his love, care, and attention for his family. He wouldn’t want his home tear apart because he is with you.
You will always have to dance and believe his excuses because you will always want him, his attention and all. So there’s a 100 percent tendency that you will surely suffer from Heartbreak if you are dating a married man.

A man started dating outside his marriage because he is not getting enough of his wife,(he refused to initiate communication)and the wife, on the other hand, didn’t know about this, she never noticed she’s not giving enough. He kept frolicking with side maiden, promising her heaven on Earth and so, but what happened at the end. He later left his beautiful maiden and went back to talk out things with his wife.
So no matter how you fall in love, never dream of falling for a Married man.

2. Time Difficulties:

A married man won’t have time for you because they’ll spend 80% of their time with their family and would give you little or less attention because they know it’s not a wasted time. Being with you is just to cool off the moment, while they wait and settle for other things that don’t even involve you in the picture. They will always give excuses of which you have no choice but to accept.

3. No active Communication:

You don’t expect a man who already has a family to maintain an active Communication with you. No, it’s not possible. Even while at home with his family, he always finds a way or rather tells you not to call him when he’s home. No time to express your so-called feelings or to talk about where the relationship is heading to.

4. There’s no hope for the future:

You have no future with a married man because already, he has settled with his own family. You’ll only be there wasting Your precious time being faithful to someone who’s already committed to his family.

5. The man will stick to his family:

A married man will never leave his family

I know of a student who dated a Married man. Yes, she got everything she ever wanted, but there was a warning given to her by this man.
“No matter how we roll with each other, just know that I can never leave my family because of you, what we are doing is just for the moment, so be careful with us.”

So, no man in his right sense will leave his family just because they want to satisfy your unnecessary pleasures, it is never done. If they have kids at home, they can sacrifice the whole world just to stick and make a responsible father or Dad and also a good husband to their wives. You being there is just a waste of time and energy, because you can never get to know his family or even any of his relatives.

Dating is not a crime, but dating someone who has already found his life partner is out of the box because you as a young lady will get to lose many things, Heartbreak too. So in all you do, tend to find someone who will really care and give you the full attention that you need, not a Married man who already has whom he wants, need and whom he has already chosen to care, love and his attention to. Be Wise!



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7 Tips to Improve Your Mental Health and Relationships



mental health

Mental health is vital to our overall wellness because it affects how we think, feel, and behave in our daily life. Working to improve it can help both you and your relationships with others.

Benefits of Improving Your Mental Health

Building resilient mental health can empower your life in many ways. Although many associate good mental health with overcoming depression or anxiety, there’s far more to it than that. The way we think about the things we do every day is dependent upon our mental health, and the benefits of good mental health include:

  • Increased self-esteem
  • Reduced anxiety
  • Greater sense of inner peace
  • Enhanced mood
  • Improvement in relationships

Benefits of Improving Your Relationships

Developing positive relationships offers a multitude of benefits, including:

  • Boosts feelings of happiness
  • Lowers stress
  • Promotes healthier behaviors
  • Improves healing
  • Provides a greater sense of purpose

Improving your mental health and, in turn, your relationships with others can be achieved using the following simple, yet vital tips.

7 Life-Changing Tips to Improve Your Mental Health

  1. Diet and Exercise — Getting the proper nutrients and physical movement can enhance our moods and provide long-term health benefits.
    1. Foods to include in the diet — The following foods can help boost our spirits:
      1. Fresh fruits and green leafy vegetables
      2. Omega-3 fatty acids, which are found in various fish and seafood.
      3. Healthy fats, including avocados and nuts
    2. Foods to avoid in diet — The following foods are best to avoid as they can negatively affect one’s mood:
      1. Trans fats or anything that contains “partially hydrogenated” oils
      2. Fried foods
      3. Refined carbs and sugary snacks
    3. Physical Exercise — When we exercise, it increases the brain’s blood flow and regulates dopamine and serotonin levels, influencing our moods. There are many exercises to choose from, but the following can have a particularly powerful impact on improving mental health:
      1. Resistance training can include lifting weights or any weight-bearing activity that helps to build muscle and bone density.
      2. Pilates and Yoga are highly beneficial for strengthening the muscles and improving balance, but they also improve mental health through controlled breathing and mindful thinking.
      3. Cardiovascular training includes walking, running, and cycling, all of which get the heart pumping and blood flowing, allowing endorphins to be released.

Engaging in positive lifestyle changes, such as a proper diet and regular physical exercise can be achieved by utilizing holistic mind and body fitness, which provides overall wellness for both the mind and body through natural sources.

2.Sleep — Getting enough quality sleep every night is imperative to both the body and mind. Inadequate sleep can impair thinking and behaviors, which may lead to other mental health problems such as depression and anxiety. A few ways to improve sleep quality include:

    1. Relaxation techniques — These include controlled breathing, meditation, and visualization.
    2. Lifestyle changes — Excluding alcohol and caffeine before bed can help, along with turning off all electrical devices that emit blue light.
    3. Aromatherapy — Utilizing essential oils in the air such as lavender can help improve sleep quality.

3.Meditation and Mindfulness — When we practice meditation and mindfulness, we stay in the moment and avoid focusing on past regrets or anxieties about the future.

    1. Set time aside to meditate — Meditation can be done at any time of the day for as little as five minutes.
    2. Create a space of your own — You can create this space at home or work; what’s important is to make it your area and tune out all distractions.
    3. Focus only on your breath — Staying focused on your breathing helps clear the mind of any unwanted thoughts.

4.Practice Gratitude — Having a positive mental attitude can improve mental health immensely.

    1. Have an attitude of gratitude — Start each day by writing down three to five things you are grateful for, and that will start your day on a positive note.
    2. Keep a gratitude journal — When things happen that you feel thankful for, write them down. Then, when you are feeling sad, you can open the journal and get reacquainted with that more positive, grateful feeling.
    3. Volunteer — Take a day out of your month and volunteer for a meaningful cause such as an animal shelter or homeless shelter. This can provide a healthy dose of gratitude and a greater sense of overall well-being.

5.Relaxation and Deep Breathing Techniques — Relaxation helps decrease stress, and deep breathing helps shift the body into a calmer state by tapping into the parasympathetic system. One of the best ways to do this is with the 4-7-8 technique.

    1. Start by inhaling a deep breath through the nose for four seconds.
    2. Hold your breath for seven seconds.
    3. Exhale with pursed lips through the mouth, creating a whooshing sound for eight seconds.

When you breathe in, it activates the part of the nervous system responsible for the fight-or-flight adrenaline releasing action.

6.Nurture Yourself Through Nature — Being in nature, whether for a leisurely walk or adventurous hike, has been shown to reduce stress, anxiety, and depression while increasing pleasant feelings. There are other ways to include nature in your daily life.

    1. Gardening — Planting and growing flowers, herbs, and vegetables is a boost for your mental and physical health, as you can reap the rewards of both beauty and nutrition.
    2. Bring nature indoors — Including house plants adds beauty, but it also has health benefits as they assist in humidifying and purifying the air, which aids your respiration and breathing.
    3. Walk or ride a bike to destinations — By incorporating exercise with the great outdoors, you are getting double the benefit through movement and nature.

7.Therapy — When it comes to improving mental health and relationships, the benefits of therapy are unsurpassed. You can also receive these astounding benefits in the privacy of your own home through telehealth therapy. Many different forms of treatment can be used.

    1. Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT) — This highly effective therapy involves identifying and changing a person’s thinking and behavior patterns and replacing them with more functional thoughts and behaviors.
    2. Interpersonal Therapy — This form of therapy focuses on how a person interacts with others, notices negative patterns, and replaces them with more positive actions.
    3. Couples Therapy — Many relationships can benefit significantly from couples counseling, during which trained professionals offer insight and tools to improve communication.

Therapy offers a positive life-changing opportunity that can be utilized in daily life, so the benefits are long-lasting. Learning new ways of thinking about things that would typically cause stress or anxiety from a trained professional helps to develop coping skills and knowledge that can last a lifetime.

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Start turning negative thoughts into positive actions by utilizing simple daily activities to improve your mental health and relationships.

About the Author:

Tess DiNapoli is an artist, freelance writer, and content strategist. She has a passion for yoga and often writes about health and wellness, but also enjoys covering the fashion industry and world of fitness.

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