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how to fix a broken relationship


Do you want to know how to fix a broken relationship?
It may not be easy, but it can be done. If you want to know how to fix your broken relationship, this article will outline the best tips to help you mend and heal your relationship.
No matter what’s happened, ALMOST every problem in a relationship can be fixed.

Couples can recover from:
• Trust issues
• Money problems and financial fights
• Cheating and infidelity
• Arguments that get very heated
• Differences regarding kids and how to raise them
• Sexual intimacy problems that go on for years
• Communication breakdowns
• Yelling and screaming bouts
• Separations and even divorce
• Constantly fighting and arguing
• Not feeling understood and distant from each other
• Differences with the in-laws, and other family members
• Most challenges that couples can endure can be fixed. However, some issues take more work and require more effort. But if both people are willing to put in the time and effort, it’s possible to mend the wounds.

Fixing a broken relationship is worth all your effort because until you resolve the problems, you won’t be able to rest.
As you likely already know, a broken relationship can make you find it difficult to sleep, control your moods, stay happy, be productive at work, and add to your anxiety levels.

In addition, science is pretty clear – that unhappiness and broken relationships have many negative impacts on one’s health and outlook on life.

ALSO, READ How to mend broken trust in a relationship

If you’re wondering how to fix a broken relationship, here are the steps:

Step One For How To Fix A Broken Relationship:
1. Acknowledge There’s A Problem

Acknowledge There’s A Problem
Fixing a broken relationship starts the same way as any recovery program.
At first, you spent time denying the issues and swept them under the rug. You let the problems live on, hoping they would disappear or hoping things wouldn’t get worse if you just ignored them. But, things didn’t get better, they likely got worse.
Now you’re here, and things are broken.
Maybe the future looks bleak, but you want your relationship to work.
The only way forward is to stop ignoring that there’s a problem.
It’s time to admit there’s an issue. It’s been going on for too long. And it’s time to fix the problems, to find answers, and to heal the wounds.
When both people can admit things aren’t perfect, you can heal together. Even more, when both people can verbally acknowledge that something is broken, both people can mend wounds, find healing, and do it together as a team.
Being willing to mend as a team is a giant step. It’s the most essential step in your healing journey.
Every relationship that breaks always does so because the couple stops being together. For one reason or another, the partners don’t feel unified.
Maybe they don’t feel understood, perhaps they feel like strangers, maybe they feel too different, or like they have different priorities… The reasons why partners don’t feel unified are endless, and yet, the cause of a broken relationship is the same.
Not feeling together, unified, and understood is the cause of every break in your relationship.
Admitting that things are broken together, brings you back as a couple.
This one-step, when taken together, begins the process of fixing things.
The relationship broke because you lost the sense of togetherness. But now, coming together on this one thing will lead you to the next step to fix your broken relationship.

2. Make A Pact To Work On Things Together
When only one person is working on the relationship, it creates an imbalance. Most issues in relationships are created together, and they can only be healed as a couple.
Acknowledging that things are broken brings you together, and now by making a pact to work on things together, you create that balance of togetherness that you were missing.
Being a team! being a couple!! that’s how you fix a broken relationship.

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At this stage, you may not have the answers. You may not know how to fix the issues, but by making a pact to be a team to fix the problems, you begin an alchemical process that leads to healing.
The agreement to work on things together is like covering holes on a sinking ship. Without this agreement, you can’t fix the sinking ship that is your relationship.
Coming together on the fact that things are broken, making a pact to work on things, these steps are the most monumental steps any couple can take. Getting unified on the most basic of things brings you together and creates a glue that will bring you and your partner together in a way nothing else can.

Step Three For How To Fix A Broken Relationship:
3. Take Full Responsibility For Creating The Problems
When couples choose to take responsibility for their issues, it opens the realms of transformation.
While a broken relationship experiences a tear because both people are pointing fingers, a transformed and healthy partnership experiences healing when each person can take responsibility.

Pointing fingers, wishing your partner would change, and trying to make our partner see our perspective usually just leads to more fighting.
After spending thousands of hours sitting with couples, it’s clear to me that the fastest path to healing is through taking personal responsibility.

Without a doubt, every broken relationship suffers these core issues:
Both partners don’t feel heard
Each partner doesn’t feel listened to or understood
Both people feel like they’re fighting to have their voice heard
Nobody feels fully validated or accepted
Both people wish their partner would just stop and listen
Nobody is taking responsibility, and both people blame one another
These problems often manifest in fights about intimacy, money, the children, sex, the home-life, commitment problems, power struggles, and trust issues. There’s a variety of ways relationships find their way to being broken, yet, the road back to love is always the same.
On that road back to love, the steps always start with coming together. Deciding that you both want your relationship, you want it more than you want the fighting.
Once the agreement is made that you both want love, you will both need to move towards taking personal responsibility. To move into this stage of healing, both people will need to answer this crucial question:
“In what way do I contribute to the issues my relationship is experiencing?”
Both people must answer this question:
“How do I contribute to the problems in my relationship?”
No more finger-pointing, no more blaming, just personal responsibility.
If it’s true that it takes two to tango, it’s true that every relationship problem you and your partner must fix together.Seeing how we contribute to relationship issues isn’t always easy, and it’s usually challenging to find our responsibility in perpetuating the problems.
And here’s a truth that is hard to swallow, every single problem we have in our relationship, we’re somehow responsible.

Just imagine how much you’d like your partner to say:
“I know that because I do that one thing, I upset you. I know that by doing this thing, I make things worse. And I know I hurt you when I do that thing or this other thing.”
Wouldn’t it feel wonderful to have your partner acknowledge how much their actions hurt you?
Wouldn’t it be great if your partner took responsibility?
If your partner could just see how they’re creating the issue, you love it. But, it won’t happen until both people take responsibility.
No matter how much blame there is to go around, both people participate in the issues you’re having.
Turning towards one another and admitting how you’ve contributed to the issue is the solution. When both people own their part in breaking the relationship, healing and mending can begin.
Sometimes couples can do this alone, and quite often, it helps to hire a counselor. Not only does a relationship counselor help the couple open up, but a counselor can also help both people find their half in creating the issue.

*Ideally, you work with a relationship counselor, as this kind of counselor knows couples, and it’s their specialty to help couples.


4. Hire A Relationship Counselor To Move Things Along
I once heard that at the height of Tiger Woods’ career, he had twenty-one coaches.
Similarly, every professional athlete who plays at the highest levels has a coach.
All of us who want to be great at anything, have coaches, mentors, and trainers.
While you might think you can heal a broken relationship alone, you’d do well to consider that many blind spots got you into this mess.

It’s never a requirement for a couple to get a counselor, but, just like athletes and professionals in any field benefit by having a coach or mentor, couples can expedite the healing and learn with a good relationship counselor.

Some of the benefits of hiring a relationship counselor are:
Having a third non-biased party present.
Get training that helps you move past your negative patterns.
Be supported through your process of transformation, so you don’t get stuck in the same old issues.
It can help you clarify your feelings and hear your partner’s feelings more clearly.
Having a relationship expert spot you and your partner’s blind spots.
Having an expert guide you through proven methods to ensure healthy communication.

Being in a new space with a professional who stops fights before they happen.
Have someone role model and support you through the process of talking with your partner in new, more loving ways.

Get the insights that you are missing, which make it possible to transform how you manage and handle your partnership.

Have someone to notice and help you tweak your unconscious patterns (Duke University study reveals 40% of our habits are unconscious, a counselor can help spot those patterns and encourage conscious transformation).
As a counselor, it’s impossible to list out all the benefits, but the most important one for couples is this:

A counselor can help you consciously create the love you want, so you’re happy in your relationship.
If you’re able to, do yourself a favor and hire a relationship counselor who specializes in couples and make the healing process more straightforward.

5. Schedule Quality Time Together
A common symptom of unhealthy relationships is a lack of togetherness.
Breaking a relationship happens in pieces. First, there’s a series of unresolved arguments, disputes, and the feeling that your partner doesn’t care or understand you.
Bit-by-bit, the couple feels distant and struggles to enjoy each other’s company. What was good is now tainted with the fear of a looming fight.
To avoid more problems, the couple slowly starts to spend less time together. And that, in turn, makes them grow apart more and more, until one day the best decision to call it quits.

Divorce doesn’t happen because a couple feels unified and is having a lot of fun. Relationships end because people feel too different, they fight too much, or things aren’t as good as they once were.
Before you grow apart too much, come back together. Take some time to schedule fun.
The best way back to love is to schedule quality time together.

spending quality time together

spending quality time together

In our overworked-society, it’s easy to make our relationship the last thing on our ‘to-do’ list. And it’s that kind of lousy prioritization that hurts relationships. Put your relationship at the bottom of important things, and soon, it will suffer the consequences.

When things are bad in our relationship, it’s not a natural compulsion to lean in, schedule time together, and find ways to make our partnership great again. Yet, the way back to wholehearted connection can only be had couples schedule quality time together.
The best way to grow together is by spending time together.
Even though things are bad, and it might be scary to schedule time together, the time apart guarantees you’ll grow apart.
It’s only through increasing quality time together that you can:
Rebuild trust
Grow together and feel like a team again
Improve your love maps and love quotient (more on this, in this article)
Start to heal and mend those wounds
Undo those knots and feel that connection again
Share love, time, and space together
Time together is one of the best ways to mend those broken things. Even if things aren’t so good, time together can begin the process of making things great again.

How To Schedule Time Together To Fix Your Broken Relationship
If you’re convinced now that time together will help mend the wounds, it’s time to discuss how to you can best spend time together with your partner.
Most people do this part wrong.
Since things have been bad, most people hear the advice to spend time together and either recoil and feel free, or they take this action to an extreme and plan a long week or weekend together.
Both of these strategies tend to work against the intended desire, so here’s the best way to spend time together, so it actually works.
Spend time together in small increments. Instead of a scheduled long-weekend, try planning a short amount of time where you’ll focus on enjoying each other’s company.
Some suggestions for short scheduled ‘mini-dates’ are:
Take a ten-minute walk together
Watch a sitcom show together
Cook a leisurely meal as a couple
Ask your partner about their day, set a 5-minute timer and take turns
Give each other short 5-10 minute massages and play soothing music
Go to the gym together and do a part of your workout together (stretch, or lifting, or treadmill side-by-side)
Clean the house as a couple for 10 minutes
Try my couple’s game, Date Night Questions For Every Couple.
The idea here isn’t so much as ‘what you do’ but rather – how you do it.
If a relationship has been riddled with negativity, scheduling short bursts of positive time together will work to rebuild the relationship into something that feeds both of you.
Short bursts of time together are comfortable, don’t require much, but over time, this strategy will work wonders on your relationship.

6. Practice Honest And Kind Transparency
In any relationship riddled with issues, honesty works like a healing salve.
Being honest with kindness and love in mind – will work wonders for any relationship that suffers from trust issues, disconnection, communication breakdowns, and negative patterns.
Learning to be honest in a kind way is crucial.
An excellent way to practice kind and honest communication to use a formula. Although it may feel awkward to use a script with how you communicate your emotions, decades of research has shown it works.
Just like any formula, try this out, tweak it in a way that works for you, but stick as close to this formula as you can – and then as you become more proficient in the method, you can take off the training wheels.
Start with the formula so you can experience what it’s like to express yourself with kindness, love, and empathy.
When you’re upset, sad, mad, or angry use this formula:
I feel __________ (insert an emotion like, sad, mad, angry, happy, anxious, uncomfortable) about __________ (insert situation that caused your feelings) and I am wondering if we can talk about it.
This formula ensures you’ll bring up an issue in a way that doesn’t set your partner’s alarms, but instead, helps them hear you.
I know this method, done without a relationship counselor, can feel awkward, but repeated research from experts from The Gottman Institute, have shown it works to help couples have disagreements without fighting.
Another suggestion to help you learn the process of communicating with more honesty and kindness, check out the fantastic book Conscious Loving.
Besides a book, or trying this formula, relationship counseling is the most desirable and assured way to help you transform toxic communication patterns. You can learn more about online relationship counseling here.

7. Practice Appreciation, Give Gratitude
You see, I once heard:
“Love is not a feeling, it’s an ability.”
And if it’s an ability, it’s something we can get better at. It’s something we can practice and improve at.
Fixing your broken relationship is just a matter of taking the right actions to remedy the problems.
One of the chronic symptoms of relationships that are falling apart is that both partners don’t feel appreciated or understood.
Injecting appreciation, gratitude, and verbal praise into your relationship can help remedy many of the significant issues.
To practice gratitude and appreciation in your relationship, try these suggestions:
Let your partner know how much you appreciate something they’ve done, no matter how small it is.
(Maybe they made dinner, took out the garbage, texted you something sweet?)
Has your partner hugged you or kissed you recently in a way you liked? Let him/her know.
Leave a post-it note or small card with a sweet note in it somewhere your partner will find it.
Give your partner a long hug, and whisper something kind into his/her ear.
Send your partner a sweet text message.
Offer to do something small and kind for your partner.
Call your partner to say, “Just wanted to let you know I was having sweet thoughts of you.”
Make your partner something you know they like to eat and pack it in his/her lunch.
Tell your partner one quality that you admire about him/her.
Share with your partner, something that you remember fondly.
Close your eyes and send your partner thoughts of wellness and healing
Offer to give your partner a short massage and tell them it’s because you want to say, “thank you” for all he/she does
Start with something small. You don’t have to do large gestures to show appreciation. What you need is consistency, small actions are taken regularly will work to rewire your partner to expect goodness from you and to look forward to the goodness in your relationship.

When both people take actions to fix the relationship and use the outlined steps here on how to fix your broken relationship, you can heal any wounds and past hurts.

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Chubby girlfriend- Top Reasons why you should date them




Who’s a chubby person?

A chubby person is someone who is plump, fleshing, rounded, or slightly overweight. Also, a chubby person is slightly overweight, has a moderate amount of fat in his or her body. in this article, we’ll be talking about the reasons to consider dating a chubby girlfriend.

Being fat these days seems like a curse to most ladies, because they think fat ladies are mostly rejected by men. many will say if I get fat now, no many will want to marry me”. The perfect idea woman for most men is dating someone who’s slim,  beautiful, having a great skin tone, and model-like in nature.

There are men out there who’re still crazy about chubby girls. A lot of men that married fat women not necessarily mean that they actually wanted it, but along the line they feel in love with the lady.

Ever since I was born, I hated anything called fat. I ran away from most chubby girls who were chasing after me. I was so good at running away from them with the slightest opportunity I have Until met one, then my whole mentality changed. from my little experience then, saw that the power of love can change a whole lot of things. Love can make you do things you never wished or plan to do. She was so irresistible that I had to break my law. I actually had the best relationship with her until we broke up.
Love has nothing to do with shape, size, background, or outward appearance. Therefore a chubby girl should not be denied respect, love, and awesome sex.

ALSO, READ 17 signs you are dating your soulmate

13  Reasons Chubby Girls Make The Best Girlfriends

1.They are not afraid Of eating

chubby girls are not afraid of eating

chubby girls are not afraid of eating

When you go on a date with her, you’ll have full confidence that they won’t waste your food. They are simply more romantic when you’re out with them eating. They’ll even try eating your meal too. I’ve been on several dates with skinny girls and I ended up regretting buying stuffs for us to eat. slim girls are not the food type.

Chubby girls are not so afraid of gaining weight, because they already have it, so they’ll always want to explore and try new things.  dating a chubby girl will not actually dampen your foodie spirit because they love eating.
Despite all I’ve said, Some men also have this negative feeling, that when they marry a chubby girlfriend, she’ll finish the whole food at home. lol

2. Easy to talk to

Research has shown that fat girls are much easier to talk to. Their ability to talk about anything is what makes them more spectacular. They simply focus on other things rather than their looks. Instead of their physical appearance, they can engage you in tons of topics.

3.Chubby girls are strong


Apart from trying to say that chubby girls have weight, they are really strong emotionally and physically. So Living this way transforms every chubby woman into the epitome of realized confidence! when it comes to things pertaining to emotions, they are strong in absorbing them.

4.Chubby ladies are good in bed

chuuby girls are good in bed

I know you must have said things like, skinny girls are actually the best because they are light weighted and probably good at exploring. When it comes to having sex, fat women have a higher endorphin release, which is the neurotransmitter that makes sex feel AMAZING.
We also have science on our side. St. Andrew’s University researchers discovered that men prefer a chubbier lady in the bedroom over a slim lady.

5. They are charming

They may not be charming as you think. Their looks may not capture you as much, due to their shapeless butt. What they do is that they’ll try to be charming in other areas, such as their social life. They’ll always try to leave a trademark of good attitude that would make you want them the more.

6.She won’t be picked up by any guy.

Like I said In the beginning, guys love dating slim women. So, a guy who has a chubby girlfriend will have a lesser fear of someone trying to steal them away. When you’re dating a chubby girl, you’ll have a lesser worry about traveling away for some time and having the feeling that someone would take your girlfriend from you.

7.Most chubby girls Enjoy Laughing


There is always a joy that springs up whenever you tease a lady and she laughs. Most chubby girls laugh at the easiest jokes you make, even when it’s not so funny. This makes it more amazing to be with them.

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8. It’s soothing to lie on their bosom.

Chubby girlfriends are good at Comforting you especially when you’re stressed or having a problem. This is because your worries tend to billow away like light smoke when you lie on their bosom.

9. Always active and sporty

chubby girls are not lazy as you think. Whether you want to go on a hike, jogging, water sports, or on a road trip, a chubby girlfriend would always want to accompany you. They may look lazy to you because of their physique or health status. The truth is that chubby girls are much more active, sporty, and energetic than other girls.

10. Chubby girls are deep.

When you make a chubby girl your GF, you’ll discover that she’s not just into your hot bod, but also into your goals, dreams, and ambitions.
Chubby girls are inspirers, they are just amazing in so many ways!!

11. They Know How to Drink

Whenever you go out, she won’t just take a bottle of beer and dull your fun moments. Research has shown that women who eat a lot have a better tolerance for alcohol, hence they are able to absorb it very fast. so they have the capacity to take a large quantity of alcohol. Chubby girls are really good at partying very long at night.

12.Not afraid to go outdoor

Dating a chubby girl differs from dating a slim woman. A slim lady may not want to follow you to some social events because of her body image. A fat girl is always proud of herself anywhere she goes. A chubby girlfriend would want to do dirty things with you anytime, anywhere…. She has no fear of her body shaming!!

13. Affectionate

Chubby girls are so romantic.  Fat girls love to hug and cuddle., if you’re the type who loves cuddling a lot, then dating a chubby girl should be my recommendation to you. because their soft skin and big body make it an adventure for you..  You can never be stranded of affection when you date a fat girl, she’d give you an overdose of love.

Wrapping Up

Having a chubby girlfriend isn’t a bad idea. Don’t ever be demotivated by the words of your friends. If you see a girl who’s fat and you like herm, go for her. Always follow your heart if you feel that she’ll give you peace of mind that you desire, then go for her,

ALSO, READ Signs, You Are Not Ready to Date.

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17 signs you are dating your soulmate



How to Identify Your Soulmate


A Soulmate is someone that is divinely made for you, soulmate’s connection It’s a connection of the minds, soulmates have mutual respect, unconditional love, and a total understanding. You are always yourself when you are with your Soulmate, not only does the person connects with you but they understand your thoughts and are right there with you, side by side.

Love chemistry is a unique, special and peculiar connection that exists between soulmates. It’s something you feel not just for anyone but for your soulmate.

Just like chemistry reaction. Love chemistry can be felt and observed. It creates a strong bond between you two, an unrepeatable bond, even when you want to fight it, it’s just there waiting for you to notice it and accept it. It’s a feeling only you can ascertain.

A soulmate is your better half, you feel complete, confident, and safe with that special someone. With your soulmate, you are sure and sincere of what you feel, there is a deep feeling and assurance that you are with the right person, you just know it’s true.

There is a unique chemistry that exists between soulmates its called the “LOVE CHEMISTRY” This love chemistry can only be for your soulmate, it’s a genuine feeling irrespective of status, looks, or personality. It’s a true love feeling and is real.


 Signs you are dating your soulmate


1.You just know it

You just know this is the one, you have a deep feeling that you are with the right person when you meet them. You know this is the perfect one for you, it’s as if there’s a spiritual force leading you to give up everything you initially expected and be completely taken.

2.You have crossed paths

Soulmates are divinely connected people, you must have crossed paths before but at the right time, you meet. You might have met in a bar, petrol station, or you might even live in the same area but haven’t noticed each other, but when the time is right you meet.

3.Your soul connects at the right time

.Your soul connects at the right time

At the right time your soul connects, soulmates are unique people and everything is about timing when it comes to soulmates.It might have to take you to be involved in failed relationships but at the said time your soul connects (Divinely connected).


4.Your quiet space is your peaceful Place.

Whether you are reading in the same room or driving in the car or you are not in the same place, you have an internal connection. That moment of silence gives a peaceful place and an inner peace for you two to bond.

5.You can hear the other person’s silent thought

With soulmate is easy to read each other’s thought even if it’s not verbally expressed. You understand each other perfectly, you put yourself in each other’s shoes, you both understand each other’s stress, pains, and hardship together. The moment they walk in through that door you know how their day went.

 6.You can feel each other’s pain.

You know when your partner is hurt, you feel their pain and help them get over it. You both help each other overcome your pains, stress, and worries. You make each other comfortable and peaceful without any selfish reasons.

7.You know each other’s flaws and the benefits in them.

Yes, it’s true we all have flaws and also benefits. We have our bad and good sides, you look out for the good even when it doesn’t seem good. The good always complements the bad and even the bad have its benefits.

Example: Stubborn people are good at handling issues properly and they are difficult to manipulate, they are good decision-makers, while overly organized people are good at coordinating and putting things in check.


8.You share the same life goals

two sweet couples

You guys have the same ideas, mindset and share similar goals. You may have a different way of accomplishing your goals but you both have the same end result. That’s the unique thing about a soulmate, your same goals make the both of you plan together always which gives you a better understanding of each other and value each other’s opinion and ideas.


 9.You are not afraid of having a conversation.

Initiating a conversation can be very challenging, but in this case, you find it easier to communicate, share your ideas or feelings, you are free to engage in a conversation, you don’t feel belittled or scared to speak your mind. No matter how demeaning it sounds, you let it out knowing that your partner accepts you for who you are.


 10.You are not threatened by the need for alone time.

Your alone time is never a threat to your relationship. Whether he is hanging out with the guys or she is with the girls or in a beach party, or you decide to be alone, you are not perturbed, because you know when you guys come together you have a special moment.


11.You don’t experience jealousy.

Pretty girls at work or handsome guys at the gym or training center doesn’t make you feel jealous because you know you are the only and special one.

12.You respect each other’s opinions and differences.

You sure both have different opinions, ideas, and thoughts because soulmates are polar opposite people, instead of agreeing to disagree with you, allow the other person to complete you. Though it might seem difficult, but you respect each other’s differences and opinions knowing you are both from different backgrounds.


13.You don’t scream, curse or threaten each other with a breakup or divorce.

You respect each other and hold each other in high esteem. You don’t abuse, criticize or underestimate each other or threaten with a divorce. When you have issues you settle them amicably.

14.You give in because you want to make your partner happy.

Giving in when you feel you are right can be very difficult most times, but you rather give in to make your partner happy than making your partner sad, because when your soulmate is happy you are also happy.

 15.You know how to apologize.

Saying sorry when you are at fault or accepting you hurt someone is one of the most difficult things to say or do. You admit you are wrong immediately you discover your partner is hurt, it’s never difficult for you to say sorry.

Soulmates are not punitive, obnoxious, or revengeful, they always find a way to apologize and make up for their mistakes. It doesn’t matter if you feel justified, but immediately you discover your partner is hurt you apologize, because when your partner is hurt you are hurt too.


 16.You would marry each other again.

Yes, it’s true, with soulmates you would marry each other again because you know this is the one and the only person for you.No other people can fit into your life.

Even in crisis, stress, challenges, and misunderstanding, you choose your soulmate again, because you guys understand each other and make up for your differences.


17.You complete each other

Soulmates complete each other, they are polar opposite people attracted to each other. One might be social or simple, extrovert or introvert, they both complete each other. Their polar opposite differences complement their character which enables them to fit into each other properly.



Soulmates are like locks without the right key you can’t open it. You are the lock, Your soulmate is the key that can fit into your life and make it a better place to dwell. Soulmates are divinely connected people made to spend their lives eternally together. Two souls attracted and connected to each other to complete each other.

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10 Simple Hack to make a girl send Her Nudes



How Do I Make A Girl Send Nudes


Getting a Nude from a girl is not as easy as you may think. A lot of ladies out there have has bad experiences with some guys who leaked their nudes on the internet. Even at that a lot of girls in this world still send nudes to guys, but the problem here is “how to initiate it?”. If you’re wondering or asking questions like “how can I make a girl send nudes”, then Keep reading this. A lot of girls out there don’t even buy the idea of sending a naked picture to a guy.

The major reason why a girl will never send you her nude is because of what might happen in the future, she might wake up one morning to see that her picture is all over the internet.  Several years ago, while I was still in the University, the nude photos of a beautiful girl were leaked online.  Immediately she saw it, she tried to jump off a cliff in order to commit suicide, and luckily she was saved by her friends. From this short story, you’ll see that such a girl will never send a guy nude ever, no matter how sweet-talking or trickish the guy might be.


This article is NO MAGIC, we will rather simply give you guidelines that will help you get those nude from her and also help you to maintain your integrity even if she doesn’t agree to send you. if you don’t choose words wisely and thread with caution, the girl will start seeing you as an irresponsible guy.

These are the top 5 comments I got from ladies when I asked them about sending nudes to guys.

  • I can’t even try that!!
  • Never!!
  • I’ll only send it to him when I know I’m married to him.
  • He’ll rather see my nude live than sending it to him.
  • I’m not a p0rn st@r, I wasn’t brought up that way.
  • That’s a sin I cant try it..
  • As far his my husband, if he asks me politely I’ll gladly send it to him, after all, I’m his and he’s mine.

The bitter truth here is that some people still send nudes to their partners the way people send good morning messages.  Men aren’t supposed to beg for nudes because nudes should come as a gift from them.

3 Things to know before asking a girl to send nudes

1.How long have you known her?: This should be the first question, that you should ask yourself before asking her for her nudes. You can’t meet a girl today and you’re asking her to send nudes, it’s never going to work. Rather she’ll insult you and put your perverted self where you belong.

2.Know how religious she is: before requesting a nude from a girl, the few time you’ve spent with her you’d be able to know if she’s a religious person. If you fail to know about this, when you eventually ask for it, she might even start telling people how irresponsible you are. She’ll tell her church members that you lack manner, home training, and respect for women,

3.Check if free and Very open with you: Examine how free she is with you when you tell her things. if she’s so strict and hard to penetrate, then you need to take things really slow.

How to ask a girl for her nude easily ()

If you want to learn how to ask for a nude politely, then you’ll need to read till the end. If you want to ask them for a nude, never try to ask it directly. Things like this are done in a corny way gradually, till you get what you want.

Anything that you’re doing should flow according. just because you’re crushing on her doesn’t mean you’ll just tell her “send nude”. When you do that she’ll gradually lose respect and regard for you. if she’ll send you a nude pic, you’ll actually perceive signs before she does. She might decide to say words like ” I just bought a hot bra” or something deeper than this. Then you can boldly tell her “hello sugar, ill like to see it on you, how about that (wink emoji)”

1.Make sure she’s comfortable around You

For you to easily get a nude from her, then you need to make her comfortable. A girl would never send a nude pic to someone she not comfortable with. Hence, create an amazing atmosphere, whenever she’s around you. Always appear trustworthy. Girls are so smart that they records of things you say. If you tell a girl something that isn’t so nice today, in the next three years, there is a 100% chance that she’ll remind you of what you say in the exact words. Make her feel safe even when you’re around other ladies,’

2.Don’t Ever Try to send your Nude to Her

This is what so many guys do and it’s very disgusting to most ladies. Some time ago, I was with a very close female friend while i was with her,  she asked me to help her reply  her messages on Facebook messenger. While I was chatting,  a young man stumbled on her account. I began to chat with this guy, not up to 10 minutes, I started chatting with him, he started confessing his love and before I opened my eyes, he sent a picture of his d**k, gosh!! I was so ashamed.  A guy may do this because he thinks she’ll return the favor, and this might never happen. If she asks for a picture of your d**k, then it’s fine, you can send it if you want to send. it’s better for her to ask you to send and naturally expect her to send hers to you someday.

“ what you say today can actually hurt that beautiful moment when she’s almost sending you nudes.”

3.Don’t Use wrong emoji’s:

This could be funny, but please don’t try it!! don’t send an eggplant and a water drop emoji Except you guys are so free to talk about anything with each other.

#never send pictures of your dick.

4. Try to Initiate Sexting

initiate sexting

Because I said sexting doesn’t mean you should just jump right into it at the beginning of the conversation. There are perfect times for this. If she’s a busy person, then you shouldn’t be initiating it at work. The best time to sexting her is at night or early hours of the day. Apart from initiating sexting at night, you can also do that at noon. But before you do that you’ll need to know if she at home or at work.  if she’s at home and she tells you, I’m seeing a movie or  I’m just trying to read a novel, then you should just opt-out.

There’s always an opportunity for sexting you could start by saying, “do you know that I’m secretly turned on whenever I’m with you? I just didn’t want to tell you.”. just start from somewhere…  teasing her using her eyes, nose, lips, or her body structure. The real truth is that if you can have a s*x chat with each order at least 3 times, be rest assured that you’re very close to getting what you want.

If she saying lets s*x chat, then you can ask her while the fun the reaching its peak.

NB; if your relationship with her is not intimate, forget about asking her for a nude.

5.Ask for her pic

You’d probably be asking yourself if you don’t have her pictures.  while chatting with her you can tell her to send a Hot pic. or if she’s going out, you can as well tell her to take a sexy pic. just tease her by telling her that you’d like to change your display picture to the most beautiful and sexiest girl in the world.

6.Use Funny Memes or stickers to get naughty

You can google  #sendnudesmeme and send to her, or use sticker to get naughty. when you do this,  you’ll start planting seeds in her heart that would make her want to send her pic. This is actually preparation in disguise.  She might be waiting for you to send her those naughty memes because she’s also in for what you’re looking for.

7.Give Her Outstanding/hot compliments

Whenever she’s dresses always give her amazing compliments, don’t just give her the normal regular reply a guy would give. Make her feel she’s the prettiest girl in town.’

8.Ask her for it when you know it’s time.

When you’ve done everything you need to do to make her want to send it to you, you can simply tell her that you would like to see the cuteness of her b**bs, she may definitely ask why? But before she asks why, just tell her that if she doesn’t feel safe putting her face in the photo, then she shouldn’t add her face. This will make her have more respect, confidence, and trust in you. she may then decide to send it without putting her face.

But if you start bugging her on why she didn’t add her face in the video or photo, you may end up turned,. Because she’ll start suspecting you want to expose her.

9.Work Hard:

If you must get success in what you do, then working hard shouldn’t be a big deal right? So you have to put in the work! Make her your project till you get what you want. If you’re probably a married man and your wife is far off, then the workload might not be tedious. All you need to do is to be Nice and romantic till you get what you want.

 “a slow and steady win’s the race”.

 “patience is a virtue”

10.Appreciate Her:

Appreciate her to the fullest when she finally sends you the nude. Also, tease her even if she might be so ugly.

Wrapping Up

Nudes are made to be kept confidential. No matter how intimate you may be to the girl, never feel bad if she shuns you down. In fact, she has every right to tell you NO so stop pestering her against her will. I bet you if you follow these tips you’ll have a 70% success rate for any girl you MEET.

 ALSO, READ How to identify or spot a crush


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