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Do you want to know how to fix a broken relationship?
It may not be easy, but it can be done. If you want to know how to fix your broken relationship, this article will outline the best tips to help you mend and heal your relationship.
No matter what’s happened, ALMOST every problem in a relationship can be fixed.

Couples can recover from:
• Trust issues
• Money problems and financial fights
• Cheating and infidelity
• Arguments that get very heated
• Differences regarding kids and how to raise them
• Sexual intimacy problems that go on for years
• Communication breakdowns
• Yelling and screaming bouts
• Separations and even divorce
• Constantly fighting and arguing
• Not feeling understood and distant from each other
• Differences with the in-laws, and other family members
• Most challenges that couples can endure can be fixed. However, some issues take more work and require more effort. But if both people are willing to put in the time and effort, it’s possible to mend the wounds.

Fixing a broken relationship is worth all your effort because until you resolve the problems, you won’t be able to rest.
As you likely already know, a broken relationship can make you find it difficult to sleep, control your moods, stay happy, be productive at work, and add to your anxiety levels.

In addition, science is pretty clear – that unhappiness and broken relationships have many negative impacts on one’s health and outlook on life.

ALSO, READ How to mend broken trust in a relationship

If you’re wondering how to fix a broken relationship, here are the steps:

Step One For How To Fix A Broken Relationship:
1. Acknowledge There’s A Problem

Acknowledge There’s A Problem
Fixing a broken relationship starts the same way as any recovery program.
At first, you spent time denying the issues and swept them under the rug. You let the problems live on, hoping they would disappear or hoping things wouldn’t get worse if you just ignored them. But, things didn’t get better, they likely got worse.
Now you’re here, and things are broken.
Maybe the future looks bleak, but you want your relationship to work.
The only way forward is to stop ignoring that there’s a problem.
It’s time to admit there’s an issue. It’s been going on for too long. And it’s time to fix the problems, to find answers, and to heal the wounds.
When both people can admit things aren’t perfect, you can heal together. Even more, when both people can verbally acknowledge that something is broken, both people can mend wounds, find healing, and do it together as a team.
Being willing to mend as a team is a giant step. It’s the most essential step in your healing journey.
Every relationship that breaks always does so because the couple stops being together. For one reason or another, the partners don’t feel unified.
Maybe they don’t feel understood, perhaps they feel like strangers, maybe they feel too different, or like they have different priorities… The reasons why partners don’t feel unified are endless, and yet, the cause of a broken relationship is the same.
Not feeling together, unified, and understood is the cause of every break in your relationship.
Admitting that things are broken together, brings you back as a couple.
This one-step, when taken together, begins the process of fixing things.
The relationship broke because you lost the sense of togetherness. But now, coming together on this one thing will lead you to the next step to fix your broken relationship.

2. Make A Pact To Work On Things Together
When only one person is working on the relationship, it creates an imbalance. Most issues in relationships are created together, and they can only be healed as a couple.
Acknowledging that things are broken brings you together, and now by making a pact to work on things together, you create that balance of togetherness that you were missing.
Being a team! being a couple!! that’s how you fix a broken relationship.

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At this stage, you may not have the answers. You may not know how to fix the issues, but by making a pact to be a team to fix the problems, you begin an alchemical process that leads to healing.
The agreement to work on things together is like covering holes on a sinking ship. Without this agreement, you can’t fix the sinking ship that is your relationship.
Coming together on the fact that things are broken, making a pact to work on things, these steps are the most monumental steps any couple can take. Getting unified on the most basic of things brings you together and creates a glue that will bring you and your partner together in a way nothing else can.

Step Three For How To Fix A Broken Relationship:
3. Take Full Responsibility For Creating The Problems
When couples choose to take responsibility for their issues, it opens the realms of transformation.
While a broken relationship experiences a tear because both people are pointing fingers, a transformed and healthy partnership experiences healing when each person can take responsibility.

Pointing fingers, wishing your partner would change, and trying to make our partner see our perspective usually just leads to more fighting.
After spending thousands of hours sitting with couples, it’s clear to me that the fastest path to healing is through taking personal responsibility.

Without a doubt, every broken relationship suffers these core issues:
Both partners don’t feel heard
Each partner doesn’t feel listened to or understood
Both people feel like they’re fighting to have their voice heard
Nobody feels fully validated or accepted
Both people wish their partner would just stop and listen
Nobody is taking responsibility, and both people blame one another
These problems often manifest in fights about intimacy, money, the children, sex, the home-life, commitment problems, power struggles, and trust issues. There’s a variety of ways relationships find their way to being broken, yet, the road back to love is always the same.
On that road back to love, the steps always start with coming together. Deciding that you both want your relationship, you want it more than you want the fighting.
Once the agreement is made that you both want love, you will both need to move towards taking personal responsibility. To move into this stage of healing, both people will need to answer this crucial question:
“In what way do I contribute to the issues my relationship is experiencing?”
Both people must answer this question:
“How do I contribute to the problems in my relationship?”
No more finger-pointing, no more blaming, just personal responsibility.
If it’s true that it takes two to tango, it’s true that every relationship problem you and your partner must fix together.Seeing how we contribute to relationship issues isn’t always easy, and it’s usually challenging to find our responsibility in perpetuating the problems.
And here’s a truth that is hard to swallow, every single problem we have in our relationship, we’re somehow responsible.

Just imagine how much you’d like your partner to say:
“I know that because I do that one thing, I upset you. I know that by doing this thing, I make things worse. And I know I hurt you when I do that thing or this other thing.”
Wouldn’t it feel wonderful to have your partner acknowledge how much their actions hurt you?
Wouldn’t it be great if your partner took responsibility?
If your partner could just see how they’re creating the issue, you love it. But, it won’t happen until both people take responsibility.
No matter how much blame there is to go around, both people participate in the issues you’re having.
Turning towards one another and admitting how you’ve contributed to the issue is the solution. When both people own their part in breaking the relationship, healing and mending can begin.
Sometimes couples can do this alone, and quite often, it helps to hire a counselor. Not only does a relationship counselor help the couple open up, but a counselor can also help both people find their half in creating the issue.

*Ideally, you work with a relationship counselor, as this kind of counselor knows couples, and it’s their specialty to help couples.

 

4. Hire A Relationship Counselor To Move Things Along
I once heard that at the height of Tiger Woods’ career, he had twenty-one coaches.
Similarly, every professional athlete who plays at the highest levels has a coach.
All of us who want to be great at anything, have coaches, mentors, and trainers.
While you might think you can heal a broken relationship alone, you’d do well to consider that many blind spots got you into this mess.

It’s never a requirement for a couple to get a counselor, but, just like athletes and professionals in any field benefit by having a coach or mentor, couples can expedite the healing and learn with a good relationship counselor.

Some of the benefits of hiring a relationship counselor are:
Having a third non-biased party present.
Get training that helps you move past your negative patterns.
Be supported through your process of transformation, so you don’t get stuck in the same old issues.
It can help you clarify your feelings and hear your partner’s feelings more clearly.
Having a relationship expert spot you and your partner’s blind spots.
Having an expert guide you through proven methods to ensure healthy communication.

Being in a new space with a professional who stops fights before they happen.
Have someone role model and support you through the process of talking with your partner in new, more loving ways.

Get the insights that you are missing, which make it possible to transform how you manage and handle your partnership.

Have someone to notice and help you tweak your unconscious patterns (Duke University study reveals 40% of our habits are unconscious, a counselor can help spot those patterns and encourage conscious transformation).
As a counselor, it’s impossible to list out all the benefits, but the most important one for couples is this:

A counselor can help you consciously create the love you want, so you’re happy in your relationship.
If you’re able to, do yourself a favor and hire a relationship counselor who specializes in couples and make the healing process more straightforward.

5. Schedule Quality Time Together
A common symptom of unhealthy relationships is a lack of togetherness.
Breaking a relationship happens in pieces. First, there’s a series of unresolved arguments, disputes, and the feeling that your partner doesn’t care or understand you.
Bit-by-bit, the couple feels distant and struggles to enjoy each other’s company. What was good is now tainted with the fear of a looming fight.
To avoid more problems, the couple slowly starts to spend less time together. And that, in turn, makes them grow apart more and more, until one day the best decision to call it quits.

Divorce doesn’t happen because a couple feels unified and is having a lot of fun. Relationships end because people feel too different, they fight too much, or things aren’t as good as they once were.
Before you grow apart too much, come back together. Take some time to schedule fun.
The best way back to love is to schedule quality time together.

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In our overworked-society, it’s easy to make our relationship the last thing on our ‘to-do’ list. And it’s that kind of lousy prioritization that hurts relationships. Put your relationship at the bottom of important things, and soon, it will suffer the consequences.

When things are bad in our relationship, it’s not a natural compulsion to lean in, schedule time together, and find ways to make our partnership great again. Yet, the way back to wholehearted connection can only be had couples schedule quality time together.
The best way to grow together is by spending time together.
Even though things are bad, and it might be scary to schedule time together, the time apart guarantees you’ll grow apart.
It’s only through increasing quality time together that you can:
Rebuild trust
Grow together and feel like a team again
Improve your love maps and love quotient (more on this, in this article)
Start to heal and mend those wounds
Undo those knots and feel that connection again
Share love, time, and space together
Time together is one of the best ways to mend those broken things. Even if things aren’t so good, time together can begin the process of making things great again.

How To Schedule Time Together To Fix Your Broken Relationship
If you’re convinced now that time together will help mend the wounds, it’s time to discuss how to you can best spend time together with your partner.
Most people do this part wrong.
Since things have been bad, most people hear the advice to spend time together and either recoil and feel free, or they take this action to an extreme and plan a long week or weekend together.
Both of these strategies tend to work against the intended desire, so here’s the best way to spend time together, so it actually works.
Spend time together in small increments. Instead of a scheduled long-weekend, try planning a short amount of time where you’ll focus on enjoying each other’s company.
Some suggestions for short scheduled ‘mini-dates’ are:
Take a ten-minute walk together
Watch a sitcom show together
Cook a leisurely meal as a couple
Ask your partner about their day, set a 5-minute timer and take turns
Give each other short 5-10 minute massages and play soothing music
Go to the gym together and do a part of your workout together (stretch, or lifting, or treadmill side-by-side)
Clean the house as a couple for 10 minutes
Try my couple’s game, Date Night Questions For Every Couple.
The idea here isn’t so much as ‘what you do’ but rather – how you do it.
If a relationship has been riddled with negativity, scheduling short bursts of positive time together will work to rebuild the relationship into something that feeds both of you.
Short bursts of time together are comfortable, don’t require much, but over time, this strategy will work wonders on your relationship.

6. Practice Honest And Kind Transparency
In any relationship riddled with issues, honesty works like a healing salve.
Being honest with kindness and love in mind – will work wonders for any relationship that suffers from trust issues, disconnection, communication breakdowns, and negative patterns.
Learning to be honest in a kind way is crucial.
An excellent way to practice kind and honest communication to use a formula. Although it may feel awkward to use a script with how you communicate your emotions, decades of research has shown it works.
Just like any formula, try this out, tweak it in a way that works for you, but stick as close to this formula as you can – and then as you become more proficient in the method, you can take off the training wheels.
Start with the formula so you can experience what it’s like to express yourself with kindness, love, and empathy.
When you’re upset, sad, mad, or angry use this formula:
I feel __________ (insert an emotion like, sad, mad, angry, happy, anxious, uncomfortable) about __________ (insert situation that caused your feelings) and I am wondering if we can talk about it.
This formula ensures you’ll bring up an issue in a way that doesn’t set your partner’s alarms, but instead, helps them hear you.
I know this method, done without a relationship counselor, can feel awkward, but repeated research from experts from The Gottman Institute, have shown it works to help couples have disagreements without fighting.
Another suggestion to help you learn the process of communicating with more honesty and kindness, check out the fantastic book Conscious Loving.
Besides a book, or trying this formula, relationship counseling is the most desirable and assured way to help you transform toxic communication patterns. You can learn more about online relationship counseling here.

7. Practice Appreciation, Give Gratitude
You see, I once heard:
“Love is not a feeling, it’s an ability.”
And if it’s an ability, it’s something we can get better at. It’s something we can practice and improve at.
Fixing your broken relationship is just a matter of taking the right actions to remedy the problems.
One of the chronic symptoms of relationships that are falling apart is that both partners don’t feel appreciated or understood.
Injecting appreciation, gratitude, and verbal praise into your relationship can help remedy many of the significant issues.
To practice gratitude and appreciation in your relationship, try these suggestions:
Let your partner know how much you appreciate something they’ve done, no matter how small it is.
(Maybe they made dinner, took out the garbage, texted you something sweet?)
Has your partner hugged you or kissed you recently in a way you liked? Let him/her know.
Leave a post-it note or small card with a sweet note in it somewhere your partner will find it.
Give your partner a long hug, and whisper something kind into his/her ear.
Send your partner a sweet text message.
Offer to do something small and kind for your partner.
Call your partner to say, “Just wanted to let you know I was having sweet thoughts of you.”
Make your partner something you know they like to eat and pack it in his/her lunch.
Tell your partner one quality that you admire about him/her.
Share with your partner, something that you remember fondly.
Close your eyes and send your partner thoughts of wellness and healing
Offer to give your partner a short massage and tell them it’s because you want to say, “thank you” for all he/she does
Start with something small. You don’t have to do large gestures to show appreciation. What you need is consistency, small actions are taken regularly will work to rewire your partner to expect goodness from you and to look forward to the goodness in your relationship.

When both people take actions to fix the relationship and use the outlined steps here on how to fix your broken relationship, you can heal any wounds and past hurts.

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5 Best Ways to Attract a Russian Guy

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Chivalry is very rare in this modern era. Any woman today has had experienced being catcalled or yelled “nice behind” almost anywhere they go. To say that it has become sad is an enormous understatement.

However, this isn’t the case in Russia. Men in Russia are still as courteous as ever. Offering one’s seat in a public transportation system or even opening a door didn’t die with time.

Russian men will be a perfect fit if you wish to end up with a real gentleman. If you want to make them fall for you, below are the surefire ways to attract a Russian guy.

Shared Qualities of Men in Russia

But first, let’s talk about some qualities Russian men share and the values they still regard even in this modern time.

1. Respectful

Men in Russia have always had a strong respect for women and the elderly. They show concern to them and assist them with whatever they need. Gestures like opening the door or helping get down a bus are seemingly simple acts in Russia but are grand for most Westerners.

While others misconstrue this attitude of Russian men as an act of sexism, they think otherwise. Men’s courteousness towards women and the elderly results from their concern and kindness — nothing else. This attitude of Russian guys is easily traceable to the way men in the past treated ladies.

Unlike before, Russian men are more sensitive to women’s choices and opinions. They now listen to women’s voices. The technological advances or modernity of the world didn’t affect their perception of chivalry. 

2. Protective and confident

Russian guys are innately protective because of their sad history. They carried this quality until today because their women counterparts still expect them to be their protectors. 

Russian women also need them to take the lead in the relationship. They want to end up with a confident man who can make them feel safe and make sound decisions for the family.

3. Deep-souled

Russian men like to think about things beyond the grasp of understanding. While Western men like making casual talks to strangers in public, Russian guys don’t.Men in Russia do not see the value in casual talk as they prefer to talk about real-life matters. They like to dive into meaningful conversations.

5 Best Ways to Attract a Russian Guy

Now that we have that figured out, let us go ahead and talk about the compelling ways to make a Russian guy fall for you.

1. Learn how to cook

They say the surest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

The saying is true, at least for Russian guys. Russian men’s idea of love is when their partner serves them dinner. While this may hurt any feminist’s pride, this is an undeniable truth for most Russians.

Men in the country love a woman who will prepare their favorite food, even when it isn’t tasty. However, if this isn’t your love language, perhaps a guy in Russia isn’t for you.

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2. Be feminine

Women from other countries want to do things their way — and there isn’t anything wrong with that. But, Russian men prefer to take the lead in a relationship. They like a woman who will trust that they can protect them, in general.

As such, to attract your Russian date, assure them that you need them in your life. Let them know that you feel safe when they are around.

3. Challenge him

Russian guys may like to be the more assertive ones in the relationship, but it doesn’t mean they always win. This is often something they look for in a partner — someone who’ll spice up the conversation or challenge them now and again.

Men in the country are highly opinionated people, and they would love for a woman to speak their minds. Telling him off when he’s aggressive or poking fun at him can also help lower his ego.

4. Laugh at his jokes

Russian men generally love a good laugh. Throwing out funny punchlines at friends at social gatherings is innate for them. It is a typical scene at any party, and for them, it’s an excellent way to strengthen any relationship.

So, show your amusement when your Russian date throws a joke. But beware — a Russian guy’s humor may be a little dark. They often throw jokes about death.

If you wish your laugh to be more genuine, study your Russian date’s culture and history. Often, your date’s jokes may also be about Russian movies or political scenarios.

5. Love his family

Anyone that understands Russia knows how much they value family. They are the most important thing for most locals in the country.

As your date, nothing will make a Russian guy appreciate you and your presence if they see you bond with his family. He’ll love your effort even more if you respect his family, even when they are hostile towards you — in case they are.

Cherish your interethnic relationship!

To find a loving and courteous man in today’s era has become more of a challenge.

Since you already know about Russian men, be sure not to settle for anything less. Look for your modern Ivan Tsarevich and wait patiently in the process. Once you finally find him, cherish him deeply.

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How To Improve Your Relationship? (Top Tips)

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Having a relationship is tough. Taking care of your relationship is even more difficult. You need to make sure that your relationship is going smooth so that it can last longer even a lifetime. Many people face problems in their relationship and this is normal. Life is not smooth.

We face many different situations in our daily life and our relationships are no exception. Your relation with any person depends on whether you both share a similar nature or not. If the person you are dealing with has a very different nature than yours then your relationship will suffer a lot. But life is all about compromises and you can compromise with your relationship as well. Here I am going to share 5 tips that will help you improve your relationship with anyone.

 

1. Be Neutral with your relationships

Don’t close your mind when it comes to having a relationship with someone. An ideal romantic relationship is one in which you don’t have a mental block with the person you love. You need to make sure that you understand what your partner needs or wants. Listen to them. Consider things that your partner says and take note of that thing.

If you keep your mind blocked on specific things then you are going to face a lot of problems in your relationship as you will not understand what your partner requires from you.

2. Understand their feelings

Whether it’s a relationship with your wife, your kids, your parents, or even your co-workers you need to know what they feel about you. Make sure that you never hurt someone’s feelings just because you think it is the right thing to do. Everyone has emotions and you need to make sure that those emotions are understood by you.

By understanding the emotions of others you are bound to be having a successful relationship. Understand what the other person wants to convey and then speak anything.

ALSO, READ LOVE CONFESSION TEXT MESSAGES FOR HER OR HIM

3. Control your temper

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One of the worst things that can destroy a relationship is your temper. Have your anger under control and your relationship will survive, One of the reasons many relationships fail is because people become too aggressive.

They know that the person they have a relationship with will listen to them whether they are angry or not. This is because relationships are complex. People get habitual to the temper of their partners because they have feelings for them.

People can do anything for their partners and they are also ready to deal with their partner’s anger as they have feelings for them. But you need to make sure that you don’t get angry with kids, your wife, or your family no matter what if you want a healthy relationship.

4. Keep your work and personal life separate

Make sure that when you come back home from your office, you keep your office life at your work and your personal life separate. If you involve your work life with your personal life then your relationships are going to suffer. Work is stressful in many cases. We deal with a lot of people in our work on a daily basis.

We will face a lot of people who are going to temper our mental level and if we have that same temper level when we come home then the people at home will suffer as well.

5. Give time to people you love

You need to know how to love. Give time to people you love. If you don’t give time to people you love then your relationships will fall down. Your partner, your parents, or your children need your time.

If you don’t give time to them they will think that you are not part of their life and they make start to drift away from your life slowly. These small things may look ignorable but in a long run, they will have a large impact on your relations.

Make sure you keep note of these 5 things and your relationship will be improved for good. Make sure that your ego doesn’t come forward with the person you love and have affection for.
ALSO, READ BEST ROMANTIC LOVE LETTERS FOR HIM OR HER

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How To Secure Your Relationship (Proven Ways)

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In this life, no one wants their relationship to fail. securing your relationship is a question of how much effort you are willing to put into the relationship.

But before we go into these tips why not ask these questions and do a quick self-check to be sure of why these tips are important.

Important questions to answer before learning how to secure your relationship

  1. Are you worried that your spouse will find a better person?
  2.  How far are you willing to go for the relationship?
  3. What are your desired end results for the relationship?
  4. What lengths are you willing to go to secure the relationship?
  5. Are you feeling anxious in your relationship especially when you are with your partner?
  6. Are you a little too clingy even to the point of pestering?
  7. Are you in love or desperate?

 

  1. Are you too insecure?
  2. Are obsessed with your partner?
  3. Are you possessive?
  4. Do you “over-check” on your partner?
  5. Is your partner trying to evade your attention?
  6. Do you downgrade your value in your relationship?

 

  1. Are you quick to pick fights?
  2. Do you feel threatened by third parties, even when there is no cause for doubt?
  3. Do you require constant reassurance from your partner?

When you have answered the above questions, then you can look at the tips we came up with after thorough research to help you in this journey. They will guide you in making your relationship remain faithful and secure.

Don’t leave us behind in this journey you can contact us for counseling and advice. Let us hold your hands in this walk. We are here for you

12 Way To Secure Your Relationship

1. Ensure The Communication Lines Are Always Open

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If you are having issues in your relationship, talk about it. However, if it’s hard talking about it, then solving the issue will be even more difficult. So when the awkward moment occurs, learn to talk about it and that leads to coming to a compromise and eventually solving the problem.

2. Always Do A Rain Check On Your Relationship.

This is because you want to ensure everything is working well. Doing rain checks prevents loopholes because you detect the faults soon enough. How to do this is by asking a strategic question like asking for honest feedback from your partner.

3. Find Balance In Your Relationship.

Learn to balance things up in your relationship. To properly secure your relationship, you must balance things up in your life. A healthy amount of intimacy and not bad, a right amount of attention is clinginess and a right amount of space is not neglect. If you find this hard, seek counseling. You can contact our counseling TEAM

4. Know When You Are Being Insecure And Work On It.

Anxiety is one of the major causes of unpleasant and distressing feelings in relationships. And because we are humans our natural reaction will be wanting to “get rid” of them. This is why they eventually become clingy and over-checking on his/her.

Even if you do feel insecure you should not always act on it but work on it. So you don’t mess up the beautiful things you have going on. The truth remains that everyone on earth feels insecure at one time or the other but what we do with that feeling is what matters.

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5. Understand Your Level Of Independence.

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In therapy, most people will say they are fine and do not need people. And this is one of the reasons why people stay in miserable relationships for a very long time. Or even date people who are not good for them knowing full well they are headed for doom.

If you are having issues that you are unable to solve or finding it hard to make a decision, seek therapy. It’s not just for “big problems”. If you require any form of assistance in your relationship, it will be best you seek a professional rather than a telling a friend.

6. Do Not Show Insecurities. It Makes You Weak.

In learning how to secure your relationship, you must be very careful in how you deal with it. When you are feeling insecure, and you show anxiety, it sends the wrong signal to your partner.

Your partner feels you’re telling them that they are bigger, better, and more important in the relationship. You are simply saying that you have no value and that your partner calls the shots. Getting scared of losing your partner is normal and quite common. But don’t be too engrossed in the relationship that you lose yourself. Remember you are just as important as your partner and you always have a choice.

7. If You Are Always Thinking Of Cheating, Seek Counseling Or Therapy.

I know sometimes, you may feel like telling a friend or a close relative. That is not bad at all but you must understand that these are not professional. And what you need at that moment is not sentimental comforting but professional help.

You need help because, though you love your partner, you can’t help thinking about cheating. What you think about overtime becomes reality. So, before this becomes a reality, you must curb it and secure your relationship.

8. Never Be Alone With An Ex-Lover.

Whether you were attracted to them or not, or what you had ended on a bad note. You should never be found alone with them. If you loved them or something happened between you two before it’s possible for something to happen now

9. Don’t Be Found Around Who Are Being Unfaithful.

“Evil communication corrupts good manners” is as true as it gets. When you hang around people that cheat it’s very possible for you to cheat and see nothing wrong with it. Your partner may not trust you if you keep friends who cheat on their partners. Even if you are not encouraging them in the act, “best of same feathers flock together.”

10. Always Reassure Your Partner Of Your Love.

Tell them you love them often. Don’t be stingy with sweet reassuring words if you really want to secure your relationship. Sometimes, look into his/her eyes and tell them you will choose them over and over again in any situation. When you feel you’ve lost touch with their feelings, tell them you miss them and you want them back. In all cases, words are powerful and this is why even the most beautiful woman still wants her man to tell her she is pretty. She knows how beautiful she is, she just wants to hear it.

11. Make Plans For Intimacy Time.

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When it’s time for romance please put in detail. Don’t get too familiar with your partner when it comes to intimacy. If you become too familiar, your romantic sex life becomes boring.

When going on a date no matter how casual, dress for the occasion. Ladies, please put on lipstick at least, it’s a date after all. Keep the magic alive.

12. Don’t Compare Your Relationship With Others.

Social media has ruined a lot of relationships because we fail to understand that those people are just doing showbiz. It’s all show business. a large percentage of them are just acting because they want you to like them. I mean who adores a couple that is always fighting? Social media is no what it seems, all is rosy there but it’s thorny in reality. So, why will you compare your relationship to theirs? Instead, just work on getting better in yours and grow intentionally.

One of the tools of not losing people is value. If you offer people value, they will not want to let you go. If your partner knows there is a void you are filling in their life, and they feel special with you, it will be hard to lose them.

It’s true that every partnership takes effort. Just how much of that effort you are willing to put in makes the difference and it should be a collective effort, not just you.

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