How to Forgive and Live a Happy Life

Last Updated on May 25, 2024 by Joshua Isibor

They say forgiveness is peace of mind. Forgiveness gives us freedom. When we hang on to bad and painful experiences, we keep ourselves from soaring and enjoying our precious lives. Instead, we are weighed down by the pain and hurt of being betrayed by someone.

Sometimes people who are deeply hurt think that when they forgive those who hurt them, they do them a favor, but they are wrong. Some go as far as believing that it is a betrayal of themself. When hurt lingers on in our hearts, there is a high risk of depression, heart disease, diabetes, and so on. But when there is forgiveness there is a low risk of depression, heart disease, diabetes, low stress, and anxiety levels, and a high chance to live a happy life. Until you forgive, you are the one paying the highest price.

Unforgiveness is a trap that deprives us of enjoying the best of our relationship with other people, with the fear or mindset that they would also hurt which most times isn’t true, but when we forgive we become free of this cage.

Forgiveness helps us keep our energy clear. When we refuse to forgive a person or forget what a person did to us, we tend to rob ourselves of peace of mind and happiness. This happens because there is no space for happiness in our hearts; rather, they are filled with bitterness.
We would be looking at some ways on how to Forgive and Live a happy life:

1 Connect your emotions:

This is not a time to blame anyone. Get a piece of paper, and write down how you feel, this will help you work on yourself, the aspect that needs to be worked on. Ask yourself if you need to do anything to work on those emotions you already listed. Find what works for you. it may be dancing, singing, being in the company of others, reading, spending time in nature, listening to music, painting, talking to a counselor, or writing a forgiveness letter. Find yours and only you can do that.

2 Forget the past:

when you dwell on your past, you cannot move forward. You get stuck in that bad or awful experience. For you to Forgive you must forget, that that is the only way out, Close any open door that May bring back that event. Practice appreciating the things and nature around you.

3 Commit to forgiveness:

Forgiveness is not a one-time thing. It is something you have to do over and over again. Sometimes, that hurt will try resurfacing. Remind yourself that you have already chosen forgiveness and will keep choosing it. This will help you scale through.

4 Accept the lessons:

There is always a lesson behind every experience. This is when I accept those lessons, build on them, and become better and stronger. One thing we should put at the back of our minds is that those experiences are for the betterment of us.

2 Send love and light:

You send love and light rather than sending bad vibes to those who hurt you. Don’t act bad or negatively towards them because they have hurt you before rather send them Good and positive vibes. For example, if you find out they need help and you are in the capacity to do so do it. Don’t use the past as an excuse not to help them remember to send love and light.

Why don’t you try forgiveness today and live a happier life?

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Originally posted 2020-12-19 12:00:33.