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How To Promote A Wedding Hashtag?

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How To Promote A Wedding Hashtag?

Wedding hashtags are the perfect way to collect all those amusing pictures shared on social
media platforms from the big day into one unified, easily clickable place.
In this age of social media, everything seems to be coming from the trends. They have become
an integral part of planning and execution processes. And when it is the most awaited day of
your life, you surely want the social media paparazzi to capture all those candids, don’t you?
However, to be able to collect all the posts shared by the attendees, you need to create an
exclusive hashtag, which should also be communicated.
The guests make use of it while posting any wedding-related content on social media. So, here
are some ways in which you can well-promote your wedding hashtag.

1. Put The Wedding Hashtag On Your Wedding Invites

The invitation cards sent out to the guests are read by them not just with excitement but also
with attention. Therefore, imprinting them on your wedding invite will bring it into every guest’s

knowledge, and they will be mindful of using it while posting content related to the wedding on
social media.

2. Use The Hashtag In Pre-wedding Parties

Using the hashtag more often than not will help the guests remember it better. Posting content
on social media platforms containing the hashtag of your pre-wedding functions is an amazing
way to bring it to more and more notice.

Use The Hashtag In Pre-wedding Parties

Use alluring virtual posts to excite people to also post something related to the wedding on their
social media handles to further promote the hashtag.

3. Include It In Your Wedding Decor

All of the wedding decor fetches attention, so if your wedding hashtag becomes a part of your
decor in creative ways, it will most-definitely catch some attention.

 

You can include or solely display them on quirky cards, directional boards, wall arts, etc. This
will help in making the hashtag easily recognizable, and the guests will be able to easily use it.

4. Showcase Live Hashtag Feed

Nothing can inspire your guests more than a social media wall to use the wedding hashtag. A
wedding Hashtag wall helps in displaying all the fun and beautiful pictures shared by the guests
on social platforms using the specially created hashtag.

Showcase Live Hashtag Feed

You can collect all the posts by using a social media aggregator tool, like Taggbox, and display
the same on the wedding wall installed at your location.
Digital signage displays help in prompting the guests to capture and share more fascinating
pictures from the big day, as it gets displayed on the screens. This also helps other guests catch
all the fun live through the hashtag feed.

5. Keep It Easy To Remember

Creating a hashtag that is easy to remember, simple yet quirky is the best promotional tactic.
More people will be inspired to share posts so that they can use the hashtag. If on the contrary,
the hashtag is complicated, long, or difficult: chances are that people will not remember it and
might not also use it.
Hence, the first thing that you need to do to promote your wedding hashtag is to create an
authentic and easy hashtag, as people will automatically want to use it.

6. Ask Your Friends And Family To Use It Too

Let your friends and family communicate your wedding hashtag to their followers to make more
people aware of what’s happening. It will help ease out making announcements too. As
anybody who follows the hashtag can directly get all the updates of what’s happening.

Moreover, through hashtags people who are not connected to the wedding can also keep
themselves informed about the happenings and draw inspiration from the decor, outfits,
catering, gifts, venue, etc.

7. Imprint Them On Return Gifts

Imprint Them On Return Gifts

Return gifts are a token of appreciation for guests that attend the wedding. You can customize
gift boxes with the hashtag imprinted on them to not just promote the hashtag but also to give
the guests something to recall about the wedding.
Guests can also post about the gift on their social media handles by using the wedding hashtag.

Over To You

Getting wedded is the most exciting part of life. Taking efforts to make it special is obvious, but,
going a little way farther to make it intriguing and exciting for it to get imprinted in the minds of
the attendees has become the trend.

Moreover, social media platforms have become a place where people communicate the most.
Hence, incorporating all the posts shared by the guests on their handles and showcasing the
same via an aggregated feed on the digital signage screen, generates more engagement and
motivates the attendees to click and share more.
Create an exclusive hashtag, promote it and make your wedding look like a once-in-a-lifetime
event, literally.

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 What is marriage?

Marriage is a symbolic union between a man and woman, it involves two people unanimously coming together as husband and wife. Marriage is a sacred union between two parties (male and female). By the word sacred, I mean sacrosanct, divine, holy, inviolable, and consecrated, it’s a union to be valued, cherished, adored, and respected by the two persons involved.

Marriage is sweet, interesting, lovely, and appreciated if and only if the two parties agree to make it work. You can make your marriage be how you want it, but the question is are you ready and willing to pay the prize? Are you just after the rosy part of marriage?

Before going into this union called marriage, there are some questions you should ask yourself and answer by yourself.

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Questions like:

🌟 What exactly is marriage?

🌟 Am I ready for marriage?

🌟 How prepared am I for marriage?

🌟 What knowledge have I acquired about marriage?

🌟 What exactly am I after in marriage, (companionship or procreation or both)?

🌟 Do I really love this person I want to settle down with?

🌟Am I financially, emotionally, physically, and spiritually stable to get married?

🌟 Can I withstand the ups and downs in marriage?

🌟 Can I tolerate my partner’s excesses?

 

These questions and more are very important for you to meditate on and answer sincerely before you work down the aisle and say “Yes I do”.

Questions to ask before getting married

1.What exactly is marriage?

Like I said earlier, marriage is a union,a sacred one between two people who agree to be joined in holy matrimony. Presently, people have a different picture of marriage entirely. Before you make up your mind to get married, you should and must have a good knowledge of marriage, because when you have a proper understanding of what you are going into, you will surely know how to perform your duties as expected.

Marriage is a union created by God for man, for the sole reason of companionship and procreation. Your union brings you together, to help, appreciate, love, understand each other as soulmates. Your purpose of getting married should be known, either for companionship or procreation or both. If this is not stated as it suits you both, the purpose of your marriage will be lost.

This is where most couples make mistakes, they fail to define what kind of relationship they want or how their marriage will look like. They just jump into marriage with little or no knowledge of what marriage is.

Marriage goes beyond the union of coming together as husband and wife, as couples you are meant to complete, assist and help each other in all ramifications. It is a blissful union meant for soulmates (Divinely connected) to fill in the gap for each other. You practically help each other grow and make yourselves happy, through commitment, love, affection, care, and standing for each other.

 

2.Am I ready for marriage?

How ready are you for marriage? are you actually prepared for marriage or wedding? Maybe you are just after the beautiful wedding shower, accessories, wedding party etc. A lot of people are only preparing or are prepared for a wedding, not marriage. They only have an idea of how to get beautiful stuff for their wedding but know little or nothing of the beautiful things to spice their marriage and make it work.

So are you really ready for marriage? Or you are just prepared to flaunt your wedding outfits instead of your marriage to be a model of example to others and encourage people to build and have a beautiful healthy marriage.

 

3.How prepared am I for marriage

Are you ready to support your partner? In marriage you look out for your soulmate, you are no longer alone, you now have someone to care for, are you ready to be a shoulder your partner can lean on? can you stand for your partner and defend him/ her? Can you be someone to hold on to?

Are you ready to perform the duties expected of you as a wife or a husband? answer these questions before you accept that marriage proposal. Marriage has a lot of commitment, you should be ready to make sacrifices and be committed to each other.

4.What knowledge have I acquired about marriage?

Knowledge is power, the level of information you have about something determines how well you perform, marriage is like a school, but here you don’t graduate,”No graduation in marriage”.You continue to learn and make adjustments where necessary. Your knowledge about marriage will determine if your marriage will be successful or not.

Note: Knowledge here, is not just any form of fabricated information, it must be the right information, not all knowledge are helpful, some can destroy your marriage.

Seek knowledge from the right source, read books and learn from people whose marriage are glowing and fruitful.

5.What exactly am I after in marriage (Companionship and procreation)

Marriage is solely for the purpose of procreation and companionship, but this can be determined by you and your partner. Discuss what you want. If you guys want to bear kids or not.

A lot of people have issues in their homes because they failed to discuss some crucial things about what they want in a marriage. Your goal about marriage should be in line with that of your partner, selfish reasons should not come in. Two must agree to become one, in marriage, you must agree on what you guys want and need.

ALSO, READ Before marriage questions for a healthy relationship

6.Do I really love this person I want to settle down with?

Love is a feeling, an emotion felt. inwardly, it connects you to your partner. Love is a great attraction. You must love your partner enough for you to spend the rest of your life with. The love you have for your partner should not be based on selfish reasons, true love that keeps you guys going even in tough times.

Love strengthens, heals, and binds you together. If you love shallowly your union will be shallow and not productive. When I say love I mean deep and affectionate love for your partner, which assures security, approval, and commitment, without this kind of love you can’t be committed to your partner.

Love is not selfish, hurtful, deceitful, painful, wickedness, but love is joy, peace, in-depth happiness, sacrifice, and commitment. When you love genuinely your partner becomes your major priority.

 

7.Am I financially, emotionally, physically, and spiritually stable to get married?

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What is your financial status like? Can you boast of taking care of yourself how much more another person? Your financial state counts before you consider marriage, you can’t be planing to get married and you have a lot of unpaid bills.Financial crisis has become the order of the day in most homes which sometimes leads to divorce, you should consider your income because you have a lot of needs and bills to take care of together.

Emotional stability affects your marriage positively or negatively, if you are still emotionally broken, it’s not advisable to go into marriage, if your heart is filled with hatred, then deal with it first. Don’t go into marriage in such a state, else how do you intend to show love, when you can’t let go of the past hurts.

Your physical stability, both health-wise, & mentally, all together are what makes you complete as a human. Your brain must be active and ready to settle with your partner.

Spiritually, do you guys connect body, spirit, and soul? You must be at the same level in this aspect else your relationship will suffer.

 

8.Can I tolerate the ups and downs in marriage?

Marriage is full of ups and downs, the moment you acknowledge that all your marital fears are over. You and your partner are two polar different people with a different temperament, personality, and character, you should be ready to tolerate the different phases that show up in your marriage.

Every marriage has its beautiful moment and challenging moment, your ability to withstand, tolerate, and solve your problems together makes your marriage to be successful and unique.

 

9.Can I tolerate my partner’s excesses?

Like I mentioned earlier, you and your partner are two polar opposite people, what you like might be what he or she dislikes. Marriage creates room for adjustments where and when necessary, you must learn to tolerate, understand and adjust because marriage is for better or worse till death do you part.

You are not perfect neither is your partner but you can make a perfect marriage by having mutual respect, being committed, understanding, and having affection for each other.

 

 Modern-day marriage in the present society

Most marriages today have become a charade, couples now take marriage as employment. when they are fed up, they quit and seek for another partner, like a job hunter, but the question is how long will you continue to “Spouse hunt”.”

Marriage is not a bed of roses”, but today most people have failed to understand this fact, you can’t possibly get everything you wished for, no one is perfect, you are not also perfect, that your partner has some flaws is not enough reason to leave because you don’t know how the next person you are “Spouse hunting for” will be, even flaws has it’s benefits, for example, stubborn people are good decision makers and overly organized people are good at paying bills on time.

Majority don’t put into consideration these things mentioned above, that is why most marriages are suffering today and the rate of divorce cases is increasing by the day. Marriage is now assumed to be a contract, when you have finally gotten what you want selfishly or you are tired or no longer satisfied with the said contract, you file for a divorce.

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Marriage has lost its sense of value and dignity, they say is not a do-or-die affair and as such no mutual respect, understanding, genuine love and affection, tolerance, honesty, sincerity, and fidelity. Which are basically the building blocks for a healthy and happy marriage. Couples fail to understand the importance of the fundamentals of marriage, they want everything at a plater of gold, no one wants to pay the price and make sacrifices that will make the marriage blissful. Marital issues are not settled, instead of sorting things out maturely and amicably, matters of importance or concern are swept under the rug.

Communication gap is a major barrier in marriage, lack of communication destroys relationships and no matter what you do, the bond that once existed begins to diminish. Couples live their lives based on assumption, you assume your partner is supposed to know and actually he or she doesn’t. Men and women reason, react and behave differently, the male psychology is different from that of females. You may feel your actions are right but in the sight of your partner it’s wrong and hurtful and you wouldn’t know without proper communication.

When last did you care about your partner’s emotions before acting? you only care about yourself and how things dim fit to you. Love is meant to be mutual, caring, and respectful, and if you can’t treat your partner right then it’s no longer love.

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Marriage has become a game and a field for infidelity, couples have turned their union as a means for gambling, they gamble with their partner’s emotions. Faithfulness is a key factor for a successful marriage. When one party decides to break that vow, marriage crisis arises. You can’t possibly love your partner and continually cheat on them, knowing it will break them into pieces. Infidelity breaks the marriage bond. Cheating is not a gender thing, man or woman none is permitted to cheat, or have a better reason to cheat. Your marital vow is to be faithful to your partner till death do you part. Infidelity sows a seed of discord in marriage. The joy and peace of marriage are lost when one party becomes unfaithful.

The issue of disrespect has become a thorn in the flesh in marriage, couples fail to acknowledge the importance of mutual respect.” Respect is reciprocal” is not meant for a particular gender. Most couples lack this attribute, they have little or no respect for their spouse, they speak to their partner so rudely even in public. They practically abuse their partner and criticize whatever they do, not minding their feelings.

Never deny your partner the respect they deserve, but mind you respect is given to whom respect is due, so for you to be respected you must earn it. You don’t expect your partner to respect you when you don’t behave responsibly, you must be worthy of respect first before you can be respected because your responsible attitude triggers respect from your partner.

This generation is so proud that when you emphasize on respect.  they don’t even see why respect should be a matter of concern in marriage. The fact that you both are married and have become one doesn’t mean you should not value, appreciate and respect your partner. Respect is an asset in Marriage, it’s one of the key factors that determine the life span of your marriage.

Marriage is a blessing and as such demands a lot of sacrifices, if you don’t truly have your partner at heart you will never see the reason to make sacrifices. Some couples are so self-centered, all they know is how to satisfy and please themselves, they can never compromise when necessary just to make their partner happy but they would want their partner to always please them whether it’s convenient for them or not. You can’t expect to receive when you don’t give out. You receive what you give, when you become selfish your marriage becomes stunted.

Family crisis is inevitable but it becomes a tug of war when there is no commitment. How committed are you to your partner? Are you committed with time? Are you committed to your partner’s needs? Do you really care about your partner?

Whenever you plan to go out on a date, do you always keep to time or you show up late or you don’t show up at all. when you can’t make it do you give notice before time or you just ignore it? Do you apologize when you are wrong or you wait to be told before you reluctantly apologize without being remorseful? These are questions you should ask yourself and answer sincerely, your level of commitment ascertains how successful your marriage will be.

For your marriage to work, there must be mutual commitment, you plan together, agree together, and execute your plans together as one. Instead of couples agreeing they continually disagree and fight at every slightest provocation over something that can be easily handled. The day you “Say I do” you have signed up for a total commitment to your partner.

ALSO, READ 41 Keys to a successful marriage

 

Today couples don’t see the reason to fight for each other and make their marriage work, marriage is now seen as a car or clothes you can easily change when it’s faded or obsolete. Divorce has become a very good option, am not saying there are no good reasons to divorce which could be as a result of infidelity or abuse.

Marriage requires a lot of work to make it work, you don’t give up working, even when everything seems well, you still need to work and nurture your marriage.

Marriage is like a farmland where a farmer cultivates crops, the amount of work he puts in determines the type and quantity of crops he will harvest, and even after harvesting, he stores the crops to avoid spoilage. Marriage should be guided by jealousy, if you can’t put in your best then you can’t expect a blissful marriage.

Your partner should be your major priority, they are to be valued and cherished and not to be treated like a handbag that can be dumped after been used to your satisfaction. Marriage is a lifetime journey and commitment, you don’t just discard it because you don’t feel that person anymore. Your partner is your better half and bet me, you can’t discard your better half because you don’t feel like keeping it anymore.

“Marriage is like a “SIM Card” and the SIM’s network, Marriage is the sim card and your partner is like the network” no matter how old the sim card looks you don’t discard or let go, even if the network fluctuates and is unstable, you are always patient enough to wait for it to stabilize, reason because the “SIM card” is important to you, you have a lot of info stored inside and so you wouldn’t let it go.

Patience is a virtue needed in marriage and as a couple, if you lack this, your marriage can never be blissful. Couples are so quick to file for a divorce even when they can calm their storm amicably.

Most people before marriage already concealed divorce in their mind, they already have the mindset that once you fall out of love with your partner, or you are no more attracted to your partner, or you guys have unresolved issues then you can file for a divorce. Such people can never be committed in their marriage, they feel is not so important, so once they are tired with their partner they just take a walk in another direction.

Marriage is actually “for better for worse”. you are the only one that can determine the state of your marriage. If you want the best then put in your best. Every marriage has its own storm, your duty is to calm the storm and let peace come in and not to ignore the storm or abandon your partner.

People have become so accustomed to quitting, this a selfish generation where people are so concerned about themselves. People are so career and socially conscious forgetting about family. Gone are the days when people value family and put them first. We have become so selfish that we only care about ourselves and leave our loved ones behind. I am not saying you shouldn’t pursue your career, but the issue of the “me! me!! me!!” mentality has eaten us so deep that commitment is no more valued, they are only after what they want and can get which can be correlated to the failed marriages and increase in divorce cases. If you so see marriage as an investment then being committed and putting in enough work would mean a good dividend in your marriage. Compromise is a difficult concept when it’s so easy to quit, when you can’t have your way, if we can’t let go of our selfish desires, then there will be an increase in failing marriage and divorce will be inevitable.

 

 the ideal kind of marriage?

The ideal kind of marriage is not all about respect, love, flirting around, having a fun time together, it also involves disagreeing and agreeing. Marriage is not all about butterflies and rainbows, but going through all that and still being committed to each other, coming out and holding hands on the other side of the wind is rainbows and butterflies and unicorns too.

An ideal marriage is a marriage where both parties have mutual respect, understands, and are committed to each other, stand by each other, tolerate, being sincere, faithful, and honest to each other. These things are the key players for a healthy relationship and Marriage. It might sound antiquated but you will agree with me, it’s better to have a peaceful and happy marriage than going through the process of divorce.

An ideal marriage doesn’t lack sincere communication. communication is the only means you can share your feelings, discuss and settle your differences. We blame technology for the cause of the communication gap, people no more sit face to face to listen to their loved ones, they prefer social media communication. The act of visual communication makes it easier to express yourself and your emotions are seen and felt from your facial expressions and body language.

The communication gap breaks the union and bond and slowly the love you once felt is gone, communication strengthens marriage when there is a crisis. Disagreeing to agree, accepting that you are at fault, and taking corrections without mixed feeling makes your relationship stronger and healthier.

ALSO, READ Causes of Lack of communication problem in marriage and in relationships

 

Food for thought

🌟 Love is not a foundation for marriage, but marriage is a foundation for love. Love alone cannot guarantee a peaceful marriage.

🌟 Understanding, faithfulness, trust, patience, unity, honesty are the key players for a successful marriage

🌟 Communication is one of the building blocks for a healthy marriage

🌟 Beauty only attracts but virtues keep the marriage.

🌟 There is no graduation in marriage, you keep learning.

🌟 Marriage requires a lot of work, you never stop working.

🌟 Commitment is an obligation or duty for couples to build a strong relationship.

🌟 Divorce should not be an option,try to work out your marriage.

🌟 Make the right choice of a life partner, never settle with someone for selfish reasons.

🌟 Learn to forgive always.

🌟 Make your partner your major priority.

🌟 Learn to always agree even after disagreeing.

🌟 Avoid pretentious attitude in courtship, be yourself, let your partner see and accept you for who you are.

 

A Little more piece

Marriage is a divine union of holy matrimony, love alone cannot sustain a marriage. Your commitment, understanding, fidelity, sincerity, and respect for each other are what will keep you going. Divorce should never be an option, except in cases of infidelity and abuse. Above all learn to forgive and always prioritize your partner in your life, be ready and willing to listen to your partner, and together always agree and treat each other as one.

Your marriage can become the best and exactly what you wished for if only you are ready to work and be committed to each other.

Lastly, no marriage is without storms, because you are two different people with different temperament, character, personality, and backgrounds, be willing to complete each other and make adjustments where necessary, always remember marriage is a lifetime commitment and investment and if you so believe it’s an investment then put in your best to get a positive outcome. Spice up your marriage and let it be a model for others.

ALSO, READ 5 REASONS YOU SHOULDN’T HIDE YOUR PHONE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

 

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Pros and cons of marrying a younger woman

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MARRYING A YONGER WOMAN

Marrying a younger woman these days doesn’t raise many eyebrows like before. Gone are those days, when the masses see it as marrying a lady young enough to be their daughter. But now, it has become pretty normal. A lot of people have asked me, what’s the age difference that shows that an older man is marrying an older lady?

I always replied then that it is when a man of 48 is getting married to a girl of 20. Then, it could be said that he’s marrying a younger woman. It can be thrilling when you marry a vibrant, clever, and pretty girl at old age. Choosing a life partner for men is much easier than ladies, it has always been said that “the younger the better”.

What are the Advantages of Marrying a Younger woman?

1. You’ll get a chance to become a father:

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One of the pros of marrying a younger woman is that you’ll get a better chance of becoming a father quickly. It means that if you marry a lady, who’s very close to your age as an old man, she may have reached menopause unknowingly to you. This will make it a problem for her to conceive.
Ladies ranging from teen to the age of 40 are much more fertile than a lady of 48. Therefore, you won’t pass the emotional torture of not having a child except there are other underlying factors that may cause her not to get pregnant.

2. You will keep up with new trends
Have you seen an old man tweeting or Instagraming? This is because someone has influenced him, it could be his kids or his new wife. When you get married to a younger lady, she’ll keep you up with the latest trend of technology. She’ll make your virtual life 10X more active and vibrant.

Even when she starts producing kids for you, your children would be so amazed how you were able to meet up with the latest trends. One of the advantages of keeping up with the new trends is that you’ll have less chance of someone trying to scam you because you know how things work!.

3. She’ll awaken your youthful Life Again
Marrying a younger lady is not like marrying an older woman; An older woman would prefer to sit at home all day, read books, watch TV or Visit a Family Member. But a younger woman would want to spice the relationship by making you guys go for a vacation, beaches, Cinemas, or Clubbing. She’ll raise you up from your armchair to explore the world. Definitely, you’ll enjoy Her youthful vim and vigor.

4.She’ll Never bore your sexual life
A younger woman would always want to utilize, explore and fulfill her youthful Age. She’ll never bore or deny you sex like an older woman. As an older woman’s age increases, she’ll start experiencing low libido. She can decide to stay a whole month without having sex with her husband, but this can’t happen when you marry a young woman.

5. She’s incredibly attractive (beauty satisfaction)
When you get married to a beautiful young lady, everyone around you would be envious of you; including your friends, family members, or at work.
Also, you feel satisfied and happy to flaunt her around.

ALSO, READ 14 THINGS EVERY WOMAN WANTS IN THE MORNING BUT WILL NEVER TELL YOU

What are the Disadvantages of Marrying a Younger woman?

1.She might get bored with you
Remember that you’re just like her father but primarily her husband! She might often get bored being around you
Why she might get bored around you?

• Your conversations might not align with hers. Because while she is talking about the latest trends, and you might be so backward in the conversation.
• You may choose to go to bed earlier than her while she wants to spend more time with you. this might make her bored.
• When she’s looking for who to have a conversation about the latest tv series on Netflix, you may be the last option she’ll go for.
What to do?

When she gets bored around you, what you need, is to learn how to adapt and make her feel she’s married to her age mate. Always distancing yourself from what she loves might make her cheat on you so quickly.

2. You can get uncomfortable with the other’s perception of your relationship
Irrespective of how bold you may be when you get married to her, you might be feeling so shy and uncomfortable with others’ perceptions. The first impression anyone would get when he/she gets close to the both two of you, would be; Is she your daughter? Wow! Your daughter looks so pretty? You guys look alike, are you guys related (or is she your daughter?).

3. You’ll be getting threats from Younger men
After marrying the young lady, you may start having the feeling that she’ll soon cheat on you with someone whose cutie, muscular, and has better stamina. Almost all men who engage themselves in marry a younger lady always experience this kind of insecurity.

4. You might get bored with her
In no #1, we talked about her getting bored around you, it could be a vice-versa too. For instance, if you’re trying to make a reference to a popular story that happened in the 1980s and you’re trying to tell her the story, she won’t flow well and this might make you get bored easily when you’re with her. Another minor incompatibility that you’ll notice is that,
• Your music taste differs.
• She might have little or no idea how to budget her money very well.
• Her immaturity might be exasperating.
• Her intellectual contribution might be vague.

5. Having a Younger wife makes you feel Older
One of the reasons why most men marry young women is for them to feel younger even when they are old. They’ll actually make you feel alive due to their bubbling nature and high energy. One way to you’ll know you’ll feel older is when you are in the midst of her friends, then you’ll know you don’t actually fit in. and probably you might have kids who are in the same age categories with her.
All marriages are the same, regardless of the age difference. What matters is love, honesty, communication, the ability to be open, and understanding. Then you’ll have a happy home.

Wrapping Up

Getting married to a younger woman that loves you alot is an amazing thing. The most important thing to keep at heart is to have fun with each other and live happily after.

ALSO, READ How to make a girl feel special in a relationship

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How to deal with disrespectful in-laws without stress

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Marriage is not just marrying your spouse, it’s also marrying the family of your spouse, which are your in-laws. There are mysteries you will unravel with time; a part of the mystery is with your in-laws.

One of the challenges faced in marriages is having disrespectful in-laws. Not every married couple experiences this, some in-laws turn out to be the best. There are in-laws who treat you as if you are from their bloodline. 

Getting an in-law who’s alive is a great privilege because you’d have an additional parent who’ll impart their wisdom from years of experience and also from matured sibling in-laws too.
The way most in-laws act towards you before marriage may be totally different after getting married to their child. If you’ve seen the signs of disrespectful in-laws, then you must be careful in dealing with them.

All you need to do is to be ready for the fight, till you win. Dealing with a disrespectful in-law is more like you’re fighting a battle.

10 Ways To Deal With Disrespectful In-Laws

Disrespectful in-laws can be a pain in the Ass if they are rude, cheeky, discourteous, and manipulative. Also if they have a negative influence on your spouse, it could cripple your marriage.

Having disrespectful in-laws doesn’t mean that your marriage will end. If you’re able to handle the whole matter very well, they may turn out to respect you 100%.
Always bear in mind that, problems are created to be solved, you can still make peace with your in-law. If you’ve been asking questions like, how can I deal with my in-laws who are disrespectful? Then, this article is for you.

1.Set Boundaries/Limitations
If you wish to leave a healthy life, then setting boundaries should be implemented. All you need to do is to, draw the line. If your in-laws are the type that wants you to cancel meetings just to please them, then you need to take action, so you won’t be treated like a puppet.

When you sir to their entire request, they’ll gradually lose their respect for you.
Always learn to handle things in your own way, without raising an eyebrow. When they need your time and you’re not there, learn to appreciate their concern but if your disrespectful in-laws still disrespect your boundaries, then you’ll bring forth the issue to your spouse.

The worst is staying close to your in-law’s apartment. If you are in that shoe or you know someone who’s doing that, then you need to advise that fellow to move out to a new apartment. Here are some of the rules you should employ to enable you set boundaries to your disrespectful in-laws.

• Avoid arguing too much/ raising topics that set off fireworks
• Every in-law (from both sides) that’s visiting should call first to avoid invading your privacy. They should make calling a prerequisite even if they’re living THE next street.
• Never allow your in-laws to override any decision you and your spouse make in the family. If they are giving you a piece of advice, that’s totally different!

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2. Avoid Public Conflict and Drama (Simply Ignore them)
If you’re in public with your disrespectful in-laws, try to give an arm’s length. Avoid anything that’ll bring embarrassment or fight to the both of you. Swallow all the nonsense which they may present you.
Simply ignore them, if you’re the type who always reacts to people, then you need to learn how to control your anger and just Ignore their snarky remarks.

3.Unite as a couple

unite as couples
Uniting as a couple is one of the best ways to fight disrespectful in-laws. Doing it alone might inflate the hatred they probably have for you. You cannot control or react except you come together as husband and wife.

For instance, if you’re a woman who’s married for 15years without having a baby, you’d imagine the shame, disgrace, and torture your in-laws would put you through. As a woman, you don’t have to keep quiet. You’ve to explain to your hubby how the torture is affecting your psychology, marriage, and other areas of life.

Have a good time/Open conversation with your spouse so you’d be able to tell them your awful experience with your disrespectful in-laws.
When having a conversation with your spouse about handing your disrespectful in-laws, never try to conclude because once your partner is on your side, your battle will be won.

4.Limit your interaction with your disrespectful in-laws
One of the best ways to deal with your toxic in-laws is to limit your interactions with them. A popular African Proverb says (Too much play brings no respect). This proverb is usually spoken to kids from an adult. It means that when you play with a child too much, in no time the child would gradually lose respect for you, irrespective of your age gap.

Whenever you notice this disrespect from a child, the best advice is to limit your conversation with the child. This applies to those who have disrespectful in-laws, when you notice the disrespect is growing, and then you need to give them a Gap.
When you give them some distance, they’ll begin to have respect for you. Also, they won’t have the opportunity to hurt you again and you’ll cry less.

5.Only spend time with disrespectful in-laws when your spouse is present
Don’t dare go there alone, it’s like visiting a zoo, probably the LION’S DEN!! You may regret ever going there. Your partner needs to be at the center of everything in case there is a fight from your abusive in-laws. For you to handle your abusive in-laws, never you spend time alone with them.

If your spouse sent you on an errand, then you could beg him that both of you should Go, he needs to grab the bull by its horns… Not all family in-laws have the gut to disrespect their child’s spouse in the presence of their son or daughter.
If your partner is around the home, there would be fewer issues compared to when one is left alone with their in-laws.

6.Summon the courage to tell them you’ve done nothing to be disrespected
Firstly, you don’t have to visit them and pop this up immediately you get there. They may also pop you out if you quickly do it. Look for a time when they are calm to boldly talk to them. If you have no concrete reason(s) for them to believe you, then you need to stop that Mission.

One of my best tactics of getting into someone is to make them feel bad about what they are doing, once you’re able to make them feel bad, they may start apologizing to you and may promise to be the best in-law to you.
When you have the opportunity to talk with your disrespectful in-laws, shoot your shot!!!

7.Turn your controlling sister-in-law into an ally
Handling your toxic in-laws takes a lot of wisdom. Turning your controlling sister-in-law into an ally might not be 100%. But you can smartly turn them to be against her parents and make you scale through the pain. But if she turns out to be her old self then you can trash her out.

8.Don’t take loans or favors from in-laws and don’t extend them as well
If you must regain your integrity, don’t take loans, grants, or any favor from them. When you do and you start giving them attitude, they’ll tell every member of their family that you aren’t loyal.

Some In-laws usually display all these favors to be in total control of their in-laws. Not accepting a favor from them doesn’t mean if they tend to give gifts during Christmas, you’ll now reject it.
Accepting gifts or any favor from disrespectful in-laws always comes with a string attached.

9.Go the professional route
If dealing with disrespectful in-laws is really giving you a tough time, it’s always better to seek a therapist’s help.
The counselor can equip you with effective tactics to deal with your in-laws without compromising your sanity.

Also, there could be some serious issues or underlying health problems that can be causing your in-laws to behave in an unhealthy or spiteful way.

In this case, you can take your spouse’s help and persuade your in-laws to try out counseling or therapy for themselves. The therapist will be able to get to the roots of their toxic behavior and help them through effectively.
The psychologist will teach you useful methods for coping with your in-laws without jeopardizing your sanity.

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