WHY HE IS POSTPONING THE MARRIAGE
Marriage is an eternal bond, a bond ordained by God himself, Genesis chapter 2 verse 24: therefore shall a man leave his father and mother and shall cleave unto is a wife and they shall become one flesh.
Marriage in this part of the world is seen as a necessity and mandatory for all. it’s every young girl’s dream and many look forward to it.
It becomes a problem, especially for the ladies when the guy they intend getting married to keeps postponing the marriage, the lady gets scared and lose hope in getting married, just because the guy postpone the marriage which might also be a sign he doesn’t want to marry her. We would be looking at some reason why he is postponing the marriage.
These are some reason why he is postponing the marriage:
1 Financial issue:
This is one of the major reasons why he might be postponing the marriage, most men compare the budget with their income and are scared of going into financial crisis, so the majority of them want to make more money to give their woman a befitting wedding.
it is every young man’s dream to be very rich before marriage, your partner might be passing through some financial crises, hence fear may arise which may lead him to postpone the marriage.
2 Benefits of cohabitation:
most couples practice cohabitation; that is leaving together, some men have gotten so used to that kind of life without much responsibility and doesn’t want to move to the next level, where more responsibility awaits them.
3 Enjoying the single life:
most men tend to postpone marriages because they enjoy being single, they could go to the clubhouse, flirt with any girl of their choice, and they know once they are married they won’t be able to do all this so they want to enjoy being single more.
4 Unsure of Compatibility:
this tends to happen when the lady starts showing some weird behavior and exhibiting some kind of characters, they start having second thoughts about the supposed marriage and to be sure they postpone the marriage to be certain if this is the woman they want to spend the rest of their life with.
5 Scared of commitment:
generally, as humans we find it hard to be committed to something, our tastes tend to change, the same for the men when it comes to marriage. They are scared that what if their taste changes after marriage and then I hurt her, this and other thoughts go through their minds.
6 Scared of responsibility:
humans as a whole, are scared of taking responsibility at a point in time. For the men this few thoughts might go through their head; what if am not a good husband, what if I can’t look out for my family, will I be able to provide their need?, will I be a good father to my children?. These and so many others go through their mind, and some have to postpone the marriage, just to be sure they can handle marriage.
7 Family issues:
This is when your boo’s family is against your union. I had a friend who fell a victim to this, she and her boyfriend have been dating for a year and half. when he proposed, I was really happy for her, I should get ready for asoebi I thought to myself and silently pray for mine.
She had told me she was going to her soon to be in-laws, for introduction stuff and all, I wished her good luck. Babe came to my apartment the next day crying, I asked what happened and all she could mumble was his parents don’t like my tribe, despite so many attempts to reach out to the guy’s family, all proved abortive and they had to end up splitting.
Some other minor reason why he is postponing the marriage are:
8 The opportunity to have sex whenever he wants.
9 He is scared of the changes and compromises that come with marriage.
10 He is scared of divorce.
11 Personal trust issues.
In conclusion, most men don’t postpone marriage because they want to hurt you or make you feel bad, rather they do it because they want the best for you. So when your guy postpones your marriage, ask him why? talk about it together and find a way through it.
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