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Why Do Guys Kiss Aggressively?



Why Do Guys Kiss Aggressively

What Does it Mean to Kiss Aggressively?

Kissing is an expression of Love! Kissing is also a sign that shows how connected you are to that individual. But aggressive kissing has a different meaning to some persons.. Aggressive Kissing is when the kiss becomes violent, forceful, pugnacious, and combative in nature.  Aggressive kissing may also be a romantic way of expressing oneself. Aggressive kissing may also involve aggressive lip-bitting.

In this article, we’d be discussing the reasons why guys kiss aggressively

7 Reasons why guys kiss aggressively

  1. He might be looking for an Opportunity for it:

Have you ignored or making a guy stranded for a kiss? If no, then get ready for an aggressive one! One way for a guy to get a free kiss from you is by kissing you without permission. Many guys are opportunists, and every slightest opportunity they get, they tend to use it.

The nature of aggressive kissing

In aggressive kissing, the guy would kiss you (maybe passionately) and hold the back of your head firmly for him not to lose grip. Sometimes when a guy does that, if the girl really likes him, she would reciprocate it.


  1. You offended Him

Some men have this habit of kissing their woman aggressively when they offend him. Most men use this medium as a tool for channeling their anger into something different. when you make them angry, instead of them yelling at you or beat you up, they make choose to kiss you forcefully to reduce their anger. If you notice this kind of behavior,  try to inquire some information about “why he’s doing it”.

Not all men do this; some may prefer to kiss their partner aggressively when they offend them. They use this as the first form of apology.

  1. Urgent Need in Sexual Satisfaction with You

This Mostly Happens especially when you guys are practicing a long-distance relationship. Even without having the urge for sexual intimacy, the sight of you seeing your partner for a very long time will want to make him kiss you aggressively.

Also, when he’s h*rny,  he may want to kiss you aggressively, because he knows you can’t resist him, thereby yielding to his desires. Although some guys have the inability to control their feelings, the only way for them to get what they want is to kiss you aggressively.

ALSO, READ Reasons Why Kissing Is Important In A Relationship

4. They might not be in the mood for it.

Some guys may kiss you because they just want to please you and not ignore you. there are several reasons why he may not be in the mood for kissing, this could be that he’s busy, having issues at work, or financial crisis at the moment. No one would be happy if he/she is denied what he/she normally has access to. Hence, he wouldn’t risk making you angry. When you force him to kiss, definitely he won’t pay attention and it could result in him kissing you aggressively.

  1. He might Still Be An Amateur in the Game

Not everyone who enters into a relationship is actually a pro, some enter to learn. Even in marriage, some people end up getting married to someone who’s not romantic or knows little about it.

There are men who are not friendly or too romantic with their partner, this may make them kiss you aggressively. It’s not that they actually hate you, but it’s has become a part of them.

Also, there are some men who do some difficult handiwork as their day-to-day job activities.  A lot of them usually carry that trait to the bedroom. Imagine dating a guy who carried 200 bags of cement (weight 50kag) daily or a man who carries up to 300 pieces(of 30kg) of a rod, and he carries such an aggressive attitude in kissing, how would it be?  It could be his nature.

How to help him out?

Talk to him about it, especially if you’re not comfy with the kissing technique he’s using.  Make him a better person. You can do that by teaching him… don’t abuse or laugh at him, just be Nice. Always remember that being in a relationship should make you a better person. Make him be that person you desire!!


6.He probably wants to run away from You

Here, you don’t need any prophet to tell you that he’s planning to leave you. you’d notice he has a passion for doing it, he just wants to do it aggressively and go.  You’d notice that whenever he kisses you, he’ll always leave you pissed.

  1. He gives a wrong signal that you’re enjoying it.

Inability to observe and understand the mood, and emotional status of your partner will always make you take the right decision at the wrong time. People see movies, watch what happens without taking a good survey of what, to whom, or why it happens. A lot of people think that aggressive kissing is one of the best ways to make your partner be in the mood. That’s a big No. at times your partner may think you’re enjoying it, this may make him want to kiss you all the time.

A Word from Relationship Seeds

Aggressive kissing might be amazing to some set of persons if both partners is in agreement with it at that particular time. But if you notice that’s the only way for him to grab sex from you quickly then you need to talk to him.

He might be having psychological issues, if such as issue is not treated quickly, it could result in him raping you some day. When You notice it, endeavor to take him to see a therapist.

Secondly, encourage low and romantic kissing techniques.

Finally, always let him know that he can have you at any time, he don’t necessarily have to pass through the fire of kissing you aggressively.


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How to control your sexual urges




How to control your sexual urges ( BEST TECHNIQUES)

This is one topic of discussion we normally skip talking about. A lot of persons preach abstinence from sexual activities as a single but almost no one teaches how to control sexual urges which is the main cause of sexual sins. Whether as single or married, a high sex drive can be difficult to deal with. Especially when it is abnormal.

Sexual urges are normal with humans but become abnormal when it is excessive. An excessive sex drive is one that is too frequent and distracts you from productive activities.
For most men, wild sexual urges are their everyday nightmare. Even young boys. Not that women don’t have sexual urges, but women aren’t wired to be sexually sensitive like the man.
Some men get aroused at the mere sight of a fully clothed woman. At any slight provocation, they begin to have erections. I have met a young man whose sexual urge is like hunger pangs. At every hour of the day, except when he is on cigarettes, he is desirous to have sex, and somehow he can’t seem to control himself.

It is as though a force stronger than him is motivating him to have sex all the time. There is always this strong urge pushing him to grab a lady and strip her pants down. Several times, I have seen him beg unknown ladies for sex and get himself embarrassed in the end. You could imagine such a situation, how terrible!

Yet, no matter how many times he gets embarrassed or disgraced, he still continues in the practice. Wild sexual urges is a nightmare you won’t wish anyone.
It is an extreme that traps only a few people. On average, you could find one out of ten people struggling with wild sexual desires, mostly guys. It is very possible to get to that end if you don’t begin to fight for control now.
Excessive sexual desires have destroyed a lot of relationships and separated a number of partners. If you don’t deal with it, it can come in between you and your partner especially when they find it unbearable.
An exceptional case is persistent genital arousal disorder(PGAD)
It happens without any stimulation and can last for hours, days, or weeks.
PGAD is mostly found in women. Only a few cases have been found in men. In men, it is called Priapism.
Most people use masturbation to relieve themselves, but that brings a short-term relief after which the numbness returns and in some cases, it could increase the symptoms or cause it to last longer.
Masturbation is definitely not a perfect solution to deal with a sexual urge. It is no solution at all.

There are a few treatment options that are open to you, numbing gels, electroconvulsive therapy (used in cases where mental disorders like bipolar are concerned.
PGAD has been linked with depression, so taking anti-depressants could also help. Cognitive-behavioral therapy helps you control your negative emotions and symptoms that can exacerbate the symptoms.
There are main symptoms of PGAD that include.
• Face and neck becoming red or flushed.
• Abnormal heart rate.
• Shallow rapid breathing.
• Pain in the genital area.
• It usually accompanies cases of mental health issues.
See a doctor to verify.
However, You don’t have to wait for any of these symptoms or for your urges to get wild before you begin to fight for ways to gain control over your sexual urges.
As an individual, you ought to be in control of yourself, your emotions, and your feelings.
There is one rule to being in control, DISCIPLINE.
To be in control over your lifestyle, you have to be disciplined. Nobody has the ability to wield control other than you.
Wielding control can prove to be very difficult but not when you
lower your sex drive
Below is a list of practical tips to help you gain control over your sexual desires and reduce excessive libido

1. Talk about it:

This is a therapeutic tip that helps both couples and singles. Although, sex is not what most people are comfortable talking about. It is a very private and personal topic we mostly seek to avoid. Communication is actually very therapeutic as it breeds understanding which is necessary for overcoming any overwhelming issue.

There are two types of sex therapy.
a. Couples sex therapy: 80% of couples worldwide experience sex drive mismatch. Sex drive mismatch is a case where one partner has a higher drive. this evenness doesn’t in any way spell doom in your relationship. You could cope with it by going for sex therapy with your spouse, where you both will communicate and become in sync with each other.
The main objective is to investigate and study your sex lives, to discover what you both want from sex.
You and your partner can work on building your sexual connection and developing intimacy. Hence, you are shifting the focus from sex to intimacy which is a stronger need in building a solid relationship.
You also need to be sure that the excessive sex drive is not as a result of PGAD. This is why therapy is important if the therapist feels that there are symptoms of it. he/ she would direct you to take a test.
And suggest medications. Do not feel you can handle it alone. Seeing a therapist is very important.

b. Individual sex therapy:

sex therapies also work for individuals with a strange and rare sex drive and have probably developed negative habits to deal with sexual urges.
It has been discovered that an excessive drive can be as a result of depression. It is one common result of not being happy with oneself or feeling out of control.
If you have any such symptoms, you need to speak with someone, preferably a friend or a therapist, or a psychosexual therapist in particular. There are treatments you can take to reduce your sex drives.

2. Distract yourself:

we have talked about how to handle high sex drives. To reduce or control sexual drives, you have to distract yourself from the feeling. Sexual drives can be strong and be very distracting, sometimes they threaten to be overpowering but you just to be in control. One control mechanism is engaging in activities you derive pleasure in, it could be watching movies, playing games, an exercise, or any engaging activity. Make sure your distraction is engaging and would require you to be active. You don’t want your mind to be lazy about and paying attention to the feelings surging through your body. So, find a solid distraction and focus on it, then you’ll get over such sexual desires.

3. Remove yourself from the triggering situation:

Identify the triggers and avoid them. There are environments, situations, activities, positions, and talks that could bring about sexual urges. Try as much as possible to avoid them and don’t hesitate to walk away from them if you accidentally find yourself there.

4. Get out of your current environment:

taking a physical walk out wherever you are when the urge comes upon you and try to release some energy by taking a walk if you can. You’d notice that most tips I have given are centered on energy and gaining control of yourself. This is because sexual urges can be exhaustive but when you exhaust yourself by doing something productive or energy-intensive, the possibility of the urges coming is lesser because your body is tired and cannot respond. This is not me saying that you should go ahead and get yourself exhausted every day so you won’t be bothered by sexual urges. Taking a walk enables you to release energy and possibly distract yourself.

5. Watch what you feed on and the people you mingle with:

your lifestyle could also be a spurn for sexual urges. When you interact with sexual materials and engage in sex discussions throughout your day, you should expect a bumper of sexual urges at night. Avoid sex materials and conversations that are focused on sex.

6. Find effective methods to control your thoughts:

engage your mind at all times. they say the idle mind is…. You can fill it in yourself. So, find a grip over your mind. Sexual urges begin from the mind before you start feeling the sensations in your body. Certain individuals feel that it is impossible to control the mind; that man is subject and a slave to his mind.

if you a subscriber to that school of thought, you need to unsubscribe today. because the fact is, you have control over your mind. Yes, you can control what sits in your head, for how long, and the impact it’ll have on your body. Nothing can gain dominance if you don’t make it comfortable. Before I go on talking, there are basic ways to control your thoughts. You need to locate the door of your head and put a steady lock there.
One method that works for me is talking to myself and using imagination to realign my mind to what I want to focus on.

7. Minimize stress:

The times I ever felt sexual urges in my life were times when I was mentally or physically drained. Flee from stress! getting busy and productive doesn’t involve burying yourselves with activities until you are not just physically stressed but also mentally drained. At that time, strange chemicals are released in your body that could make you begin to desire sex. Live a mentally healthy life, it is when you are down and emotionally stressed that your body begins to desire sex.

8. Engage in newfound hobbies and leave no break time:

if you’re anything like me, you should be able to create and adjust to new hobbies easily. The new hobby thing is to get you excited and motivated at all times.

I believe that this article has given you some helpful tips on how to control your sexual urges and overcome high sex drives. A very powerful tip you should consider nonetheless is; prayer.
You can consider building an intimate relationship with God through prayer and communicate with him your issue. The truth is, he knows you need control over your sexual urges but he wants you to ask and he will respond.
The closer to God you become (not the more you go to church… they are two different things) the more control you gain over your sexual urges and otherwise.
It is possible to be sexually pure. You can be chaste physically and mentally.

ALSO, READ How Pornography Can Destroy Your Marriage

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Abortion vs Keeping the Child outside Marriage



Abortion vs Keeping the Child outside Marriage

Abortion vs Keeping the Child outside Marriage

Should I abort or not abort? Which choice is better for me since we are not yet married.

Carrying out an abortion can be very overwhelming and alarming especially when you’re in a country that has set up legislation against abortion. That is to say, abortion would be illegal and unsafe in such regions. But then again, keeping a child especially if you’re not ready to have kids right now can be quite alarming as well. Especially, if you don’t have money or are still actively pursuing your career and the child’s father is not responsible enough to take care of a child right now.

Well before considering abortion as a first choice, there are certain questions you need to ask yourself.

Seven questions to ask yourself before considering Abortion

1. Is abortion the best option for me?

Abortion is not rare, it is so common, and people are having abortions for several reasons.  You are the only one who knows what is good for you and that is dependent on two factors. Firstly, The accurate information on abortion you have and support from friends, family, and medical practitioners.

2. Why do people choose abortion?

If you’re thinking about having an abortion, you’re not alone. A whole lot of people face unplanned pregnancies every year. About 4 out of 10 of them decide to get an abortion. Even some people with planned pregnancies also get abortions because of health or safety reasons. The decision could be simple or at other times, it’s complicated. But either way, you’re the only person who has the final say.

Everyone has their own unique and valid reasons for having an abortion. Below are some of the different reasons people decide to go for an abortion:

  • They’re not ready to become a parent yet.
  • It’s not the right time in their life to have a baby.
  • They want to finish school, focus on building their career, and achieve other life goals before having a baby.
  • The pregnancy was a result of a ‘fling’. They are not in a serious relationship with the man involved.
  • They’re in an abusive relationship or were sexually assaulted.
  • The pregnancy is dangerous or bad for their mental/physical health.
  • The fetus might die during childbirth due to an underlying sickness or will suffer after the birth.

Deciding to have an abortion doesn’t mean you don’t want or love children.  People who had an abortion often go on to have a baby later, when they feel they are in a better position to be a good parent. The most important thing in deciding if and when to have a baby is very personal, and only you know what’s best for your life.

3. What can I think about to help me choose wisely?

Family, relationships, school, work, life goals, health, safety, and personal beliefs — people think carefully about these things before having an abortion.

Here are some things to consider if you are thinking about an abortion:

  • Am I ready to be a parent?
  • What would it mean for my future if I had a child now?
  • What would it mean for my family if I had a child now?
  • How would being a parent affect my career goals?
  • Is anyone pressuring me to have or not have an abortion?
  • Would having a baby change my life in a way I don’t like?
  • What kind of support would I need and get if I decided to get an abortion?
  • What kind of support would I need and get if I decided to keep the baby?


  1. Aside from abortion, are there any other options I can take without having to be a parent?

Many people choose abortion because they feel is the only way to avoid being plunged into unplanned parenthood. But that’s not actually true. Adoption is a good choice if parenting is what scares one in keeping the baby. Through support from family and friends, you can decide to have the baby and put him/her up for adoption. Some other people I have known have the baby and their parents serve as foster parents while they focus more on their careers. When they become stable and in a better place, they can now assume parenting. But this option could be difficult if one doesn’t have supportive parents!


  1. Do I have strong personal or religious beliefs about abortion?

If you have a serious personal or religious belief that’s totally against abortion, I feel you must give it a second thought. Our beliefs shape our values and the way we see life and relationships with others. We can’t throw that into the wind when making important life-changing decisions.

Decisions about your pregnancy are deeply personal. You hold the power to make decisions that are best for you in order to stay true to yourself. There are tons of things to consider, and it’s normal to have several feelings and thoughts when making this decision. That’s why it’s important to get factual, non-judgmental information about abortion. Support from one’s family, friends, partners, and other people you trust can also be helpful in that period.

6. Who are the people should I consider talking to when trying to make a decision?

Lots of people lean on others to help them with their decision. It’s good to choose people who you know are understanding and supportive of you. People who are more knowledgeable about these things could help like good family planning centers and private doctors who can help you talk about your decision. But be careful when looking for a reliable health center, because some fake clinics or clinics are judgmental.

7. How long should I take to make the decision?

It’s important to take your time you need to make the best decision for you. It’s also a good idea to talk to a nurse or doctor as soon as you can so that you can get the best medical care possible.

The aftermath of abortion or keeping the child.

It is important to know after having an abortion or keeping the baby that you need not feel guilty or condemned. You have to heal and move on. Secondly, when you decide to have an abortion or have the baby, you must stand by your decision, that means when you enter a serious committed relationship you must let your partner know of what you once did. Finally, if you’re going to be sexually active after going for an abortion or having a baby, you should be sexually responsible. That is, look for the best option on how you could avoid unplanned pregnancy. They are several birth control pills and contraceptives available. You can meet your health provider to assist you in choosing the best way to avoid unplanned pregnancy in future. Good luck!!


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 How to Use a male condom correctly- 13 Safety Tips




 How to Use a male condom correctly

Learning how to use a male condom correctly is very important in sex because it goes a long In determining how long a sex can last. Why? Because the improper use of condoms can cause a break in pleasure during sex (especially those niggas having sex with a hooker).

Just imagine you having sex with your partner and the condom got busted. How will you feel? Especially when you know your partner is a cheat or you’re having sex with a prostitute, or you don’t trust her. You would feel like you’ve been infected already.  20% of people who experience this never the sex.


10  Safety Tips on How to Use male condoms

1. The first step to embark on before using a condom is to check the expiry date. Check if it’s still good to use or if it has expired.

2. A condom should be disposed, immediately after Use. The Ideal of Washing a condom after use should not be indulged no matter how quality the condom is. So never use a condom twice.

When you use a condom once it tends to lose a high percentage of its elasticity.

  1. Never use teeth to open the package of the condom. All you have to do is to carefully use your fingers to open it so that you won’t sabotage the condom.  Make sure your finger doesn’t have a sharp edge.
  2. Avoid using Vaseline or other oil lubricants on the condom. Every condom producing company lubricates their condoms with oil.
  3. As Nervous as you are to have sex, avoid rushing to wear the umbrella (condom). Always make sure that there is no hole or tear in the condom to allow air into it.
  4. Try to squeeze the tip of the condom (but not too hard). Reasons: To remove any small air present in it.
  5. Never put the condom when you are not yet hard. Condoms should only be put on an erect penis.
  6. Wear the full length of the protection over the hard penis. Don’t leave it halfway. Take it as if you’re wearing a trouser.picture of a condom that is half way
  7. After wearing the condom on your penis, leave a small space between the end of the penis and also the tip of the condom.
  8. Before putting on the condom there shouldn’t be any contact between the penis and the vagina. The penis should be dry. Any contact with the Vagina can make the penis surface slippery.

When the penis is slippery and you want to put it on a slippery condom it won’t work well.

  1. After having sexual intercourse, while removing the condom from the erect penis, hold the tip of the condom tightly over the penis before detaching it from the vagina.
  2. Check the tip of the protection you bought to make sure that there is no tear.
  3. After using a condom, it should be wrapped in a tissue paper and thrown into a PIT OR DUSTBIN.
  4. Always buy new Condoms every time you want to have sex.

NB: Note that the style of contraception is not 100% effective in preventing pregnancy and against sexually transmitted infection. We also have female condoms.


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