Why Do Guys Kiss Aggressively?

Have you ever wondered why your man or guy kisses you so aggressively? To the extent you keep asking why he did that. Have you experienced the hotness of aggressive kissing and the doubts it leaves in your heart? The pushing to the wall? Lips-locking? Neck-licking? Weird lizard-tongue darting? Unending kisses on your body: your ear lobe, neck, cheeks, chin, nose, and other parts that take your breath away?

The part that comes like a missile from all these ancient wars? Like he is going to eat you alive? The vampire bite? Ouch! That hurts! Lol! I doubt you still want more or wanna keep it slow and steady.

You know your guy is a good kisser, but you don’t understand why he kisses you so aggressively without letting you kiss back. You keep wondering what is wrong and why he keeps doing that. You try to talk to him or make him see that you are not getting the messages he is trying to communicate but he chose to keep doing that. You are not alone on this. We understand that kind of feeling it gives and all those questions in your heart.

In this article, we have extensively conducted our research on different guys and came up with eight(8) reasons why guys kiss aggressively and some healthy tips to help you get in control of it.

What Does it Mean to Kiss Aggressively?

Some researchers said that an aggressive kissing, in some way, is a form of showing love, romance, passion or affection, sexual attraction or activity to others, or a way to run away from their partners or problems or control their anger, jealousy, or pains. 

Aggressive Kissing simply means when a kiss becomes forceful, belligerent, violet, and combative or aggressively locking of lips.

Some might end up biting or inflicting wounds on your lips while doing so. Aggressive kissing comes in different ways.

Kissing, on the other hand, is an expression of love, emotions, passion or affection, romance, respect, greeting, good luck, or sexual activity. It symbolizes the love you have deeply for a particular individual and how connected you two are to each other. 

To kiss aggressively means there is more to what the person is trying to communicate rather than the kissing which shows love and affection. Not all aggressive kissing is bad, some can also mean a way of expressing oneself romantically and deriving satisfaction in sexual intimacy with your partners.

8 Reasons why guys kiss aggressively

1…Urgent Need in Sexual Satisfaction with You.

I called this the “Long distance urgent” kiss. This occurs when you two haven’t seen each other for a long time, and you two have been involved in these romantic chats and all these “I can’t wait to see you” butterfly feelings. The desire, the urge, the sexual appetite that has not been fed for a long time might push him to kiss you so aggressively till you beg for breath. 

Let me tell you a secret: my boyfriend is one-hell-of-a-guy, who knows how to put you right in the mood with that kind of kissing. This is one thing that shows that he has been thinking about me and has this unquenchable desire to have me by his side. And when he does that, you know that kind of white-hot passion that fused a couple and promised to keep their bond toasty for a long haul. I really can’t get enough of that.

So, if your guy kisses you like this and you have been practicing a long-distance relationship, it means he misses you so much and desires to have you again and again.

Although, not all guys can kiss so aggressively even though they haven’t seen you in a long time. Some can control their feelings very well while some inability to control their sexual urges makes them kiss you so hard. And some guys always do that whenever they are about to ejaculate. To his peak of releasing sperm, he might need to kiss you so violently to help him do so and after that, he will resort to that gentle lovely bird.

2…He might Still Be An Amateur in the Game

Ouch! I know how it hurts when your guy keeps kissing you and you not getting anything at all. Like he keeps making that “husky” sounds that want to make you throw up and scream, “Get your mouth off me!” Well, not everyone that is dating is a pro in this kind of thing.

Some need to learn and this also happens right in marriage. Not every guy can kiss well or knows what to do in that situation. The only thing he can do then is to kiss you so aggressively thinking he is doing it right. To you, we know he is getting it all wrong.

All you have to do is to understand he is still an amateur in this game and you need to sit him down and tell or teach him how to do that. You can recommend a kissing movie or download some good videos on kissing on YouTube. Remember, don’t scare him off like a scared little cat while doing so. Just play the good girl and that love every amateur wants to have.

3…Nature of Their Job/Work.

Yeah! This is one of the reasons why some guys kiss aggressively because the nature of their jobs/work is getting in the way. Imagine, a truck pusher or weightlifter, or someone who does a hard job daily starting a slow, sweet, tender, luxurious, sexy give-and-take kiss with you. He might turn out to drag your neck and suck the hell out of you thinking you are enjoying it.

It is advisable to slow him down and go get your breath. Lol! I’m kidding. You just need to let him know that, you are not his work/job but someone that looks like him. You are a human and not one fine doll. Let him know this is not a war but a long romantic lovemaking. I bet you, he would get the message and take things slowly next time.

4…He might be looking for an opportunity for it.

Guys are opportunists and they love the shock that comes with it. Kissing you when your mind is somewhere or when you are busy with another thing. Or when he has been ignored or stranded for a kiss for a long time. He might give you this smile and next thing, he leaves you asking some sort of questions before you know it, he kisses you so violently and flees.

On the other hand, some ladies love that part a lot. Sometimes, it depends on the message you give to him whenever he does that. Whether you love it or not. This makes him go deeper every time he finds the opportunity to kiss you. And I tell you, it would be so aggressive and hot.

5…When offended or as a form of apology.

Some men, naturally, have the attitudes of dominating when they are angry or sorry for whatever things happened, especially in this couple’s conflict. They use this as a medium of channeling their agitation, anger, pains, obsession, and jealousy or apologizing when kissing you. And that kiss always turns out to be an aggressive one to think of.

Peradventure, they may see it as a form of punishment or apology towards you. In this lady’s group I am in, someone said:

“Some guys won’t say sorry or their minds when they are angry but would kiss the hell of you depending on what situation they find themselves in.”

This is the only way he knows how to do so and it is left for you to know which one he is trying to pass to you.

6…He probably wants to get away from You

Some guys engage in this kind of kiss when they want to run away from you. This leaves you so pissed off and the worst is they don’t want to hear or listen to whatever or how you feel about it. 

One thing you need to know is to find out what is wrong. Why does he want to get away from you? Where you are not getting it and the reason he is acting like that? This will help you know the next step to take.

7…They might be busy or not in the mood for it.

When a guy is not in the mood for a kiss, he tends to give you that quick, aggressive kiss just not to offend you. At that point, he is trying to please you and not himself. This might be some problems he is facing in his life, at work, or other things that are giving him a headache.

This is not a thing you should worry about but try to find out why he is acting that way. He might hesitate at first to tell you, but just let him know that you really love him and are always there for him. He might open up to you and this helps a lot.

8…He gets the wrong message that you’re enjoying it.

This is also one of the reasons guys do kiss so aggressively without getting the full message. This occurs when you as a lady tend to enjoy aggressive kissing but your partner can’t do it right due to the wrong message you are passing to him.

You might know he is overdoing it but you chose to stay that way even though you are not enjoying or happy about it. Your inability to observe your partner’s mood, emotions, and sexual gestures might give them the wrong information about what they are doing.

It is left for you to tell him that you love to be kissed aggressively, but not the way he is doing it. With time, he will adjust to the pattern you want and give you that hot, violent kiss that makes you wanna think again.

A Word from Relationship Seeds.

Aggressive kissing is one of the types of kisses we have seen a lot due to the hunger, drive, and urges that surge it not minding whether we are doing it right or even getting the message.

It might be amazing sometimes or becomes a barrier in our relationship or marriage. If you are the type that enjoys aggressive kissing, it won’t be a problem to take charge or teach your partner when he is not getting it right. But mind you, not all partners also enjoy this kind of kiss. You have to make sure you are not being selfish or demanding, leaving him so devastated whenever you two meet. This also goes for the guys too.

Secondly, if your partner is obsessed over that, you need to have a heart-to-heart talk with him and if you need to see a therapist, you can do so but only if he agreed. Don’t force him to see anyone, please.

Thirdly, you have to be careful whenever he starts that with you especially if you don’t like it to avoid raping or inflicting wounds on you. It also would be best if you involve him in slow kissing techniques and romantic lip-locking. This will help him calm down and play along with you without dragging your lips out. 

Finally, let him understand that you are his woman and he can have you any time without engaging in aggressive kissing. 

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