Why money is not always important in a relationship
It is important to know that money is just a tool and at the same time not always important in a relationship. So many people, especially the men: think that they must be financially stable to chases after women, which is a very wrong idea.
While some ladies this that a rich man is always the perfect man for her. Here are
7 REASONS WHY MONEY IS NOT ALWAYS IMPORTANT IN A RELATIONSHIP
- Money can’t save a dying relationship
Money is a tangible part of every relationship but it can’t save a relationship that is dying especially issues of the heart which money can’t buy…
Some people think that if they are having issues in their relationship all they need to do is buy their partners gifts or send them money but in a case of a dying relationship which is emotionally tasking to revive because it requires truth, honesty, time and good listening and communication these factors are what money can’t no matter what …
.money can only save a dying relationship if the main reason for the relationship is because of money…
- Money Attracts False Emotions
The relationship between money and our minds are like two strings knit together. Money has the power to unconsciously remote feelings and emotions. Many relationships today are built on the foundation of money than love itself. Couples may or may not be conscious of this.
We tend to feel we’re in love easily when we get whatever we want. Come to think of receiving expensive gifts, shopping, and whatever it is. Now let’s take a flip to the other side, where the money is the cause of all arguments.
You might feel your partner is not being romantic by buying you a flower or going out to lovely places. All these lead to money matters.
I was in a relationship where our happiness was driven only when we both had money. Most at times, we find ourselves being romantic because the was something to spend with. We always have issues whenever there is a financial challenge.
Happiness can be bought because, when you get her that very nice hair, she’s happy. When you give him an expensive phone as a present, he showers you with more love. When you grant her every money request, you are called the best man in the world.
Other times when he says he has other plans and cannot get your mom a birthday present. And then tell him you have no money while his son a sickbed.
And then you’ll understand what I meant when I say money attracts false emotions.
You could either fall in fall with him or her or it could just be the money. Without pushing harder, we all are familiar with the results of these kinds of relationships.
3. Money Cannot Buy Love.
Money has become an essential part of life. It has made its way into love and relationships. To some, it is only a basic necessity while to others, it is the foundation.
It wouldn’t be an exaggerated expression or a wrong assertion to say that almost everyone works for money. Money is very essential, and a currency of intrinsic value with which debts are payable and new things acquired.
However, regardless of its seeming value, money cannot buy love. Love is a natural feeling of attraction and total acceptance for someone or thing. Love cannot be forced or bought. To love someone, you bear their interest at heart and want the best for them. Money can buy houses, designer bags, shoes, and other material things but not love. Love is not a commodity you can buy from the market or mall. Affection is earned not bought. Love is a natural endearment for someone. Love requires total trust and sacrifice for someone.
Most people have the misconception that money can fix every problem. This has led to failed relationships and marriages as people, for the love of money reach a binding agreement or oath to be together. Money does not heal a broken heart either does it prevent sadness, anger, or fear. True love casts out fear and heals a broken heart. A good number of wealthy people have made known their feeling of emptiness and sadness. This further explains that money is not a key to genuine happiness. True love begets happiness and gives peace of mind. Love is a feeling and not a material item.
4. Money can’t buy love.
Money, as a matter of importance, cannot buy true love. True love doesn’t depend on feeble things as money. However, we must also understand that money is an indispensable factor in a relationship.
Money makes the world go round, and it is vital to the relationship’s welfare. If money is an issue in a relationship, it will still not break it except one party gets greedy. And decides he/she can’t take it anymore.
Conclusively, I will love to ask you this question, do you know the ultimate reason why relationships break is commitment. No matter what the issue is, no matter how terrible the situation is, as long as both couples decide to stay committed to the relationship, it will not break.
Before now, I used to think cheating was the highest thing that can break a relationship. On the other hand, that has overtime proved to be false. I have seen couples with cheating problems overcome it and come out stronger. Therefore, money is far smaller an issue to cheating.
5. Money can’t save a relationship.
Money can’t save a relationship, and I asked Juliet again, just how loud do you need me to scream it. Juliet was a beautiful 27year old blonde. She was a hairstylist with a few career accomplishments to her name.
However, it seems she keeps meeting the wrong ones. That is to say, it was like a plague. All the men she ever dated were terrible eggs. And now, just like in times past, another descendant of Adam has broken her heart. The funny thing is that she thought money could save this relationship.
I have subsequently told people times and again that a relationship is not like a practical science run in a chemistry laboratory where there is a guideline of how the scientist should run things and the outcome is
specific. Also, what works for a relationship may not necessarily work for the other. Therefore, it is only when the persons involved in a relationship are ‘money people’ or money-conscious people that money
can save their relationship.
If you have a money problem, then you need a money solution. However, if you have a love problem, what you need is more love. A relationship is not a business enterprise. Even in a failing business enterprise, only money can’t also save it.
What the business lacks may be proper management, Branding, advertisement, to mention a few. Not all failing businesses need money, but all failing businesses need investment. My point is, a relationship is
not a business enterprise, so you don’t need money to run it. And, that means you don’t need money to save it.
6. A salary doesn’t define a person
The amount of money in your bank doesn’t define who you are but the character does.
Money can make you believe anything, money is deceptive.
If you aren’t alert enough, you will think your man is heaven-sent, whereas he’s a devil in disguise.
Don’t be foolish by the captivating power of money.
- Your heart doesn’t live in your wallet
One’s wallet cannot inhabit one’s heart, because they are used differently and have different habitation. True, this has a literal meaning, especially in relationships.
Long man dictionary describes the heart as the seat of emotion, it’s also a symbol used to represent love or emotion.
More so, the wallet can be seen as a small case, often flat and often made of leather for keeping money. The definitions above have shown what the heart houses and what the wallet houses, emotions, and money respectively.
However, let’s take this down to a relationship, some people think money is responsible for everything that happens in a relationship.
I read through the comment section of a book where it was asked “Money or attention, which do you value most in a relationship?” A lot of people went for money, but in reality, money cannot and will not be the bedrock of a relationship. You are first in love for a relationship to exist, even if you have the whole money you need, what drives you to start a relationship is love.
It is true that these days, there are people who start a relationship because they have money but on the other hand, what causes them to do this is because they feel the other party will succumb because of the money.
This goes to show that both parties are getting it all wrong here. There’s more than more way to give back, if your partner thinks it’s all about money, learn to give back love, doing this helps your partner to learn and have a change of theory.
Your heart shouldn’t be buried in your wallet when it is, your heart turns to a substance which is money that is kept in the wallet and can be bought.
Also, people who fell in love because of money are at a very dread state already, it won’t be dawn on them at the initial stage but with time, they’ll realize it’s worth more than money. Love, attention, care, standards are essentials, all this money can never buy.
It is preferred that your wallet is in your heart then your heart in your wallet. Let’s see it this way, your wallet saves your money, keeps it for you. Therefore, when your wallet is in your heart, it is possible that your wallet can save your emotions, keep your emotions for you and it’s left for you to share it with those who deserve it.
Your heart would also think wise to know those who deserve the money in the wallet. But when your heart is in your wallet, your wallet closes your heart, the heart is blinded by the money and won’t be directed by emotions but money.
In conclusion, your heart shouldn’t live in your wallet, because your wallet can’t feel. Allow your heart to feel the love, not your wallet.
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How To Break Up With A Married Man With Ease
You tapped on this post because you’re in a situation like this and you feel guilty for dating another woman’s husband or you’re just tired of the relationship. But here’s the thing, you want to get out and you don’t know how to. So let’s press play and start this journey together. You want to know how to break up with a married man?……SOLUTION AWAY!
Now a lot of women out there get into relationships like this for reasons best known to them and because of those reasons they don’t see how unreasonable it is, literally, logically basically and practically unreasonable. But you tapped this post because you already see that it’s unreasonable and you just can’t keep up with.
Here’s the good news, you’re half way through the solution.
Now breaking up with a married man would require the following procedures:
8 Sure way to break Up with a Married Man
1: Put God first
This is the most essential part of making any decision in life even something as ‘Sinful’ as this. Basically it is called adultery, so you’re committing a sin with a married man, Even though the sin is more on the man, you’d still be seen as a partaker of it. Remember a sin is a sin, and when you’re involved you have committed a sin.
What does God say about adultery?
Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
It says here that you’d judged for being adulterous, why would you want to face God’s wrath for just a few months of pleasure. Just be assured that, that married man would always pick his wife over you.
1 Corinthians 15:33
Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”
It shows that it corrupts you, it reduces your dignity and the standard that you may have built for yourself, you become a shadow of your own self.
1 Corinthians 7:2
But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.
The bible gives an alternative, Get yours and don’t reap the fruit you did not sow.
But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.
This explains the side of the man, as long as the man looks at you, he’d always commit a sin because all he would need you for is sex!
Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
With this, You dating a married man means you’ve hindered the main ordinance of marriage, Coming Into the life of a married man means you’ve broken a bond that was made by God.
“Everyone who divorces his wife and marries another commits adultery, and he who marries a woman divorced from her husband commits adultery.
This is self explanatory. It buttresses the point of the former when It means you’ve broken a bond created by God. But this is seen in another context and still makes the same point. Whatever makes you date a married man who had been divorced is not love but lust, or just admiration for what he claims to be. Succumbing to him only makes you commit adultery. This generation doesn’t even see the absurdness of this, but putting God first makes you see this.
1 Corinthians 6:18
Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body.
The bible also see this as sexual immorality! Which means you don’t just sin against God but against yourself. That’s a loss on both sides!
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
Even though the man doesn’t see how wrong it is, be the first to make that move, do the right thing. You basically don’t belong together, if you are a Christian, what relationship does your righteousness have with such lawlessness?
These are questions you must ask yourself
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Make the man know this. His lust/love for you shouldn’t be in the picture if he claims to truly love his wife. It is God’s commandment and he must follow it.
Read through the rest of the bible verses and drop your questions in the comments zone.
“For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.”
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:39
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
And said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
1 Corinthians 7:9
But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Read your Bible on a daily basis, pray and always communicate with God your solution comes quicker that way.
After putting God first, The “how” and the “When” comes in.
How and when do you break up with a married man
2: Do a reality check
Face reality, he’s not the one for you, you’d always be a mistress to him, you’re only needed when he needs you and not when you need him. You have no true emotional support, you’d still be left alone to live for life on your own. Your only usefulness is quench is sexual urge or desire.
3: Become independent
Most women go into relationships like this because you feel like that’s what you deserve, to be pampered and showered money when you want or need it. You feel you should have everything on a platter of gold, but think about this properly you can make that money on your own and even more. All you have to do is believe in yourself that you can do it without the help of any man. Say daily affirmations to yourself everyday, encourage yourself. Stop blaming yourself for whatever guilt you have and own up to it. Face your mistakes and fix it. Start up a business of your own. Save up some money. You can become successful without the help of a Married Man!
4: Try to scare him off
Now testing a man’s love for his wife or the fear of losing his married is quite easy. This is where the intellect comes in. Try the pregnancy scare. Tell him you’re pregnant. His reaction would determine your next action. Not all men would accept it and some men would also accept. If he doesn’t accept it, that’s your cue to leave! Now if he accepts it that means you have to work with option B. Ask him to file a divorce with his wife. Trust me, no man would want to lose his marriage to a woman he barely loves.
In rare cases the man might want to file the divorce. So just go straight to the point!
5: Tell his wife
This would actually be the best thing to do it trying to scare him off doesn’t work, tell his wife. Telling his wife does two things in one
- Clearing the feeling of guilt that you have: This would make you free. It’s the truth so it would always set you free, you’d feel the burden lifted of your shoulders.
- The fact that his children might hate you: While doing a reality check, you’d find out that if you end up getting married to that man, his children might hate you for life. Trust me if a child hates you, you’d barely survive in that house. So telling the wife actually saves you the stress.
6: Seek Counsel
You can talk to your best friend about it, or someone you trust, or an older person that might have had such experience or even a mother figure in your life. Talking about it with someone would also go a long way relieving you from that feeling of guilt
7: Cut ties
At this point breaking up with him would be very easy. Tell him how you really feel about the whole situation then let him go his way and find yours.
8: Get yourself back
Build back that standard for yourself. Make yourself happy again. Channel your mind to finding love when the time is right and work on getting yourself back.
Breaking up with a married man may not be an easy process, but the result is what really matters. You can get out of such relationship, just acknowledge that it’s a problem and work towards the outline given above. You can get yourself back. You can be happier. And your happiness is what really
10 Sure Signs Your Ex Regrets Dumping You
Being in love is a beautiful thing and being loved back by your partner is the best feeling ever. You would never want to lose such a beautiful relationship, however, never say never.
You should understand that, not all relationships lead to a happy ending as a lot of them ends in premium tears. Break-ups in relationships are inevitable especially when your partner is not committed to the relationship. Being dumped by your girlfriend/boyfriend can be so devastating and the most painful feeling that you can experience in your life. After breakup, you will begin to wonder what went wrong in the relationship and you will have many unanswered questions. Some of the frequent questions running through your head might be if your partner has really moved on or if he/she regrets dumping you.
For the latter, you begin to look out for signs that show your ex regrets dumping you. Now let’s take a look at 10 common signs to be wary of:
10 SIGNS YOUR EX REGRETS DUMPING YOU
1.They keep communication alive.
“They say out of sight is out of mind”. However, the ex that claims to be over you still has you in mind if he or she keeps communication alive by constantly sending unsolicited texts to you. They will always initiate communication with you and ask all sorts of personal questions so as to get you talking. This may indicate that they are not truly over you and might want you back.
In cases where it may have been a while since he/she dumped you, but out of the blues, you begin to receive texts regularly from your ex asking about your well-being and all that, may indicate he/she wants you back.
Either way, they still care about you and feel some sort of regret for dumping you. It may be a sign you’re about getting back together.
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2 .They always want to hang out with you.
Dude, you just dumped me, yet you are seeking for my attention! This is one of the best signs your ex regrets dumping you. Your ex simply still misses you and derives some sort of happiness being around you. His/her feelings for you are still intact and might think about you often.
So if your ex shows a sign of wanting to always hang out with you, perhaps, they are looking for the right moment to tell you they are still interested in the relationship.
3.They apologize for dumping you.
When your ex finally realizes his/her mistake for breaking up with you and how hurt you must have been, they will apologize to you. This is because they obviously regret dumping you and would want to have you back in their life.
4.They can’t stop keeping tabs on you.
When your ex begins to ask about your private life from your friends and keeps talking about you trying to know who you’re dating next, then that’s a sign of regret for dumping you.
They are always the first to like or comment on any post you make on your social media platforms even when you shut them out of your page. This obviously indicates he/she regrets the decision of dumping you.
5.They become extremely nice and caring than before.
When an ex suddenly becomes more loving and caring towards you after dumping you, he/she probably regrets breaking up with you. Perhaps, they are trying to get back to you by being loving and affectionate even more than they did when you were still dating. They begin to shower you with so many gifts and love to show how remorseful they were for breaking up with you.
When you notice this, it is a good sign that your ex regrets dumping you and cares about your feelings.
6.They keep talking about the happy memories you guys had.
This is another good sign that your ex regrets dumping you when they are reminiscing the good times you had together. They begin to remember how you both made a great team together and realize it was actually a bad decision letting you go.
So if you hear your ex still talking about the best memories you had together and share them with you, it could possibly mean he/she misses you and would still want to create more positive memories with you.
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7.They suddenly got dumped too.
Yes, your ex can get rejected too by another person and will probably regret dumping you. They will understand that you actually loved them more, you wanted them to be happy and supported them in their worse moments. Right there, they will regret treating you badly and miss your love for them. They will realize that they lost something that meant a lot to them and would probably want to run back to you.
So if your ex lacks the courage to work through his/her current difficulties, it might indicate regrets for dumping you.
8.They are feeling depressed and lonely.
This is not a feeling that comes immediately they break up with you; rather, it is a gradual process. At first, they might feel in control and experience this feeling of freedom and power from the decision of dumping you. However, after few weeks, they will inevitably feel the loneliness and depression that accompanies a breakup.
When loneliness sets in, they begin to reminisce on the wonderful memories with you and a sense of regret from dumping you starts setting in. Although, an ex might move on and be happy but when this doesn’t happen, then he/she is obviously regretting the decision.
9.They can’t stop flirting with you.
Flirting is a sign of attraction and when an ex still flirts with you; it means they are still fascinated about you. The attraction and attachment was never lost and they regret not being romantically involved with you.
10.They beg you for another chance.
This is most likely to happen when an ex regrets their decision for dumping you and it is also your decision to accept the plea or move on. When an ex still loves you, then they will look for any means to get you back.
When you observe these signs from your ex, it indicates your ex still loves you and might want you back. But don’t be in a haste to take him back, I know this might seem difficult especially when you still love your ex a lot. let them woo you again and fight for you so that you will be valued more. If you make it easy, your ex might just end up taking you for granted again.
How To Spoil Your Man (Experts Advice)
It feels so good to be showered with love, care, and attention, you know that feeling when your man spoils you with gifts and surprises.
Everyone loves the idea of been spoilt, it’s not meant for a particular gender.
Women rarely think of how to spoil their men or make them feel loved. If you are among the few women thinking of how to treat your man right then you are very close to winning his heart forever. Men also need to be loved and cared for, they need our attention too, it mustn’t be all about us.
Generally, women are used to being loved and cared for by their men and they feel to realize that they also need that tender care from their women.
You don’t need to wait for a special event before you show him some love. You can surprise him with a lovely gift, a love note, or even a surprise dinner for just the two of you. Men also crave for these things, you shouldn’t always expect to receive love and care but learn to extend it to them.
If you have been thinking of how to make your man feel special and loved or you want to communicate how much you love him, then below are some useful tips on how to spoil your boyfriend.
Best ways on how to spoil your man (12 Proven Tips)
1. Give him a massage
A massage will make a great deal for him especially when he just returns from the day’s activity. Men love the soft tender touch of a woman, it relieves them of their stress having you around makes them forget how stressful and tiring their day went.
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2. Suprise him with his favorite home-cooked meal
There is a saying that, the easiest way to a man’s heart is his stomach. This adage is still working. if you want to please your man, prepare his favorite meal by yourself. Men love the taste of home meals. Eating out is great, but you can never measure the joy in a man’s heart when he eats the food prepared by his WOMAN for him.
3. Send him unexpected text messages
Sending messages shouldn’t be left for men to do alone, you know how you feel when you just receive a love text message from your man. That feeling of love that flows like an electric current, which makes you happy all day.
You should also do so, let him have that same feeling. You can send him while at work or even when he is sitting on the couch focused on the newspaper.
4. Spoil him with random gifts.
Men also love gifts, the fact that they rarely mention it doesn’t mean they don’t value or appreciate it when you buy them a gift. It will be nice if you buy your man a gift, especially something he has been craving for; this single act will make him love you more.
You must not wait till his birthday, Valentine’s Day, or Christmas to buy him a gift. let your gift come unexpectedly, it will be more appreciated.
Give him a valuable gift and tell him how much he means to you. Let him know you cherish every moment spent with him.
5. Leave him a Love Note
Leaving love notes triggers his emotions, which indicates he is always on your mind. It could be on the stairs, in his briefcase or suit pocket, wherever that seems right to you; Just make it brief and romantic. Here are some samples of a romantic love letter to keep for him.
6. Buy him flowers.
The idea of buying flowers has been thought to be for women alone, flowers depict love; so it’s not a gender thing. Get your man some beautiful lovely flowers with a nice fragrance, you will have him all around you.
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7. Plan a date night
Wow! A date night doesn’t sound romantic, sure it does. Just imagine what it will look like when your man comes back from the day’s work and he meets you all dressed for dinner, with the table set with different dishes. It will be a very wonderful scene to behold.
You can also plan an outside date, it mustn’t be an in-door date, it could be in a nice restaurant, just make the dinner romantic, let the moment be memorable and remarkable.
8. Give him compliments
Just as women love to be flattered and complimented, men also love to be complimented, it triggers their “Hero instincts”. It shows that you appreciate them and you love them the way they are without having any reservations.
9. Plan a surprise
A surprise event can actually do in this case, it could be a surprise party for his birthday, your marriage anniversary or to celebrate his promotion. This will really mean alot to him.
10. Take care of his laundry
This is a rare task, these days you rarely see women washing their husband’s clothes. So doing his laundry simply means you care about him and his looks and you want him to always be at his best. do his laundry and make him happy, it really means alot to them to see their women taking care of their personal belongings.
11. Plan a romantic weekend getaway.
This is an opportunity for the two of you to be together, having a quality time alone to bond and make up for the times lost. It must not be work always.
plan for a vacation or a weekend and enjoy the best of the moment.
12. Go on a mini road trip.
A mini trip is just like a short vacation or a short-distance trip to rekindle your love and ease you guys of the stress from your daily activities. It mustn’t be an expensive trip, the most important thing is the bonding and quality time spent together.
13. Get the ingredients for a new recipe and cook dinner together.
Go to the market and get some new recipes to prepare a nice dinner, you too can cook the food together, this is one of the most wonderful moments. The last time I did this with my husband he was so happy and he wished we do it often.
14. Watch the sunset.
Have you ever watched a movie where two lovers sit together holding hands or cuddle each other watching the sunset? You observe the vibe and the beautiful romance in that picture,try and practice same with your man.It is a moment for you guys to feel each other and express your love for each other.
15. Spend the day together with your phones turned off.
Our phones and other personal gadgets can distract us and make us distant from our partners. These days, couples rarely have time for each other because of social media.
Try spending time together with your phones off, to avoid distractions and keeping you away from your partner. The more time you spend together the closer you guys become and the stronger your love for each other.
A little more piece
Spoiling a man doesn’t make you look cheap or desperate for his love and attention. The more you care for him, the closer you are to his heart his love for you increases. It’s nice to reciprocate the gesture he shows towards you as well.
Men wish to be loved too and pampered, treat them like your hero, your baby, and your partner. The love we desire from them is also what they desire.
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