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We’ll be talking on the ways to make someone feel better. Making someone feel better is part of our good to humanity. One can be helped through various forms, financially, morally, spiritually, by our words of encouragement and service of love. Where exactly do you belong? You might not be able to give out everything, you might not also be good in all aspects, but learn to focus on what you can offer to make one feel better. Try never to be toxic, aim at helping others feel better and if you feel you can’t help, don’t add more pains to the already sustained injury.

However, sadness and awkward feelings are just a very natural part of life. Some people might feel it’s never proper to feel bad but it’s perfectly natural. There is nothing weird or strange about being sad over something. It’s just an emotional reaction to an unfortunate event that might take place in one’s life.

Learning to deal with sadness is one aspect we need to study ourselves. Everybody has unique ways of handling whatever life throws at them whether good or bad. However, not everybody can also help themselves out of an ugly situation, they need the help of others to make them feel better.

Also, when sadness befalls someone you really care about or love, it becomes a different ball game. Your relationship or closeness with somebody wouldn’t determine whether you’re able to tell what kind of challenges or troubles they facing from their end. You might not even know where to help the situation because not everyone is willing to share or talk about their odd moments (sadness). Invariably, it is your responsibility to make others feel better especially those you love. There is always a proper way of helping the people you care so much about getting out of their grief.

More so, you can in your capacity do whatever to make them feel better about themselves but it would be very dangerous if you don’t know what you’re doing. There are one million and one ways to approach someone you care about who is all down in the dumps and one needs to be oriented in the approaches.

Every one of us deals with sadness in very different ways and it works for us differently. Just because a particular method works for you doesn’t mean that it’s going to work for everyone. One has to practice his own best judgment in assessing the situation and making sure that he is employing the best and suitable solution available. Every sadness may look the same but it’s not actually the same. It’s just like malaria as a sickness, the majority of people having ‘AA’ as their genotype suffer from same malaria but in the real sense, it’s not actually the same because not all medication will go for curing all. This is exactly how it is with the issue of sadness and awkward feelings, everyone may feel sad due to their situation but it’s different sadness everywhere, different causes, and different solutions.

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Some of the ways to help people get out of their ugly situation may include:

  1. Simply be there for them.

Being there for your friends in good and bad times is invaluable, it’s the best thing you can do as a friend. Your presence in every friendship matters a lot. Always show concern, tell them you got their back, don’t be quick to discourage them, encourage them every day, don’t be toxic. Your friendship is valued when your presence is felt, this presence may not be physical, it could be your words and actions as long as they represent you.

  1. Encourage them to talk about it.

Your level of relationship with a person goes to tell if they are free to discuss certain things with you or not. Your attitude towards them is the attitude they return. Inspire your friends to always speak to you, create that intimacy that will always draw them to speak even when you’ve not asked them to. You don’t encourage them to talk about it by convincing them but you do so by living it out, letting them know you care and that you’re sincere about their friendship.

  1. Ask them if they need your help.

There are people out there who don’t want to involve others in their narrative. They want to deal with grief in their own way. Be sensitive to those kinds of people, understand them for who they are, do not pick offense, rather allow space and time to help them settle their grief.

  1. Listen to them talk about it without interrupting.

Giving a listening ear to people without talking might seem far fetched but it’s possible. Since you’re not the one who is suffering, you shouldn’t take it upon yourself to do most of the talking. Allow the victim to talk, some might want to cry, don’t stop them, let them express their feelings. Don’t offer any words of advice just yet, let them talk without interrupting, it helps you to understand the situation better and know how best to help.

 

  1. Don’t sympathize, empathize.

Feeling sorry for someone is no help. Put yourself in their shoes and help accordingly. Identify intellectually the feelings, thoughts, and state of the other person.

 

  1. Share a hug.

After listening to them, hug them tightly to show them that they’re not alone, that there’s hope somewhere. A hug is a powerful form of intimacy not just for people you’re romantically entwined with but with people who feel love the most through physical gestures like hugs.

 

  1. Talk a walk together outside.

Bring the person out of that zone he’s always crying in, let’s him leave that environment, and take in the fresh air. Let him see the beauty of nature and take pleasure in his environment thereby forgetting his problem even if it’s for the moment.

 

  1. Go to the gym together.

Exercise removes a whole lot of bad energy from the body, it regularizes the body temperature and helps in resetting the brain. After going for exercise and meeting with new people, such a victim might be reinvigorated and freshly energized.

 

  1. Go shopping together.

Going shopping exposes you to beautiful things that can be yours. You begin to think of how to get this and that, how this can be yours, and the feeling of having a new thing. Yes, this experience takes your sadness away for a while, it focuses your mind on new things thereby distracting you for the moment.

 

  1. See a funny movie together.

Have you ever underestimated the power of a movie? Don’t do so when you’re sad. Movie catapults you to the sublime, it takes you to another realm where you feel better. You might sometimes watch a movie having the same scenario with yours at the moment and learn from their resolution.

  1. Run errands together.

Surely, you enjoy the company of someone doing an errand with you on a good day. Yes, you’ll enjoy it better on a bad day because it doesn’t get boring at any point.

  1. Cook a meal for them.

Do you know that when you prepare a meal yourself, you sometimes don’t eat it to your fullest? But when it’s being prepared by others, you seem to enjoy it. The same vibe goes on a sad day, your friend will do you a whole good by preparing a good meal for you.

  1. Help your friend to eat well and get some rest.

Normally, some people enjoy being forced to eat, it gives them pleasure. To make someone feel better, help the person to eat well, do not take their excuses, turn deaf ears to their excuses, and get them to eat and rest well.

  1. Compliment them.

A compliment is a booster of the spirit, it ignites whatever seems to be dead in you. Learn to compliment sad friends, you wouldn’t know what you’re doing for them until you see a smile on their cheeks.

  1. Make them laugh.

Some people feel they can’t make others laugh, you do, it exists inside you and will be exhibited when you’re trying to help someone you love. Helping someone you love takes you out of your way to doing something funny. Laughter is medicine.make them laugh

  1. Choreograph a dance to their favorite song.

Cheer them up by dancing to the song they love. This could boost their morale and inspire them to even dance with you.

  1. Plan a sleepover.

Most people feel bored alone in the house even without the feeling of sadness. However, when they’re sad, it becomes worse. You can help a friend feel better by sleeping over in the house, talk to the person all through the night, make them feel loved.

  1. Give them a cute nickname.

It’s rare to see someone who doesn’t like a pet name or a nickname. Call them lovely nicknames that they like and watch it stir butterflies in their belly.

  1. Go for a trip or getaway.

The joy of leaving your environment cannot be overemphasized. Traveling out to a new place comes with excitement and rejoicing, thus, making you forget your sadness.

  1. Bake something together.

Do something new, eat something fresh. Baking is interesting, it keeps you too busy to worry. You wouldn’t also want to make a mistake.

  1. Do some gardening or remodeling.

Arrange and rearrange your home, get a new setting. The joy of giving your house a new look cannot be overemphasized, waking up to a new and pleasant look of your house is overwhelming. During this period, do something new as this will help you get better.

  1. Write a note or card

Everyone is going digital and it makes it more interesting. Drop a good and inspiring text or message, it instills confidence.

  1. Play with them

Don’t act all serious when you’re with a sad friend. While giving your advice too, don’t make it sound too serious, joke along, play with them, help them feel better at that point.

  1. Share your experience with them.

Don’t be eager to only talk about the good aspect of your life, it depresses them the more. Talk about your ugly experience and how you were able to overcome it.

  1. Pray with them.

Some people don’t have a prayer life whenever they’re sad, they are just occupied with their thoughts. Remind them of how hard they need to pray, pray with them and for them.

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 How To Make Someone Happy Today (12 Best Step To Take)

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To make someone happy is to make yourself happier; either a stranger or a loved one close to us. There are important people in our lives that we always want to keep happy. But oftentimes life gets too busy and we are unable to keep with its speed. We, therefore, unintentionally ignore the people around us.

This is most common among young couples still trying to make heads of their career. The pressure from making a living and career becomes really overwhelming that, they lose track of their environment.

According to Maya Angelou, “people will forget when you said, and what you did; but will never forget how you made them feel.” Making someone happy is such a noble course. It’s something everyone should do all the time.

Eleanor Roosevelt said, “since you get more joy out of giving joy to others, you should put a good deal of thought into the happiness that you are to give”. This means that since making others happy generally makes you happier; you should put effort into the quality of happiness you give to others.

To make someone happy, you also have to be happy; because in all sense, you can’t give what you do not have. You cannot be sad and depressed and yet want to make someone happy.

You have to possess a certain level of joy in you and that is increased when you make others happy. Aside from that, there is this feeling of fulfillment, that comes with knowing that you are the source of someone’s joy. And that feeling is a sort of joy generator itself. Also, you get what you give in the long run if not immediately.

Because humans are individually different, these tips may not all work on the person just sort out the ones that best suit the person you want to make happy.

Here Are 11 Tips To Making Someone Happy

1. Smile To Them Often

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A smile is a very effective tool for making someone happy. You do not need to be super attractive to give a wonderful smile.

Smiling to someone signifies warmth. It means you welcome them into your space.

Here, we are not talking about the sinister kind of smile; but the hearty and innocent type. Genuinely smile at the person and it will lighten up the person’s mood.

Whenever you see them, offer a smile to welcome them even before saying anything else. People’s mood, no matter how bad it is; will be lifted, a bit when met an amazing smile.

Make sure you are intentional about the type of smile, to whom you are smiling, and the circumstances surrounding that moment. This is because some people may misinterpret your smile. Also, lower your expectations; by not thinking that, everyone you smile at, will smile back at you.

According to the study carried out at the University of Wyoming, where about 100 undergraduate women looked at the photo of a woman in four different poses including

  1. Smiling in an open body position
  2. Smiling in a closed body position
  3. Not smiling in an open body position
  4. Not smiling in a closed body position

The results obtained from this study showed that; pose ‘a’ and ‘b’, were liked the most. This means, regardless of the pose she used; the pictures where she smiled, still had the highest likes.

Not only does smiling to someone elate their moods, it makes them like you more, and also leaves a positive picture of you in their minds.

Don’t limit smiling by the amount of time spent together with the person. Even if it’s just a couple of seconds, still smile at them.

ALSO, READ 25 ways to make someone feel better

2. Show A Sense Of Humor In Conversations

If you want to make someone happy, you should be able to make them laugh; or at least, smile. When the person has a bad day, he/she will want to communicate with you.

Because you help them relieve their stress by elating their mood and make happy. Due to your ability to chip in humor when having a conversation with them, they are happier with you around.

3. Be A Good Listener

If you want to make someone happy, learn to listen to them. Even if the topic is not interesting to you still listen. Don’t show disinterest in your attitude during the conversation.

It may not even be so important, but they just need to get it off their chest. Also, the person may not necessarily need your input or advice; your attention is the only help they need.

When they are able to talk about what is bothering them, they are less bothered. Therefore they become happier.

4. Always Be Positive

If you want to make someone happy, be the bringer of positivity in their situation. If the person is down or facing a roadblock; be the one to bring a ray of sunshine.

Always show up with happy, open, and good vibes. Good energy tends to spread to others; thus, the person becomes happier. Even you will be happier and in the end, it is a win-win.

5. Offer A Sincere Compliment

You don’t really have to know a person to give a sincere compliment. It could be a stranger off the streets, your next-door neighbor, or even your spouse.

Everyone loves compliments either from the person they know or know not. A simple ‘hello, you look rather splendid today’ can go a long way in brightening the person’s entire day.

Don’t be stingy with compliments because we all deserve a bit of it. If you see someone putting in effort into something, compliment them. Or if you notice someone has started showing a form of improvement, compliment them.

So offer a compliment today to make someone happy.

ALSO, READ WHAT TO DO IF YOU’RE UNHAPPY IN A RELATIONSHIP

6. Show Care If The Person Is Sick

show care if the person is sick

If you are not a doctor, so you can’t possibly treat them medically; but you can treat them emotionally. Show them that you care. Regardless of whom the person is if you want them to be happy; care for them.

If they are hospitalized, bring them flowers and a stuffed toy. Give them a get-well-soon card and that will make them feel better.

If you can, hold their hands and reassure them that they can do it. Tell them it’s just a phase and that they will pass through it, and come out stronger.

7. Say “I Love You” Even When The Person Is Mad At You

This works best for romantic couples, friends, and family. At that moment when your mum is so angry at you and she looks like she is about to puke fury, tell her you love her and see her reaction.

Tell your partner you love them, especially when you are angry with them. If your spouse offends you, tell her regardless of what she has done you still love her.

Sort out your issues and enjoy your relationship. Don’t allow fights, disagreements, and pressures to drift you apart from your loved ones. Reassure them that you love them despite what’s going on around you.

8. Do The Surprise Thingy

This is not just for your spouse, but for anyone you wish to elate his/her mood. If you want to make someone happy, surprise them with a gift.

If your boss in the office has been feeling down lately; check the calendar to see, if their birthday is coming up soon, and throw them a surprise birthday party. It doesn’t have to be elaborate; the thought behind it is what matters.

You can also Surprise your parents with a gift without any special occasion. It doesn’t have to be father’s day or mother’s day or their birthday. Just show them a sweet gesture and they will be very happy about it.

9. Don’t Hold Grudges Against The Person

Be quick to forgive; because, it’s the divine thing to do. If the person offends you, don’t hold grudges against the person, rather sort it out. Also if the person says you offended him/her, don’t take offense and start being defensive.

It’s true that the person may be wrong or even misunderstanding the whole thing. But, you have to be the bigger person, and let go by apologizing and making amends. Don’t judge based on your own feelings alone; rather, hear their own part of the story.

10. Get Down And Help When Someone Drops Something

This is such a sweet gesture. You will truly understand this if you are at the receiving end of it. It will make you smile. So imagine giving the same experience to someone else? It may be books, groceries, tools, and so on. Just lend a helping hand.

11. Warmly Embrace People

warmly embrace people

There is no telling of how much people are going throughout there. So, if you have the chance give someone a warm hug to make them feel comforted.

Hugs tend to relieve stress and meddle with the negative thoughts, which could be going through the person’s mind. So, if they don’t pull away immediately, hold the hug for a bit longer and pat them on the back while at it.

12. Encourage And Appreciate Them

We all want to be acknowledged, for what we do no matter insignificant it seems. And when we do get this appreciation, it just brightens our mood.

If you want to make someone happy, offer appreciation for what the person is doing and encourage them to do more. Let them know you see what they are doing and care about their growth. Tell the person you believe in him/her and you are sure they can do more.

Be caring and kind for no tangible reason to the person even if he/her is a stranger

  • When you visit a restaurant or bar and you are served, ask the waiter/server if he/she has eaten. This will earn you a grateful smile.
  • Randomly buy your neighbor or colleague a bouquet of flowers.
  • Ask your spouse, friends (close or not), and your domestic staff about their welfare. Ask how they are doing.
  • When you see an elderly struggling with a heavy load offer to help carry it.
  • Randomly gift people around you.

If we can genuinely offer to make someone happy, we have truly made the world a better place. And don’t forget it doesn’t have to be your spouse or relative. Also, be careful of your mental health when trying to make someone happy. So you don’t end up losing yourself in the process. Understand that there are boundaries and respect them.

Another thing to take note of is that not everyone will be receptive to the love and care you offer. Some may be very receptive while some may be antagonistic to it. Some may even fight you for it; therefore you should consider these three things

  • Your position In the person’s life
  • Their position in your life
  • And lastly, the situation surrounding your relationship.

Good luck on your quest.

ALSO, READ How To Speak With Confidence (Experts Advice)

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How To be Pretty: 21 Natural ways to be More attractive

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How To Be Pretty: Naturally ways to be more attractive

Being pretty these days is like a “do or die affair” for most people out there. They spend a lot of money buying creams, makeups, clothes, and many more just trying to look good.

Looking good have lots of advantages attached to it such as:

  • Boosting self-confidence
  • Improving self-esteem

Everyone on earth is beautiful, although everyone has their spec and categories of people that they are attracted to. Beauty is vain because one day you’ll definitely grown old.

Physical appearance doesn’t make you beautiful, but what actually makes us beautiful is the way we treat people around us.

We live in a world where everyone is so obsessed with beauty, but learning how to be pretty naturally isn’t all about trying to buy toning creams or getting the latest makeup kit. But it’s about trying to be authentic and feel good about your appearance.

In this article, we’ll be talking about how to be pretty without spending much.

21 WAYS TO BE PRETTY

This write-up is here to give you the right knowledge.  being pretty is not always about spending much money. If you follow these tips, you’d still be very attractive even at your old age.

1.Smile More

when you smile more, you look prettier

when you smile more, you look prettier

They say, “laughter is the best medicine,” this is actually very true. But I’d say that laughter makes you look younger. Have you ever seen a movie and you see a guy telling a girl that you’d be prettier if you smile? Some ladies will say he’s actually saying that just to pull my legs and win my heart.

Whenever you smile or blush, there is always a glow radiating from your face making you look more charming. When I was a little boy, if my parents got me angry, they’d tell me to smile or else, I will grow old quickly.

Smiling helps your face not to get wrinkle.Whenever you’re sad, think of  something that can make you smile, it could be a tv show or a family member. The goal here is to always be smiling. If you’re finding it difficult to smile you can use the ‘fake it’ till ‘you make it’ technique till you get better at doing it.

2. Schedule regular haircuts or trims

regular hair cut

Taking good care of your hair goes a long in making your appearance glorious. Have you ever left your hair for 7months without visiting the salon, how do you think you’d look? Probably like an ex-convict.

To look prettier, you should schedule regular haircuts or trims probably every month (depending on how fast your hair grows).

3. Drink at least 8 cups (1,900 ml) of water a day

Hydrating/saturating your body with water is one of the best ways to keep our body healthy. Drinking lots of water helps the body system to function very well. for we to maintain our body, we should avoid things like alcohol, smoking and hard drugs.

ALSO, READ HOW TO FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF

4. Bathe every day:

bath everyday

bathing every day would make your skin glow

Looking more prettier may also be scaled with the way we smell. Bathing at least, twice daily should be adopted. Bath with clean water and soap.

When you fail to bathe important parts of your body, you’ll have body odor.

5. Get Plenty of Sleep;

Anytime you feel tired, do well to take a quick rest. Stressing yourself always would make you look drained when people see you.

According to CDC,  an adult needs at least 7hrs to sleep daily.

picture of someone sleeping

Tips to get you more sleep:

  • Avoid taking caffeine at night
  • limit the way you watch television at night, watching a movie from 10 pm will not give you a good sleep.
  • keep your devices far from you, so you won’t be tempted to look at them
  • Read a book, it may help you sleep quickly.
  • Try a bedtime meditation
  1. Build confidence.
Build confidence

Build confidence

If you are not confident with yourself, you might find it hard to feel attractive to yourself and others.

Inner beauty breeds external happiness. If you can’t accept yourself, then there is no need to look for ways to stay pretty.

Self-confidence should be the first thing to achieve, then, you will see how pretty you will look and free, you will feel both in and out.

7.Make eye contact.

You could say in your heart, ‘will making eye contact make me prettier’? How does it concern beauty? The truth is that people will gradually start seeing how attractive you are to them when you start paying close attention to them while talking. Making eye contact helps you build confidence, trustworthiness, and more likable from people.

8. Keep your nails clean and trimmed.

pic of  well trimmed nails

Keep your nails clean and trimmed.

Being neat matters especially when it comes to the areas of Nails, always keep them cleaned and trimmed. It won’t be nice after wearing good clothes and you’ll still go about with your dirty nails. It doesn’t tell well of you.

If you do polish your nails, you can always re-polish them so that you’ll look pretty. Biting fingers is one of the fastest ways to trim them. If you don’t feel like biting them, you can dip your fingers in orange or rub orange to them so that you’ll feel the urge to bit them when tasting orange…

9. Wear clothes that are comfortable and fit well.

wear clothes that fits well

You don’t have to buy the latest trending clothes that celebrities wear to look pretty. If you don’t have money to buy them, it’s fine! Just buy a few pair of jeans or gown that whenever you wear it, you’ll always feel on top of the world.

There are clothes that you wear and you’ll feel so important! Wearing oversized cloth will make you look very old. Simply wear clothes that are comfortable, not when you go out, you’d start adjusting the clothes.

When you dress in comfortable and properly fit clothes, people will respect you and want to draw close to you.

10. Wear deodorant or perfume.

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using deodorants on your body will help you look pretty

Smelling nice should be one thing we should look out for first before going out.  Smelling nice can make people respect and want to stay close to you. It makes you look comfortable sitting around people or in any group of people.

Tips when using deodorants

  • Don’t overuse it unless- strong scent will chase people.
  • it shouldn’t be used as a substitute for bathing
  1. Brush at least twice daily

brushing your teeth regularly

Brushing your teeth twice daily is a characteristic of pretty people. Brushing your teeth always should be a habit to cultivate. Even a man who has a mouth odor will not want to have a conversation with a man who also has a mouth odor also.

12.Improve your posture: A nice person slouching is hard to picture! Sit straight against a chair with your back and walk parallel to the floor with your chin. if you’ve formed a bad habit of walking, then you need to learn how to improve your posture

You will look more desirable and optimistic.

  1. Wear light makeup:

Wearing makeup can make you look stunning if you aren’t happy with your looks. Everything should be moderate ranging from your face, eyes, and lips. Wearing heavy makeup would make you practically like a masquerade.

If you aren’t that good with makeup, you can watch tutorial videos on youtube, keep practicing until your makeup looks natural.

  1. Follow friends who good with fashion sense: One way to look pretty is to make friends with those who are good at fashion. When I gained admission into the university, people usually address me as an old man, because of the way I dress.

Immediately, I got a new friend who’s pretty good with fashion, my mentality changed. I started dressing well.

Your cycle of friends can also affect the way you dress too.

  1. Keep your clothes clean and pressed.

keep your clothes ironed

Have you ever tried taking a photo with rumpled or dirty clothes? You’d look so unattractive and messy!! No one will want to mingle with you. Even when you come close to them, they’ll distance themselves from you.

Before going out make sure you press your clothes and make sure they’re very neat. If you feel you’re so lazy to iron your clothes, you can try hanging them immediately after wearing them.

16. Exercise regularly.

Exercise has been one of the fastest ways to keep the body fit and look pretty. Exercise has lots of benefits ranging from health to boosting happy hormones.  A lot of people (male and female) face some challenges such as big tummy, being too fat, shapeless, etc.

Also,  Maddy Zollo Rusbosin a writer at  Women’s Health Magazine, says exercise also improves circulation (which can give you a healthier glow and a better skin tone overall).

The sweat you get from exercise also helps to clear pores and lowers cortisol levels which help to reduce stress.

17.  Keep your teeth white

We’re not talking about spending all your money just to make your teeth white or look pretty. Having a white tooth helps to give you a brighter smile. You can use Whitening strips, it works well.

Also, for you to achieve a white tooth you need to avoid drinks like coffee, red wine, and black tea. I’m not placing a restriction on that. If you must take that endeavor to always brush your teeth and observe the natural general hygiene to whiten your teeth.

  1. Eat more fruits and Veggies.

Eating fruits and adding enough veggies( which contain organic pigments called carotenoids) to your daily meal, help your body not only stay healthy but glows well than tanning.

Tips to achieve this:

  • After your breakfast, eat at least one fruit like grapes, apple, melon, or anyone you can afford. This aids digestion very well.
  • Add Veggies to your food while cooking to add to more taste and look attractive too.
  • Drink a glass of juice after you are done or when relaxing.
  • Always remember to eat them daily for more skin glows and staying healthy.
  1. Be positive and friendly.

Always stay positive and stay around friends that have these positive vibes.

Negative vibes can destroy your self-esteem and makes you feel like you are not good enough. Stay away from anything that brings them and don’t fake it, it comes out naturally when you feel it internally.

  1. Compliment

Always compliment yourself each day before and after doing your activities. You can stare in the mirror and say sweet or good words to yourself.

Pet yourself, you deserve it! This will not only makes you look prettier but build love within you.

  1. Always take a walk around your environment.

Feel free to step outside for more fresh air. You can do that in the evening while taking a walk around your environment. I love this art so much, and it has become part of me.

Put on something comfy, select your favorite song, and stroll around your vicinity. You can visit some friends or drop at coffee shops to embrace the rest of the day.

ALSO, READ Reasons Why Kissing Is Important In A Relationship

 

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Life can be defined as a status given to any entity including animals, fungi, bacteria, etc, and sometimes viruses having the properties of replication and metabolism. In a holistic medical frame of interpretation, it can be organized under some abstract Key concepts: existence, creation of the world, state of being, daily living, talents, relations, sex, health
, and personal development.

“The ultimate aim of the human mind in all its efforts is to become acquainted with the truth”(Eliza Farnham). We believe that we have to try to understand life and get a grip on the many faces of life because it can be of great value for us to learn to recognize the fundamental principles of how life is lived to the fullest and it’s constituents.

Life constitutes different things, but is majorly made up of the soul, Food, shelter, and clothes. one might ask why? But from the Creation of the world, when God created Adam and Eve. Man has always sought these four things, after the sin of Adam and Eve God cursed man and chased them from the garden of Eden. Man’s suffering began and they had to fend for themselves, which led to seeking the comfort of their soul, food, shelter, and clothes. They sought God for their soul, food to feed their mortal flesh, clothes to cover their nakedness, and shelter for protective covering from rain, sun and wild animals which were their major needs and desires.

The struggle continued and the quest to get more to live a more comfortable life, made man to toil more and “Chase shadows”(things that do not exist or something that one can’t hold on to). Man now decides to go beyond seeking these initial needs, which was basically their desire and needs to search for and acquire more Knowledge to create things and develop the world. Which no doubt has a positive and negative influence in our world today, making man lose the sense of the actual meaning, purpose, and quality of life.

Man’s insatiable needs unleashed greed, wickedness, and chaos in the world today.
Whenever we Chase after something, we take ourselves out of the present moment where life actually happens. The future doesn’t exist yet and the past is gone. The only really meaningful place to live is in the now and that’s generally where you will find what you are
looking for. There are some things, man can Chase aside from the major constituents of life
earlier discussed, they include dreams, fulfillment, health, wisdom, and happiness. these things are also Paramount.

1.Dream: Dreams are the craving of your soul, if you don’t move towards fulfilling your rightful dream you live just an empty life.Before you start chasing the dream make sure that it’s your dream you are chasing! Most people don’t get what they want in life because they are playing out someone else’s idea of who they should be.

2.Fulfilment: Just like there is an external world there is also an internal world, which constantly seeks fulfillment. One may Love reading, listening to music, meeting friends, traveling to new places to achieve fulfillment, one may also have the resources to fulfill these aspirations. However, we simply neglect them as they don’t give us any sense of achievement. You must fulfill yourself internally before you Chase your dreams outside.

3.Health: Most people are so busy chasing other things in life that they find no time to take care of their health. This is the greatest blunder we can do. Dalai Lama said, “it so beautiful”.
If you lose health once, you can perhaps never get it back with all the wealth
and power at your disposal.

4.Wisdom: We have lots of knowledge nowadays but we are hardly wise enough to use the knowledge to achieve our goals in life. Knowledge is a great power. However,it can become harmful rather than useful,if we don’t know how to use it. We must try to become wise by learning to use the right knowledge at the right time in the right way.

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5.Happiness:”Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life,the whole aim and end of human existence”(Aristotle). However, most of us fail to be happy
in our life.Our failure to be happy is due to the fact that there is no single
thing that can make you happy.In order to understand the mystery of happiness, please
observe the picture of a musical keyboard.

If you press only one node of this keyboard, it can never give you joy for long time.
it is only when the nodes of the music changes with time with a great rhythm,
we create a beautiful piece of music. We have to create a beautiful life by experimenting
with life and move to different things to fulfil our soul and realize the dreams of the world.
These things also makes our life complete and add meaning to our life and world.
There are things man should not Chase no matter what others say,even the Bible says
in Luke 12:15 “Take heed and beware of covetousness,for one’s life does not consist in
the abundance of the things he possess”.

1.Chasing security:“In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes”.(Benjamin Franklin). The problem with chasing security is that there
is no such thing and if you trade your soul for it, you pay a big price.Each of us
has a unique purpose in life,most of us don’t realize it.Stretch yourself and
take a risk if you want to find out what makes your heart sing.

2.Chasing money:“Chase your passions and moneywill come.Chase money and you may never  find your passions”(Colin Wright). We all need to make ends meet, but
beyond that chasing after the green stuff doesn’t make us happier.Research by the
Nobel laureate pschologist and economist, Daniel Kehneman and Princeton economist, Angus Deaton, found that happiness maxes out around $75000 in the United States.Additional studies reveal that people are happier when they spend their money on
other people than only themselves.
We all need money to live,but chasing money for money sake can take you off
track from your true passions and leave you feeling hollow.Simplify your life,do what you
love and the money will follow.

3.Chasing material things:“Stop chasing what your mind wants and you will get what your soul needs (Kushandwizdom). Many of us think we will be happy
if we live in a big house, wear brand named clothes, drive a new car and stuff
our closets full of shoes.But that’s simply chasing things to fill the hole in your sole.

4: Chasing beauty: “For beautiful eyes, look for the good in others, for beautiful lips, speak only words of kindness and for poise,walk with the knowledge that you are never alone”(Andrey Hepburn).
Many women and men feel pressure to look good,we hit the gym,dye our hair and even
get surgery.The problem is that outer beauty naturally fades with time,what we should be
chasing after is the beauty that resides within.

5.Chasing latest trend:“Ask yourself,what makes you come alive and then go do that, because what the world needs is people who have come alive”(Howard Thurman).
Be a free thinker and go for what really lights your fire. It can be listening to music,
watching old star movies, writing etc. The consumer-based society depend on us to buy stuff, so we are forever lured into getting the lattest items. Trouble is,if we are always chasing the new rage,we can lose track of who we really are and what truly turns us on.

6.Chasing love:When you Chase love it often attracts people who don’t value you.It’s exhausting to constantly fight for someone’s attention you just end up getting hurt.True love comes knocking at your door, when you stop looking for it outside of yourself and focus on accepting yourself for who you are.
Chasing these things leads to chasing of shadows which increases our desire for irrelevant
and invaluable things.The bitter truth is, everything in life is vanity, “vanity of vanity, all is vanity”.
Ecclesiastes 12:8.We should Live in the present because we can only determine the present not the future. Life is a struggle from birth to death, life itself is a risk,but the question is
are we going to live our lives struggling,risking and chasing shadows?

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