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Holding your Anchor as a Widow



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In very simple English, an anchor is something or someone who provides strength, support, and stability in the life of a person or an object i.e a ship. An anchor can either be permanent or temporary.

Today, we shall be sharing briefly on what an anchor is to a widow (a woman whose spouse is no longer alive), her plight, fears, and response to her predicament. In the natural, we hear statements like that man is the anchor of the family”, meaning the man is the pillar of the family.

The under-listed are the travails of a widow:


In most cultures (not all) like the one we live in when a husband dies, it is a general belief that the wife has a hand in his demise. This unfounded accusation puts the widow in a very traumatic state. She is thereafter subjected to very inhuman treatments such as shaving off her hair, confining her in a secluded place for a period of time, taking oaths before a shrine, confiscation of her late husband’s properties and so on. Then after the burial of her spouse, she is still to undergo other rites even against her wish not minding the indelible wound her loss has inflicted on her. Ps 34:19.


As a result of the demise of her husband, a widow experiences some fears such as how to continue with the education of her children, how to pay her house rent, and take care of her family especially if her children are still very young. At such times, her natural reaction is to run to friends, family, and in-laws for help, and more often than naught, she does not get the needed help. This situation creates a lot of anxiety in her and as a Christian, the reality of this scripture in 1 Sam 2: 9c which says “for by strength shall no man prevail”, dawns on her.


Ps 121:1. The Christian widow has no other choice than to look up to God for help Ps 46:1. She is to totally surrender to Him and according to John 6:37b, He will never cast her out.

Secondly, she must bury herself in the word of God, believing that God’s promises never fail. Promises such as; Jer 29:11, Is 54:5, Lam 3:21-24, Is 49:15-17, Prov 23:18.

Thirdly, she should get busy serving God prayerfully in His vineyard and the great

rewarder will surely reward her labor of love and defend her.

Finally, as a widow, she should not fold her arms in a pity party. She should know she is very special to God; she is now married to Jesus. She should sing praises to her husband, her maker always, and rejoice in Him.

Beloved widow, let your anchor hold firmly unto God and He will not allow the evil winds of this world to blow you astray.

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Marriage & Divorce

What to Look for in a Wife TO MARRY



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Before getting married to the love of your life as a man, questions like “what to look for in a wife?” Will definitely arise. The ideal woman for Everyman differs. Some may say they want a skinny lady, or a fat girl, if you could hear some of the things said by MEN, as per what they want, you’d be shocked.

Choosing a life partner is a major decision taken by man, here he selects one lady over a bunch of them. Marriage is a lifetime race, and when it’s not been run properly, it could lead to a broken home. Nobody wants a broken home. Everyone wants to live happily ever after. When you choose the wrong partner, it may take you years to correct, or even spending all your life trying to put things in proportion. A marriage that is not Divinely approved will end in divorce, emotional pains, and suffering.

It is therefore important to choose wisely. Before you choose to marry any lady make sure that she is Kind of person, never you force yourself on her just because you think she’s the most beautiful lady on planet Earth or you wanna marry her because she’s a model.
In life generally, if you want to buy something expensive, you don’t just rush in purchasing it. for instance, if you’re trying to buying used car worth $40,000 for yourself, there are things you need to look out for in the car before buying it. You’ll need to check stuffs like the * * vehicle history- you’ll need to make sure that the vendor is not selling a stolen car. Through the use of VIN, you can actually check if the car has been in an accident.
• You can check how efficient the engine is- this would be better if you go with an motor engineer (i.e the mechanic). In order not to bore you with these,the main message is to carefully search what’s needed.
So, If you’ve been asking questions like What qualities should I look for in a wife? Then keep reading this article .

6 Things To Look For In A Wife

Like we said in the beginning, men have different tastes when choosing women, but we’re going to bring out the most important thing to look for when hunting for a wife. They are things that you must consider without looking back.



I’ve always told my friends that if I want to marry, I must marry someone who I’m deeply attracted to. Yes! She may have all the wife material features, but bro, if she isn’t so attracted to you, I’ll advise you to leave her. Attraction isn’t everything but it’s something.

You may say, she’s beautiful, she has the qualities of a good wife, she’s just so perfect in her ways… but if you’re not attracted to her it may lead to another problem in future.
A girl once crushed on me years back! I noticed she had every quality that a good mother should possess but the problem actually was that I wasn’t attracted to her… I vividly know that if I end up marrying her, I would cheat on her like I never had a wife.

If you aren’t comfortable hanging out with your woman or introducing her to your friends, then I’m sorry to give you the breaking news, “Leave her Alone”, this may be very hard for you.. it was hard for me when I decided to make my own decisions, but the good news is that you’ll overcome.
It is very good to foresee because, if you’re marrying her because she is skinny, her body morphology may change with the season, she may run out of your taste!!
Marry someone who you know with or without her body changing drastically, you’ll still fall for her. Attraction goes beyond the physical structure, it’s more of a psychological feature, so be wise!!!!!!

2. She brings out the Best in You

Wow!! This is also an important factor in what to look for in a wife… one important question to ask yourself is “does my woman brings out the best in you?” Not all women have the capability. If you have one like this, then you’ll need to hold her really tight..

Some women may just decide to focus on just themselves, but a woman who’s really interested in you will want to resharpen and remold you.
If you’ve got the habit of smoking and drinking alcohol all the time, extravagant living, she’ll want to help you in that arena.
One way to know that she really brings out the best in you is that whenever you’re with her, you’re always inspired and you just discovered something just awakened in you.

This kind of woman reinforces your confidence. Here, she’s just like a coach to you. She just has the ability to make your world brighter.
She’s never in to demotivate, instead, she’ll motive and lift your heart’s up…
If you’re in a relationship now and you’ve ever felt like you’re in a prison, then that should be a red flag on your side telling you to run.


3. Find a Wife who’ll Love you Unconditionally

An Ex. Once asked me, Josh!! Why do you love me?? Can you please tell me what you like about me or the major reason why you love me???.. As a relationship expert, you know full well that the answers you make can hurt you or flame up something in the future. Like the cops will always tell any criminal they capture. “ any you say or do, will be used against you in the court of law”.

It’s not bad to give an answer of your choice tho.

Finally, I gave her no answer, I just told her that I don’t have any reason(s) for loving you. that if I do, in the future, if that reason is no longer manifesting, then the love will fade away. I told her I just love her unconditionally.

The word unconditionally has a dictionary meaning: without a condition.
The day I was shocked, was when I saw a lady who married a man in a wheelchair. I wept in my heart. I asked my self does true love like this still exists?? That’s an example of an unconditional love.

When exchanging the marriage vow, the priest usually quote stuff like:

“in riches and in poverty”
“in sickness and in good health”
This was meant to be the true definition of an unconditional love.
Looking for someone who’ll love you unconditionally might be very tough for you. But if you carefully watch her well. You’ll be able to detect it.. an adage says by their fruits, ye shall know them. When the fruits in a mango tree is ripe, It’s always accessible for sightseeing until it’s been plucked.
An unconditional love is a sacred kind of love!! Not everyone in a relationship is lucky to get it. Some actually got it, but screwed things up!
Unconditional love also means putting your partners first, Before putting yourself. You deserve a woman that’ll love you the way you are.

4.Sexual Openness

Sexual compatibility should be one of the TOP 3 discussed topics Before marriage.
It’s very important! I once asked a lady, “how sexual are you? Rate it from 1- 10. She said 3. I was shocked, I just told myself deep down, that i cant be with such a fellow!!.

She told me she isn’t a Fan of sex!!! Although research and statistics have proven that sex wanes and waxes at different stages of life. For instance, the sex drive for nursing mother’s periodically low.

If you’re a man who’s practicing abstinence from sex with your partner before marriage, then this issue of sexual openness needs to be taken very seriously.
And if you’re a man who’s so crazy about sex and wants more in marriage, then you’ll need to look for a woman who has a healthy sex life that discusses sex openly, in other not to fall into a sexless marriage.

Find out little things like “does she love kissing?😘”, would she want to explore the world of sex?.
Being so religious shouldn’t make you shy from the REAL TRUTH.
When you fail in this aspect, you’ll be left with no choice rather than to cheat.

5. intellectual and Educational Compatibility

intellectual and Educational Compatibility

It has never been in the dictionary of some educated men to marry a lady that is not educated.
Education shouldn’t be something you place so much value on over intelligence. Education can never be substituted for intelligence!!
Whenever a man feels his woman is less Intelligent and educated than him, if they tend to marry, the man will definitely maltreat her.
However, such men would find it very hard to let their wives make key decisions about child-rearing, money management etc if they doubt their wives’ intelligence.

6.Marry Your type

Marrying your type means you should look for a wife that has similar traits, characteristics, and personality. If you’re an extroverted man and you’re not really comfy handling an introvert, then you shouldn’t run into marriage with her. Marriage shouldn’t be something that will bore you. Having a partner that you can’t have a long conversation with would be boring especially you’re the type that loves talking a lot.

These are some funny answers that Joshua Isibor– A relationship Coach, got when he asked some guys the kind of lady that they want..

“ I want a woman that loves drinking alcohol”
“ I want a lady who smokes”
“I also want a lady who is good in bed”

The goal here is to find someone that’s like a best friend to you: someone that you’re free with.

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Sex Education

How impotent men can make love?



Impotence is not to be perceived as an end to fulfilling sex life. It is surely a man’s problem and a woman’s despair. Impotence can be a ruthless relationship killer.
Impotence or ED (Erectile Dysfunction) is still majorly perceived as a man’s problem alone. Because of its embarrassment, many men who suffer refuse to effectively communicate it to their partners. They are ashamed and feel they have to carry the burden of it by dealing with it themselves.
The embarrassment also withholds the suffering men from seeking professional help. The only way they choose to cope is by avoiding sexual contact altogether. Even if the man with the said affliction gathers the guts to reach the therapist’s office, he is against his partner accompanying him more often than not.
Leaving the woman out of the equation alienates her and doubles the impact the man’s impotence has on her well-being. A woman with an impotent partner may feel she is unloved or her appeal is unsexy. She may feel the romantic spark that burned bright with her partner has completely faded.
In her reluctance to appear insensitive, she may hesitate to be proactive in communicating with her partner to satisfy her pent-up s3xual desires. The Woman may fear something’s wrong with her man, something that has to do with his health or his work.
Many men also regain their potency. Even those who don’t can also be effective lovers. With some insights and creative imagination, it’s possible to restrict impotence from ruining your love life and the beauty in your relationship.

When is it not impotence?

An occasional performance failure cannot be categorized as the feared impotence. When a man who was a stellar performer in bed slips in his action one time, her partner may start questioning her self-image and attraction. It is usual for some women to suspect their husbands of having affairs.
All men now and then go through something like this. These occasional failures do not define their identity as impotent. The reasons for it may vary, it can be the many stressful and anxiety-inducing fast-paced lifestyles we are increasingly adopting. Persistent worry and professional obligations may have some part to play.
If it’s an occasional occurrence in performance, ignore it and steer yourself away from the counterproductive thoughts. Don’t start obsessing over it. If such a thought process enters your consciousness, the performance anxiety will slowly creep in. It can lead to a vicious cycle.

How to regain the lost intimacy and make love again?


The most important and effective tool for a very satisfying sex life or a very fulfilling relationship is clear communication. If you have ED, there is no better way to start addressing and doing something about it.
Talk openly and freely about your intimate desires. Without hesitation communicate your deep fears. The whole experience will manifest a new bond that solidifies your relationship. This eliminates the worry the woman may be having regarding her attraction and sex appeal. It is essential to reassure each other and remain supportive.
Don’t be afraid to seek professional help. A good sex therapist can help you and your partner in overcoming these issues and provide valuable insights on improving your sex life.


Stress and anxiety are significant contributors to ED. In many cases, their role is more impactful than the physiological problems. When buried in worry, both the performance and the enjoyment dwindles.
Redirect your focus and attention from your ED to getting intimate with your partner. Lose yourself in the moment. Enjoy the little things that make the atmosphere romantic and sensual. Cherish the time you are getting to spend with your partner. Try deep breathing exercises to relax and be mindful.
A gentle erotic touch may bring simple pleasure. The more relaxed you are, the more you’ll break the barrier of impotency to experience fulfilling and stress-free sexual action.


Reflect on the moments you and your partner had when you first started your relationship. Channel that experience of each touch electrifying your senses. Remember what it was like to explore so many new things about this fascinating person. You both had built this bridge of relationship discovering each other’s life from a unique perspective.
Relive those beautiful moments of togetherness. Kiss, laugh and experiment. There are many sex toys available for adult play. Just immerse yourself in the act and just purely enjoy it. Touch and caress each other. Discover the joy in extra-foreplay and sync intimately with your partner.


Even without a firm erection, you may still be able to 0rgasm. Even without intercourse, you and your partner can indulge in a great deal of sexual pleasure. All you need is a desire to take action and a twisted creative thought.
Mutual masturb@tion is one great way to learn more about what you and your partner enjoy. Experiment with innovative s3x toys to turn things spicy on the bed. Sex Vibrators are great to provide CLIT0RAL STIMULATI0N. Penis sleeves are fascinating toys for men with ED to wear and satisfy their partners. Along with tools for arousal and action, both mutual and oral stimulation can also be fun and exciting.
Sex doesn’t just have to be a game where the playground is always the bed. You can choose different and safe locations to be intimate and let the novelty of the place add extra excitement.


Physical intimacy is an essential part that sustains a happy and satisfying relationship. It’s possible to establish a relationship and have a sexually fulfilling time even without an active ERECTI0N.
Doctors may prescribe medications and treatments for ED. There might be other underlying ignored conditions that need to be addressed. Impotency can also mean early warning signs of heart disease.
For a long-term satisfying s3x life, it’s important to take care of your overall health. You also need to practice good communication to clearly convey your intentions and desires. Have a grip on your sexual expectations, adopt healthy habits into your lifestyle. Don’t forget to get creative to satisfy each other’s needs.

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When is Friendship Day; Significance of celebration




Friendship Day is observed every year on the first Sunday in August. Human beings are sociable creatures that place a high importance on their friendships. To honor this wonderful spirit, it is agreed that one day will be dedicated to friends and friendship.

Friendship Day, also known as Friends Day, will be discussed in today’s article. Friendship Day is now observed every year in several countries around the world, including the United States and India. Women and men of all ages enjoy this day to the fullest with their friends, or rather, friendships.

But what is Friendship Day, exactly? What is its background? What is the significance of this holiday? What does Friendship Day mean to you? Many people still lack sufficient knowledge on this subject. So, today’s article is going to be special for everyone who celebrates Friendship Day and understands the value of friendship, so let’s get started and learn what Friendship Day is and why it is honored.

What is the history of Friendship Day?

Friendship Day was first observed in Paraguay in 1958 when a day was designated as International Friendship Day. However, the way people celebrated Friendship Day back then was a little different.

Friendship Day wishes were delivered via greeting cards to pals, but as the internet developed, it became known as Friendship Day in other nations.

In truth, it was “Dr. Raman Artidio Braco” who presented the concept of honoring Friendship Day for the first time. In reality, the “World Friendship Crusade” was born out of this friendship gathering. Let you know that the World Friendship Crusade is a non-profit organization dedicated to promoting friendship around the world, regardless of religion, caste, or color.

When is Friendship Day observed? 

In 1935, the United States Congress proclaimed the first Sunday in August as a national holiday in celebration of friends. Since then, World Friendship Day has been celebrated annually in August.

It should be mentioned that certain groups observe Friendship Day in a unique way and at different times.

The first Sunday in August is National Friendship Day.

The third Sunday in August is Women’s Friend’s Day.

February is International Friendship Month.

The third week of May is for old and new friends.

Friendship is said to be unaffected by age, gender, status, ethnicity, religion, or faith, yet economic disparity and other forms of prejudice can stifle friendships. As a result, true and genuine friendship can exist between two types of minds who share a common position and a sense of affection for one another.

Whenever we require financial assistance or other forms of collaboration. Borrowing money from friends, on the other hand, might put friendships in jeopardy. Friendship can be influenced by others or ourselves at any time, thus we must maintain a healthy balance in our friendships.

Friendships can be shattered by ego and self-esteem. True friendship necessitates correct comprehension, satisfaction, and trust. True friends never take advantage of one another, but rather encourage one another to do the right thing and aid one another in life.

It’s tough to criticize friendship, yet it’s true that a thoughtless individual might be duped into friendship. Nowadays, finding true friends amid a multitude of bad and excellent people is extremely tough, but if someone has true friends, the world is not fortunate or talented. Humans and animals can form genuine friendships.

Best friends, without a doubt, assist us in overcoming obstacles and adversity. Friends always try to keep us safe from harm and offer advice from time to time. True friends are the most valuable asset in our life since they share our sorrows, our pains, and their efforts to keep us happy.

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Friendship Day is observed in a variety of ways.

Friendship bands are tied to another friend, T-shirts are given as gifts, and friends who are unable to meet send out Friendship Day wishes via social media to all their new and old friends, asking them to continue their friendly relationship.

Friendship Day is the day to choose perfect gifts for them and tell them how much they mean to you with a sweet surprise. For your friends who have stood by you through thick and thin, the ones who have never failed you in times of need, Friendship Day is the day to choose perfect gifts for friends and tell them how much they mean to you with a sweet surprise.

Although friendship is precious every day, people who are unable to connect due to a lack of time in their busy lives find time to meet on this day, and friendship begins on this day by erasing old hatred with a friend and re-tying a band of friendships.

Nowadays, friends commemorate Friendship Day by getting together in the canteen, reminiscing, playing games, and generally having a good time.

Why is Friendship Day so significant to everyone?

Friendship Day is significant for a variety of reasons. Let’s have a look at those factors.

These are the friends who make us laugh even under the most trying of circumstances.

These are the friends with whom we are most at ease and with whom we can discuss any topic.

These are friends that are continuously praying for us to God.

These are friends who believe in us even when we don’t believe in ourselves.

These are the friends who truly educate us how to live and make us happy.

These are the friends who support us in difficult times. It doesn’t matter if it’s a financial or emotional issue.

Even when there is no one else to turn to or when we are in the wrong, they stand with us. Despite the fact that they and we are not related by blood, I believe we should be grateful to God for having created such a wonderful relationship. They are the ones who are the happiest since they have plenty of pals.

What was the origin of Friendship Day?

In reality, there is a fascinating narrative behind it, in which a guy was assassinated by the United States government in 1935 because of his conviction. After that, the deceased’s friend was severely affected by the situation and committed suicide as well.

As a result of this sacrifice made in memory of a friend, the government established Friendship Day on the first Sunday in August. Since then, the Day of Friendship has been observed, and it is now observed not just in Western countries but also in Asian countries.

In the aftermath of his friend’s death, the man’s pal committed suicide. Because of the intensity of their friendship, the day was renamed Friendship Day in the United States in 1935, marking the beginning of Friendship Day celebrations.

Friendship Day is currently commemorated with zeal all across the world, because almost no one has no friends and does not understand the spirit of friendship. We all have friends in our life, but no one enjoys spending time with them. Childhood friendships are especially strong, with memories that last a lifetime.

Friendship is a voluntary relationship that a person enters into. Many unaware friends as a child, some of whom continue to be in your life and make friends in good and terrible times, while others continue to be in your life and make friends in good and bad times.

Few friends, on the other hand, can establish meaningful friendships at a young age. As a result, you should exercise caution when meeting new friends.

Friends are people whose presence has an impact on your future. Friendships with negative habits can damage you and your future, yet friendships with good thinking and habits can help you shape your personality and life.

Friendships have been separated into numerous groups these days, such as friends with the same passion, business friends, office friends, mean friends, and so on, but true friends have the same khubi, as they constantly support you in every scenario in life and desire your best interests at heart.

So, if you have a true buddy in your life, don’t forget to make them feel special on Friendship Day. This day, on the other hand, is commemorated with friends. Many people make arrangements to enjoy this day with their friends in various ways. The entire day is wrong, but on this particular day, try to carve out as many moments as possible from your hectic schedule for your buddies.

What did you take away from today’s lesson?

I hope you like my explanation of why this essay is dedicated to Friendship Day. I’ve always attempted to provide complete information to readers on when Friendship Day is observed so that they don’t have to look for that information on other websites.

It will also save them time and provide them with all of the information they require in one convenient location. If you have any questions about this article or want it to be improved, you may leave a comment below.

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