How to Deal With An Emotionally Unavailable Man

Last Updated on June 23, 2024 by Joshua Isibor

Relationships are nice, and there are a lot of things expected from both parties and a lot of things to consider. But in relationships, there are ups and downs, and before becoming a happy couple, there are rough edges—edges like trying to help your emotionally unavailable partner.

There are two basic facts to a relationship, which are True Friendship and Good communication. With both facts involved, there shouldn’t be any problems. But what happens if he is emotionally unavailable?

Who is an Emotionally  Unavailable Man?

Being emotionally unavailable describes someone not open to discussing or sharing their feelings. They can be evasive, flaky, or hard to read. “They’re scared of intimacy,” explains licensed couples therapist Brooke Sprowl, LCSW, CNTS.

Being emotionally unavailable may be caused by past experiences, which can make a person become defensive about what he creates for himself. This may happen to anyone.

So how do you know he’s emotionally unavailable?…..

Remember that both parties are involved in a relationship, and I’m pretty sure you tapped this link because you may have seen some signs and are trying to help your partner….Good luck!

How do you know your partner is emotionally unavailable?

Emotionally unavailable partners may be evasive, make excuses, or be unable to talk about their feelings. More subtle signs of unavailability include being too flattering, chronic lateness, and arrogance. It’s also important, to be honest with yourself about your own emotional availability.

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Symptoms of emotional detachment

1. Difficulty creating or maintaining personal relationships: This person would always want to be in that shell he has created for himself and try not to let anyone in as much as possible. This may involve a lot of mood swings. He may love you and may not know how to show it

2. A lack of attention or appearing preoccupied when around others: They are more introverted than usual, especially when they are around people. Some of them may hate humans generally, and talking during a social gathering is way out of their comfort zone. So, they prefer to keep to themselves.

3. Difficulty loving or affectionating with a family member: As stated earlier, they may love you but not know how to show it. It may look like love doesn’t dwell in them…..it does! They don’t just know how to show it. For them, it’s very hard.

4. Avoiding people, activities, or places because they’re associated with past trauma or events: Past experiences do have a way of sticking to people’s minds, especially negative ones. If anything relating to whatever traumatized them happens, they completely lose it, so they find every means possible to avoid it.

Helping such a person might seem difficult, but it’s not. It just takes time. It’s a little complex because of the mood swings involved, but it’s not hard.

So how can you help such a person? How can you bring him out of that shell

How to Deal With An Emotionally Unavailable Man

1: Pray

Dealing with the emotions of someone you really care about must require your very own deity. Praying for that person to whatever religion you believe in. Pray to God, Allah, Buddha, whatever, or whoever it is. That way you’re halfway through.

2: Lower your expectations, just a little bit

Don’t expect too much from him, take little gestures as one of the biggest things he’s doing for you. That way he’d want to do more. Instead of being extremely introverted, he might just come out as simply shy but a tiny bit extroverted. That’s your first improvement!

3:Try to figure out the best way to get through to him

Every human being on earth has something that they can never let go of, no matter how much he tries to hide it. It may be a hobby or something he really likes to do or say. That is the easiest way to get through to him.

4:Find a good friend to confide in

This doesn’t mean you’re bringing a third party into the relationship, it’s just you trying not to do things alone. Most times this is not always advisable but very effective!

5:Consider couples counselling

Couples counselling helps both parties air their views and is a safe place for peaceful talk. Helping an emotionally unavailable man needs the best environment.

6: Have patience

Patience is a very good virtue. Sometimes, it gets frustrating, and you might feel like you can’t keep up or that you’ve done something wrong. Take a chill pill and trust the process. Let time do its work. Be patient. It’ll go a really long way.

7: Read his body language

When conversing, there is every probability that he might have a mood swing or be uncomfortable with what you’re saying. Call him out calmly. Words like “we don’t have to talk about it if you’re not okay with it” signal comfort. It works every time.

8: Be true to what you want

Never try to beat around the bush, go straight to the point. Whatever you want you have to work towards it. Don’t ever try to go around it. It never works

9:Focus on the positive

Work with the improvements and never be negative about it. Be genuinely happy that your partner is coming out of that shell. Stay positive, stay happy and stay calm with the improvements.

In conclusion

An emotionally unavailable man is someone who is basically in a shell he has created to find solace in. For him, it’s a comfort zone, and trying to bring him out of it might be one of the hardest things, but trust me, it’s worth it.

Through this process, you’ll discover that the bond you once shared becomes stronger and unbreakable.

You can have that happy relationship you’ve always wanted. Although helping an emotionally unavailable man is like helping an addicted man, who says no one can overcome an addiction? You have to take the right steps

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Originally posted 2022-02-23 21:28:45.