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How To Stop A Divorce



how to stop a divorce

Last Updated on January 22, 2022 by Joshua Isibor

Marriages are blissful, they’re one of the greatest things on earth for it marks the start of a journey with that special person you wish you spend the rest of your life with. But what happens when a divorce is involved?  How do you stop a divorce?

A divorce is the legal dissolution of a marriage by a court or other competent body. A lot of things can lead to a divorce. Even when it gets to a point where it already filed

Most counselors would always say there are lots of ways to stop a divorce, but there is only one way to stop a divorce. Stopping a divorce involves talking it out and over. Talking it out and over means you both talk about it as a couple and get over it. So the main question is what are the steps to take?

Steps to stopping a divorce

1: Talking it out

This is the process where both parties tell themselves why they want a divorce. They are both mature adults and both adults should be able to talk things out amicably. This could be done before or after filing a divorce

2: Working against the root of the problem

After talking about it, you both know the root of the problem, so both parties must work against the problem. Working against the problem requires both parties to work together. Stopping a divorce cannot be done with a one-sided love.

If it’s one-sided, you’re just getting yourself ready to be hurt again In the future.

3: Daily Assurance

This involves a continuous conversation between both parties. They both agree on a daily basis. Do things together, do things that remind you of how you started.

Something that your partner likes. This way the thoughts of divorce would be long gone.

4: The role of a counselor

A good marriage counselor is advisable. The counselor works towards bringing the couple together. Sessions with that counselor might become a ritual.

That way, things are done together becomes a reminder to both man and spouse. A Counselor creates an atmosphere of peace and quietness between them.

5: Role of the in-laws

In laws on both sides should always play a part in all of these. They allowed the marriage then they should have a hand in fixing it. Both parties should  talk to their children individually and vice versa. This promotes unity in the marriage and the family at large.


What Keeps A Marriage And Stops A Divorce?

1: Praying together

praying together

In a marriage, being closer to your God keeps the bond. Praying together can become a tradition or ritual you both engage in. This way there is at least one thing that keeps you together

2: Keeping the basis of the relationship

Remembering what brought about should be at the top of your priorities. Remember that even before the marriage you were partners and even before you became partners you guys were friends, and before becoming friends you both made a choice. So a choice must keep you both together. Got it?

3: Commitment

Both parties must be committed to each other. Remember your roots of being true friends and having solid communication. That way, Love, trust and commitment would not be much of a problem. Daily communication enhances daily assurance.


4: Submission and Respect

Submission, is majorly the part of the woman, while respect on the part of the man.

This way there is a knowledge of hierarchy. Being that the man is the head of the house. That way both man and wife can create a synergy between both couples and the children.

5: Sacrifice

Giving up things for each other creates a mindset in the mind of your partner. Making him know that he or she has someone who would be there between thick and thin. For better for worse.

6: Forgiveness

The saying goes “Let bygones be bygones” in a marriage, there is no thorough perfection. Mistakes are bound to be made, humans are made err, things are bound to go wrong, so you both do yourselves a favor and forgive each other.

7: Romance

Sex, cuddling, spooning, making out, brings the couple together. It creates a form of oneness, a sense of togetherness. Both parties are bound by the ropes of procreation. Sex!

In conclusion

Marriage is not something you just go into and come out, it’s not a normal dating relationship where you can just break up and say “he is my ex”.

Marriage is something that was made to bring two people together. People that have made a decision to be together for the rest of their lives.

Remember, a marriage is not courtship, a marriage is a lifelong decision with that special person. A marriage requires True Friendship and Good communication, Love, Respect, Submission, commitment, sacrifices, and most importantly sex.

Remember, You made vows, keep it, do everything to work for it, work against anything that would cause a strain. And most importantly. Let Love Lead!

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  1. Clement Abrahams

    January 24, 2022 at 9:20 pm

    If you happen to choose the correct partner, if it was the persons choice.

    With respect to finalise the divorce and allow parties time to heal separately and then together hopefully. Hopefully healing traumas and feeling complete, they will be able and ready to improve their partners’ experience.

    Being a divorce attorney, having seen the abuse, both non – physical and physical, the long term effects violence has on children, not to mention emotional manipulation and the blinding lens emotions can have on the ignorant and/or foolish.

    Whilst I respect others and their marriages, I will definitely marry and even have kids…Will be a big GAY wedding.

    Positive and Negative energy (Feminine and Masculine). We have both in us and must balance them accordingly.

    To not give the person a divorce as requested, merely invalidates their emotions and feelings.

    After all, they can get married again…the kids and extended family would definitely be in need of a good party and happy times after the DESTRUCTIBLE DIVORCE.

    Which often allows foundations to be built again. Better and stronger. But never invalidate or dismiss or devalue your partner’s feelings.

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