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Getting people to like you should be something under your control and it is a matter of emotional intelligence or emotional quotient. It is something you can work for without undergoing too much stress. It is not luck but understanding how humans’ behaviors work.
Sometimes, it seems like we don’t get along with people especially at our work places, meeting or groups even among our family members and friends too. One thing you have to know is, everyone is not  going to like you but there are qualities you can still possess that can get people to you.
However, that should not be a problem cause there are certain things which you can do to make everyone to like you and here are some practical ways to do that.

The 42 practical ways to make someone like you

1. LOVE YOURSELF
Self love is the first thing you need to do before getting anyone to like you. You have to accept your personality, your imperfect being, your weakness, your fears. Accepting yourself build self-confidence. Don’t ever hide your personality, nobody wants to be around someone who keeps on blaming nature or their creators for what or who they are.
Be proud of yourself and treat yourself right. This will make people see you as someone who knows the value of being contented with what you have and who you are.
Naturally, this will help you stay strong around people and help you feel at ease when associating with them. Instead of changing your true being just to be accepted by people who don’t worth it while not work on your flaws and adjust a little.

2.SHOW INTEREST

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If you want to get people to like you, you have to show interest in them first. You don’t expect them to come to you, if you don’t pay attention to them. Don’t be that person that walks about showing people that you don’t even need them or they don’t worth your time.

Show them that you are easy to approach and talk to. You need to make a move first and show them you care about them, like what they do and try to come around them.
Try to be the first to initiate conversation. You might start with little greetings like: Hi, hello, to create room for them to talk to you too. Try to make friends with them first before asking about the little things that happen in their lives. Know how they are doing? Ask about their family? work? Their kids? Their interests? People feel happy when they are being ask about those little things.
Show them that you care and don’t go overboard trying to know everything. Make it look like you really understand them cause you are wearing the same shoes. It should come from within, don’t try to force it.

3.EYE CONTACT
Eye contact is very important during a conversation. According to the 50/70 rule, it stated that: “while having conversation, you should maintain an eye contact for 50 percent while speaking and 70 percent while listening.” This helps to display your interest in the other person and your confidence.
When making an eye contact, do it in a relaxed way that the other person won’t feel intimidated but feel at ease and connected to you.
This is the key in winning people towards you and they will always find ways to come around you.

4. ASK QUESTIONS ABOUT THEM.
Try to show your interest in knowing them. Ask questions related to them. Don’t keep talking about yourself, the things you have done. Try to give them the chance to talk about themselves. Let them be the one to ask you about yours and don’t say much. Just show that all you are interested in is about them and not yours.
This will give them the room to share with you what they have done, their plans and what they would love to achieve more in the future.
Asking questions can initiate friendship and bring you closer to them and this will make them to like you more.

5.LISTEN TO THEM
Be that person that gives his/ her attention to people when they are talking. Let them share their own stories. And always try to ask questions and use non-verbal words when talking to them.
This will show them that you are paying attention to what they are saying and you are interested to know more.

6.COMPLIMENT THEM
Who doesn’t like to feel special? That’s why compliment works best in our lives. People love it when they are being complimented for little things they do. It might be their achievement, position, new car, looks, hairstyles, skills and so on.
When doing this, just try to be real. Let it come from your heart and avoid exaggerating over nothing. Let the person see that you are saying the truth and not just to stay around.

7. SMILE
Always smile when talking to people. You don’t have to carry you problem around and be scary for no reason. You don’t expect to talk to you when you are frowning. Hey! Nobody wants to get along with a ghost. We are not your problem so you better don’t show those attitudes that can chase people away from you.

Smiling at people will only make them feel relaxed and see that you are on good spirits to talk. This is a perfect accessory to get to people’s heart and win their love.
Even if you don’t feel like to smile just give them a signal that you really care about them just that you are not in a good mood and do it in a friendly manner.

8. BE HONEST
Honesty is the best policy. It is a strong foundation to build a relationship. This is the best medicine you can give to people around you and it brings trust.
Peradventure, you might be tempted to impress someone and you go overboard telling lies which is obvious to people. This will make people see you as a liar. Which we make them not to trust your words cause they can’t differentiate your lies from truth. Always take your time to feel free when dealing with people and don’t go messing yourself up.
At the same time, don’t try to be transparent because you are being honest. Don’t share every details about you because you want to have their trust especially when you are not ready to do that.

9. FIND YOUR SHARED VALUES AND SIMILARITIES.
Finding people who shared the same values and similarities with you can easily bring you closer to them. Connecting to those that have the same values with you will only boost your relationship with them and get them to like you more.
On the other hand, similarity is a key that can connect you to people of the same interest. Whether it is a skill sets, traits, lifestyles and values you possessed. According to study by Theodore Newcomb, he stated that: “ people are more attracted to those who are similar to them which is known has similarity- attraction effect.”
It is a simple explanation that works like electricity. It gives you room to learn, teach, understand and feel more connected to them as well as, belonging to their world. This is another way of making people to like you and partner with you.
Always try to be honest with your values and don’t change yourself all because you want to get involved with people. Find out what your values are and know who fits in with them.

10. TRY TO DISPLAY POSTIVE EMOTIONS
Positive vibes attract positive people while negative vibes attract their kinds. Though, you might have your bad days but staying positive is the only way to keep yourself on track.
According to research from Ohio University and the university of Hawaii, it shows that people can unconsciously feel the emotions of those around them. This happens because people can possibly mimic others’ movement, talks, facial expressions which can turn them into feeling the similar things they feel.
Try not to complain about how bad things are in your life but show them that it is bound to happen and it will go on its own. Don’t let them see you whining and blaming others for your back luck.
Show them you are optimistic about them. This way, they will notice how relaxed you are in handling your problem, and this will push them to stay around you more.

11. ADMIT YOUR WEAKNESS
Everyone has their weakness, this is what makes us unique. Our weakness should not make us feel bad but gives us the room to adjust them. Admitting your weakness makes you more likeable and it brings you to people who will always accept who you are no matter how bad they are.
Admit you have a weakness and let them know that you are trying your best to adjust them. It is not something you should be ashamed of. You might even talk about them and let people suggest few solutions and help you out…

12. BE LIVELY AND TELL STORIES.
Have you met someone for the first time and the way they keep talking to you look like you have known them for ages? They are people like that, they love sparking up happiness everywhere they are.
Don’t be the type that people don’t want to stay around you. You can crack some jokes or make them laugh. Just start something people want to hear and this will attract more people into liking you. You can tell them stories about mysterious things, create the room for suspense and let them ask questions to show that they want to hear more.
Good stories win here, so be good at it and don’t fake what you can’t finish. You can start with real stories, twist it small and end well.

13. DON’T BE TOO NARCISSISTIC
Yes, I said you should love yourself but don’t be a jerk! You can’t be proud and still want people to come around you. Stop giving that signal of “I am this, I am that, I have this.” Nobody wants to stay where someone feels more important than others.
Even if you are, don’t go about exaggerating on things you have achieved or try to be in control of everything cause you think you can only associate with people with equal class. This will make people to see you as someone who doesn’t fit to be with.

14. BE YOURSELF.

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Hey! Don’t change yourself for anyone or anything. I know you want people to like you but this is not the right thing to do. Probably, you are scared of what others will say about you. Yes! Not everybody will like you no matter how you do it.
Rather, find the same group of people that help to improve your image and who you are. Changing yourself will leave a signal of “being so desperate” to cling to people. Be yourself and let this feeling flows naturally.

15. TRY TO HELP
Helping people is another way to boost your own happiness and people around us. The little things you do for people leaves a thousand prints in their hearts. Study proves that helping people boost happiness, increases life satisfaction, provides a sense of living and increase competency.
It might not be only giving out money but helping them to find solutions to their problems, spend time with them and ensure them that you are always there. This builds a stronger community which is hard to break and people will like you more.

16. CARE FOR THEM

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Always care for people in need and also those who don’t know what to do in life. Be that person, who wants to add value to people. Show them that you are the right one to share their pains, happiness, emotional problems etc. Try to remember the important details of their lives, celebrate with them, be there in their bad times, let them see you care genuinely and not after what they will give in return or have.

17. BE AVAILABLE
Sometimes, it seems like we are damned busy with life activities. Yes, life is also busy itself but we still make out time for people will love. It might not be only for your loved ones but people you hardly stay close with.

They might need your help and you are nowhere to be found. Don’t be that person, who wants to care but don’t have time to act. Probably, you might have the solution but you are always not available.

18. SEEK FOR ADVICE FROM THEM
People love someone who ask for their opinions whenever something crops up. They always want to be in charge of giving out what they have. You might use this method to get close to them but don’t act as if you are so desperate to listen to them. Let they give you what they have and you choose what is good for you.

19. DON’T BE TOO CLINGY
Like I said earlier, don’t act so desperate over trying to get them around. Nobody wants to keep a clingy person around. Let it comes from within and call yourself back if you notice you are going out of lane.

20. OPEN UP
This is tricky! If you don’t open up, you might not build that strong connection with other people. And if you open up too much, people see you as someone who can’t keep a secret. Just know that, this comes with trust and how long you have known them.
On the other hand, you don’t have to be too open if you are not ready. Don’t do things you will regret. Only say what is related to what they are discussing. Maybe, the other person might be shy to talk, initiate first and give room for the other person to talk too.

21. RELAX AND MAKE THEM FEEL COMFORTABLE AROUND YOU.
Don’t be a prick! You heard me? If you are an easy-going someone, everybody can tell. It is like a natural law that exists. And this will make people to like you more.
Just relax and don’t fidget over nothing. Take your time and chat with them. Avoiding checking the time or going through your phones or try to cut the other person out. Take it as an opportunity to relax yourself and feel at ease.

22. DON’T BE QUICK TO JUDGE.
Judging people will only give you the bad name. This is inevitable to us, humans. We are quick to point fingers without knowing the real truth; We go for the results instead of what actually happened or the cause.
Know that we have our bad and good sides and people tend to stay with people who show them their good sides.
What you focus on, grows with you. Just find their good sides and focus on using them whenever you are.
Study shows that when you talk about the good sides of people, they will always come around you.

23. FOLLOW UP
I can say that we all are guilty of this. I am jerk when it comes to following people up. I might save your number and still not call no matter how many times I have promised to do so. Not like I don’t want to do that but I always forget to follow up.
Now, I have realized how important it is to build a strong relationship. If I don’t call, I might leave a text. This is a way to show people you value them and have them in mind. If you find it too hard to do, just take a book and write out days to call and whom to call. This will give them room to remember you always.

24. ALWAYS GIVE
Don’t go with the title “the taker” instead of the giver. Always think of how to help not what to take from people. When you give, don’t expect anything in return. Give as if you are helping out or as donation.
Don’t wait for someone to ask before you give. Give out what is needed. It might be your time, energy, effort, money and attention. Put other before yourself has God said. Make sacrifices and sow seed of faith in people.

25. HAVE INTEGRITY
Self-respect should be your first thing in life. If you don’t have respect for yourself, nobody is going to do the same. Let your words and actions align with your principles, values, and personality. Don’t be the one who say something and act another. People love integrity and will always love you if you have one.

26. DON’T PUSH THE BLAME
Pushing the blame on others will make people to see you as a timid, who can’t stand up for himself/herself but look for ways to push it on others. Even if you are not the one at fault, just find a way to settle it. Nobody wants to be blamed even if they are at fault. Try to control it cause it seems like a habit that eats deep inside us

27. SHOW THAT YOU HAVE THEIR BEST INTEREST AT HEART
If you see who really wants to see you succeed, you won’t think twice to flock around them. People appreciate those that are there for them and wish them well. Show them that you have their best interest at heart and you will always support their dreams.

28. ARGUE SMARTLY
Don’t be the person that throw out anything whenever you are arguing or angry. Know when it is necessary to butt in or if the topic worth your time. Always act based on the truth and try not to lose your tamper over what will make you lose your relationship.

29. LEARN TO TRUST
Trust is one thing we need in our relationship. Though, it is hard to trust but this is workable. If you can’t trust, it will be hard for someone to trust you. Truthfully, trusting should be moderate, don’t go overboard with it. Know when it is necessary and don’t give in everything because you want to get someone to like you back.

30. MIRROR THEM.
Sometimes, try to mirror their behaviors; the way they talk, walk, tone, body gestures and so on. You can just act like them and remember not to limit yourself for anything or change your belief.

31. STAY HUMBLE
“Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love” Ephesians 4:2
Being arrogant won’t take you to anywhere rather, it will make you more stupid around people. Just don’t let your accomplishments intimidate people but let them see that no matter what you got, you are not superior to them.

32. BEING HYGIENIC
Always be clean and smell nice and don’t go around wearing unkempt clothes. Dress well, cut or plat your hairs, iron your clothes, spread your body deodorant and look classic. You might teach other how to dress well too. This helps to make people to like you well.

33. DON’T NAG OR CRITICIZE.
Criticism is not a bad thing but it depends on the situation it comes up. Telling people their bad side is good but it depends on the way you are doing it. Try to start with a positive note, maybe you can find where to fix the bad ones and end up in a good way.
Don’t be so rude or throw out words without mincing them. You can find ways to construct them just to avoid hurting others’ feelings.
Nagging can only bring hatred towards you. Don’t go about nagging over nothing even if you are right. Find ways to settle your issues rather than nagging.

34. GIVE CREDIT
Always put other in the spotlight, make them feel honored. Appreciate their ideas and celebrate them success.

35. LEARN TO FORGIVE AND KNOW WHEN TO APOLOGISE
Forgive always, this is the key to be free and feel more relaxed than ever. Though, it is not easy to forget, you might feel so bad but know when to control the feelings.
Learn to apologise when you make a mistake. Nobody is above mistake cause we are humans. Always try to accept apology from others even when it is hard. You can just leave the place, take your time and forgive.

36. VALIDATION MATTERS
Let them be heard of their own opinion. Don’t cut in when they are talking, even if they are making a false statement. Show them you understand their points and find ways to correct them.

37. DON’T FORCE THE CONVERSATION
The best thing to do is to relax while talking, don’t force it or try to act so desperately over some issues while talking.

38. USE BODY LANGUAGE
Body languages are the best gestures for communication. Feel free to touch them, tap them and use signs while expressing yourself.

39. DON’T BE CHEAP
Don’t allow your likability be the reason of being cheap. You can act normal but not as if you must get people to like you.

40. DON’T TRY TO CHANGE OR COMPARE THEM.
They said, if you want people to love you, let them be who they are. Changing someone is not good or making someone to change just to fit in your mold. Never try to compare people with anybody. This will leave you hanging in air.

41. GIVE GIFT
You can buy gifts for them. Maybe, when they are celebrating their success, birthdays and so on. You can also give them a little things at ordinary days when nothing special is happening. This will boost your relationship with people and make them to love you more.

42. DON’T BE BOSSY
Being bossy will scared people away from you. So, know when you are taking charge or controlling everything around you. Be cautious of your attitudes and always apologise when you do that.

IN CONCLUSION

Always be yourself and don’t look so desperate when getting people to like you. It will come to you if you apply all these into your life. It is workable and achievable. Don’t limit yourself for anybody, know when you are going out of hand. Slowly connect and you will see people liking you back.

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How To Tell Your Partner To Lose Weight

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How To Tell Your Partner To Lose Weight

One of the most agonizing things to do in life is hurting your loved one. Most especially if that said loved one, is your soulmate.

Many people are now stuck, thinking how they can tell their partners how to lose weight, without offending their missing rib.

But like all good things, in life. The only easy way is the hard way. As such, you should be ready to dish out a healthy dose of tough love.

After all, you want to stay with that person for as long as possible, before “Professor Death”, comes to mark your life script.

What shall it profit you to keep quiet, then watch your partner, jeopardize their health, and ultimately, your relationship?

So for this reason, you need to take the initiative and stand firm. After all, because you love them, that is why you need to whoop their ass.

4 Ways to Tell Your Partner to Lose Weight

1. Think about the health implication

You have to note that if you don’t help your partner, nobody else would. As such, you are entirely responsible, for turning the tide of health, of your partner.

Remember the vows you took, to love and protect. This is an opportunity to prove to yourself that you love your partner.

2. Be there for them

Nobody was born fat. Due to ignorance in part by people, over time the ill effect took root, and metamorphosed itself, into that protruding belly, which is ridiculous.

Gift them an online weight loss course

There is fat-shaming in the world. As such, the best option, can actually, be learning how to lose weight at home.

I discovered an easy to use 6 months weight loss plan that you can use to lose weight, right in the comfort of your home. In the early stages of your weight loss journey.

3. Encourage them

Make sure you encourage your partner, at this lowest point in their lives. It will do well in lifting up their spirits and morale.

So that they can keep on pushing, in their journey of trying to lose weight.

4. Change the kitchen foods

You can swap out all the junk foods from inside your house. That way, your partner is not tempted to relapse into their previous bad eating habits.

5. Don’t be a menace

At the end of the day, you must realize that nobody cares. When all is said, and done, you will eventually die, and that weight loss goal will be buried with you, six feet in the ground.
So don’t fret too much. Nevertheless, if you can’t stand it, then learn how to lose weight at home, by following our 6 months weight loss program.

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15 Clear Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You

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Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Be Over You




You ended things with them; and now, they are really acting Strange towards you. It could be signs your ex is pretending to be over you when he/she is not. Some Signs you get after a breakup is not something you want to misinterpret regardless of how bad the breakup was.

Once upon a time, things were good between both of you. Because things came to the point of breakup, doesn’t mean you have both moved on. Just because, you called it quits some time ago; doesn’t mean everything that happened between you two, is forever erased.

One of you may just be faking it. Because you are human and once knew this person, there are signs that will point you in that direction.

He may be texting you or behaving in a weird way. And because he/she is just expressing their feelings; it may be confusing to understand.

Also, depending on the reason for the breakup or situation, you may both still come back together or not.

In this article, let’s let clarify one important fact before looking at the 13 observable signs that your

Can Your Ex Pretend To Move On?

Yes! In actual fact, it may be the reason you are reading this article. You probably do not just understand the person’s actions toward you.

According to Ken Page, who is a therapist and relationship expert, “there are different ways people pretend to be over someone, its either they’re lying to themselves, their ex, or other people in their lives”. “They do that because they want to be resilient and it’s terribly hurtful to go through a breakup.”

He added, that it’s not uncommon to try moving on quickly to a place of being over someone. He also explains that on a general note, we are never truly over someone as much as we claim to be.

According to Psychologist and relationship expert Margaret Paul, Ph.D., “pretending to oneself is the most common pretending of all”. She also says “I have worked with people who kid themselves into thinking they are over an ex when they really aren’t,” adding that. “Many people don’t want to do the inner work to really be over an ex and simply pretend to have moved on”.

Based on the work of these amazing persons, we can deduce that in fact, many people do pretend to over their ex a lot of times. And it’s more common than we think; it could have even happened to us in the past unknowingly. And also, your ex may just be pretending to be over you.

We all deal with breakups differently. While some are continually in denial; others just let out all the feelings by crying, eating too much, drinking to stupor, and so on. Thus, your ex may just be pretending to be over you to escape reality.

Now let’s get the signs. Beware; they may not show all these signs. However, if they show at least two of these signs, you are right on track.

Here Are 15 Signs Your Ex Is Pretending To Move On

1. The Signals From Them Is Not Straightforward

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This is a sign your ex is pretending to be over you. Because the signals you are getting from becomes very confusing to understand. They show mixed signals, that you find very hard to interpret.

When you ask how they are, they say they are doing very fine; yet they look otherwise. For the guys, his beard may be unshaved, his clothes rumpled, he may reek of alcohol and still tell you he is doing amazingly well.

Or, He may look very sharp and well shaven but with heavy bags under his eyes. You can literarily see exhaustion written over them yet they maintain they are fine.

2. Their Emotions Towards You Are Extreme

This means that everything they feel towards you is heightened. They usually mask the love they have for you; with extreme emotions, like love, hatred, and sadness.

They may not want you to see through their façade so; they hide it, by exhibiting something entirely different. And because they have not moved on, they will eventually show you these extreme emotions.

3. They’re Drunk Dialing You

There is a very clear indication, that they are not over you yet; and only pretending. Drunk dialing can be very annoying; because they’re not even totally aware of it.

But, because they are thinking about you; the first person that comes to their mind to ring in that state is you. It’s now totally dependent on you; if you want to take the call.

4. They’re Drinking A Lot.

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Even if normally, the person drinks, it is intensified after your breakup. And even after time has passed, they’re still drinking.

People drink for various reasons; but in their case, it’s to escape the reality, that you are not in the picture anymore. Because of the hurt and sadness, they will try to drown all these feelings in alcohol. Which is why he will drunk dial you.

5. They Keep Trying To Explain The Breakup.

If all he does, when he calls, is to keep explaining the reasons for the break; then, he is still hooked. He keeps dissecting and explaining why he left.

Even when it doesn’t make sense, he keeps talking about it. This means, he is still in denial and has not fully understood it yet. So he can’t even move on.

6. They Want To Remains Friends

This can be very tricky. It could be their way of trying to get you back; or, their way of escape losing you.

So, they are still there; whenever you call on them and are still friends with you. They may not be ready to lose you totally yet.

So, this way they can still have you around. Usually, when this occurs they still want to be more than friends but are more subtle about it.

7. They Stay In Touch With Your Friends

If they are not pretending to be over you, they have no reason to keep in touch with your friends. Except, it’s for business or something of much importance.

So, if they are still calling and having long talks with your friends then they have not truly cut ties with you. Your ex may be hanging out with your friends with hopes to bump into you.

8. People Around Them Try To Get You To Reconcile

These people are around him and they see his state. Thus, they will naturally try to help him. They try to convince you to check upon him.

They know he is not over you yet, and are probably still devastated by the breakup. So in their own way, they will want to bring you two together again.

If they see you, they’ll urge you to call him to know how he is doing. They may even tell you he misses you.

9. They Are Stalking You On Social Media.

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You have broken up; yet, they are the first to like and comment on your picture on social media. It means they are not over you yet and just pretending.

Even if they did it when you two were still together, now it’d be even more serious. He doesn’t just like and comment on your posts but he does that as soon as you post them.

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10. They’re Refusing To Date Someone Else

If they are refusing to date someone else; even after so much time has passed, they are have not moved on. The excuse they give is usually unrealistic and vague.

Like how they are taking time to love themselves or how they are working on themselves.

There are two reasons they may be doing this, it’s either they are still healing from the breakup or they hope to still get back together with you.

11. They’re Not Sticking To One Person

They are just hopping from one person to another; and, not staying faithful to one person. Today you see them with Tracy, tomorrow it’s Linda.

Meanwhile, when you two were together, they were committed to you. Something is definitely wrong with them. They are not over you just yet.

12. They Still Maintain Contact Even When It’s Not Necessary

Although, they do not have to be in contact with you; yet, they will still call once in a while to check up on you. The reason is simple, it is because they miss you.

This is a very obvious sign’ your ex is pretending to be over you. He won’t just stay off the radar; he will call and send messages when he feels like.

13. They Show Off Their Accomplishment

They are not over you if they are showing off their improvement in your face. You don’t need to know what they have achieved.

No one actually parades their growth, in front of people they don’t care about. His reasons may be in two ways; either he is trying to get you jealous and regret the break-up or he wants you to see his growth and see that he is improving

They Don’t alter Their Schedule and keep running into you.

If your ex has moved on, they will adjust their schedule to avoid awkward moments when they run into you. Rather they maintain the same schedules you are used to in hopes to run into you. They may come with another girl just to get you jealous or they may genuinely just want to see you.

14. They don’t let you get your things and even leave theirs behind.

Are they still holding on to a shirt of yours even after a lot of time has passed? Did they refuse to come to get some of their things left at your place?

It’s not the things that are that valuable to them; they just holding on to it for sentimental reasons. Because they probably miss you. They may even be waiting for you to come to get it so they can spend time with you. People who hope to get back together after a breakup have not really moved on.

15. They are refusing to publicly acknowledge the breakup

It’s because your ex has not moved on so they are still holding on. They will refuse to admit that you are gone because to them, you will still get together. If someone asks them they will rather say you guys are having a misunderstanding rather than you have broken up. On their social media, they will not change their relationship status. They are obviously struggling to let you go.

Wrapping UP

In the end, what matters is what you want for yourself. They may be showing any of these signs, good or bad but you still get to choose your next step. Either to take them back or break it off completely. So be sure to make the best decision for yourself since you don’t really know what their motive will be if you allow them back into your life,

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30 Ways To Keep A Girl Happy Even If You Suck

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Oftentimes, when it comes to how to keep a girl happy, most of us just think of gifts. Although buying her gifts is an option, it’s not the only trick on the table.

If you two are in some kind of relationship or you are working towards the direction of a commitment, it means she already likes you. Therefore, if she already likes you, your job becomes easier.

Keeping a girl happy is not rocket science; issues only arise if she doesn’t like you. If a girl doesn’t like you, it will be very difficult to keep her happy.

There is this saying that “it’s not what is said but who is saying it.” How we react to something oftentimes depends on who it is coming from. Our perception of issues depends on the source.

You’d agree with me, that how you react when an armed robber tells you to lie down, is different from how you react; when a spouse says the same thing. The same thing was said but different reactions followed it.

So, before attempting to keep a girl happy, be sure that she likes you; or at least, she tolerates you. It is important to keep your girlfriend happy because a happy girlfriend equals an enjoyable relationship.

Not all girls are even receptive to gifts; others see it as petty. So, when attempting to keep a girl happy, it doesn’t have to be overboard.

Even in getting gifts, it doesn’t have to burn a hole in your pocket; it should just be really thoughtful.

Since there are a whole lot of other things you can do to keep a girl we will look at 30 ways in this article.

How To Keep A Girl Happy

1. Always Tell Her That You Love Her.

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Men are moved by what they see, women, on the other hand, are moved by what they hear. Girls like to be assured in form of words.

So don’t hold back on telling her you love her. If you want to keep a girl happy, always tell her you love her. That way she feels like her love for you is reciprocated and that you love her very much.

Tell her sweet words, like how lucky you feel having her in your life, how your life will be gloomy without her in it. Tell her you love her before hanging up during a phone conversation; she’d probably blush over it.

You can also say it when she is about to leave for somewhere also randomly when you two are together.

2. Always Give Her Compliments.

I mean who doesn’t like compliments? As a human, when someone compliments us, consciously or not it makes us feel better.

Your girl is no different; so, if you want to keep her happy, compliment her. It could be just randomly in between a conversation, and that could earn you a smile.

A well-timed compliment will always elate anyone’s mood. When it comes to compliments, it will always feel better when it’s from the one you love.

It doesn’t have to be you two are together; it could also be on phone or over a text.

An example is how her eyes pop in blue colored dress, or how cute her personality is or how perfectly set her teeth is, how delicious she smells, and so on.

3. Make Her Laugh Often.

One of the admirable traits in guys that girls are attracted to, is the ability to make them laugh. Ladies are usually attracted to guys who can make them laugh.

You do not have to be a comedian to make this happen. You should know the topics she likes, and make a joke about it.

You do not want to make a joke about a topic, which is sensitive to her; so, you won’t upset her.

It is rather imperial, that you know how to make your girl laugh; if, you want to keep her happy. The amazing thing about this is that a girl who likes you would laugh at your jokes; even if, they are lame. You both know the jokes are lame and dumb but she will still laugh at it.

So, not being a guy should not be your excuse for not trying to make your girl laugh. It’s nothing. A little practice can’t fix it; you just have to be intentional about it.

If you are still finding it hard to crack a joke, you could just recall to her an incident in the past that you found funny. Another option is to try making funny faces.

4. Appreciate Her

If you want her to be happy; then, learn to appreciate her. For even the little things, say a “thank you”; as that shows that, you notice her efforts.

Don’t wait till she does something huge, like donating a kidney to you. It could be just because she is your life. An example is “thanks babe for being in my life”. Show gratitude whenever she does something special for you. It will make her happy and she will keep doing more.

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5. Communicate With Her As Often As Possible.

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Always talking with your girl will make her happy. Communicating keeps your connection secure; that way, you will be in contact with her.

As far she is not complaining about it, keep the calls and texts coming. It doesn’t have to be planned; it could be random.

Call early in the morning to ask about her night and also tell her you missed her. You can also pick up the phone and text her that you love and miss her. This is a very sweet gesture you should do once in a while to keep a girl happy.

In a relationship, you should call or text at least once daily.

6. Leave Short But Sweet Notes, Poems, Or Letters Around Where She Can See Them.

If you both share a space, this can be very romantic. Hand-written notes with cute and romantic words are classic but super effective in putting a smile on a girl’s face.

It would melt her heart and make her blush. It could be in the kitchen, doorknob, by the bedside, or anywhere at all in the house or office.

It doesn’t have to be wordy; an example is “my day is brighter with you in it.” It could also be a poem that is not too wordy but sweet. This makes her happy even in your absence. Love letters are also useful in this case so you could try that out.

7. Shower Her Cute, Sweet, And Romantic Text Messages

If you want to keep a girl happy contact her as soon as possible and as much as possible. So, long as she doesn’t complain about it.

Sending sweet and cute messages to a girl you like comes naturally even if you are not a poet. Texting the girl you love is just you, putting your feeling in words.

Texting makes it easy for you to say things that you may not be comfortable enough to say on the call. Shower her romantic text messages letting her know she is always on your mind.

It may be a regular message when it is from someone else, but from you, it’s just sweet.

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8. Learn What She Wants

To keep a girl happy, you must at least learn what she wants or what she is into. Some gestures may seem sweet and cute to you, but they may throw her off.

When it comes to keeping a girl happy, don’t assume what she wants or likes. Take time to notice what she likes.

Don’t make the mistake of getting her strawberry flavored ice cream; when what she likes is chocolate flavored.

We know you want to keep her happy, but do you know what makes her happy? Solve that issue before going on. Know her preferred and best flavors, her allergies, and generally things she is interested in.

Don’t take on her long walks when she detests walking distances. The best way to actually know what she wants is to get to know her.

Probe within comfortable boundaries into her life, likes, dislikes, hobbies, desired destinations, etc. if you know her likes, you can easily pick one of them and surprise her with it.

9. Spoil And Make Her Feel Special

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Every lady deserves to be pampered by her man. If you do this her happiness will always be in check.

Women love to be pampered and spoiled it makes them feel loved. Even the highly independent ones also need to be spoiled silly.

And if she feels your love for her, she will definitely be happy. Pampering can be in form of sweet gifts, attention, compliments, shopping, offering to do her chores, singing to her and so many others.

The list is indeed very long so know what she likes and give her plenty of it. If you have female friends around, make sure she gets the lion share everything coming from you.

When having a group conversation, keep her engaged and sneak in compliments in between. This makes her feel special, unique, and valued.

10. Be A Good Listener To Her.

There is a misconception about listening. Most persons think being a good listener is, not talking when the other person is talking; that is not totally correct.

If you just keep mute when a girl is talking, it can become really annoying. Being a good listener is to not just allow the person to freely express herself, but also know how and what type of input to add to the conversation.

It may sometimes require a nod, or a hmm, or a yes, an okay, and so on. Try not to interrupt the person’s speech or look disinterested.

You must be actively involved in the conversation though you may not be really saying anything. It’s very understandable that you may want to interrupt with an important piece of information. But, keep it till she takes a pause and chip it in.

Girls tend to talk and rant a lot more than boys so just listen to her if you want to keep her happy.

11. Extend The Care To The People Around Her

If you want to keep your girl happy, the people around her must be cool with you. Be sure to buy them over to your side; by building a sort of healthy relationship with them.

These people are important in her life and if she has to always fight for you, with them, she won’t be in the best of moods. Be nice to them and try to sort out any form of conflict.

Her family and close friends should at least be talking terms with you. Work on the ones who don’t really like you by trying to impress them.

There is a kind of peace that comes with knowing that your man and the people around him are on good terms. Thus, your effort alone will make her happy.

Need More? Then, You Should Try Out These Other Very Useful Tips Which Includes

  1. Get her flowers on special occasions to make her feel special. Or, on least expected moments
  2. Go on romantic dates as often as possible. Candlelight dinners, cute picnics, etc.
  3. Go on trips together; preferably, her chosen destination or somewhere you know she wishes to visit. It could even be a surprise or planned.
  4. Cook for her. Breakfast in bed won’t be such a bad idea yea? Cook her favorite meal for her sometimes to make her happy.
  5. Respect her. Every human wants to be respected and she is no different. So respect her space, decisions, and others.
  6. Show her you value her. On several occasions, make it obvious to her what void she is filling in your life and just how important she is to you.
  7. Be interested in her interests. Be genuinely interested in her interests and this will help you make better decisions in the future concerning her.
  8. Don’t ever cheat on her. Whether you think she will find out, or not; be loyal to her.
  9. Share your stuff with her. If she wants your hoodie or sweatpants, let her have it. It’s really sweet and will make her happy.
  10. Value her point of her in your decision-making process. It shows that you have a level of trust in her intelligence. And girls love to be perceived as intelligent.
  11. Do PDAs if she is up for it. PDA is public display of affection and some ladies absolutely love it. Holding her hands in public, hugging her outdoors, and other affectionate displays. Hug her from behind and do those long hugs.
  12. Be quick to say sorry genuinely, when you are wrong. Even if she is wrong, and you know the tension won’t reduce till you say sorry, just say it.
  13. GIVE HER ATTENTION
  14. GIVE HER MORE ATTENTION
  15. GIVE HER THE MOST ATTENTION. This doesn’t mean you should pester her; it means to give her the most attention but respect her boundaries if she wants. Always be within her reach.
  16. Smother her with kisses. Not just on the lips but everywhere. Her hands, neck, forehead, nose, cheek, and everywhere available.
  17. I know girls ramble a lot but try to keep up. Remember her words especially the ones concerning her interests.
  18. Trust her. Trust makes a lot of things easier. If she knows you trust her, she will definitely be happier.
  19. Don’t neglect celebrations; no matter how little they are. Celebrate little things like getting a promotion at work, beating a target, and a couple of other things. Don’t take the fun away because then your relationship becomes boring.

Wrapping Up

The list may be overwhelming; but if you truly love your girl and you want to keep her happy, it will become easier to make these things happen. It’s true that love pushes us to do things we normally won’t do.

This is true because you are naturally happier if the person you love is happy. Happiness is very contagious, so in keeping your girl happy, you must also be happy. It’s very hard to give what you do not have. Therefore, be happy to keep her happy.

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