In this article we are going to talk or rather read about how to ask a girl out, I’m sure many guys would be like ‘what’s there in asking a girl out?’ well I will tell you there’s everything there.
Asking a girl out is not as easy as it looks or rather sounds, you think I’m lying? ask those guys who you think are professionals in going after a lady…well it ain’t easy.
Let me start by telling you one tiny secret you might not know as a guy trying to ask a girl out or asking a girl out.
Most of us girls already know exactly what you are coming for, even before asking your friend(s) to come and talk to us, even before you talk to us.
But we wait and listen for you beat about the bush, just to figure out one little thing like is he even worth it? Yes, that’s a little secret.
So when that girl is standing right before you listening to you talk, she might be pressing her phone acting all disinterested, but trust me she’s actually listening to you. That young woman is trying to decide in her head whether she should let you go or let you stay.
That’s why most girls give some guys a very hard time especially those guys they feel has potential.
She might be acting like she’s hard to get, but trust me she’s just trying to test your level of patience, cause you all know or say…most girls are annoying.
Things you should know before you go after her or rather do before you go after her:
1) Make sure your sense of humor is on point:
Yes, that is important If you hate embarrassment and insults. Cause most girls are highly sensitive and always angry. She might be on her period, have had a bad day, a really bad one and she’s hurrying home. When suddenly, this guy pops out of nowhere and starts talking gibberish.
Come on, you have to give her a break. She turns to you and says she’s not interested in your talk or ignores you. Well, that’s when your sense of humor has to be elevated or you end your speech.
When I talk about a sense of humor, I don’t mean you should body shame her indirectly, unless you love getting slapped or insulted.
2) Make sure your fashion sense is on point:
You might say, this means nothing but it means everything to some girls, especially that one girl you are going after.
Most girls are what we call “fashionista,” these group of girls definitely wouldn’t want to be seen with a guy who wears a rumpled shirt, with a cardigan and baggy pants calling it fashion, or a guy who wears big shirts and skinny jeans.
Like man, she wouldn’t want to be caught dead just standing close to you.
You don’t have to be overdressed either, it’s ok to just wear a cool shirt, that’s not too big and nice jeans, joggers or shorts. You don’t have to come out all flashy, turns some girls off instantly.
3) Have good body hygiene:
You can’t walk up to me stinking of sweat and expect me to give you a chance, honey are you for real?
Bad body hygiene is a major turn off even if you’re cute. I don’t think there is any girl who would want to give any guy that chance unless she likes and adores you. Which in some situations is a four-over ten like uses good body sprays or perfumes… Girls love it when they come close to a guy and he smells really good…like good enough to eat.
Then we come to the mouth odor, yes that, that’s bad…I do not know if they don’t know about it or just feel it’s ok. That as long as they are cute and got loads of cash, the girl would ignore these parts of them.
Well sorry to burst your bubbles honey, not all girls. I know a lot of them who wouldn’t even want you to get close to them, even a hug you can’t/won’t get.
If you are one of these guys, I just to want to plead with you to do something about it. Peace!!
4) Know when to shut up:
Yes! This is so important, very very important.
You want to ask a girl out, she’s standing right in front of you trying her best to act interested or uninterested.
Then you ask some questions or a question, and she’s talking, don’t try to interrupt her. Even if you feel she’s lying or talking out of point, well keep quiet and if you’re a smart guy, you can pick out points from things she’s said and throwback questions at her.
Reasonable questions that would make her think, “wow,” ask her about her hobby.
What she loves doing with her free period.
Even if she tells you she doesn’t have a hobby, know what to tell her, don’t go about asking questions like.
“Who doesn’t have a hobby?” Like bro, really? (Rolls eyes).
Don’t just cut her short and start giving unsolicited advice because you are a guy and you feel you are so smart.
You would lose her.
When you are acting all smart, cutting her off, and giving advice, most girls would just be staring up at you smiling and nodding as they get you.
But deep down, you’ve been crossed out with red ink.
5) Do not ask stupid questions:
Here’s one, “have you eaten?” Trust me it’s stupid unless you are planning to take her out to eat don’t ask that question.
Here’s how it goes down, she might tell you “I haven’t” and then you’d be like “why?”
And she’d say, “cause I haven’t seen what to eat yet or I do not have an appetite yet”
What would you do? Nothing, maybe you’d end up telling her, “ok then, find something to eat” then the conversation ends.
I get it though it’s normal these days, the girl or the guy call each other and then one of them is like, have you eaten?
Have you eaten? Doesn’t always show that you are caring, there are a lot of girls who hate that question.
That kind of question can come only if you have somewhere in mind to take them too, something else to cover up the question…like to keep the conversation going, or when you two are already very close and you are going to end the conversation.
Cause when both of you have known each other so well, are so close, that question might lead to other good conversations.
Here are another many of my girlfriends find confusing, how’s life treating you?
You call this girl you are asking out. After the greetings, the first question you ask her is, how’s life treating you?
Why would you even ask someone that question? how exactly is my life supposed to be treating me?
Anyway, these questions are bizarre, please guys do something about it. Come up with different strategies.
6) You need to have a good flow:
Most guys find it hard to start up a conversation when chatting both online and offline.
It’s boring when you as a guy can’t start up a conversation or even continue the conversation. At least there should be stories you can tell, it doesn’t always have to be about sex and nude pictures.
And it doesn’t always have to be too serious either, don’t start preaching to her or advising her on her life, like everybody has their own life.
To all those guys who hit a girl up and talk about school and studies all the time, yes she knows you’re smart, you’re full of wisdom, but please you want a girlfriend, not a student. You want to build a relationship, not a school.
Just figure out how to start like you can even ask your fellow guys, it doesn’t always have to come from the girl’s end.
7) Remember those little things:
You both are discussing pick out points, little things, like what she’s interested in, her favorite artist or colors or food, anything.
So that the next time you both meet up, she or you bring up your previous conversations.
She’s talking about her hobby or what she likes, then you remember one detail it could be the color she likes, what she likes.
It might not mean a thing to you, but to her it’s special. Of course, she wouldn’t act like she knows or heard what you’ve said.
She would definitely act uninterested, like yeah it’s a norm you have to remember everything I say. Deep down man, she’s doing her happy dance.
If you were a ten she’d give you a twenty immediately. You’ve won or almost won your girl.
8) Send random notes or texts:
I know it might sound too old fashioned, some might say who sends notes these days?
She might be your colleague at work, or your classmate or school mate. You can have someone deliver it to this special girl or even deliver it yourself secretly of course.
Some times You can deliver this note and watch from a distance to see how she smiles, just don’t make your lines too cheesy and long cause it might end up boring to her.
You could pick a really nice, sweet word or words from a movie or a really nice romantic book you’ve read. It could even be a poem.
A poem would be the best option cause definitely she wouldn’t be expecting something like that. So dazzle her with the fact that “well I can be creative too.”
Then it could be a text message, it’s kinda overrated. That’s what some people would say, but there are lots of girls who find it beautiful.
Your texts don’t have to be too long, even if it’s long, make sure it’s something she would want to read over and over again.
9) Make time to call her:
There isn’t much detail here anyway, as long as you’ve gotten her number the next thing you should do is call her.
The only reason why I put this detail down here is that some guys after they get this girl’s number they hesitate. They wait two days, a week before they can call.
Like why would you do that? The fact that she gave you her number without hesitation shows that she finds you worthy.
don’t think there is any girl who would just give a random guy who isn’t worth her digits just like that, even if she eventually gives you, it might end up being a wrong number.
Anyway, the main point here is to call her immediately you get to wherever it is you get to, because if you don’t and you decide to call her a week later, well pal!!! she might have lost interest by then. because you actually left her thinking that maybe you played her.
10) Send her little gifts:
This isn’t old fashioned…I don’t care what you say but it isn’t.
Girls love gifts, you are asking her out…you don’t have to send her cars it clothes or those flashy trinkets.
You don’t have to show off, yes she knows you got a high taste, you got the money to spend but don’t show off. Unless you want her to sit back and decide “hmm, ok then let’s play.”
Send her little things like flowers, chocolate, cookies…they mean a lot. Even little cute bracelets, she’s going to love them and adore you more.
You might even be the one guy in all the others whose asking for her attention to get it in full dose.
11) Try doing it in person:
Girls appreciate that.
When you decide to send your friend to go get her, she will automatically see you as a very un-serious person.
She might even end up with your friend along the way and you’d be left wondering why your friend betrayed you.
Here’s a tiny secret, girls appreciate guys who do things by themselves, their way.
12) Plan ahead:
Plan ahead! plan ahead!! plan ahead!!! As a guy, you should know that only a few girls keep to time.
You can’t be taking her out by 7 pm and tell her by 6:30 pm that you two have a date.
Well, you should tell her like two hours before the time, even if you want to go by 7 pm call her at 4 pm and tell her to be ready by 6 pm.
It’s not like girls are un-serious or anything, it’s just that she might have other plans.
So give her the space to tell you,
“Ok I am interested” or “hey sorry I’ve got plans, maybe next time.” Sometimes though, she might just want to keep you waiting.
She’s not so complicated just know the little and important things to do to grab that girl’s attention.
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How To Break Up With A Married Man With Ease
You tapped on this post because you’re in a situation like this and you feel guilty for dating another woman’s husband or you’re just tired of the relationship. But here’s the thing, you want to get out and you don’t know how to. So let’s press play and start this journey together. Do you want to know how to break up with a married man?…… SOLUTION AWAY!
Now a lot of women out there get into relationships like this for reasons best known to them and because of those reasons they don’t see how unreasonable it is, literally, logically basically, and practically unreasonable. But you tapped this post because you already see that it’s unreasonable and you just can’t keep up with it.
Here’s the good news, you’re halfway through the solution.
Now breaking up with a married man would require the following procedures:
8 Sure way to Break Up with a Married Man
1: Put God first:
This is the most essential part of making any decision in life even something as ‘Sinful’ as this. Basically it is called adultery, so you’re committing a sin with a married man, Even though the sin is more on the man, you’d still be seen as a partaker of it. Remember a sin is a sin, and when you’re involved you have committed a sin.
Now how do you put God first?
Prayers: Daily communication with God enhances your relationship with him, your frequent communication with him yields faster results than leaning on your own understanding.
God would always accept you, so despite the fact that you’ve done something as “bad” as this, he’d still draw you close.
“For I will be merciful to their iniquities,
And I will remember their sins no more.”
God would accept you the way you are, so you wouldn’t have to worry
For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, much more, having been reconciled, we shall be saved by His life.
Yep! That’s just self explanatory. Accepting Christ is the reconciliation, so pray and build relationship with Jesus himself
Reading and meditation of the word: While you build your relationship through prayers , read your Bible.
Without these two things you haven’t put God first. But you also have to come to the understanding that God would accept you!
2 Corinthians 6:14
Do not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. For what partnership has righteousness with lawlessness? Or what fellowship has light with darkness?
Even though the man doesn’t see how wrong it is, be the first to make that move, do the right thing. You basically don’t belong together, if you are a Christian, what relationship does your righteousness have with such lawlessness?
These are questions you must ask yourself
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Make the man know this. His lust/love for you shouldn’t be in the picture if he claims to truly love his wife. It is God’s commandment and he must follow it.
Read through the rest of the bible verses and drop your questions in the comments zone.
“For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the God of Israel, covers his garment with violence, says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be faithless.”
He who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtains favor from the Lord.
1 Corinthians 7:39
A wife is bound to her husband as long as he lives. But if her husband dies, she is free to be married to whom she wishes, only in the Lord.
And said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?
Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”
1 Corinthians 7:9
But if they cannot exercise self-control, they should marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.
Read your Bible on a daily basis, pray, and always communicate with God your solution comes quicker that way.
After putting God first, The “how” and the “When” comes in.
How and when do you break up with a married man
2: Do a reality check
Face reality, he’s not the one for you, you’d always be a mistress to him, you’re only needed when he needs you and not when you need him. You have no true emotional support, you’d still be left alone to live for life on your own. Your only usefulness is quench is sexual urge or desire.
3: Become independent
Most women go into relationships like this because you feel like that’s what you deserve, to be pampered and showered money when you want or need it. You feel you should have everything on a platter of gold, but think about this properly you can make that money on your own and even more. All you have to do is believe in yourself that you can do it without the help of any man. Say daily affirmations to yourself everyday, encourage yourself. Stop blaming yourself for whatever guilt you have and own up to it. Face your mistakes and fix it. Start up a business of your own. Save up some money. You can become successful without the help of a Married Man!
4: Try to scare him off
Now testing a man’s love for his wife or the fear of losing his married is quite easy. This is where the intellect comes in. Try the pregnancy scare. Tell him you’re pregnant. His reaction would determine your next action. Not all men would accept it and some men would also accept. If he doesn’t accept it, that’s your cue to leave! Now if he accepts it that means you have to work with option B. Ask him to file a divorce with his wife. Trust me, no man would want to lose his marriage to a woman he barely loves.
In rare cases, the man might want to file the divorce. So just go straight to the point!
5: Tell his wife
This would actually be the best thing to do it trying to scare him off doesn’t work, tell his wife. Telling his wife does two things in one
- Clearing the feeling of guilt that you have: This would make you free. It’s the truth so it would always set you free, you’d feel the burden lifted of your shoulders.
- The fact that his children might hate you: While doing a reality check, you’d find out that if you end up getting married to that man, his children might hate you for life. Trust me if a child hates you, you’d barely survive in that house. So telling the wife actually saves you the stress.
6: Seek Counsel
You can talk to your best friend about it, or someone you trust, or an older person that might have had such experience or even a mother figure in your life. Talking about it with someone would also go a long way in relieving you from that feeling of guilt
7: Cut ties
At this point breaking up with him would be very easy. Tell him how you really feel about the whole situation then let him go his way and find yours.
8: Get yourself back
Build back that standard for yourself. Make yourself happy again. Channel your mind to finding love when the time is right and work on getting yourself back.
Breaking up with a married man may not be an easy process, but the result is what really matters. You can get out of such a relationship, just acknowledge that it’s a problem and work towards the outline given above. You can get yourself back. You can be happier. And your happiness is what really.
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10 Sure Signs Your Ex Regrets Dumping You
Being in love is a beautiful thing and being loved back by your partner is the best feeling ever. You would never want to lose such a beautiful relationship, however, never say never.
You should understand that not all relationships lead to a happy ending as a lot of them end in premium tears. Break-ups in relationships are inevitable especially when your partner is not committed to the relationship. Being dumped by your girlfriend/boyfriend can be so devastating and the most painful feeling that you can experience in your life. After a breakup, you will begin to wonder what went wrong in the relationship and you will have many unanswered questions. Some of the frequent questions running through your head might be if your partner has really moved on or if he/she regrets dumping you.
For the latter, you begin to look out for signs that show your ex regrets dumping you. Now let’s take a look at 10 common signs to be wary of:
10 SIGNS YOUR EX REGRETS DUMPING YOU
1. They keep communication alive.
“They say out of sight is out of mind”. However, the ex that claims to be over you still has you in mind if he or she keeps communication alive by constantly sending unsolicited texts to you. They will always initiate communication with you and ask all sorts of personal questions so as to get you talking. This may indicate that they are not truly over you and might want you back.
In cases where it may have been a while since he/she dumped you, but out of the blues, you begin to receive texts regularly from your ex asking about your well-being and all that may indicate he/she wants you back.
Either way, they still care about you and feel some sort of regret for dumping you. It may be a sign you’re about to get back together.
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2 . They always want to hang out with you.
Dude, you just dumped me, yet you are seeking my attention! This is one of the best signs your ex regrets dumping you. Your ex simply still misses you and derives some sort of happiness from being around you. His/her feelings for you are still intact and might think about you often.
So if your ex shows a sign of wanting to always hang out with you, perhaps, they are looking for the right moment to tell you they are still interested in the relationship.
3. They apologize for dumping you.
When your ex finally realizes his/her mistake for breaking up with you and how to hurt you must have been, they will apologize to you. This is because they obviously regret dumping you and would want to have you back in their life.
4. They can’t stop keeping tabs on you.
When your ex begins to ask about your private life from your friends and keeps talking about you trying to know who you’re dating next, then that’s a sign of regret for dumping you.
They are always the first to like or comment on any post you make on your social media platforms even when you shut them out of your page. This obviously indicates he/she regrets the decision of dumping you.
5. They become extremely nice and more caring than before.
When an ex suddenly becomes more loving and caring towards you after dumping you, he/she probably regrets breaking up with you. Perhaps, they are trying to get back to you by being loving and affectionate even more than they did when you were still dating. They begin to shower you with so many gifts and love to show how remorseful they were for breaking up with you.
When you notice this, it is a good sign that your ex regrets dumping you and cares about your feelings.
6. They keep talking about the happy memories you guys had.
This is another good sign that your ex regrets dumping you when they are reminiscing the good times you had together. They begin to remember how you both made a great team together and realize it was actually a bad decision letting you go.
So if you hear your ex still talking about the best memories you had together and share them with you, it could possibly mean he/she misses you and would still want to create more positive memories with you.
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7. They suddenly got dumped too.
Yes, your ex can get rejected too by another person and will probably regret dumping you. They will understand that you actually loved them more, you wanted them to be happy and supported them in their worse moments. Right there, they will regret treating you badly and miss your love for them. They will realize that they lost something that meant a lot to them and would probably want to run back to you.
So if your ex lacks the courage to work through his/her current difficulties, it might indicate regrets for dumping you.
8. They are feeling depressed and lonely.
This is not a feeling that comes immediately after they break up with you; rather, it is a gradual process. At first, they might feel in control and experience this feeling of freedom and power from the decision of dumping you. However, after a few weeks, they will inevitably feel the loneliness and depression that accompanies a breakup.
When loneliness sets in, they begin to reminisce on the wonderful memories with you and a sense of regret from dumping you start setting in. Although an ex might move on and be happy when this doesn’t happen, then he/she is obviously regretting the decision.
9. They can’t stop flirting with you.
Flirting is a sign of attraction and when an ex still flirts with you; it means they are still fascinated by you. The attraction and attachment were never lost and they regret not being romantically involved with you.
10. They beg you for another chance.
This is most likely to happen when an ex regrets their decision for dumping you and it is also your decision to accept the plea or move on. When an ex still loves you, then they will look for any means to get you back.
When you observe these signs from your ex, it indicates your ex still loves you and might want you back. But don’t be in a haste to take him back, I know this might seem difficult especially when you still love your ex a lot. let them woo you again and fight for you so that you will be valued more. If you make it easy, your ex might just end up taking you for granted again.
How To Stop Dating A Married Man
This generation of ours has made every negative thing a norm and tends to forget the absurdness of it. For example, The negativity around depression has failed to be seen as people finding solace in it, speeding toxicity, another example can be seen in prostitution, where this is seen as a “Career” or a source of income. The world has failed to see the absurdness of this making women more objectified and this should not be. Another example is Dating married men, Women see this as a norm and a source of income for themselves, not thinking of the absurdness of this….They just do it without thinking!
When things like prostitution are made a norm there is a tendency that women would date married men. Some of them do this for reasons best known to them, while some of them do it because of preference, they just prefer married men.
Some of them don’t even know why they do it, they just feel like it’s the right thing to do and they just go for it. Some of them do it to spite the wife in the marriage for one misunderstanding or the other, Some of the.do it because it was spiritually inclined into them.
But, This doesn’t mean that some of them are not tired of it, especially those ones who don’t know why they do it and feel ashamed about it, they want to stop but they don’t know how to, they have tried what they thought was right but still had the same results, and I know that you reading this right now might be one of them.
Ways to Stop Dating A Married Man
1: Acknowledge that it’s a problem
Until you see the absurdness of this you would not be able to make the decision of stopping it. Until you see why it is wrong and should not be done at all, there is every tendency that you might not make the choice of stopping. So firstly think about the absurdness, acknowledge that is wrong, and work towards your stopping it.
2: Put God first
When you acknowledge that it’s a problem, run back to the place of prayer and let God take over, sometimes spirituality is involved. Daily reading and meditating on the bible tends to change your perspective about life making you see more of the absurdness of Dating A Married Man.
3: Set your priorities right:
It is said that some of them that do it and want to stop but can’t stop is because of the income they make from it, the comfort it brings and the solace added, making it their top priority. This is the excuse they have. But after acknowledging that it’s a problem and putting God first, set your priorities right.
Be independent, withdraw from that relationship, and start a life of your own, where you don’t have to rely on a man or a married man for your well-being, Establish yourself. This is one of the ways a strong woman is built, she starts by setting her priorities right.
Ways you can set your priorities right include
A: Believe in yourself:
Many women think or feel that they cannot do anything without the help of a man or a man who already knows how to take care of a woman because of his experience in marriage. But facing the fact that it is wrong and telling yourself you can do better than that, you can become who you want to become without giving yourself to a married man.
B: Do a reality check:
Look things logically, a married man would only see you as mistress and nothing more, he wouldn’t have time for you, he’d always come only when he feels like, you’re not being loved but being used. You’re not in a relationship that would lead to a happy married life, you’re just eating What you did not cook, and what you fail to understand is the bitterness of the after taste, you’re in a relationship where you’re at the mercy of whatever he brings, whether it works for you or not.
He’s not going to meet your parents because you don’t expect him to leave his wife because of you, and if he was going to marry you, think about how his kids would feel, they would hate you for stealing their mom’s lover, can you deal with that? Would your loved ones approve of it, ask yourself these questions.
Doing a reality check makes you come to a realization of these things.
C: Tell the wife:
This basically frees you from the guilt. Your freedom is what matters, telling the wife doesn’t make you a coward, or show your sense of irresponsibility, it only shows your level of good reasoning and good you have come to the realization of the absurdness of it. When you te the wife you are free.
D: Break up with him:
This is the point where you make that decision to cut ties and don’t go back. This is the point where your realization comes into reality. Then you can become independent.
4: Do a daily Mind exercise:
Dating Married men can be traced psychologically, as it becomes a mindset that has been embedded into you by experience, doing mind exercises can completely eradicate the thoughts of your mind. Close your eyes for ten to fifteen seconds, imagine yourself coming out of that situation or that mindset and keep working towards it by the first three things listed above.
5: Change your hobbies:
This might seem funny, but every little thing matters. Most women date married men because of their love for luxury and material things, they want everything on a platter of gold, their love for money would always cloud their mindset, and the fact that they always get it would set their hobbies to doing things that are luxury worthy. For example, Shopping every single day, reckless spending of money on things that don’t matter, etc. Therefore making these things their favorite thing to do.
So changing your hobbies to little things and finding your talent improves your probability of not dating Married men. When you work for some things yourself and do some things by yourself without the help of anyone, you’d actually know what you actually like and what you don’t.
6: Seek Counsel:
After doing everything listed above, seeking advice from a good adult would do a great deal of detaching yourself from Dating a Married Man. A counselor would always tell the truth and give you the next line of action.
How to stop Dating A Married Man is a choice you have to make, a choice that has to come from the realization of the absurdness, setting your priorities right, changing your hobbies, doing a little mental exercise, and seeking good counsel. With these well done, dating a married man would not even be a thought in your mind not to talk of an act!
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