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Ways to Prevent Your housemaid From Snatching Your Husband



Ways to Prevent Your housemaid From Snatching Your Husband


We would be looking at the ways to prevent your housemaid from snatching your husband.

Marriage is one institution you don’t graduate from until death do you part. That’s why you are  being given a marriage certificate before entering it.  As a woman your marriage should be one of the utmost priority, because when it’s affected, our whole life will be affected also.

Nowadays, housemaids have become part of many families and a great number of women have regretted hiring them. It is very important as a woman not to have  a lacadecical attitude towards them unless you’ll just lose your home.

You should bear it in mind that despite the negative sagas you’ve heard about housemaid doesn’t mean that they all are bad.

In Nigeria, most house girls are always known to be girls who come from the village to cities. There are simply rules you can implement or other ways you can adopt so your maid wont snatch your husband from you. It is very excruciating  to see your bed being shared with your housemaid. When you noticed any of the signs that your husband desires your maid all you need to do is to take  serious actions.   All you need is Maximum wisdom.

10 ways to prevent housemaid from snatching your husband

1.Never you employ a housemaid that is more beautiful and breasted than you: This is one mistake most ladies make.Although it is not a guarantee that employing an ugly or small breasted one  would solve the problem but this is a very important point. Never you vogue  for your husband that he takes you as the most beautiful woman in the world, this could be true, an adage says that “change is constant”. When you employ a beautiful, unknown to you, you’ve already employed someone you would be doing beauty contest with.

The moment you notice she is curvier than you, don’t take her!!! That’s an agent of destruction. Even if she doesn’t have a hidden agenda the man might be tempted.

One day, you  might start looking very vague and ugly to your husband.

  1. Be In charge: Even if you may tend to travel for one week, never give your housemaid the opportunity to be in charge. She shouldn’t be the one to decide the type of meal. For things to work you have to be in charge from the beginning. Whenever you see that you cannot control her it is better to relieve her of the post rather than manage it.

When you allow you maid to clean your husband’s room/toilet it means you’re sharing your managing post with her, and one day your husband would be banging her  in his bathroom.

As a woman you should be the manager of the home at all times.

  1. Don’t employ a Maid if there is no need: Maids are mostly needed when the work load is too much for the couple to handle. Many rich people often hire more than one housemaid.

One might be in charge of cooking, the other cleaning the house. Housemaid are very important too despite the evil agenda some of them. If you are a lazy mom/wife all you need to do is to buckle up, step-up and rise up to take responsibilities.

Perhaps, if you have insecurity/ Trust issues about women wovering your man, it is never nice to hire a maid unless you might die before your time.

And also to the Men, It is very important to be supportive, never allow your wife to do all the house chores. Remember you married a “help meet” and not a slave.


  1. Do Not over pamper Her:

One way to prevent your housemaid from snatching your husband is to avoid petting her unnecessarily. Rules and punishment should be implemented (This goes to those who are younger or in your age group). It is very important to avoid over familiarity with the maid because, some of them are wise before you know they would know your weak point and start using it to work against you.

One disadvantage of over pampering her is that when she starts sleeping with your husband you won’t know, it would come as a blurry vision to you.

  1. Time to Fire:

  whenever you notice that your house help have become more lazy, stubborn or authoritative and your husband feel unconcern about it, just know that there could be something fishy going on between the two of them. Sometimes the man may choose to fight or keep malice with you just because fof the house girl… My sister it is time she shared “ THE GRACE’.

  1. Travel Less: If you are a career woman or a business woman, if you don’t trust your house maid, never travel for two long… Even if you trust her, she can decide to break that trust. When you travel she automatically becomes in charge of the house.

iF your husband is too weak, he might even choose to be raping the house help as he pleases. If you travel also you can hiring a cleaning service that would be doing the house chores on weekend.

  1. Never Be Too Harsh on Them

One thing about women is that they love revenge so much. You have done them wrong  in the past, if they have any opportunity in the present they may want to retaliate in ways unimaginable.  So when you maltreat your housemaid, they may use your husband as a tool to revenge you especially if your husband  has been wooing them and they  have refused because madam is good.

  1. Do Not starve your husband Sexually

This is the number point to look out.  At this point, you need to feed him with enough sex, until he is tired and being drunk of sex. Don’t allow him to have a second taught. If you have never been romantic to your husband, when you have a maid you need to upgrade.

You can start by kissing him before he goes to work and profess your love for him, make him see reasons why you should be his favorite!! When you do all these he may never give a second taugh!!

  1. Encourage her to Learn A handiwork/ or trade

Apart from paying her a salary you can as well help her by investing in her future. When you do this she might never have a single reason to betray you or plan any evil against you.

They say an idle man is the devils work shop; If she stays at home doing nothing one day she might become the devils workshop one day.

Some house girl may think this way when you don’t invest in their life.

“oh my God!!! I’ve been in this house receiving penny, I don’t even have a handiwork…. Am not even sure of my future… I guess I have to seduce this man so I can getting more money.

in as much as you’re investing in her. Never you give her a salary that is not tangible.

  1. Ban the Wearing of Certain Clothes

When hiring a house maid it is necessary you set restriction to do’s and don’t for some clothes such as bum short, transparent night gown, the use of towel outside the bedroom. Hence, Never allow your maid to dress as she pleases.

Nudity shouldn’t be encouraged. Some women may want to want to tush her housemaid so she can boastfully flaunt her housemaid to her female friends and make them jealous. This a stupid act!!!

One of the best way to curb this issue of dressing is to get a uniform. You may decide the pattern of how you want the uniform to be sewed. Having a uniform is one of the best practice, and could be easily be identified as a maid but when she dresses as she likes someone see her as an inlaw or a girlfriend to your husband.

When you want to ban such tempting clothes, endeavor to get her new clothes. It is not advisable to give her old clothes from your collections… When your husband finds this out he may want to take the housemaid for a shopping.

As the lady of the House even if you have a sister residing with you don’t allow her moving with towels in the home, help your husband by helping yourself first.

  1. Have an age and size limit

Before hiring any maid never you hire someone within your age range and who is close to your class. You may choose to collect a maid ranging from 18-25 or from 45 and above. Size matters too!! You may lose your right if you employ someone who Is far bigger and taller than you.

  1. Be Vigilant

Try to notice if you would see any strange behavior from the house maid. No matter how busy you are as a career mum or business woman or whatever you do,  try to pin point errors whenever you see them.  Shine your eyes very well,  so to speak so as to notice minute changes in behavior in her and even in  your spouse.Always ask your children questions just in case they notice some  character change when you were absent from the home, you might get a very useful information from them. As a woman you shouldn’t sleep all through the night without checking on everyone in the home  including your maid. Sometimes that is the time the deed is been done.

  1. Do Background Checks; Series of Medical Tests should be Carried out before you hire her such as H.I.V test, Tuberculosis etc.You are not just preventing the housemaid from snatching your husband away from you but you are also protecting the intrest of your home.


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How To Stop Dating A Married Man



how to stop dating a married man

This generation of ours has made every negative thing a norm and tends to forget the absurdness of it. For example, The negativity around depression has failed to be seen as people find solace in it, speeding toxicity, another example can be seen in prostitution, where this is seen as a “Career” or a source of income. The world has failed to see the absurdness of this making women more objectified and this should not be. Another example is Dating married men, Women see this as a norm and a source of income for themselves, not thinking of the absurdness of this….They just do it without thinking!

When things like prostitution are made a norm there is a tendency that woman would date married men. Some of them do this for reasons best known to them, while some of them do it because of preference, they just prefer married men.

Some of them don’t even know why they do it, they just feel like it’s the right thing to do and they just go for it. Some of them do it to spite the wife in the marriage for one misunderstanding or the other, Some of it because it was spiritually inclined into them.

But, This doesn’t mean that some of them are not tired of it, especially those ones who don’t know why they do it and feel ashamed about it, they want to stop but they don’t know how to, they have tried what they thought was right but still had the same results, and I know that you reading this right now might be one of them.

Ways to Stop Dating A Married Man

1: Acknowledge that it’s a problem

Until you see the absurdness of this you would not be able to make the decision of stopping it. Until you see why it is wrong and should not be done at all, there is every tendency that you might not make the choice of stopping. So firstly think about the absurdness, acknowledge that is wrong, and work towards your stopping it.

2: Put God first

When you acknowledge that it’s a problem, run back to the place of prayer and let God take over, sometimes spirituality is involved. Daily reading and meditating on the bible tends to change your perspective about life making you see more of the absurdness of Dating A Married Man.

ALSO, READ 18+ Proven Signs A Married Man is Unhappy in His Marriage

3: Set your priorities right:

It is said that some of them that do it and want to stop but can’t stop is because of the income they make from it, the comfort it brings and the solace added, making it their top priority. This is the excuse they have. But after acknowledging that it’s a problem and putting God first, set your priorities right.

Be independent, withdraw from that relationship, and start a life of your own, where you don’t have to rely on a man or a married man for your well-being, Establish yourself. This is one of the ways a strong woman is built, she starts by setting her priorities right.

Ways you can set your priorities right include

A: Believe in yourself:

Many women think or feel that they cannot do anything without the help of a man or a man who already knows how to take care of a woman because of his experience in marriage. But facing the fact that it is wrong and telling yourself you can do better than that, you can become who you want to become without giving yourself to a married man.

B: Do a reality check:

Look things logically, a married man would only see you as mistress and nothing more, he wouldn’t have time for you, he’d always come only when he feels like, you’re not being loved but being used. You’re not in a relationship that would lead to a happy married life, you’re just eating What you  did not cook, and what you fail to understand is the bitterness of the after taste, you’re in a relationship where you’re at the mercy of whatever he brings, whether it works for you or not.

He’s not going to meet your parents because you don’t expect him to leave his wife because of you, and if he was going to marry you, think about how his kids would feel, they would hate you for stealing their mom’s lover, can you deal with that?  Would your loved ones approve of it, ask yourself these questions.

Doing a reality check makes you come to a realization of these things.

C: Tell the wife:

This basically frees you from the guilt. Your freedom is what matters, telling the wife doesn’t make you a coward, or show your sense of irresponsibility, it only shows your level of good reasoning and good you have come to the realization of the absurdness of it. When you te the wife you are free.

D: Break up with him:

This is the point where you make that decision to cut ties and don’t go back. This is the point where your realization comes into reality. Then you can become independent.

4: Do a daily Mind exercise:

Dating Married men can be traced psychologically, as it becomes a mindset that has been embedded into you by experience, doing mind exercises can completely eradicate the thoughts of your mind. Close your eyes for ten to fifteen seconds, imagine yourself coming out of that situation or that mindset and keep working towards it by the first three things listed above.

5: Change your hobbies:

This might seem funny, but every little thing matters. Most women date married men because of their love for luxury and material things, they want everything on a platter of gold, their love for money would always cloud their mindset, and the fact that they always get it would set their hobbies to doing things that are luxury worthy. For example, Shopping every single day, reckless spending of money on things that don’t matter, etc. Therefore making these things their favorite thing to do.

So changing your hobbies to little things and finding your talent improves your probability of not dating Married men.  When you work for some things yourself and do some things by yourself without the help of anyone, you’d actually know what you actually like and what you don’t.

6: Seek Counsel:

After doing everything listed above, seeking advice from a good adult would do a great deal of detaching yourself from Dating a Married Man. A counselor would always tell the truth and give you the next line of action.


How to stop Dating A Married Man is a choice you have to make, a choice that has to come from the realization of the absurdness, setting your priorities right, changing your hobbies, doing a little mind exercise and seek good counsel. With a these well done, dating a married man would not even be a thought in your mind not to talk of an act!


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10 Signs You’re Ready to Get Married



signs you're ready to get married

Description: One of the things many people fear is getting into marriage for the wrong reasons. Before you consider the idea, ensure you’re prepared to handle the responsibilities that come with marriage. Here are ten signs you’re ready for marriage.

How do you know if you are ready to get married? (10 Signs)

Because of the excitement of meeting a person you love, you might feel ready for marriage after the first date. Knowing you found the person you want to spend the rest of your life with is an incredible feeling. But no matter how you feel, marriage is not something you should take lightly. Marriage requires a lot of work, compromise, and sacrifice to maintain the relationship. Anyone craving companionship must have a few things figured out before saying “I do.” While you can borrow from installment loan lenders for your wedding, it’s something you must think about critically.

Before committing, do some soul soul-searching to know who you are and what you want. Understand the things you can give your prospective spouse and what you expect from them. Being ready for marriage means you have figured out what you want in life and are prepared to be in a relationship where you contribute and compromise. Here are signs that will help you know you’re ready for married life.

1. You’re Psychologically Mature

Some people will realize they’re not ready for marriage after 5 years of dating, and this is okay. Just because you have been out there for a long time does not qualify you to get married. Maturity is an essential component that will keep your marriage going strong amid all the turbulence. There is no best age for marriage, and you should never fall for the pressure to get married because you’re approaching a certain age. However, there’s an optimum level of maturity that shows you’re emotionally ready for marriage.

Experts say that the brain does not reach peak development until the age of 27, especially the part of the brain linked with one’s ability to review long-term consequences and also compare options. Until you have a fully working brain able to assess situations correctly, you should not get married. This is a ready-for-marriage checklist you must complete as it influences your choice of mate and ultimately determines if you’ll have a successful relationship.

2.You Love Yourself


Knowing you’re ready for marriage after divorce can be confusing, as some people want to fill the void created by prior events. However, this is the time you should trackback and exercise self-love for healing. When you truly love yourself, you will easily give selfless love to others. The way you love yourself is how you teach other people to love you. Focusing on self-love before you get married is crucial as it helps you set standards that no person can undermine. Having respect for yourself means you cannot tolerate disrespect from anyone or abuse in a relationship.

Marriage comes with different stressors that test your resilience and patience. Failure to love yourself enough means it’s easy to feel lost during times of struggle. You get comfort knowing you adore yourself enough to be brave and conquer challenges in your marriage.

3. You’re Financially Stable

There are cases where you find a lady is ready for marriage, but the boyfriend is not. Some of these cases involve finances, as the boyfriend might not have attained the financial stability they believe is sufficient to take care of a family. Looking at your finances, are you ever ready for marriage? There are many perks you get from marriage if both of you are bringing income to the family. Before getting started, both of you need to evaluate your financial situation to know if it can sustain a marriage.

Money is a critical component of marriage that could make or break the relationship. Also, you don’t want to use marriage as a way to get rich as this could attract consequences later. Besides your wedding, the beginning of your marriage costs a lot – from kitchen equipment and furniture to a place to stay. Discuss finances with your partner to find common ground and understand how you can sustain the marriage if you decide to go ahead.

4. You Truly Love Your Partner

you truely love your partner

Love is among things you must confirm is present before you start thinking about how to get ready for a marriage proposal. You must love your partner for everything they are. Their personality is unique and different, so don’t attempt to change it when you get married. It’s something you need to accept and respect before you proceed with a marriage. It’s easy to tell about one’s character by looking at how they treat others. Know if they’re kind, and don’t ignore red flags that could blow up later in the marriage.

Looking at all things, you should ensure your partner is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Avoid falling for illusions of false expectations and face reality, which means asking yourself if you truly love that person.

5. Your Values Align

If you’re ready for marriage but your partner’s not, it could mean your values don’t align, which is a sign you should not go ahead with the plan. Having values that align makes your lives easier in the future. You need to be comfortable discussing taboo topics like sex, finance, and religion. Ladies ready for marriage should check that they’re comfortable discussing sensitive topics with their partners, as this will make it easier to know what to expect in the future. If there are clashes whenever some issues are brought up, it could mean you’ll endure stress in the marriage. People who share the same values protect their relationship from disappointment, clashes, and resentment. Values define people. It’s not something you can change overnight. They show the things you place much significance to.

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 6.If you Trust Yourself Around Your Partner

Getting ready for marriage in a dream is easy as everything feels smooth, but before accepting to get married, ask yourself if you feel safe around your partner. This is like a situation where a friend brings life to the party, but everyone feels the void when they leave, and the event gets dull. If you’re considering getting married, you must address topics like whether you trust the person to give you what you need to feel loved and at peace.

You must have already touched on topics that could shake the stability of the relationship. If it feels necessary to hide your true self because you fear your partner would never accept or love you for that, then it could be you’re not dating the right person. Marriage is a long-term investment, and nobody deserves to suffer in silence or suppress some aspects about themselves.

7. You Overcome Conflict Together

Is anyone ever ready for marriage until they go through conflict with their partner? This comes as a learning moment where you get to understand how it feels to deal with conflict and moments of high pressure. Marriage is not always lovey-dovey as you will encounter moments where you will split apart for some time.

Forgiveness is one of the main dimensions of a stable marriage, so when you experience this while still dating, it could signify you can live together for many years to come. Couples must learn conflict resolution before entering into a marriage. Handling conflict successfully brings marital satisfaction.

ALSO, READ 12 Steps to Increase Your Self-Esteem

8.You Have Realistic Expectations

You’ll not find a perfect human if that’s what you want for marriage. If you have lived with your partner for some time, you might be aware of this. So, before getting married, understand that besides many happy times, you will encounter sad moments. It’s common to see people expect the perfect type of love they read in all the fairies, but this is unrealistic as you’re dealing with a real human being. Check the lingering doubts of marrying the person to understand the trade-offs. 

9.You’re Inspired to Succeed

Sometimes, it’s easy to feel you’ve found the perfect person, so all you need is to relax and enjoy life. However, feeling settled and not aiming to improve is something you should be aware of. Having the inspiration to reach greater heights comes from an inner calling. It means just because you finally found your true love; it should not mean you should neglect other things, like your job, purpose, or mental and physical health. These are things that should stay with you even after marriage. You should not let the relationship make you forget about your ability to stay hungry for success.

10.You Support Each Other’s Hobbies

If you never fancied fly fishing, but this is something your partner enjoys, you should support their passion and try learning a bit about it. You will discover many interesting things and probably also find happiness doing those things.


Marriage marks an important transition in one’s life, so it must be approached carefully as you expect to spend your life with your partner.  Finding the right person for marriage is not enough as you also need to evaluate yourself to know if you’re ready for marriage. Consider these things before you get married to improve your chances of success.

How do you handle conflicts in your relationship? Leave a comment below. 

Jade is a finance analyst and has been involved in many successful business projects with a range of companies throughout the country. She started writing 3 years ago and enjoys researching, discussing, and writing on the topics of finances, budgeting, money advice, lifestyle, and wellness. Jade loves to spend time with her family and has many hobbies, including hiking, riding a bike, cooking, and traveling.


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Why You Must Hire A Divorce Attorney



Why You Must Hire A Divorce Attorney


Going through a divorce without legal help is like committing financial suicide. You might be thinking of going through your divorce on your own
and just using information that you can research online but that can do more harm than good. Though a DIY divorce may apply to certain situations,
it is still smarter to hire a divorce attorney to ensure that your best interests are taken into consideration. Keep reading for reasons why hiring a divorce
attorney could be one of your best divorce decisions.

You Want to Eliminate Mistakes

“The legal system is complicated enough to navigate for those who have a legal degree, so navigating it from a layman’s perspective is like trying to pilot a plane without even knowing how to ride a bike”, says Michael Porter of Haywood Hunt & Associates Inc.

Legal jargon can be very challenging. It can take just one word for you to completely misunderstand something (like a debt or medical issue) or overestimate/underestimate the value of an asset. This is the last thing you want. Why? Because mistakes like this can cause your financial ruin or may need to be corrected with more legal proceedings in the future. An attorney can ensure that your case is being handled properly and that you will not be making decisions that you will regret for years to come.

You Will Benefit from Legal Advice

A divorce attorney can ensure that you get what you deserve during a divorce. This is important because state laws do not always support an even split of a couple’s assets. There are cases where a spouse is entitled to a spouse’s future income and/or retirement. By hiring an attorney, you ensure that complicated issues such as debts, child custody, current assets, future assets, and child support are legally addressed.

You Want to Minimize Stress

Divorce is a highly stressful time. Not only will it be addressing the end of your marriage, but might also bring up painful experiences from the past. A divorce attorney will provide objective help in gathering information, presenting information, and representing your interests. This will give you more time to process your feelings and take care of yourself and your family.

Keep in mind that a divorce will be a very painful time and the last thing youneed is to have to take on legal work. That is what an attorney is for.

You Don’t Want Delays

Completing all the paperwork needed for a divorce plus gathering information and documenting everything isn’t an easy task. Yes, there are court provided documents but that is just a small percentage of what you actually need. Aside from paperwork, there are other legal issues that can prolong a divorce or halt the progress into a crawl. An experienced divorce attorney knows how to avoid problems like the above and get things done as fast as possible.

You Want A Clear Divorce

A divorce is a legal agreement and is legally binding. You want everything in your divorce to be as clear as possible and that each point that needs to be
addressed are taken care of. A divorce attorney will ensure that your wishes are accurately presented and that you understand everything that goes into
the divorce. This way, the divorce would be free from unclear language or errors.


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