In any relationship we are we must be careful of things we do or say, there are foolish things you shouldn’t do or say to someone you love in a relationship.
It has become so appealing that after all the fights and things we faced to keep the one we love, we still inflict wounds on them in a long run. Here, I will be talking about the foolish things we might think are right to us in a relationship that hurt our partners unknowingly.
What are these foolish things?
1. Forcing your partner to be who/what they aren’t.
Before you can ever say yes to someone, it means you have accepted everything about the person despite the odds. So I don’t see reasons you trying to covert your partner into who/what they are not. How would you feel if you are the one in their shoes?
Just know that in life, you will see someone better than you and your spouse, that’s why self-discipline is needed to make things work in life.
- Being emotionally unavailable to your partner
No matter how busy you are, don’t let your partner suffer this. Cause it will make them feel lonely and isolated from you and this can push them to look for emotional support elsewhere. Make out time for them,do those stuff that sparks up love, and connect the heart more, makes sure there is always room for emotional support.
3. Mocking your partner.
Never mock or berate your partner just to make yourself feel better. Some partners are good at this, they might think they are doing them a favor by saying things in the way they like not knowing that it has already inflicted wounds on their partners which can’t be mended easily. So try to avoid it and even if you want to say or correct them, do in a way that won’t make your companion feel bad.
Never instigate jealousy for whatsoever reason, don’t make them feel so worthless and not enough to have you around. It destroys the relationship and leaves your partner feeling bad.
Never try to deceive your spouse in any way such as making vague statements, hiding the truth, manipulating the truth to suit you, withholding the feelings, or information that are important to your partner. It will cost you a lot when they find out.
Trust is very fragile and if it breaks, it is very hard to mend and this blocks the real intimacy between you two.
Never cheat on your partner no matter who the person is. It will leave you unsatisfied and wanting more. Be careful and let your spouse be the best love that happened to you.
- The “never” “wish” “can’t” and “don’t” words.
It might look like there is nothing bad about them but these words cause a lot of havoc in a relationship. Words like: ” never mind, I can’t do it” ”I don’t care” “you can’t do anything right” “just don’t bother” “ I wish you were” and many of them.
This makes your partner feel so bad(thinking you don’t believe their worth or trying to cut them off) and it might push them to overreact and violence might creep in.
Never compare your partner with anyone no matter how bad you feel. Don’t allow this cankerworm to destroy your relationship cause it will leave nothing for you to build again.
Sometimes, the way we see things is not the way they appear in reality. Maybe, your friends’ relationship is going well and your’s is just the opposite. No matter how resentful you are towards your spouse, just let them know how you feel rather than comparing them to what they can’t be. If you think your relationship is not going the way you want, you can create a room for that but don’t try to manipulate them into what they can’t offer. It is better to play safe than being ungrateful for no reason.
Don’t put your partner in second place; your partner should be a priority. Treat your spouse the way you want to be treated. As far as you love them, make them feel special and let them be your priority and not the opposite.
- Lack of Appreciation.
Sometimes, we don’t know how much our partners want to be appreciated even at the little things they do for us. Learn to appreciate your spouse at all costs. It makes them feel special and wanting to do more, and it creates room for undying Love.
- Pride and Ego
I am going to hit on this very blunt. If you feel like you can’t do or apologize when you do wrong to your partner, Then I believe you are not matured enough to handle a family or any leading post. Never allow pride or ego to settle in your relationship, it kills!!!
- Harsh words.
Never use harsh words on your partner, no matter how angry you are. Even when you have unleashed your anger, find a way to apologize and feel sorry for what you did.
- Having a hard heart
Never be hardhearted towards your partner. Be flexible and if you are just trying to free your heart from whatsoever that is making you do so.
- Never feel that you are doing your partner a favor by having a relationship with them. It will only hurt your spouse if they ever found out. If you are not interested in the relationship, just back out and don’t make them regret having you around.
- Causing unnecessary problems.
Never be the partner to cause unnecessary drama or problems in your relationship. A relationship should be the best place to confess and show how you love your partner and how you want to support them and not adding to their pains.
This is actually what is killing us now. We want everything to ourselves and the opinion of others don’t count. If you are selfish or self-centered, it is high time you stop it.. because it is not going to get you anywhere.
- Your friends should be important to you, but never make your partner feel less than them.
It is good to have everyone around (your friends) but no when you are making them your priority more than your partner. Try to limit the time you spend with them and try to channel them into your relationship.
- Keeping records.
Never hold grudges or keep records of wrongdoing. Love keeps no record, it is selfless and peaceful in nature. If you feel hurt, open up to your partner, talk about it, and settle the matter. Don’t even bring up your spouse’s past life. If you have forgiven them, why bring it up? Make sure, you don’t harbor them cause it doesn’t spare.
- Never make your partner beg you for your love.
Why should they, when you said yes at the beginning? If you are guilty of this, please repent cause love is the greatest and simplest thing one should have.
- Never be insensitive to your partner’s feelings.
Always know when you are going out of the lane and be more careful.
So if you are guilty of these, it is never too late to back off. Try to create a Lovable atmosphere that will keep your love life glamouring and basking in unending love.