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9 Signs Your Husband is Sleeping with the Maid



signs your miad is sleeping with your husband

Have you ever had any signs that your husband is sleeping with your maid? This might be true because living with someone who you’re not related to by blood can create a form of attraction regardless of gender.

It is very important to note these signs because so many house helps/ house girls have sabotaged so many MARRIAGES  all in the name of employment, as a result of the man subduing to the housemaid.

Over 40% of men that have a housemaid living with them cheat on their wives. In this 21st century man, women select a lot before choosing a housemaid. Many may choose to select a girl who is less pretty than them or someone who is so LOCAL. Not knowing that those underling characteristics are not enough reason(s) for your husband not to sleep with your maid.

Many men don’t actually select the genre or classes of girls before they would sleep with them, some may say provided she can turn me On!

This issue of sleeping with the housemaid doesn’t emanate once. It is always a process that graduates from one stage to the other.

1. He Sneaks out of the bedroom at Night

sneaking out of the bedroom at night

source Alamy

Are you a woman who has an uncontrollable sleep at night? If yes? Then it is time to work on yourself and pay attention. Men are one of the smartest creatures, so if you’re the woman that dozes too much, your husband might want to use this as a medium or opportunity to sneak out of the bedroom to meet with his new ride (Your housemaid).  Most men usually arrange this in the middle of the night (i.e. between 1-2 am) when the sleep is usually intense.

You might have noticed it and maybe confronted him and say: HONEY I didn’t see you in bed throughout last night? he would reply to you that he was actually seeing a movie Or I was praying I didn’t want to disturb you.

Men are special sets of LAIRS!!!

  1. He defends her all the time

This one of the TOP signs your husband is sleeping with the maid. In a marriage, the husband is supposed to side the wife at all times but in this case, the reverse is the case.  But when you notice he defends the house help more than you, you just have to know there is something fishy going on.

YES!!! The maid must have done something wrong but the husband would find all possible means to paint the situation in the support of the maid’s side.

One Top Secret is that a man would always side the person he loves the most. If he is having an affair with the housemaid he wouldn’t want to do anything to hurt her.

When the  Husband and the house help are engaging in background dating, The man would automatically be quick to defend her.

This would make the husband want to shout on the wife unnecessarily, even things that doesnt counts.

He would channel every fault the wife makes, and use it as emotional blackmail to the wife.

In this case, the man would even be comparing the house help to the wife.


  1. He Spends more Time with her than Usual

Love is like magnetic!! When he spends more time with the house girl than usual, it could mean that there is a STORY BEHIND THE SCENE. Some “husband” would even go as far as helping the maid out in the kitchen. You may wonder… and he’ll tell you that he’s checking and mastering out some new recipe from the maid.helping the maid out

After a while, you’d noticed the minimal level of attention your husband gives to you.

Sometimes the sagas concerning his office, work, project, and lots more would have been dished out to his maid already, and when he comes back he would tell you that nothing happened today.

He’ll automatically become so cold and boring to you because his attention has deviated.

  1. She Automatically Becomes Rude to You

One signs of a good and a well-behaved house girl is being obedient’ but when this happens:  she changes all of a sudden and becomes very rude to you at every statement you make. It is already a sign that your housemaid is sleeping with him already.she becomes rude

No Matter how good and nice the housemaid maybe to the wife, when the bed is defiled, the respect would be gone. In this case, you’d see the house help having the guts to challenge the wife.

Some might even have the MIND to pick up a fight with the wife, and you still see the husband doing NO 2 points. The maid won’t even see you as her BOSS anymore, she would see you as a RUNNING MATE Or CO-WIFE.



  1. He Asks For Less Sex or More.

When you noticed a decrease in demand for sex. You just have to find out what’s wrong? It could be a depression, family issues, or he’s getting more sexual satisfaction from his new maid.

Sometimes when you want it,  he would tell you that he’s very tired and lazy. It is then he’d start complaining about how his boss is stressing him.

When he actually asks for more sex? it could be that he has tried something new with the maid, then he would want to experiment it with you.

When you experience it, even if you are not a sex freak, you just have to get to the bottom of the situation.

  1. He Buys her gifts

It is a good thing when your husband buys the maid a gift, but when it becomes more often then you’ll know there is something behind it.  Some men would not just buy the house help a gift but expensive gift even more precious than what he gives to his wife.buying her gift items

He may do some of these in secret. Gift item is always a way of appreciating her for her services offered.

Sometimes, the relationship or affair could be a hook-up (for sex-sake) or a real relationship. Once you notice it, do the NEEDFUL.

  1. Drastic Make Over and Sexy Outfit

This might come as a shock to you! It is really Overwhelming when you see your house help who you brought out from the village into limelight suddenly starts making-over more than you do. This could be as a result of the money she receives from your husband.

wearing sexy outfit

Most Housemaids would want to use this as an opportunity to look more attractive just to get maximum attention from the man.

All you’ll notice as a wife is improved hygiene.

You’d wonder as a wife and say to yourself: why is she dressing like this just to stay at home? You’d probably wonder why she suddenly changed her dressing to be wearing something more revealing.

  1. He Spends More time At Home

When your husband spends more time at home especially when you are not at home, it could mean something is actually involved.

As a wife, one thing you should never do in your marriage is to conclude a sign because when you do it would torment you.

Men are Good planners. You may have experienced or noticed that your husband is not a good planner but I would confess to you that if they mean to get whatever they want, they would strategically align it perfectly.

Most times, Your husband may choose to close earlier than you at work, just to fulfill his target.

  1. When he Keeps Looking at her seductively:

It is known to everyone that men are always attracted by what they see. When you see your husband looking at the maid seductively, this might be a sign that he is desiring to sleep with Her.

The man may also look at every step his house help takes even from the dining room to the kitchen. Some men may look at the butt to the extend of when she picks something from the ground.

Your husband might even pour HOT TEA on his face while looking at her(winks). This is actually the first sign to watch out before taking the relevant steps!!!



## As a Good Woman do all you can to avoid  your husband eating “the forbidden Fruit”

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Marriage & Divorce

Why You Must Hire A Divorce Attorney



Why You Must Hire A Divorce Attorney


Going through a divorce without legal help is like committing financial suicide. You might be thinking of going through your divorce on your own
and just using information that you can research online but that can do more harm than good. Though a DIY divorce may apply to certain situations,
it is still smarter to hire a divorce attorney to ensure that your best interests are taken into consideration. Keep reading for reasons why hiring a divorce
attorney could be one of your best divorce decisions.

You Want to Eliminate Mistakes

“The legal system is complicated enough to navigate for those who have a legal degree, so navigating it from a layman’s perspective is like trying to pilot a plane without even knowing how to ride a bike”, says Michael Porter of Haywood Hunt & Associates Inc.

Legal jargon can be very challenging. It can take just one word for you to completely misunderstand something (like a debt or medical issue) or overestimate/underestimate the value of an asset. This is the last thing you want. Why? Because mistakes like this can cause your financial ruin or may need to be corrected with more legal proceedings in the future. An attorney can ensure that your case is being handled properly and that you will not be making decisions that you will regret for years to come.

You Will Benefit from Legal Advice

A divorce attorney can ensure that you get what you deserve during a divorce. This is important because state laws do not always support an even split of a couple’s assets. There are cases where a spouse is entitled to a spouse’s future income and/or retirement. By hiring an attorney, you ensure that complicated issues such as debts, child custody, current assets, future assets, and child support are legally addressed.

You Want to Minimize Stress

Divorce is a highly stressful time. Not only will it be addressing the end of your marriage, but might also bring up painful experiences from the past. A divorce attorney will provide objective help in gathering information, presenting information, and representing your interests. This will give you more time to process your feelings and take care of yourself and your family.

Keep in mind that a divorce will be a very painful time and the last thing youneed is to have to take on legal work. That is what an attorney is for.

You Don’t Want Delays

Completing all the paperwork needed for a divorce plus gathering information and documenting everything isn’t an easy task. Yes, there are court provided documents but that is just a small percentage of what you actually need. Aside from paperwork, there are other legal issues that can prolong a divorce or halt the progress into a crawl. An experienced divorce attorney knows how to avoid problems like the above and get things done as fast as possible.

You Want A Clear Divorce

A divorce is a legal agreement and is legally binding. You want everything in your divorce to be as clear as possible and that each point that needs to be
addressed are taken care of. A divorce attorney will ensure that your wishes are accurately presented and that you understand everything that goes into
the divorce. This way, the divorce would be free from unclear language or errors.


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Marriage & Divorce

What to Look for in a Wife TO MARRY



what to look for in a wife

Before getting married to the love of your life as a man, questions like “what to look for in a wife?” Will definitely arise. The ideal woman for Everyman differs. Some may say they want a skinny lady, or a fat girl, if you could hear some of the things said by MEN, as per what they want, you’d be shocked.

Choosing a life partner is a major decision taken by man, here he selects one lady over a bunch of them. Marriage is a lifetime race, and when it’s not been run properly, it could lead to a broken home. Nobody wants a broken home. Everyone wants to live happily ever after. When you choose the wrong partner, it may take you years to correct, or even spending all your life trying to put things in proportion. A marriage that is not Divinely approved will end in divorce, emotional pains, and suffering.

It is therefore important to choose wisely. Before you choose to marry any lady make sure that she is Kind of person, never you force yourself on her just because you think she’s the most beautiful lady on planet Earth or you wanna marry her because she’s a model.
In life generally, if you want to buy something expensive, you don’t just rush in purchasing it. for instance, if you’re trying to buying used car worth $40,000 for yourself, there are things you need to look out for in the car before buying it. You’ll need to check stuffs like the * * vehicle history- you’ll need to make sure that the vendor is not selling a stolen car. Through the use of VIN, you can actually check if the car has been in an accident.
• You can check how efficient the engine is- this would be better if you go with an motor engineer (i.e the mechanic). In order not to bore you with these,the main message is to carefully search what’s needed.
So, If you’ve been asking questions like What qualities should I look for in a wife? Then keep reading this article .

6 Things To Look For In A Wife

Like we said in the beginning, men have different tastes when choosing women, but we’re going to bring out the most important thing to look for when hunting for a wife. They are things that you must consider without looking back.



I’ve always told my friends that if I want to marry, I must marry someone who I’m deeply attracted to. Yes! She may have all the wife material features, but bro, if she isn’t so attracted to you, I’ll advise you to leave her. Attraction isn’t everything but it’s something.

You may say, she’s beautiful, she has the qualities of a good wife, she’s just so perfect in her ways… but if you’re not attracted to her it may lead to another problem in future.
A girl once crushed on me years back! I noticed she had every quality that a good mother should possess but the problem actually was that I wasn’t attracted to her… I vividly know that if I end up marrying her, I would cheat on her like I never had a wife.

If you aren’t comfortable hanging out with your woman or introducing her to your friends, then I’m sorry to give you the breaking news, “Leave her Alone”, this may be very hard for you.. it was hard for me when I decided to make my own decisions, but the good news is that you’ll overcome.
It is very good to foresee because, if you’re marrying her because she is skinny, her body morphology may change with the season, she may run out of your taste!!
Marry someone who you know with or without her body changing drastically, you’ll still fall for her. Attraction goes beyond the physical structure, it’s more of a psychological feature, so be wise!!!!!!

2. She brings out the Best in You

Wow!! This is also an important factor in what to look for in a wife… one important question to ask yourself is “does my woman brings out the best in you?” Not all women have the capability. If you have one like this, then you’ll need to hold her really tight..

Some women may just decide to focus on just themselves, but a woman who’s really interested in you will want to resharpen and remold you.
If you’ve got the habit of smoking and drinking alcohol all the time, extravagant living, she’ll want to help you in that arena.
One way to know that she really brings out the best in you is that whenever you’re with her, you’re always inspired and you just discovered something just awakened in you.

This kind of woman reinforces your confidence. Here, she’s just like a coach to you. She just has the ability to make your world brighter.
She’s never in to demotivate, instead, she’ll motive and lift your heart’s up…
If you’re in a relationship now and you’ve ever felt like you’re in a prison, then that should be a red flag on your side telling you to run.


3. Find a Wife who’ll Love you Unconditionally

An Ex. Once asked me, Josh!! Why do you love me?? Can you please tell me what you like about me or the major reason why you love me???.. As a relationship expert, you know full well that the answers you make can hurt you or flame up something in the future. Like the cops will always tell any criminal they capture. “ any you say or do, will be used against you in the court of law”.

It’s not bad to give an answer of your choice tho.

Finally, I gave her no answer, I just told her that I don’t have any reason(s) for loving you. that if I do, in the future, if that reason is no longer manifesting, then the love will fade away. I told her I just love her unconditionally.

The word unconditionally has a dictionary meaning: without a condition.
The day I was shocked, was when I saw a lady who married a man in a wheelchair. I wept in my heart. I asked my self does true love like this still exists?? That’s an example of an unconditional love.

When exchanging the marriage vow, the priest usually quote stuff like:

“in riches and in poverty”
“in sickness and in good health”
This was meant to be the true definition of an unconditional love.
Looking for someone who’ll love you unconditionally might be very tough for you. But if you carefully watch her well. You’ll be able to detect it.. an adage says by their fruits, ye shall know them. When the fruits in a mango tree is ripe, It’s always accessible for sightseeing until it’s been plucked.
An unconditional love is a sacred kind of love!! Not everyone in a relationship is lucky to get it. Some actually got it, but screwed things up!
Unconditional love also means putting your partners first, Before putting yourself. You deserve a woman that’ll love you the way you are.

4.Sexual Openness

Sexual compatibility should be one of the TOP 3 discussed topics Before marriage.
It’s very important! I once asked a lady, “how sexual are you? Rate it from 1- 10. She said 3. I was shocked, I just told myself deep down, that i cant be with such a fellow!!.

She told me she isn’t a Fan of sex!!! Although research and statistics have proven that sex wanes and waxes at different stages of life. For instance, the sex drive for nursing mother’s periodically low.

If you’re a man who’s practicing abstinence from sex with your partner before marriage, then this issue of sexual openness needs to be taken very seriously.
And if you’re a man who’s so crazy about sex and wants more in marriage, then you’ll need to look for a woman who has a healthy sex life that discusses sex openly, in other not to fall into a sexless marriage.

Find out little things like “does she love kissing?😘”, would she want to explore the world of sex?.
Being so religious shouldn’t make you shy from the REAL TRUTH.
When you fail in this aspect, you’ll be left with no choice rather than to cheat.

5. intellectual and Educational Compatibility

intellectual and Educational Compatibility

It has never been in the dictionary of some educated men to marry a lady that is not educated.
Education shouldn’t be something you place so much value on over intelligence. Education can never be substituted for intelligence!!
Whenever a man feels his woman is less Intelligent and educated than him, if they tend to marry, the man will definitely maltreat her.
However, such men would find it very hard to let their wives make key decisions about child-rearing, money management etc if they doubt their wives’ intelligence.

6.Marry Your type

Marrying your type means you should look for a wife that has similar traits, characteristics, and personality. If you’re an extroverted man and you’re not really comfy handling an introvert, then you shouldn’t run into marriage with her. Marriage shouldn’t be something that will bore you. Having a partner that you can’t have a long conversation with would be boring especially you’re the type that loves talking a lot.

These are some funny answers that Joshua Isibor– A relationship Coach, got when he asked some guys the kind of lady that they want..

“ I want a woman that loves drinking alcohol”
“ I want a lady who smokes”
“I also want a lady who is good in bed”

The goal here is to find someone that’s like a best friend to you: someone that you’re free with.

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Sex Education

How impotent men can make love?



Impotence is not to be perceived as an end to fulfilling sex life. It is surely a man’s problem and a woman’s despair. Impotence can be a ruthless relationship killer.
Impotence or ED (Erectile Dysfunction) is still majorly perceived as a man’s problem alone. Because of its embarrassment, many men who suffer refuse to effectively communicate it to their partners. They are ashamed and feel they have to carry the burden of it by dealing with it themselves.
The embarrassment also withholds the suffering men from seeking professional help. The only way they choose to cope is by avoiding sexual contact altogether. Even if the man with the said affliction gathers the guts to reach the therapist’s office, he is against his partner accompanying him more often than not.
Leaving the woman out of the equation alienates her and doubles the impact the man’s impotence has on her well-being. A woman with an impotent partner may feel she is unloved or her appeal is unsexy. She may feel the romantic spark that burned bright with her partner has completely faded.
In her reluctance to appear insensitive, she may hesitate to be proactive in communicating with her partner to satisfy her pent-up s3xual desires. The Woman may fear something’s wrong with her man, something that has to do with his health or his work.
Many men also regain their potency. Even those who don’t can also be effective lovers. With some insights and creative imagination, it’s possible to restrict impotence from ruining your love life and the beauty in your relationship.

When is it not impotence?

An occasional performance failure cannot be categorized as the feared impotence. When a man who was a stellar performer in bed slips in his action one time, her partner may start questioning her self-image and attraction. It is usual for some women to suspect their husbands of having affairs.
All men now and then go through something like this. These occasional failures do not define their identity as impotent. The reasons for it may vary, it can be the many stressful and anxiety-inducing fast-paced lifestyles we are increasingly adopting. Persistent worry and professional obligations may have some part to play.
If it’s an occasional occurrence in performance, ignore it and steer yourself away from the counterproductive thoughts. Don’t start obsessing over it. If such a thought process enters your consciousness, the performance anxiety will slowly creep in. It can lead to a vicious cycle.

How to regain the lost intimacy and make love again?


The most important and effective tool for a very satisfying sex life or a very fulfilling relationship is clear communication. If you have ED, there is no better way to start addressing and doing something about it.
Talk openly and freely about your intimate desires. Without hesitation communicate your deep fears. The whole experience will manifest a new bond that solidifies your relationship. This eliminates the worry the woman may be having regarding her attraction and sex appeal. It is essential to reassure each other and remain supportive.
Don’t be afraid to seek professional help. A good sex therapist can help you and your partner in overcoming these issues and provide valuable insights on improving your sex life.


Stress and anxiety are significant contributors to ED. In many cases, their role is more impactful than the physiological problems. When buried in worry, both the performance and the enjoyment dwindles.
Redirect your focus and attention from your ED to getting intimate with your partner. Lose yourself in the moment. Enjoy the little things that make the atmosphere romantic and sensual. Cherish the time you are getting to spend with your partner. Try deep breathing exercises to relax and be mindful.
A gentle erotic touch may bring simple pleasure. The more relaxed you are, the more you’ll break the barrier of impotency to experience fulfilling and stress-free sexual action.


Reflect on the moments you and your partner had when you first started your relationship. Channel that experience of each touch electrifying your senses. Remember what it was like to explore so many new things about this fascinating person. You both had built this bridge of relationship discovering each other’s life from a unique perspective.
Relive those beautiful moments of togetherness. Kiss, laugh and experiment. There are many sex toys available for adult play. Just immerse yourself in the act and just purely enjoy it. Touch and caress each other. Discover the joy in extra-foreplay and sync intimately with your partner.


Even without a firm erection, you may still be able to 0rgasm. Even without intercourse, you and your partner can indulge in a great deal of sexual pleasure. All you need is a desire to take action and a twisted creative thought.
Mutual masturb@tion is one great way to learn more about what you and your partner enjoy. Experiment with innovative s3x toys to turn things spicy on the bed. Sex Vibrators are great to provide CLIT0RAL STIMULATI0N. Penis sleeves are fascinating toys for men with ED to wear and satisfy their partners. Along with tools for arousal and action, both mutual and oral stimulation can also be fun and exciting.
Sex doesn’t just have to be a game where the playground is always the bed. You can choose different and safe locations to be intimate and let the novelty of the place add extra excitement.


Physical intimacy is an essential part that sustains a happy and satisfying relationship. It’s possible to establish a relationship and have a sexually fulfilling time even without an active ERECTI0N.
Doctors may prescribe medications and treatments for ED. There might be other underlying ignored conditions that need to be addressed. Impotency can also mean early warning signs of heart disease.
For a long-term satisfying s3x life, it’s important to take care of your overall health. You also need to practice good communication to clearly convey your intentions and desires. Have a grip on your sexual expectations, adopt healthy habits into your lifestyle. Don’t forget to get creative to satisfy each other’s needs.

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