Why Am I Single? Here are Reasons Why You Might Be Single

Last Updated on July 1, 2024 by Joshua Isibor

Being Single!! Some people dread it, some just want to be single and some want a relationship but don’t know why they are still single.

You probably tapped this link because you’re in one of those categories listed above, but you don’t know which one. Don’t worry I’ll let you out of your misery soon.

Looking for a relationship can be by choice or love just comes knocking on the door, saying, “It’s time for that heart to work.” Either way, you can be single by choice or circumstance.

The reasons given below will show how circumstances make one single and how it’s by choice. Some want to be single and be left that way, while others don’t want to be single and look for the right one.

I would have written this on a general note, but I would like to take them individually. There are a lot of reasons people are still single and we are about to find out

Reasons You Are Still Single

1: You want to be single

Not everyone is ready to be in an actual relationship. Some people love to be alone, some just like their personal space, some love independence, and some are just too much in love with themselves and giving their heart out would feel selfish. Shocking….I know right? This falls under the choice to be single.

You chose to be this way; no one told you to be single. You just feel safer and happier that way. That way, there’s no breach, and you can build those walls with not just bricks but steel.

2: You haven’t found the right one

Many people have their “ideal person” someone they have imagined in their imaginations. That’s why when you ask most people “ What’s your type?” or “Who’s your type?” They start to give features of a certain person that suit their imaginations. Whether the person exists, they will always be in their imagination.

Now this can be caused by both choices and circumstances. Some people start to have their ideal person even when they haven’t started dating while some make such decisions because of a past relationship.

They would not want their future partner to be like someone who put a hole in their heart. These sets of people are really patient and willing to wait for their ideal person.

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3: Standards

Too low or too high a standard can be a major problem. You may ask why…..But when your standards are too low, you’re easily used and not even wanted at all.

People who may have seen you may know you have many beautiful features embedded in you by your creator, but the fact that you don’t make an effort makes one withdraw from you or sometimes use and dump you. That’s why you’re still single. That’s why your relationships don’t last. I am not implying that you changed yourself but I am saying give yourself a boost

. For standards that are too high; you are just a really picky person, or you complain too much, or you expect too much from that certain person. “No I don’t want this” “This is not how I wanted this to be”….. When you make statements like that…repeatedly, you will keep pushing people away from you and may not know when the right person might come; Because your right person may not be up to “standards”.

So just take it down a notch. Be humane, do not look down on people, do not expect too much from people, just be a normal person, be approachable, do not be too proud, just take it down a notch. This falls under the circumstance slot. You want a relationship, but you’re either way too high or way too low. If you choose to be that way, then it can be a choice.

4: Traumatic Experiences

This falls under the circumstance slot, and because of whatever might have happened, you stay single. You may want a relationship, but you are scared to get into one because you feel “history might repeat itself.” Or anytime you get close to having a relationship, you have this déjà vu feeling, that you may have felt something like this before for someone else, and it didn’t end well.

This could also be caused by both parents. When a child grows up meeting a disunited family, that person may not want that for himself or herself and just stay single. Sometimes they don’t think about relationships at all. Some came out of toxic relationships, mostly abusive and going into that again.

Wrapping Up

Being single can be a choice or circumstance. There are many other reasons people are still single, but these are the major ones. Some people might also be confused: “Am I ready or not?” All the same, being single is not a curse. Sometimes, it may be good, and sometimes, it may be bad, depending on whatever that person is going through.

So, if you want a relationship and you know your standards are too high, take them down a notch, and if they are too low, give yourself a boost. Put those dudes/babes on their toes. Make them work for you, but don’t wait too long. If you know that this is the person you want to be with, then go for that person. Forget about standards or background.

Having an ideal person is almost superstitious. There is no “ideal” person for you; there is just a person for you. That person may not be the one in your imagination, but that person makes the one in your imagination a better person. And that person becomes the one for you.

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Originally posted 2022-04-25 14:19:58.